Unclean Homes

[Cal.]

This may sound very shallow of me, but I had a close friend that I loved very much. We were inseprable for quite a while until I went to her house one day and her home was very unclean, I don't just mean untidy but sticky floor, moldy plates in the kitchen, dust in the bath unclean. I distanced myself from her because I pride myself in keeping myself clean and my personal space extremely tidy.

What are your views on unclean/messy homes?

[Marsh.]

Did she smell?

[Cal.]

Did she smell?

No, not at all. (I wouldn't be friends with a smelly person, but that's a different issue).

[Marsh.]

Well if she kept herself clean and didn't smell and stuff what was the issue with being friends with her? :shrug:

[Jack_]

I don't really care, mine's pretty clean and tidy but why would I or anyone stop being friends with someone because their house is messy?

Unless you want to live with them I don't see the issue

[Crimson Dynamo]

I am not obsessive but keep a clean house and never leave dishes overnight or after meals. A daily hoover and the like. with brats its a full time fecking job.

[Jarrod]

I hate dirty rooms. I feel obliged to clean them if they are.

[Marsh.]

Reminds me of the episode of Friends when Monica couldn't sleep thinking about that woman's dirty apartment so offered to clean it. :joker:

[Cal.]

Well if she kept herself clean and didn't smell and stuff what was the issue with being friends with her? :shrug:

Because she had a dirty home. :conf2:

[Cal.]

I hate dirty rooms. I feel obliged to clean them if they are.

Eugh same.

[Jack_]

You value the cleanliness of someone else's house that you may see once every so often over their friendship itself? Maybe it's just me but that's flawed logic

[Marsh.]

Because she had a dirty home. :conf2:

But what's her home got to do with you? Did she make you sleep there? :laugh:

[Cal.]

You value the cleanliness of someone else's house that you may see once every so often over their friendship itself? Maybe it's just me but that's flawed logic

It's flawed logic in your opinion. :flutter:

[Cal.]

But what's her home got to do with you? Did she make you sleep there? :laugh:

Nope, but me distancing myself has stopped that from happening.

[Kazanne]

I get the urge to tidy and clean messy homes,lol,but only because I enjoy doing it,one of my friends lives like a tramp but she's lovely so would never not be friends because of it,I befriended her,not her house

[Daniel.]

I hate them and I wouldn't use there cutlery lol

But It wouldn't affect the friendship

[Me. I Am Salman]

my house is immaculate, we even try to not eat in the living room to protect the carpet. once my mum's friend didn't take her shoes off and I was like http://24.media.tumblr.com/29da173ad6520e8783c0ca422b299a04/tumblr_mo3keotwjK1rpbxguo1_500.gif the whole time

[Cal.]

my house is immaculate, we even try to not eat in the living room to protect the carpet. once my mum's friend didn't take her shoes off and I was like http://24.media.tumblr.com/29da173ad6520e8783c0ca422b299a04/tumblr_mo3keotwjK1rpbxguo1_500.gif the whole time

:laugh:

:love:

[Josy]

Dirty/uncleanliness is completely different to mess.

Mess is fine I suppose if that just the way you are, I'm not like that.

There is no excuse for dirtiness.

[Jack_]

It's flawed logic in your opinion. :flutter:

In the opinions of most sane and rational people that value their friends more than their houses I'd imagine :flutter:

[Saph]

We were inseprable for quite a while until I went to her house

:laugh:

[Cal.]

Dirty/uncleanliness is completely different to mess.

Mess is fine I suppose if that just the way you are, I'm not like that.

There is no excuse for dirtiness.

If her house was messy I could deal with that, it's just a lifestyle choice, but it was a really dirty, filthy house.

[Sophiee]

I don't think it would affect my friendship with somebody if their house was dirty, although it is horrible. it wouldn't bother me at all if it was just messy though.

my house is immaculate, we even try to not eat in the living room to protect the carpet. once my mum's friend didn't take her shoes off and I was like http://24.media.tumblr.com/29da173ad6520e8783c0ca422b299a04/tumblr_mo3keotwjK1rpbxguo1_500.gif the whole time
it's a rule that everybody takes their shoes off as they enter in my house :idc:.

[Cal.]

In the opinions of most sane and rational people that value their friends more than their houses I'd imagine :flutter:

So I'm not sane for distancing myself from a friend with a filthy house? :laugh:

[Crimson Dynamo]

if i went to someones house and they said "oh would you mind taking off your shoes " i would leave

[Cal.]

I don't think it would affect my friendship with somebody if their house was dirty, although it is horrible. it wouldn't bother me at all if it was just messy though.


it's a rule that everybody takes their shoes off as they enter in my house :idc:.

I think it's rude not to take your shoes off when you enter people's homes. It's a sign of respect if anything.

[Marsh.]

So I'm not sane for distancing myself from a friend with a filthy house? :laugh:

It is a bit odd. If she herself was clean and presentable and you rarely ever went to her house why would you give up the friendship?

[Cal.]

if i went to someones house and they said "oh would you mind taking off your shoes " i would leave

:shocked:

[Cal.]

It is a bit odd. If she herself was clean and presentable and you rarely ever went to her house why would you give up the friendship?

Well if we'd carried on being close I would've been invited a lot more, so it would have been a big issue...

[Sophiee]

I think it's rude not to take your shoes off when you enter people's homes. It's a sign of respect if anything.
agreed, I'd never walk into anybodies house with shoes on.

[Crimson Dynamo]

agreed, I'd never walk into anybodies house with shoes on.

are you like 12?:conf:

[smeagol]

should always take of your underwear and shoes when you enter . its only polite

i went round a friends place god she was so dirty. dungeon, whips sex toys polls. happy days

[Vicky.]

Someone having a vile house wouldnt stop me being friends with them tbh. I would just find any excuse possible to avoid going to their place.

[Jack_]

So I'm not sane for distancing myself from a friend with a filthy house? :laugh:

Yes...you don't live there, why do you care? Why you would effectively break off a friendship with someone and lose out on so many benefits like someone to call on when you're in need of help or advice, someone to go out with, someone you share stuff in common with etc etc just because you don't like the state of their house is beyond me. Surely you distance yourself from people that are rude, self-obsessed, nasty, untrustworthy...the usual things, not because of their house. Like...just don't go in it? Make excuses, not end a friendship :shrug:

[Me. I Am Salman]

So I'm not sane for distancing myself from a friend with a filthy house? :laugh:

you stopped talking to someone because of the state of their house?

[Crimson Dynamo]

I have a friend who actually lives in manchester but i am still pals with him

[Me. I Am Salman]

:laugh:

:laugh2:

[Cal.]

you stopped talking to someone because of the state of their house?

Yes. :conf2:

[Cal.]

Yes...you don't live there, why do you care? Why you would effectively break off a friendship with someone and lose out on so many benefits like someone to call on when you're in need of help or advice, someone to go out with, someone you share stuff in common with etc etc just because you don't like the state of their house is beyond me. Surely you distance yourself from people that are rude, self-obsessed, nasty, untrustworthy...the usual things, not because of their house. Like...just don't go in it? Make excuses, not end a friendship :shrug:

I'm not going to make excuses and lie to her am I? It's better if we're distanced to be honest...

[Me. I Am Salman]

bizzarre.

[Vicky.]

I'm not going to make excuses and lie to her am I? It's better if we're distanced to be honest...

You dont need to lie..if shes a friend and she invites you round..just say 'no because your house is minging'

Maybe she was just having a bad week or something and couldnt be arsed to do housework. Might not always be like that :laugh:

[Cal.]

bizzarre.

To you.

To me, it was the right thing to do.

[Livia]

I can be pretty untidy, but my house is clean. I can't stand a dirty kitchen or bathroom.

[Cal.]

You dont need to lie..if shes a friend and she invites you round..just say 'no because your house is minging'

Maybe she was just having a bad week or something and couldnt be arsed to do housework. Might not always be like that :laugh:

I would not tell her, that's just horrible. :o She doesn't seem to care anyway, she hasn't called me or anything since it happened so it must not bother her either. :shrug:

No, you could tell that her house was disgusting. It wasn't a case of not doing housework.

[Marsh.]

I'm not going to make excuses and lie to her am I? It's better if we're distanced to be honest...

You don't have to lie just drop into the conversation...

"Oh I can't go out today I'm cleaning my bathroom with strong bleach and other products. I can't stand a dirty bath can you?"

[Vicky.]

I would not tell her, that's just horrible. :o She doesn't seem to care anyway, she hasn't called me or anything since it happened so it must not bother her either. :shrug:

No, you could tell that her house was disgusting. It wasn't a case of not doing housework.

No its not, you could say it in a nicer way but its a good thing to tell people things like that IMO. I had to tell a friend she stank of BO once, as everyone was talking about her behind her back. Was a horrible convo but it helped in the long run.

[Cal.]

It also give me some insight into her state of mind...if she doesn't care for her house, what does she care for? :flutter:

[Josy]

If her house was messy I could deal with that, it's just a lifestyle choice, but it was a really dirty, filthy house.

You could have had a quiet word with her?

[AnnieK]

I have a friend who actually lives in manchester but i am still pals with him

:hmph: Us Mancs are good people, your lucky he's friends with you

[Jack_]

Do you mind me asking how old you are? Because if your friend lives with her parents then this is even worse...not really her fault is it now?

[Marsh.]

I would not tell her, that's just horrible. :o

And cutting her out of your life isn't? :joker:

[Cal.]

You could have had a quiet word with her?

I may not like it and think it's wrong but it's not up to me how she keeps her house. I just don't want to associate with someone who doesn't keep a clean house. It's not like she's busy either.

[Cal.]

And cutting her out of your life isn't? :joker:

She doesn't seem bothered...:conf2:

[Marsh.]

I may not like it and think it's wrong but it's not up to me how she keeps her house. I just don't want to associate with someone who doesn't keep a clean house. It's not like she's busy either.

You sound like a right bitch. :joker:

Maybe she had a lucky escape from your shallow friendship. :hmph:

[Cal.]

You sound like a right bitch. :joker:

Maybe she had a lucky escape from your shallow friendship. :hmph:

http://31.media.tumblr.com/5f8035138c41364351ce5ade77fe0c82/tumblr_mqylfwcqrX1qf5do9o1_400.gif

[Me. I Am Salman]

I'm not surprised Nikki's your idol.

[Cal.]

I'm not surprised Nikki's your idol.

Haters be hatin'.

[jackc1806]

I can't stand dirty homes, or dirty people

[InOne]

Does this friend really exist? :pipe:

[Cherie]

You don't have to lie just drop into the conversation...

"Oh I can't go out today I'm cleaning my bathroom with strong bleach and other products. I can't stand a dirty bath can you?"

:joker:

[Sophiee]

are you like 12?:conf:
nope, I have manners :hugesmile:.

[thesheriff443]

some times a dirty home is a sign of a mental illness, on the other end of the spectrum some people don't live in their houses they just clean them.

you never had a real friendship, a real friend likes that person for who they are and not for the state of their home

[smudgie]

I don't mind untidy houses, but no need for filth.
I love mine all tidy but fall by the wayside quite a bit:blush:

We usually take our shoes off when we visit friends, as do most of them, just good manners really.

No way would I fall out with a friend just because their house was minging.

[Cal.]

Well I did, I actually wasn't expecting so many people to go on about the story, more to just discuss unclean homes and their views on them.

[thesheriff443]

Well I did, I actually wasn't expecting so many people to go on about the story, more to just discuss unclean homes and their views on them.

you made the thread personal to you by including your ex friend.

I think you thought everyone would think like you.

[Cal.]

you made the thread personal to you by including your ex friend.

I think you thought everyone would think like you.

True, and I actually genuinely did.

Lol.