I was verbally abused today

[Firewire]

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[Jessica.]

u ok hun? xxx

[Saph]

spill http://i.imgur.com/BAdA1aO.gif

[Mystic Mock]

Is it over the Scottish Independence? If so just ignore it as tensions are high at the minute.

[Kizzy]

Well you shouldn't have worn that outfit, it makes your ankles look fat :idc:

[Smithy]

so ****ing rude Josy

[Firewire]

I went to the chippy with my dad to get our dinner. I dropped him off at the door and I turned the corner to go park. I managed to get parked relatively close, in front of a block of flats. There were no lines on the road or signs to suggest that I couldn't park there. I walked literally five seconds before I heard, "Fattie... fattie..."
I turned round expecting some drama as I assumed it was shouted at someone else. Upon turning I was astonished that this man was shouting at me (must be my striped t-shirt making me look a little bit hefty). I froze.
"Move the car, now. I'm parking my jeep there. Move it, fattie."
I was shocked at the comments hurled at me. It wasn't the comments that go to me, it was the fact that some stranger felt like he could talk to me like that. I was embarrassed, I got into my car and moved it straight away. I didn't know what else to do. I wanted to say something, I wish I had, but I couldn't. I felt so weak, so small. I honestly have never been spoken to like that before which was why I was so shocked. I walked the long way to the chippy as I couldn't bare facing this **** again. I told my dad what happened and he was fuming but the guy was no longer in sight. Who the **** does he think he is? It wasn't the comments that go to. I'm not insecure, it wouldn't have mattered what he said it was just the fact he had the ability to throw insults to a harmless stranger. I just wanted my chicken bites. All I wanted was my chicken bites. I feel so abused. I hope he dies.

[Firewire]

Well you shouldn't have worn that outfit, it makes your ankles look fat :idc:

you can't see my ankles in this outfit :hmph:

[Firewire]

so ****ing rude Josy

she's actually an ugly man

[Ninastar]

You should have ran him over

[Pete.]

she's actually an ugly man
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[Vanessa]

I went to the chippy with my dad to get our dinner. I dropped him off at the door and I turned the corner to go park. I managed to get parked relatively close, in front of a block of flats. There were no lines on the road or signs to suggest that I couldn't park there. I walked literally five seconds before I heard, "Fattie... fattie..."
I turned round expecting some drama as I assumed it was shouted at someone else. Upon turning I was astonished that this man was shouting at me (must be my striped t-shirt making me look a little bit hefty). I froze.
"Move the car, now. I'm parking my jeep there. Move it, fattie."
I was shocked at the comments hurled at me. It wasn't the comments that go to me, it was the fact that some stranger felt like he could talk to me like that. I was embarrassed, I got into my car and moved it straight away. I didn't know what else to do. I wanted to say something, I wish I had, but I couldn't. I felt so weak, so small. I honestly have never been spoken to like that before which was why I was so shocked. I walked the long way to the chippy as I couldn't bare facing this **** again. I told my dad what happened and he was fuming but the guy was no longer in sight. Who the **** does he think he is? It wasn't the comments that go to. I'm not insecure, it wouldn't have mattered what he said it was just the fact he had the ability to throw insults to a harmless stranger. I just wanted my chicken bites. All I wanted was my chicken bites. I feel so abused. I hope he dies.

I would have just ignored him and left. People like that don't deserve an answer.

[Firewire]

I would have just ignored him and left. People like that don't deserve an answer.

I did, I moved my car and walked away. I'm not someone who wants drama in real life at all, I hate it. I was terrified.

[Firewire]

me if i see him again http://i.imgur.com/uwnrsQ6.jpg

[Calderyon]

Should have said, "F- you, ugly piece of monkey poo!" "I´ll move it when i move it." "You´ll just have to sit on your f*t arse and wait for a while."

Or then again just move off. And maybe flip the bird to give some kind of objection.

[Ammi]

..Jonathan..:hug:...he was the one that was weak and so small', not you...and there was nothing that you could have said to him anyway that would have made him any bigger either...

[JoshBB]

Can't you like, report the guy for harassment?

[Vanessa]

I did, I moved my car and walked away. I'm not someone who wants drama in real life at all, I hate it. I was terrified.

I would have left the car there. :devil:

[Kizzy]

Build a bridge, who cares what some halfwit bag head said? get some perspective!

#toughlove

[GypsyGoth]

:hug:

[Firewire]

I would have left the car there. :devil:

My dad told me I should have done that, I just sort of froze because I've never been put in a position like that. It was on a road, it wasn't illegally parked, no signs/lines. It was perfectly fine to park there.

[Firewire]

..Jonathan..:hug:...he was the one that was weak and so small', not you...and there was nothing that you could have said to him anyway that would have made him any bigger either...

I know, Ammi, I just have never been insulted like that before. It's the fact he had the audacity to shout it across the street at me. Ugly lowlife.

[Firewire]

Can't you like, report the guy for harassment?

No point, no proof or CCTV or anything... I wouldn't bother. If he gets some joy out of making someone feel bad then so be it. Hope he had a good day.

[Firewire]

I was just so shocked. I wasn't offended. I guess there's a first for everything, right?

[Ammi]

My dad told me I should have done that, I just sort of froze because I've never been put in a position like that. It was on a road, it wasn't illegally parked, no signs/lines. It was perfectly fine to park there.

...I think you were probably so shocked and upset though that you just probably did it/moved it and didn't have time for any thought processes about whether you should have...

[King Gizzard]

I hope he has a ****ty day tomorrow and the day after and forever

[thesheriff443]

life in the big bad world!

[Firewire]

...I think you were probably so shocked and upset though that you just probably did it/moved it and didn't have time for any thought processes about whether you should have...

That was it. If it happens to me again I know how to react next time. I should have left the car where it was and walked away. Why should I move it?

[rubymoo]

I'm sorry that happened to you.

Try to look at it from this angle, he can't be very happy with his life if he hurled that abuse at you, he probably has few friends because who'd want to be friends with that?

He is obviously a bully and bullies are usually bullied, people who spout hate are so unhappy and aren't privilledged in their lives to know friendship and love, you have a beautiful soul, and should pity him.

And remember he'll get his.....karma can be a bitch but she always puts it right;)

[smudgie]

Potatoes in the exhaust..a couple of slashed tyres, teach the obnoxious twit a lesson.

[Kyle]

Don't waste any more of your time on that loser and what you did or didn't do. Chalk it down to experience and revel in the fact the best part of that man ran down his moms leg.

[rubymoo]

Don't waste any more of your time on that loser and what you did or didn't do. Chalk it down to experience and revel in the fact the best part of that man ran down his moms leg.

:laugh:

[Ninastar]

Build a bridge, who cares what some halfwit bag head said? get some perspective!

#toughlove

i actually agree. When people get upset by what someone said, I like to raise the point that if that is all they think of you then why should their opinion matter?

I'm glad you didnt get affected by it Jonathan, that's really really good and not a lot of people can say it didnt upset them. I totally and completely understand why it annoyed you so much that someone would do that. One of my biggest hates is truly insufferable people, and while their opinions dont bother me, the fact that they think they can treat people like that, truly sets me off.

[Firewire]

i actually agree. When people get upset by what someone said, I like to raise the point that if that is all they think of you then why should their opinion matter?

I'm glad you didnt get affected by it Jonathan, that's really really good and not a lot of people can say it didnt upset them. I totally and completely understand why it annoyed you so much that someone would do that. One of my biggest hates is truly insufferable people, and while their opinions dont bother me, the fact that they think they can treat people like that, truly sets me off.

It wasn't the insult that affected me. He could have said anything and I would have felt the same way. I was truly shocked and confused. Of course his opinion doesn't matter, it's just the fact he thinks he can speak to me like that when I had done nothing wrong.

[Kizzy]

Here's some advice ... some people are twats.

[Locke.]

Can't you like, report the guy for harassment?

You can't report someone to the police because they called you fat. This kinda thing probably happens hundreds of thousands of times every day, should be stamped out but there is no way for it to be really.

[Benjamin]

Urgh I hate douchebags like that. karma will come and get him one day, Jonathan. :hug:

[Vanessa]

Some people are just shallow. They thinks looks are everything. I feel sorry for them, to be honest.

[Margarine.]

Hope you are okay! On the bright side you got your chicken bites

[andybigbro]

Ugh I hate people like that firewire!

He's just a bully! Karma is a bitch so don't worry :)

[Josy]

Right

What's the bawbags reg plate and we will go smash the motor up?

Seriously though don't let ***** like that bother you Jonathon.

[Marc]

That's jut rude tbh

[Firewire]

Right

What's the bawbags reg plate and we will go smash the motor up?

Seriously though don't let ***** like that bother you Jonathon.

:laugh2:

I'm gonna go snooping, don't worry. I'll catch him.

[Firewire]

That's jut rude tbh

ikr i didn't even do anything wrong :shrug:

Ugh I hate people like that firewire!

He's just a bully! Karma is a bitch so don't worry :)

hopefully! he'll get his comeuppance sooner or later

Hope you are okay! On the bright side you got your chicken bites

they were glorious :love:

[Jake.]

What a dick.. He must feel pretty insecure with himself anyway, if that's how he spends his time.. Don't worry about it :)

[Firewire]

What a dick.. He must feel pretty insecure with himself anyway, if that's how he spends his time.. Don't worry about it :)

Absolutely, I'm fine now I was just in shock earlier!

[Jake.]

At the end of the day, your weight can change (not that it'd need to, I'm sure you're fine as you are) whilst his dickish personality is stuck with him forever..

I hope he wakes up with thrush.

[Firewire]

At the end of the day, your weight can change (not that it'd need to, I'm sure you're fine as you are) whilst his dickish personality is stuck with him forever..

I hope he wakes up with thrush.

It wasn't the fact that it was a weight jibe, it could have been a gay jibe or even him just calling me something that doesn't particularly relate - I would have felt the same way. I was just caught off guard as I'd never experienced that before. Now that's it has happened I hope I can deal with it better next time.

But you're absolutely right.

[Jake.]

It wasn't the fact that it was a weight jibe, it could have been a gay jibe or even him just calling me something that doesn't particularly relate - I would have felt the same way. I was just caught off guard as I'd never experienced that before. Now that's it has happened I hope I can deal with it better next time.

But you're absolutely right.

Yeah I see what you mean, i think I'd feel the same.. Powerless in a sense.. We all react in different ways to situations, perhaps the way you reacted (not giving him the time of day) was what was meant to happen?

[Firewire]

Yeah I see what you mean, i think I'd feel the same.. Powerless in a sense.. We all react in different ways to situations, perhaps the way you reacted (not giving him the time of day) was what was meant to happen?

I'm not confrontational anyway. I mean if it's someone I know then it's completely different. But I would never engage in any sort of conflict with someone I don't know. He doesn't deserve the time of day. If he wanted a parking space so bad he could have it. There was loads of spaces nearby, so I don't see why the one I was in was particularly important.

[armand.kay]

I might of been the same as you at first I hate when things are happening too fast for me to think but I would of probably dragged him one I had everything that's just happened processed or I wold of walked away and ignored him idk what I would of done tbh.

[T*]

Chin up, just remember that you're better than that prick.

[armand.kay]

Also the insults wouldn't bother me because I know I'm better than most people in my area it's just the thought of people seeing me arguing with some chav in public would me feel I'll.

[Creggle]

Should of broken his jaw tbh :/ what a parrrrick

[Raph]

Wow what a twat, you did the mature thing by just walking away but ughh at least you can think he's probably miserable if he has to be so mean to people about a bloody parking spot. Sorry you had to go through that though man :(

[Glenn.]

You should punch him in the face with a brick

[Ammi]

I'm not confrontational anyway. I mean if it's someone I know then it's completely different. But I would never engage in any sort of conflict with someone I don't know. He doesn't deserve the time of day. If he wanted a parking space so bad he could have it. There was loads of spaces nearby, so I don't see why the one I was in was particularly important.

..I don't even think he wanted it that badly...the thing he probably wanted most was a reaction from you and to feel a stupid sense of satisfaction from that because he's an idiot...and you didn't give him that reaction but instead you gave him the parking space...perfect response really, he isn't worthy of anything else from you..leave him to his parking space, his low self esteem and his ignorance while you enjoy your chicken bites, knowing that you're you and not him....

[lostalex]

Why were you intimidated by him? Was he hot?

[Natalie.]

What a prat, I just want to egg his window or something :suspect:

[Mokka]

I am pretty sure I would have gone all Cathy Bates in Fried Green Tomatoes on his a**

TWANDAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!

Somethings are worth the insurance hikes.

[mizzy25]

what a rude horrible man, I bet if u had said to him *are you talking to me?* he wud have crapped himself. Karma is a wonderful thing

[kirklancaster]

That was it. If it happens to me again I know how to react next time. I should have left the car where it was and walked away. Why should I move it?

You have already stated that the incident occurred in a location which has no CCTV cameras and I believe that, had you just ignored this ignorant bastard and left the car where it was and walked away, you would have returned to find your car damaged - probably scratched by 'keying' or similar.

'Dragged up' bullying scum like this guy have no consideration for other people or other people's property. They have no regard or respect for the law and do not not know how to spell 'morals', let alone possess any, and I believe that you did absolutely the correct thing in the circumstances - even though you may now feel ashamed or angry at yourself for not 'standing up' to him.

You were in a 'no win' situation. You cannot reason with an ignorant man. You cannot appease a bully. You cannot even fight a man who has no sense of consequence because he has no taboos; every week in our cities, decent young people (usually students) are being knifed or beaten to death because they 'argued' with yob low-life's who were just out to cause trouble.

No, don't be hard on yourself, there was, in the circumstances, nothing you could have - lawfully - done. I say 'lawfully' because I assume that you are 'law abiding', and would not have entertained any of the more satisfactory options open to you. Like yielding, driving away, then returning to 'key' his parked car. Or yielding, driving away, then returning with 2 huge male friends with baseball bats.

No?.... I didn't think so. And this is just why you should not be hard on yourself. You cannot win with these vile scum-bags unless you're prepared to descend to their level. You cannot fight under the Marquess of Queensberry rules when the other guy can't read and is wielding a baseball bat.

Forget and move on - you're the bigger person.:wavey:

[Firewire]

Why were you intimidated by him? Was he hot?

Am I not allowed to be intimidated in situations I'm unfamiliar with?

[Firewire]

You have already stated that the incident occurred in a location which has no CCTV cameras and I believe that, had you just ignored this ignorant bastard and left the car where it was and walked away, you would have returned to find your car damaged - probably scratched by 'keying' or similar.

'Dragged up' bullying scum like this guy have no consideration for other people or other people's property. They have no regard or respect for the law and do not not know how to spell 'morals', let alone possess any, and I believe that you did absolutely the correct thing in the circumstances - even though you may now feel ashamed or angry at yourself for not 'standing up' to him.

You were in a 'no win' situation. You cannot reason with an ignorant man. You cannot appease a bully. You cannot even fight a man who has no sense of consequence because he has no taboos; every week in our cities, decent young people (usually students) are being knifed or beaten to death because they 'argued' with yob low-life's who were just out to cause trouble.

No, don't be hard on yourself, there was, in the circumstances, nothing you could have - lawfully - done. I say 'lawfully' because I assume that you are 'law abiding', and would not have entertained any of the more satisfactory options open to you. Like yielding, driving away, then returning to 'key' his parked car. Or yielding, driving away, then returning with 2 huge male friends with baseball bats.

No?.... I didn't think so. And this is just why you should not be hard on yourself. You cannot win with these vile scum-bags unless you're prepared to descend to their level. You cannot fight under the Marquess of Queensberry rules when the other guy can't read and is wielding a baseball bat.

Forget and move on - you're the bigger person.:wavey:

That was exactly what I thought. I thought if I had left my car there it would be damaged. I didn't have much time to think, it was within a few milliseconds that I had to process it all.

And absolutely, I wouldn't have keyed his car anything because that automatically puts me in the wrong. Even though he was ignorant, I wouldn't have retaliated like that.