Bullying.

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

If a child (10) comes to you and says they are being bullied what do you tell them?

I was walking home, minding my business, thinking I was in a music video as music blasted in my ears then I saw a kid run past me with his football. I thought nothing of it. He looked normal then he sat at the bus stop. He turned to look my way. I walked past then out of nowhere when I was some distance he came next to me and he was crying. I tore my earphones off and asked what was wrong? He said they're bullying me as he wiped his tears. I said who? Then I noticed 3 boys coming out of nowhere, knocking his ball out of his hand. I said to them stop it. Do you have brothers or sisters? How would you feel if your sister or brother was being treated that way. They didn't say anything else but stayed there. I said leave him alone then they left.

Basically as we walked home, his house was my way I said to him sorry you're going through that. Tell an adult, you're not alone. Don't show them that they're affecting you because that makes bullies bully you more. If you have to walk home alone every night find an adult to bring you. People like those bullies never amount to much later in life. You be strong, focus on you. Who is your favorite football player? Focus on him. Have goals and when you grow up you'll be something but mean people never get anywhere. I asked if he watched bullying videos online and sometimes bullies pick on you because you're quiet or there is something in you they like. And sometimes when the people that are being bullied talk back the bullies leave them alone. I basically talked his ear off until I walked him home. Then we waved goodbye. :(

I hope I didn't just ramble to him and that something I said made some importance.

[Jake.]

That's lovely of you! :hug:

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

That's lovely of you! :hug:

Thanks. I want to catch up and see how it'll turn out. It broke my heart.

[LukeB]

:clap1: I respect you for doing that!

[Niamh.]

aww poor kid :( 10 is quite young to be wandering around on his own anyway, my own son is 10. I probably would have went in to his house with him and told his parents

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

:clap1: I respect you for doing that!

Thank you. I think everyone would have done the same. Ugh I hate bullies.

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

aww poor kid :( 10 is quite young to be wandering around on his own anyway, my own son is 10. I probably would have went in to his house with him and told his parents
You know what, I probably should have waited until his parents opened the door too and explained. He said he would tell them and get his mum to deal with it. I hope he will.

He even admitted that the area he walks home is quite dangerous and dark, that's why I emphasized he should get someone to walk him home every night.

[Vicky.]

A random kid I would probably just tell to tell their parents tbh.

I actually had this but it was with my sister...shes 3 years younger than me..I was 17 coming up 18 and this kid that was bullying her was nearly 15. My sis begged me not to tell my parents as she thought it would make it worse and tbh she was probably right. So... I kicked the **** out of that little bitch (I remember quoting some film and telling her she was gunna have to shove a toothbrush up her arse to clean her teeth when I was finished with her) and just thought I would take the 'assault on a minor' charge if it came to me. It never did, and the girl never even spoke to my sister again :D Her mother came to me though which was quite funny, trying to threaten me and that. I just said I see where your daughter gets it from and told her to get it done if she was going to hit me or anything...which she didnt.

Noone touches my family tbh.

Slightly offtopic though but this thread just dragged that memory up :joker:

[kirklancaster]

If a child (10) comes to you and says they are being bullied what do you tell them?

I was walking home, minding my business, thinking I was in a music video as music blasted in my ears then I saw a kid run past me with his football. I thought nothing of it. He looked normal then he sat at the bus stop. He turned to look my way. I walked past then out of nowhere when I was some distance he came next to me and he was crying. I tore my earphones off and asked what was wrong? He said they're bullying me as he wiped his tears. I said who? Then I noticed 3 boys coming out of nowhere, knocking his ball out of his hand. I said to them stop it. Do you have brothers or sisters? How would you feel if your sister or brother was being treated that way. They didn't say anything else but stayed there. I said leave him alone then they left.

Basically as we walked home, his house was my way I said to him sorry you're going through that. Tell an adult, you're not alone. Don't show them that they're affecting you because that makes bullies bully you more. If you have to walk home alone every night find an adult to bring you. People like those bullies never amount to much later in life. You be strong, focus on you. Who is your favorite football player? Focus on him. Have goals and when you grow up you'll be something but mean people never get anywhere. I asked if he watched bullying videos online and sometimes bullies pick on you because you're quiet or there is something in you they like. And sometimes when the people that are being bullied talk back the bullies leave them alone. I basically talked his ear off until I walked him home. Then we waved goodbye. :(

I hope I didn't just ramble to him and that something I said made some importance.

A simply stunning post on a sad - and all too frequent - subject. I think you could not have acted anymore positively than you did, and your action says a hell of a lot about what a beautiful, caring human being you are.

I detest any kind of bullying and have often come to people's aid who were being bullied. It's not so easy where kids are concerned though, and you handled it superbly.

If you do see the kid again and he's still being bullied, I would think about having a word with his parents just in case he hasn't told them he's being bullied (a lot of kids are too ashamed to)

Credit to you. :flowers:

[Niamh.]

You know what, I probably should have waited until his parents opened the door too and explained. He said he would tell them and get his mum to deal with it. I hope he will.

He even admitted that the area he walks home is quite dangerous and dark, that's why I emphasized he should get someone to walk him home every night.

Jeez, poor little guy, I don't let my son walk anywhere on his own yet. You'd have to wonder how concerned his parents are already about his safety :/

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

A random kid I would probably just tell to tell their parents tbh.

I actually had this but it was with my sister...shes 3 years younger than me..I was 17 coming up 18 and this kid that was bullying her was nearly 15. My sis begged me not to tell my parents as she thought it would make it worse and tbh she was probably right. So... I kicked the **** out of that little bitch (I remember quoting some film and telling her she was gunna have to shove a toothbrush up her arse to clean her teeth when I was finished with her) and just thought I would take the 'assault on a minor' charge if it came to me. It never did, and the girl never even spoke to my sister again :D Her mother came to me though which was quite funny, trying to threaten me and that. I just said I see where your daughter gets it from and told her to get it done if she was going to hit me or anything...which she didnt.

Noone touches my family tbh.

Slightly offtopic though but this thread just dragged that memory up :joker:

Lol. Understandable. Sorry your sister went through that. Thankfully none of my sisters have been bullied to that extent (not that I know of anyway :umm2:) so I am not sure how I would have reacted. Maybe the same as you, except i've never actually had a fight in my life so I could lose :umm2: Only came close once.

[Braden]

Aw, you handled that situation brilliantly.

Hopefully when he stands up to those bullies he'll look back and think of you. :love:

[Vicky.]

Jeez, poor little guy, I don't let my son walk anywhere on his own yet. You'd have to wonder how concerned his parents are already about his safety :/

I dont think thats fair really tbh, it really depends on the kid.

Gavins eldest son is only 12 and he gets the bus 10 mins from home to school on his own and comes back on his own too. He can also play out on his own providing he doesnt go too far and he has his mobile turned on (and with credit for if he needs to ring home). Some parents would find that thought horrifying, but he is seriously mature. Like, if he wasnt obviously a kid looking at him you would think he was about 16 or so. I am almost certain his other kids wont be allowed to do stuff on their own at his age because they are still...kids. But his son, its completely mad, he will sit and have a hour long convo with you about politics and stuff like that :laugh:

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

A simply stunning post on a sad - and all too frequent - subject. I think you could not have acted anymore positively than you did, and your action says a hell of a lot about what a beautiful, caring human being you are.

I detest any kind of bullying and have often come to people's aid who were being bullied. It's not so easy where kids are concerned though, and you handled it superbly.

If you do see the kid again and he's still being bullied, I would think about having a word with his parents just in case he hasn't told them he's being bullied (a lot of kids are too ashamed to)

Credit to you. :flowers:


Aw thank you. :(

Tbh, i'm still going over it in my head wondering if there's anything else I could have said. :hehe: I do hope I run into him again and will definitely talk to his parents that time. If only we could stop all bullies at once.

[Creggle]

The 3 kids need teaching a lesson, would probably ask the kid being bullied which one he likes the least, then let him slap the bully around. :hehe:

[Niamh.]

I dont think thats fair really tbh, it really depends on the kid.

Gavins eldest son is only 12 and he gets the bus 10 mins from home to school on his own and comes back on his own too. He can also play out on his own providing he doesnt go too far and he has his mobile turned on (and with credit for if he needs to ring home). Some parents would find that thought horrifying, but he is seriously mature. Like, if he wasnt obviously a kid looking at him you would think he was about 16 or so. I am almost certain his other kids wont be allowed to do stuff on their own at his age because they are still...kids. But his son, its completely mad, he will sit and have a hour long convo with you about politics and stuff like that :laugh:

There's a huge difference between a 10 year old and a 12 year old imo, it might only be 2 years but that a lot when you're that young. I stand by thinking that it's not responsible to let a 10 year old walk home in the dark in a dangerous area :p

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

The 3 kids need teaching a lesson, would probably ask the kid being bullied which one he likes the least, then let him slap the bully around. :hehe:

Then the bullied kid would think it is ok after all to hit. But I know what you mean, it would probably make him feel good to slap the bully.

[Livia]

That's a really lovely thing you did ITILYT. I'm sure it meant a lot to the little kid x

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

Aw, you handled that situation brilliantly.

Hopefully when he stands up to those bullies he'll look back and think of you. :love:

If I say I hope so it sounds self absorbed but I really hope I said something good enough to him to change his outlook on this. I said use this experience and allow it to make you stronger. A lot of celebrities you see today were bullied.

That's a really lovely thing you did ITILYT. I'm sure it meant a lot to the little kid x

Thanks Livia. :lovedup:

[kirklancaster]

There's a huge difference between a 10 year old and a 12 year old imo, it might only be 2 years but that a lot when you're that young. I stand by thinking that it's not responsible to let a 10 year old walk home in the dark in a dangerous area :p

I never let my kids out of my sight at that age. I even natter now when they go out and they're bigger than me.

[Creggle]

Then the bullied kid would think it is ok after all to hit. But I know what you mean, it would probably make him feel good to slap the bully.

Depends what you're hitting, sometimes violence is a solution, it's rare but it happens and bullying is one of them. The main benefit would be to deter the bullies from bullying him again, bullies are incredibly cowardly and the slightest bump or scratch will make them think twice in the future, especially that young.

[Marsh.]

Adopt him. :flutter:

It sounds like the start of a Disney film.

[kirklancaster]

Adopt him. :flutter:

It sounds like the start of a Disney film.

:laugh2:

[kirklancaster]

Depends what you're hitting, sometimes violence is a solution, it's rare but it happens and bullying is one of them. The main benefit would be to deter the bullies from bullying him again, bullies are incredibly cowardly and the slightest bump or scratch will make them think twice in the future, especially that young.

So true. So true.

[Crimson Dynamo]

To be honest kids knocking a ball out his hands is just kids being horrible.

Or have i missed something?

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

To be honest kids knocking a ball out his hands is just kids being horrible.

Or have i missed something?

I should have mentioned in the first post. He said it wasn't the first time. He said they pick on him because of his family. I said why, what's wrong with your family? He replied nothing and I left it at that on that subject.

[kirklancaster]

To be honest kids knocking a ball out his hands is just kids being horrible.

Or have i missed something?

No LT - not on the surface, given what's been related, but I think due to the fact that there were three 'bullies', and that the kid with the ball was crying and said he was being bullied. then there must have been more to it.

Ooops - Responded to you without seeing ILYT's response abve, but anyway, it seems now like it is a case of persistent bullying.