Signing out for good - an apology

[Margarine.]

This may not be well punctuated or even legible but I'm a mess right now and this is an instinctive thing for me so I am sorry if it's hard to understand

Last night, the friend of someone I am extremely close to committed suicide as a result of online bullying. Everyone I know has been hit extremely hard by it and it's my first real experience of the damage that cyberbullying can do to people

I feel as though I need to apologise for my own actions over the past few months. I may not have been directly involved with it but I still had an intense association with that.

Some of the comments I've heard made by the group I associated with were chillingly similar to the ones that have appeared to cause a young woman not two years older than me to take her life and that's unforgiveable. Picking on people because of their weight or appearance is something I always just took for granted, I didn't realise the hurt it could cause and this has hit me in the strangest way

Sorry to everyone for anything I have done, my actions were out of line and I'm pretty ashamed of myself.

[Smithy]

Oh God Lf, that's awful :( I'm so sorry for your loss but proud of you for having the balls to apologise for what you did :hug: I hope you're ok

[Cherie]

Oh God Lf, that's awful :( I'm so sorry for your loss but proud of you for having the balls to apologise for what you did :hug: I hope you're ok

I'll second that :clap1:

[Josy]

I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

Thanks also for the apology, it can be uncomfortable realising you have been in the wrong but admitting it makes you a better person and enables you to make better choices in the long run.

[Niamh.]

I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

Thanks also for the apology, it can be uncomfortable realising you have been in the wrong but admitting it makes you a better person and enables you to make better choices in the long run.

Exactly this.

Sorry about your friend too, that's awful.

[Drew.]

I had a friend take their own life because of bullying & being targeted on by groups of people, its just a shame it goes to this extent before people finally realize what they're doing is wrong. Sorry for your loss though.

[Livia]

Everyone says or does things they regret. Great to see you put that behind you, and I'm very sorry to hear about your friend.

This forum, for all its faults, got me through the toughest time in my life, which I know sounds melodramatic. Think about staying, you'll need friends around you x

[Jake.]

Well it's sad that something like this has to happen to make people realise, really sorry for your loss though and I'm sure your apology will go a long way

[Kazanne]

So sorry to hear about your friend,we are always here to chat to.

[Kyle]

The whole point of life is to learn from your mistakes and come out of it as a better person. A few years back I ignored someone on Facebook I knew at school who was only reaching out for people to talk to because she was lonely. She committed suicide too.

The fact of the matter is you beat yourself up about it for a bit, dust yourself down and come back better and that starts with what you have done today by accepting responsibility.

I wasn't affected by what you all did so my opinion is worth squat I know but at least you came on and faced the music so I don't think personally you should hang your account up for good.

Sorry about your acquaintance as well. Being in the position of wanting to take your own life is a horrible place to be. I'm sad for her/him and their family.

Maybe a heartfelt personal PM to the people that were involved in your groups activities would be a good place to start.

All the best chief.

[Pete.]

So sorry to hear about your friend LeFreak :( I hope you are ok :love:

[Jay.]

That's awful! Sorry for your loss. Glad you've realised you were in the wrong though. Hope you're alright man.

[susie q]

Sorry to hear about your friend, but dont be to hasty to leave the forum though, its a good place to chat and let off steam if you feel the need.

[AnnieK]

Sorry to hear about your friend. It's awful when something like that hits so close to home. THE problem with the internet is it seems so anonymous but people are still affected terribly. You've Been the bigger person to acknowledge what you did was wrong, even by association but now you need to put it behind you and chalk it up to experience and learn from it.

Take care of you and your friends :love:

[kirklancaster]

Everyone says or does things they regret. Great to see you put that behind you, and I'm very sorry to hear about your friend.

This forum, for all its faults, got me through the toughest time in my life, which I know sounds melodramatic. Think about staying, you'll need friends around you x

I second this.

[armand.kay]

Really sorry to hear about this Alex I hope you get through this ok :hug:

[Ross.]

I'm sorry for your loss Alex, I hope you're okay :hug:

[Vicky.]

Sorry for your loss.

I think sometimes people don't realize the effect words on the internet..even from strangers..can actually have on someone.

[JoshBB]

I hope you are okay, and your friend's family too. Good on you for apologising - though I don't see what you've posted that would upset anyone, it's mostly just harmless sass.

[Samm]

Hope you're okay Alex x

[Gstar]

Sorry for your loss Alex, you know you can talk to me anytime http://cdn.thisisbigbrother.com/smilies/hug.gif

[Cal.]

Goodbye sweet prince and sorry for your loss x

[Headie]

Sorry for your loss, I'm here to talk if you ever feel like you need to let off steam :(

[Mystic Mock]

I'm sorry for your loss.

As I said a couple of days ago, Internet sites can be a place to learn how to mature, I feel that FB did it's job here, only it sadly took someone elses life in the midst of it all.

But you have any issues you should talk to me or one of the other members on here, I'm sure we would all hear you out.

[Glenn.]

Well it's sad that something like this has to happen to make people realise, really sorry for your loss though and I'm sure your apology will go a long way


This really.

Sorry to hear about your friend.

[T*]

Omg :sad: :hug: Sorry about your friend D:
I'm happy to see you turn around from the wrong and apologise :love:, I wish you luck and happiness through this tough time.

[Ninastar]

As someone who absolutely detests online bullying, due to finding her sister in the bath covered in blood and half conscious I can honestly tell you how brave it is of you to do this. I'm proud of you for apologising, much unlike some of the people you've hung around with the past few months. Well done for having the courage to say all this. Thank you for that.

[Conzors]

Sorry for your loss.
I don't think you cyber-bullied as such.

Your were just having 'banter' and sometimes went a bit too far but not to the point where your constantly on someone making them feel ****.

Dont feel as though it was your fault or you caused anyone to do this. Be strong and be there for everyone who is suffering.

-hug-
x

[Ninastar]

I keep thinking about this. Hope you're okay... I find that the forum really helps me when I'm feeling down. Try not to leave for good, there are some truly brilliant people on here

[Glenn.]

I've been thinking about this too and the only thought I come to is just how pathetic cyberbullies really are.

With everything that's happened on here over the last few months by individuals who take absolute pleasure in insulting people on their weight, looks, etc the only thing I feel for them is pity.

[Kizzy]

I'm so sorry lf, when things like this happen to those you know it makes it real, in a way it isn't always when read about in the media.
:hug:

[Vanessa]

This may not be well punctuated or even legible but I'm a mess right now and this is an instinctive thing for me so I am sorry if it's hard to understand

Last night, the friend of someone I am extremely close to committed suicide as a result of online bullying. Everyone I know has been hit extremely hard by it and it's my first real experience of the damage that cyberbullying can do to people

I feel as though I need to apologise for my own actions over the past few months. I may not have been directly involved with it but I still had an intense association with that.

Some of the comments I've heard made by the group I associated with were chillingly similar to the ones that have appeared to cause a young woman not two years older than me to take her life and that's unforgiveable. Picking on people because of their weight or appearance is something I always just took for granted, I didn't realise the hurt it could cause and this has hit me in the strangest way

Sorry to everyone for anything I have done, my actions were out of line and I'm pretty ashamed of myself.

You don't need to leave. We all do things we regret in life, but we try to learn from our mistakes. I'm so sorry about your friend and i hope you will come back when you feel better. Take care of yourself. :kiss:

[Crimson Dynamo]

I've been thinking about this too and the only thought I come to is just how pathetic cyberbullies really are.

With everything that's happened on here over the last few months by individuals who take absolute pleasure in insulting people on their weight, looks, etc the only thing I feel for them is pity.

You must not take it personally Glenn

sticks and stones etc

[Margarine.]

Thank you so much for everyone's kind words, they've really been a comfort to me. x

[Vanessa]

Thank you so much for everyone's kind words, they've really been a comfort to me. x

Glad you're feeling better. :hug:

[Shaun]

I'm sorry for your loss, Alex. :(

[Pete.]

Thank you so much for everyone's kind words, they've really been a comfort to me. x
:love:

[Firewire]

I deleted my earlier posts so I could start this again.

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, I can't imagine the pain and sadness you must feel at losing someone close to you. It was nice of you to apologise and accept that you have been in the wrong. It's a learning curve and I'm sure it'll do you good.

[Amy Jade]

Aww Alex I hope you are okay and I hope the family and you and all the victims friends are coping ok. This was very brave of you to do lovely xxx

[GypsyGoth]

:hug:

[Margarine.]

This has been a really weird few days for me in the sense that I've lost and gained friends because of this very thread.

Much love to everyone who has been so supportive of me, I don't think people will understand just how much your kindness has put my mind to rest slightly.

It's sad that upon reading this one of the reactions from someone I counted as a friend was 'I'm going to make a multi tonight' but that person is well behind me now. I have made myself a target in the process but I like to think I am strong enough to take any 'drags' on the chin.

Thank you to everyone once more xx

[Calderyon]

My condolences for your loss and kudos on your boldness to apologize.

Hope it will all be better soon.

[Marsh.]

This has been a really weird few days for me in the sense that I've lost and gained friends because of this very thread.

Much love to everyone who has been so supportive of me, I don't think people will understand just how much your kindness has put my mind to rest slightly.

It's sad that upon reading this one of the reactions from someone I counted as a friend was 'I'm going to make a multi tonight' but that person is well behind me now. I have made myself a target in the process but I like to think I am strong enough to take any 'drags' on the chin.

Thank you to everyone once more xx

At least it shows you who they really are. :clap1:

[Mokka]

This has been a really weird few days for me in the sense that I've lost and gained friends because of this very thread.

Much love to everyone who has been so supportive of me, I don't think people will understand just how much your kindness has put my mind to rest slightly.

It's sad that upon reading this one of the reactions from someone I counted as a friend was 'I'm going to make a multi tonight' but that person is well behind me now. I have made myself a target in the process but I like to think I am strong enough to take any 'drags' on the chin.

Thank you to everyone once more xx
:clap1:
Way to stand up for yourself
and good on you for being your own person

[T*]

This has been a really weird few days for me in the sense that I've lost and gained friends because of this very thread.

Much love to everyone who has been so supportive of me, I don't think people will understand just how much your kindness has put my mind to rest slightly.

It's sad that upon reading this one of the reactions from someone I counted as a friend was 'I'm going to make a multi tonight' but that person is well behind me now. I have made myself a target in the process but I like to think I am strong enough to take any 'drags' on the chin.

Thank you to everyone once more xx

at least you've seen others true colours, good on you for stamping them out :clap1:
I look forward to being friends and social :love:

[Glenn.]

Lets be real here, this very thread and the reason for it just shows you what kind of people you associated with. They are the lowest form of people around and the weakest. It's easy to 'bully' someone online but the reality of the situation are morons sat behind keyboards because they literally have no friends or lives and decide to take that out on other people because it makes them feel good. It's pathetic.

[AnnieK]

Whilst I agree with you Glenn that keyboard warriors are no better than real life bullies as in person I'm pretty sure they wouldn't act like that, this thread took balls to write and obviously has lost the OP some online friends so we should acknowledge it.

The shame for me is it took a tragedy to bring this up....but if lessons can be learned from it they should be.

[Ninastar]

If you've lost people because of this, it just goes to show what they are truly like. You're way better without them and well done for being brave enough to be on here without them.

[Headie]

I am behind you and hope you don't think I view you any differently than before. Don't think that just because one person has shunned you that it means everyone has. Pretty much all of us who were friends with you before still consider ourselves friends with you now.

I think it's a damn shame that one person actions can reflect so badly on a number of people. But I just wanted to let you know that I don't think any less of you and completely understand however you are feeling right now. :hug:

[thesheriff443]

Lets be real here, this very thread and the reason for it just shows you what kind of people you associated with. They are the lowest form of people around and the weakest. It's easy to 'bully' someone online but the reality of the situation are morons sat behind keyboards because they literally have no friends or lives and decide to take that out on other people because it makes them feel good. It's pathetic.

Wow look at Saint Glenn preach!, get off your bloody soap box!

I have given members and mods on this site grief by taking things to far and projecting my own failings on to them.


I would like to make a heart felt apology to all those that I have offended on this site.

Life is far to short to be spending to much time on sites like this one.