the truth
20-07-2015, 02:33 PM
you may recall I relayed a rather complex story last year
a half brother has emerged from the dim and distant past
my beloved late father had a child 50 years ago (13 years before he married my mother)....however the woman didn't tell my dad until he had been born as my dad and her had broken up.
dad offered to bring up the child alone, but the mother thought it needed 2 parents and decided to put the child up for adoption
my dad never saw his son , after the boy was adopted his name changed and he was untraceable
so my dad passed away a few years ago and suddenly out of nowhere his son appears
now the problem is my dear old mother....shes shocked by the whole story , shes old school very conservative and believed she was marrying a man with no children
the other question that confuses more than any is this....the boys mother is still alive and he found her and met her 8 years ago, so where has he been for 6 years in finding dad? why did he never come and visit my dad (his dad) while he was alive? yet appears now? ive met him 2 times and it was all very amiable, he seems a decent sort of chap etc but the question of where has he been for 6 years. he says he couldn't find him, yet he tells a few stories where people mentioned they knew my dad to him, my dad was a doctor living in a rich part of town in a small town....so you wouldn't need to be detective columbo to find him..everyone knew him
in the meantime im left with a situation where my mother is bemused, my new found half brother isn't really opening up and answering any questions....he also refuses to allow my mother to get in touch with his mother so discuss this whole matter and get the full story
in the meantime my full brother is getting on fine with the new half brother and thinks my mother is being unreasaonable but has now cut off my mother and refuses to allow her to see his kids....im piggy in the middle as usual
your thoughts?
a half brother has emerged from the dim and distant past
my beloved late father had a child 50 years ago (13 years before he married my mother)....however the woman didn't tell my dad until he had been born as my dad and her had broken up.
dad offered to bring up the child alone, but the mother thought it needed 2 parents and decided to put the child up for adoption
my dad never saw his son , after the boy was adopted his name changed and he was untraceable
so my dad passed away a few years ago and suddenly out of nowhere his son appears
now the problem is my dear old mother....shes shocked by the whole story , shes old school very conservative and believed she was marrying a man with no children
the other question that confuses more than any is this....the boys mother is still alive and he found her and met her 8 years ago, so where has he been for 6 years in finding dad? why did he never come and visit my dad (his dad) while he was alive? yet appears now? ive met him 2 times and it was all very amiable, he seems a decent sort of chap etc but the question of where has he been for 6 years. he says he couldn't find him, yet he tells a few stories where people mentioned they knew my dad to him, my dad was a doctor living in a rich part of town in a small town....so you wouldn't need to be detective columbo to find him..everyone knew him
in the meantime im left with a situation where my mother is bemused, my new found half brother isn't really opening up and answering any questions....he also refuses to allow my mother to get in touch with his mother so discuss this whole matter and get the full story
in the meantime my full brother is getting on fine with the new half brother and thinks my mother is being unreasaonable but has now cut off my mother and refuses to allow her to see his kids....im piggy in the middle as usual
your thoughts?