Dating someone you know your friend likes - a no go?

[Ashley.]

Is it okay to date someone with the knowledge that your friend likes them, or should there be a rule against this in the imaginary friendship guide?

Would you be forgiving if you found out that your friend has just started dating your crush, them knowing that you liked them?

In contrast, would you proceed to date someone your friend had a crush on, or would you let them down gently and stick by your friend?

[Kate!]

Depends how much I liked them personally. I'd tell my friend before letting anything happen though.

[Liam-]

As long as you don't go near a mate's ex or family members then everything else is fair game imo.

[Cherie]

I did this, we both liked him, but he asked me out, its not like I agreed to go out to spite her, I told her and she went cray cray on me :worry: we fell out soon after as well and the friendship never recovered

[Lostie!]

I'd mention it to the friend and make sure they're okay with it first, otherwise it would feel a bit like a slap in the face.

[Jason.]

I personally don't see a problem with it. If you happen to like that person and that person happens to like you back, then I don't see why not. It's not like the friend who likes the person are an item, so it's not cheating or anything. Friend's ex is another story though.

[Tom4784]

If I was the friend that liked someone but they liked my friend better then i'd just get over it and let them be happy. I'd like to believe my friends would think if they were in the same shoes too.

[Niamh.]

Sounds a bit like a teenage high school girl problem :laugh:

[Lostie!]

Friend's ex is another story though.

I don't even think that's an issue if the friend is over them. If not, then obviously it's not a good idea but otherwise, what's the harm?

[JoshBB]

Ask your friend how they'd feel first.. I'm sure they'd be okay with it but you wouldnt want them feeling betrayed

[Jason.]

I don't even think that's an issue if the friend is over them. If not, then obviously it's not a good idea but otherwise, what's the harm?

True, but I'd find it quite uncomfortable :worry:

[Cherie]

Sounds a bit like a teenage high school girl problem :laugh:

I was in my early 20s :hmph:

[Cherie]

Truem, but I'd find it quite uncomfortable :worry:

It is :worry:

[Ashley.]

Sounds a bit like a teenage high school girl problem :laugh:

That's what I thought :laugh: But a friend of mine was telling me about this love triangle ting so I thought I'd ask you lot

(probably should throw the disclaimer that I'm not involved in the triangle, I'm on the outside of this :laugh:)

[kirklancaster]

If your 'friend' is really your friend, and if you are genuinely attracted to the other party, and he/she is genuinely attracted to you, then where's the problem? Your friend should understand. If you 'cried off' because of your friend and the other party does not fancy them, then they still won't go with your friend anyway, and everyone loses out.

[Ashley.]

If your 'friend' is really your friend, and if you are genuinely attracted to the other party, and he/she is genuinely attracted to you, then where's the problem? Your friend should understand. If you 'cried off' because of your friend and the other party does not fancy them, then they still won't go with your friend anyway, and everyone loses out.

I think there's two types of people in this situation.

1. This person will think that they'd be doing a good deed by shunning the guy. It gives them the feeling that they've done something good and beneficial by sparing their friends feelings. They might also feel that they will be rewarded by their friend for this deed.

2. This person finds it difficult to resist temptation/pass opportunities. They're more likely to feel regret for shunning the guy, in favour of their friend's trust.

I do agree, that the guy, I suppose, "picked" one girl over the other, so the other friend has to move on either way.

[Cherie]

If your 'friend' is really your friend, and if you are genuinely attracted to the other party, and he/she is genuinely attracted to you, then where's the problem? Your friend should understand. If you 'cried off' because of your friend and the other party does not fancy them, then they still won't go with your friend anyway, and everyone loses out.

Try telling that to the bitter friend who thinks you should give up your chance as well :fist:

[smudgie]

*cough* I wouldn't dare comment:blush:

:joker::joker:
Anything goes as long as they are not in a committed relationship.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Bro,'s before ho's

[jennyjuniper]

Ask her what she would do if the one you both fancy wanted to date her. Would she do it? If she says no, but there are tell tale signs she's lying, or if she says yes, then feel free to date him.

[Daniel-X]

One of my friends and the girl she was best friends with (I don't really like this girl) both had liked the same boy for ages the one I don't like ending up speaking to him outside of school through FB and stuff and they ended up in a sort of courting relationship but they weren't officially together. The boy called off things with the girl I don't like because he had feelings for my friend instead. The girl I am friends with and the boy are now in sort of a courting relationship.

The girls don't speak anymore they didn't fall out they just don't speak because it's awkward.

The girl I don't like knew my friend had liked the boy since like year eight (I'm in Y11) but she said she'd liked him this long which is a lie because she'd been in two relationships before she got with this boy.

Some people are one the side of my friends and others are on the side of the girl I don't like. Some can see both sides.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Try being married to someone and hating their evil sister with a passion

That's no picnic

:idc:

[Jake.]

na, scummy to me

millions of people in the world to have relationships with, put friendship first

[Cherie]

na, scummy to me

millions of people in the world to have relationships with, put friendship first

Saint Jake :fan:

[kirklancaster]

Try being married to someone and hating their evil sister with a passion

That's no picnic

:idc:

Try being maried to someone and hating her mother with great passion. :laugh:

[LukeB]

I don't think it is tbh especially if the friend has feelings for that person.. it may ruin the friendship

[Jessica.]

I can't believe people are saying this is wrong. A crush doesn't mean anything. If two single people want to start something then I don't see why they should hesitate.

[Ashley.]

I can't believe people are saying this is wrong. A crush doesn't mean anything. If two single people want to start something then I don't see why they should hesitate.

idk maybe it's just not that simple for some people

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

But if you get to sex night one day and his dick is small and he sucks in bed would the loss of a friendship have been worth it? Figure out what's more important your friendship or the crush. If you can live with complications in your friendship then go for it.

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

I can't believe people are saying this is wrong. A crush doesn't mean anything. If two single people want to start something then I don't see why they should hesitate.

It's like a test of friendship. If your friend can go after something you're interested in like that next time what will it be? Your dream job? Your husband? Patterns begin small.

[Dollface]

It's definitely a no-no for me.

[Dollface]

It's like a test of friendship. If your friend can go after something you're interested in like that next time what will it be? Your dream job? Your husband? Patterns begin small.

Agreed. This happened between me and my friend, I was friends with a guy that I began to have feelings for (my friend knew this) but when she met him she started to like him too and he told me that he loved her (it was hard to hear that!!) I was really upset but my friend refused to let anything happen between them, despite really liking him, she stopped talking to him because she didn't want to hurt me. That = true friendship

[Cherie]

Never say never, no one really knows what they would do unless they are in the situation, there are different levels of friendship and attraction, what if the person turned out to be the love of your life? Would you walk away for friendship?

[Ashley.]

But if you get to sex night one day and his dick is small and he sucks in bed would the loss of a friendship have been worth it? Figure out what's more important your friendship or the crush. If you can live with complications in your friendship then go for it.

Well this is a bad analogy because not everyone is dependant on sex. :worry:

[Jake.]

Saint Jake :fan:

Didn't say I was, but I've kinda had it done to me and it sucks so I wouldn't put anybody else through it

[Mystic Mock]

I believe that the best thing in this scenario is to both fight for the person that you both like and hope that they pick you.

I would not fallout with a friend over a guy/girl that's not even my boy/girlfriend.