Minnesota bride sends bill to guest who didn't attend wedding reception...

[Ammi]

A Minnesota woman is outraged after she received a dinner bill when she cancelled on her friend's wedding the day of the ceremony.

Jessica Baker of Golden Valley was getting ready for her friend's big day when she received a call from her mother that she could no longer watch her children, who were not allowed at the ceremony or reception.

Then, a few weeks later, Baker received a bill for $75 asking her to cover the cost of her and her husband's meals.

'You've got to be kidding me,' Baker said in an interview with KARE 11, who she appears to have reached out to with her story.

'It listed, we would have had two herb crusted walleye and there was also a service and tax charge.'

It also came with a note for Baker and her husband that read; 'This cost reflects the amount paid by the bride and groom for meals that were RSVP'd for, reimbursement and explanation for no show, card, call or text would be appreciated.'

Said Baker; 'I guess I don't know what the right answer would have been. What the right thing to do would have been.'

Baker does know however that she is not paying the bill - and also has yet to send the couple a gift or card.

Guests have a year to send a gift or card, and are expected to do so if they RSVP yes to a wedding.

Sending a bill however is another thing.

'Under no circumstances should you choose to follow up after the fact...kind of questioning why they couldn't attend or much less sending a bill,' said Minnesota Bride editor Sarah Baumann Rogers who called this a 'wild story.'

She then added, for the benefit of all soon-to-be-married couples; 'General rule is prepare for about 10 percent of overage or underage when you're planning a big event like that and catering companies are well aware of this.'

Baker did not go so far as to name the bride or detail their relationship, which it seems will likely now be over.


http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3254399/Bride-sends-wedding-guest-bill-75-cover-cost-two-dinners-husband-skip-ceremony-no-notice-never-send-gift-card.html




...thoughts..?...

[MB.]

Why did the couple not allow children in the first place? Bit odd

[Liam-]

Bit idiotic to charge them for the meal though, it's not like she didn't go through choice.

Why did the couple not allow children in the first place? Bit odd

Kids are nuisances at events, especially big ones like a wedding imo :laugh:

[MB.]

Kids are nuisances at events, especially big ones like a wedding imo :laugh:

But banning family members from a big family event just makes them seem like snobs? They don't seem like the friendliest of couples at least, so it doesn't surprise me that they charge people for food they didn't eat...

[Ammi]

Why did the couple not allow children in the first place? Bit odd

But banning family members from a big family event just makes them seem like snobs? They don't seem like the friendliest of couples at least, so it doesn't surprise me that they charge people for food they didn't eat...

..maybe because cost was a thing in the first place for them MB and children would add more to the cost of it all so a decision they had to make and may not have wanted to.../..weddings are so expensive and guest lists do often have to be cut right down, and children is one way I guess...

[Cherie]

But banning family members from a big family event just makes them seem like snobs? They don't seem like the friendliest of couples at least, so it doesn't surprise me that they charge people for food they didn't eat...

The woman that didn't go wasn't a family member she was a friend, a lot of couples will invite adults only outside of family to keep costs down, that said couples have to allow for people not turning up on the day, I would like the other side of the story here as I think there might be more to it, as it seems she didn't let the couple know she wouldn't be going and the reason why which would have been courteous at least, they might have worried on the day why she was a no show and reacted in this way because of this

[smudgie]

Not just a case of people being news hoes then, first of all we have the bride telling her story last week now we have the none guests side.
The bride did say she wasn't expecting to be paid, that the bill was sent more to reflect the ignorance of the guests not even bothering to text an apology.
Whichever of the invited guests was the actual friend of the wedded couple could still have attended and the other half could have babysat.:shrug:
Mountain out of molehill springs to mind.

[RichardG]

Seems a bit cheeky to send a bill when she disn't miss the wedding on purpose I guess but I'd probably just pay it and get it over with rather than going to the news about it. :laugh:

[Northern Monkey]

I'd have sent the bill back with a nice "kiss my ass" note.

[Cherie]

Not just a case of people being news hoes then, first of all we have the bride telling her story last week now we have the none guests side.
The bride did say she wasn't expecting to be paid, that the bill was sent more to reflect the ignorance of the guests not even bothering to text an apology.
Whichever of the invited guests was the actual friend of the wedded couple could still have attended and the other half could have babysat.:shrug:
Mountain out of molehill springs to mind.

Oh so we have had the other side of the story, I thought it might have been more to do with them not bothering to let the couple know they wouldn't be going which was very rude a quick text would have done

[arista]

Yes its Normal
charges go out
big events

Normal

[arista]

http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2015/09/30/05/2CEB979B00000578-3254399-image-a-73_1443586806031.jpg

Honey , get over it.

[JoshBB]

this is a mess

why would you even go to a news station about this :laugh:

[Niamh.]

it is annoying to have to pay for people who don't turn up but you'd want to be pretty sad to send them a bill, I'm embarressed for her :laugh:

[Tom4784]

$75 FOR TWO ****ING MEALS?!

https://31.media.tumblr.com/09a9df4d5976a7d057b2586d486f2a77/tumblr_inline_njesicH1BS1srwt8s.gif

[TomC]

If you cancel something after a certain time then it's non-refundable when you buy like a concert ticket, no? It may have been a bit harsh, but I don't think it's terribly unreasonable.

[Niamh.]

If you cancel something after a certain time then it's non-refundable when you buy like a concert ticket, no? It may have been a bit harsh, but I don't think it's terribly unreasonable.

The guest didn't buy a ticket though, she accepted an invitation to a party more or less. I doubt the bride would have a legal leg to stand on

[Cherie]

The guest didn't buy a ticket though, she accepted an invitation to a party more or less. I doubt the bride would have a legal leg to stand on

It was more to do with their ignorance in not letting the couple know though, I doubt they expected to be paid for the unbeaten meals, it was a way of making a point

[Niamh.]

It was more to do with their ignorance in not letting the couple know though, I doubt they expected to be paid for the unbeaten meals, it was a way of making a point

Oh yeah it is ignorant, we had someone do it at our wedding too but all this sending a bill and going public with it now makes the bride worse imo

[arista]

$75 FOR TWO ****ING MEALS?!

https://31.media.tumblr.com/09a9df4d5976a7d057b2586d486f2a77/tumblr_inline_njesicH1BS1srwt8s.gif


yes Top Notch Meals


Feel The Force

[Livia]

If someone RSVPs that they're going to attend, then they're catered for and someone has to pay for that. Cancelling on the day of the wedding just meant that the couple getting married had to pay for people who said they would go then didn't show up. That's awfully rude... would I send them a bill? Probably not... but I can see their point.

[Crimson Dynamo]

This is what happens when you plan a wedding solely to try and impress people instead of understanding what you are getting into and why you are doing it

lavish weddings make me sick as do women who spend years planning them


(I would have sent a note back saying f off you tight bitch)

[lostalex]

It's like if you go to a birthday party would you expect to pay for your slice of cake? Why do so many married couples now think that the guests should be paying to attend their party???

You don't charge people to attend a party you are throwing! If you can't afford to throw a party, then don't throw a party.

[kirklancaster]

This is what happens when you plan a wedding solely to try and impress people instead of understanding what you are getting into and why you are doing it

lavish weddings make me sick as do women who spend years planning them


(I would have sent a note back saying f off you tight bitch)

:laugh:

[kirklancaster]

A lot of men look back and wish the fecking bride hadn't turned up. :hehe:

[Kyle]

A lot of men look back and wish the fecking bride hadn't turned up. :hehe:

I know what that's like man my left hand didn't turn up for my wedding.

[lostalex]

A lot of men look back and wish the fecking bride hadn't turned up. :hehe:

then why did they propose?

[Jamie89]

If you cancel something after a certain time then it's non-refundable when you buy like a concert ticket, no? It may have been a bit harsh, but I don't think it's terribly unreasonable.

Yes but with things like that it's different because you have to pay if you attend the concert. With the wedding, the guest wouldn't have had to pay anything if she had shown up and eaten the food, so it seems totally pointless to me that she would be charged for not showing up and not eating the food. Sure it's rude, but not a chargeable offense imo. Just bad manners

[kirklancaster]

I know what that's like man my left hand didn't turn up for my wedding.

:laugh: Get a grip on yourself Kyle :laugh: Take yourself in hand. You know how ALL married men resort more to the services of the '5 Fingered Widow' EVEN when the bride does turn up. :hehe: