Why Do People Bully?

[LukeB]

Why do some people bully others? I've never bullied anyone so i don't know what goes through a bullies mind but I do think it's either to fit in because it's 'cool' or they are upset with themselves so they want to make others feel the same.

[Firewire]

A lot of it is to do with insecurities

[Scarlett.]

I imagine its because it makes the bully feel like they have power over someone, and that means they're not at the bottom of the 'food chain', usually people who bully have been bullied themselves, sometimes by adults (when they were children).

[Lostie!]

Some do it to fit in, some do it to compensate for their own insecurities, and some people are just dicks.

[LukeB]

A lot of it is to do with insecurities

That's the word I was looking for but it didn't come to me mind:laugh:

[EspeonBB]

I've always thought it was to do with insecurities and wanting to feel superior to someone else

[Ramsay]

Some do it to fit in, some do it to compensate for their own insecurities, and some people are just dicks.

Bingo

[Ammi]

..there are different reasons why someone can bully...sometimes it's just attention/negative attention because they feel that to be better than no attention at all...it can be a learned thing, that they have experienced bullying themselves ...also power and insecurities as well..jealousy also...many, many things...

[Ammi]

...and 'pack bullying' because being part of a group and feeling accepted is something that they need so can go with a 'pack leader bully' as well...and not always even realising it's bullying...

[LukeB]

I've been bullied myself and wouldn't dream of bullying anymore as it's cruel.. but it made me stick up for myself because I don't let anyone treat me like **** or talk down to me anymore then it stopped.

[Daniel.]

I dont know. No excuse for it at all.

[the truth]

brilliant question. I also think its down to envy and jealousy.

[LukeB]

I also think some people get peer pressured into it as well.

[Calderyon]

They have suffered/are suffering (rough life) so they want to make others suffer too and/or they do it to make themselves powerful which they necessarily aren´t in their own lives. Some people do it because they might have some kind of personality disorder or a type of mental illness.

I have been bullied myself on multiple occasions and know how it feels.

[Denver]

Its a way of showing authority and letting everyone know your the cool kid.

Why can't people just be themselves? If Some doesn't like you get over yourself but don't make everyone else lives hell

[Northern Monkey]

Small penises.

[LukeB]

Small penises.

my bully had a big penis, his nudes got shared on facebook for attention.. :laugh2:

[Dollface]

Small penises.

my bully didn't have a penis
or maybe she did and that's why she bullied me? :suspect:

[Jason.]

http://images.ok.co.uk/1403695248_Big-Brother-2014-Helen-Wood-row-argument-truth-or-dare.jpg

Because they think they're always in the right, always in the right, always in the right, always in the right.

[arista]

Why do some people bully others? I've never bullied anyone so i don't know what goes through a bullies mind but I do think it's either to fit in because it's 'cool' or they are upset with themselves so they want to make others feel the same.


Its bread into them.


And Some Dogs

[MB.]

my bully had a big penis

oh

[arista]

http://images.ok.co.uk/1403695248_Big-Brother-2014-Helen-Wood-row-argument-truth-or-dare.jpg

Because they think they're always in the right, always in the right, always in the right, always in the right.


She was set up

[Ross.]

Some do it to fit in, some do it to compensate for their own insecurities, and some people are just dicks.

Always spot on Lostie :clap1:

[the truth]

Small penises.

and small vaginas

[arista]

..there are different reasons why someone can bully...sometimes it's just attention/negative attention because they feel that to be better than no attention at all...it can be a learned thing, that they have experienced bullying themselves ...also power and insecurities as well..jealousy also...many, many things...


Typical of a Teacher

[Ninastar]

Like lostie said, it's a number of reasons. I hate pack bullying, it's one of the worst forms of it and literally make me feel sick.

[LukeB]

Like lostie said, it's a number of reasons. I hate pack bullying, it's one of the worst forms of it and literally make me feel sick.

I agree and any form of bullying makes me feel sick as well.

[DemolitionRed]

A bully likes to have a collection of admirers who will back them up when they've chosen their victim. Pull the ringleader down and the rest will scatter.

Whilst I abhor bullies, I also despise those who hide behind a bully.

[Ammi]

Typical of a Teacher

...:laugh:..hush down green man..

[the truth]

I agree. shoot them down calmly and verbally in front of everyone in the midst of their moronic bullying

[LukeB]

I agree. shoot them down calmly and verbally in front of everyone in the midst of their moronic bullying

:laugh:

[Ammi]

A bully likes to have a collection of admirers who will back them up when they've chosen their victim. Pull the ringleader down and the rest will scatter.

Whilst I abhor bullies, I also despise those who hide behind a bully.

..yeah, this I think is often true with 'pack bullying'...if someone is unpopular within a group then it can be 'cheered' on to bully them, whereas it would probably be the complete opposite 'pack' reaction for someone who was deemed popular...

... bullying I do think though needs some understanding as well because it often also comes from confusion/lack of understanding and a general feeling of 'chaos' within a person, as in learning difficulties etc and the frustrations and anger caused with that, which is really felt with themselves but projected outwards...

[Ammi]

I agree. shoot them down calmly and verbally in front of everyone in the midst of their moronic bullying

..not always, no...not when it's a young child who is doing the bullying because there will be reasons why they are doing it and that would be the absolute worst thing that you could do...it's more helping them to understand how their actions and words have affected someone else and how they've made them feel../learning empathy...

[waterhog]

A lot of it is to do with insecurities

spot on forewire -

[Johnnyuk123]

Lack of education.

[LukeB]

Lack of education.

good point.

[the truth]

..not always, no...not when it's a young child who is doing the bullying because there will be reasons why they are doing it and that would be the absolute worst thing that you could do...it's more helping them to understand how their actions and words have affected someone else and how they've made them feel../learning empathy...

you can do that if you want, verballytelling them they are wrong calmly and assuredly in front of all their mates is the best way to show all those around them too that bullying is idiotic. my concern is for the bullied and those who support bullying. it must be stopped. you can work on the bullies mommy issues in private if you so wish. the bullies are not my concern

[Johnnyuk123]

good point.

Give kids the information. Once they know the facts on the issue they can handle bullies better. And bullies too will get it.

[Lostie!]

A bully likes to have a collection of admirers who will back them up when they've chosen their victim. Pull the ringleader down and the rest will scatter.

Whilst I abhor bullies, I also despise those who hide behind a bully.

Yeah, people who just stand by while their "friend" treats people like crap are just as bad.

[Ashley.]

Bad parenting.

[Kizzy]

I think manipulation is the worst type of bullying, people who are ignorant or thuggish are in the main unintelligent and raised by similar. It's those who use situations and others to their own advantage, they are the worst type of bully.

[Ammi]

you can do that if you want, verballytelling them they are wrong calmly and assuredly in front of all their mates is the best way to show all those around them too that bullying is idiotic. my concern is for the bullied and those who support bullying. it must be stopped. you can work on the bullies mommy issues in private if you so wish. the bullies are not my concern

..they're not 'mommy issues'..many diagnosed mental disorders in children will produce 'bully behaviour' because of their frustrations in their inability to understand the way that other children do..that frustration will often lead to anger issues and bullying type behaviour...it's important that these things are recognised and addressed and a child be helped so that, that bullying behaviour stops...not just for those subjected to their bullying but for themselves as well...so that they can learn to 'control'...children on the autistic spectrum and with OCD especially, often become 'fixated' on another child and with that fixation will bully...you yourself have often expressed concerns about mental disorders and the lack of understanding there and some bullying does require some understanding to be able to help stop it...and also for children/'child bullies' to be helped with something that they can't actually help themselves with...

[arista]

Lack of education.


Left Wing Teachers are enough
to make you be a Bully.

[Northern Monkey]

you can do that if you want, verballytelling them they are wrong calmly and assuredly in front of all their mates is the best way to show all those around them too that bullying is idiotic. my concern is for the bullied and those who support bullying. it must be stopped. you can work on the bullies mommy issues in private if you so wish. the bullies are not my concern

I usually find that a good smack in the mouth usually does the trick.

[kirklancaster]

The easiest way for a short person to make him/herself appear taller is to shove another person into quicksand.

The only way for the victim to stop being pushed down into the quicksand, is to break the arms of the bastard who's doing the pushing down.

And if the victim isn't physically able to break those arms - a baseball bat swung from behind one dark night will get the job done fine.

[Kizzy]

Online bullying by way of intimidation, threats and blackmail I would say is a bigger problem than physical bullying today.

[Ashley.]

Online bullying by way of intimidation, threats and blackmail I would say is a bigger problem than physical bullying today.

Yes.

It's hard to fight back online... You're completely on your own and they can say anything they want...

Cyberbullying is more likely to lead to suicide than Physical bullying. It needs to stop.

[the truth]

..they're not 'mommy issues'..many diagnosed mental disorders in children will produce 'bully behaviour' because of their frustrations in their inability to understand the way that other children do..that frustration will often lead to anger issues and bullying type behaviour...it's important that these things are recognised and addressed and a child be helped so that, that bullying behaviour stops...not just for those subjected to their bullying but for themselves as well...so that they can learn to 'control'...children on the autistic spectrum and with OCD especially, often become 'fixated' on another child and with that fixation will bully...you yourself have often expressed concerns about mental disorders and the lack of understanding there and some bullying does require some understanding to be able to help stop it...and also for children/'child bullies' to be helped with something that they can't actually help themselves with...

and? the main concern is to protect people against these vile bullies. get these bullies off the streets out of the schools and lock them away with shrinks until they are 100% safe to be put back into society. the first and last care is for the public and the bullied, the bullies themselves are the last priority on the list

[the truth]

The easiest way for a short person to make him/herself appear taller is to shove another person into quicksand.

The only way for the victim to stop being pushed down into the quicksand, is to break the arms of the bastard who's doing the pushing down.

And if the victim isn't physically able to break those arms - a baseball bat swung from behind one dark night will get the job done fine.

even if he or she is bigger show them if they hurt you, you will hurt them, whether its morally physically financially, socially , psychologically etc etc they must be hurt back before they stop. the best route is simply to go to the head teacher imo and your parents, DONT SUFFER IN SILENCE

[Crimson Dynamo]

http://grangehillgold.files.wordpress.com/2013/05/653181a4612638cbb21ea92e2b071.jpg

Gripper Stebson was a classic old-school bully

[lostalex]

because it makes you feel powerful. like sex for men.

everyone loves to feel powerful.

[rubymoo]

I don't understand why people bully, kids are taught from a very early age not to bully, they have anti bullying week at school, and it's drilled into them to be nice and to report bullying, my experience with my children is that this is often adhered to in primary school but when they go to secondary school it all kicks off, it's about being popular, it's about being a leader, it's about power, my daughter has a diagnosis of autism and i encourage her to keep a book of children being bullied, both my girls are passionate about anti bullying and i'm proud to say that they always stand up to bullying, i myself on several occasions have rang school to report bullying (of other children because my daughter isn't taken seriously), my friends daughter is going through it at the moment in her friendship group, she's the one who isn't popular so she is the one who frequently is targeted by the girls in her own group, girls that she's grown up with, girls who have been to her parties had over night sleepovers and enjoyed girl guide outings with, and when these girls turn on someone else, she just sands by and watches.....because she's afraid, she's possibly just thankful it's not her that's being picked on.......and bullying goes on in the grown up world too.....i've experienced it......

How should we deal with it....imo....name and shame, that'll stop them, because no-one wants to be called a bully.

[user104658]

How should we deal with it....imo....name and shame, that'll stop them, because no-one wants to be called a bully.

That depends on the "type" of bully, I think. There are two very distinct varieties. One is the "obvious bully" - the ones who basically bully anyone and everyone they can get their hands on. Those ones wear it with pride. But then, those ones are actually doing far less damage, because when it's someone who picks on EVERYONE picking on a kid, that kid (and everyone else) knows it's not about them. They're not being singled out; they just were unlucky enough to cross paths with a thug.

The second type of bully, on the other hand, this is very true about. This is the bully who singles out an individual they see as weak and uses that person to make themselves feel big / tough - usually because they don't really feel that way. Name and shame, amoungst peers, is definitely the way to sort out that sort of bully if you're looking for quick results. They absolutely crumble if confronted by other self-assured, confident kids.

Of course the best outcome for everyone is if you can actually figure out what's going on behind the scenes that has them feeling vicious and powerless, and why they're on the attack in the first place.

Cliché but, of course, 9/10 times it's the parents :shrug:

[the truth]

people / kids should be taught and experience what it feels like to be an underdog....try a whole day of being blind in school, deaf, in a wheelchair, cerebral palsey....simply try walking down a high street as if you have Stephen Hawkins illness and see what that feels like....youd only need to do it once to know and never forget. that's the only way it sticks is to experience it themselves