Are you forgiving?

[Amy Jade]

If somebody hurts you are you forgiving and quick to forget or do you stay pissed off for ages?

I'm pretty forgiving, my ex cheated on me and I talk to him now, not much but we are civil and I speak to a girl who used to bully me in school.

[LukeB]

Sometimes I do give 2nd chances but if they mess up again then I will not forgive them ever.

[Drew.]

Depends what it is.. Most situations I am though

[Tom4784]

I'm quick to forgive most things.

[Jamie89]

Usually yes but I realised recently I'm more vengeful than I used to think

[Mystic Mock]

I can be pretty unforgiving for most of the day if someone has done something against me on purpose, but I do tend to let it go once the day is up.

[Ammi]

...yep, for me I don't think forgiveness is about saying...it's ok, that you did that thing and we'll just carry on because how you 'carry on' with that person is always on our own terms really...it's more for yourself and letting go of the negativity, which will always hurt you more than the person that the lack of forgiveness applies to...we forgive/we let go/we free ourselves...

[Natalie.]

Depends what it is really
I suppose I am quite forgiving, takes a bit of time though

[DemolitionRed]

I'm really intolerant when it comes to the inconsiderate actions of others, but I'm not the type to hold onto a grudge. If someone does something that has me distrusting them, then I'll always be cautious around that person, though I will forgive their past deeds.

Online is different. I've had some fare old arguments online and I know I've had a few people hate me for it but I've never held a grudge with anyone on the internet for more than a day or two. Lifes too short.

[kirklancaster]

If somebody hurts you are you forgiving and quick to forget or do you stay pissed off for ages?

I'm pretty forgiving, my ex cheated on me and I talk to him now, not much but we are civil and I speak to a girl who used to bully me in school.

Am I ****. I ALWAYS get my revenge if I have to wait years, but very, very, strangely - call it what you will, Karma, Divine Retribution - a lot of people who have wronged me have suffered without me lifting one vengeful finger.

I am pleased to say.:hehe:

Did the girl who bullied you at school apologise Amy Jade? 'Cos I would'nt have spoken to her if she hadn't - whupped her ass more like. :laugh:

[kirklancaster]

I'm really intolerant when it comes to the inconsiderate actions of others, but I'm not the type to hold onto a grudge. If someone does something that has me distrusting them, then I'll always be cautious around that person, though I will forgive their past deeds.

Online is different. I've had some fare old arguments online and I know I've had a few people hate me for it but I've never held a grudge with anyone on the internet for more than a day or two. Lifes too short.

I'm the same - you 'oribble, argumentative, trouble-causing cow. :laugh::laugh::laugh: Just kidding Red.

Yes we can get annoyed, irritated, frustrated and angry by arguing online, but holding a grudge is silly.

[Jordan.]

Eventually but I'm stubborn to the core

[Cherie]

Pretty stubborn, I avoid interacting with people I have no time for

[Amy Jade]

Am I ****. I ALWAYS get my revenge if I have to wait years, but very, very, strangely - call it what you will, Karma, Divine Retribution - a lot of people who have wronged me have suffered without me lifting one vengeful finger.

I am pleased to say.:hehe:

Did the girl who bullied you at school apologise Amy Jade? 'Cos I would'nt have spoken to her if she hadn't - whupped her ass more like. :laugh:
Yeah she did

[kirklancaster]

Yeah she did

Good - That's cool then. When I was 14 a gang of grown men - all in their late 20's (seemed like giants to me at the time) beat me and my friend up for no reason. I got each and every one of them back when I was 19 and am OK with 3 of them now all these years later.

[joeysteele]

I can be but really unless the person is really sorry and makes amends I may withhold forgiveness.
If anyone were to really hurt me twice, they would be out of my life for good.

[Crimson Dynamo]

too forgiving

[Mokka]

too forgiving

:omgno: Is Ex- Mrs. LT now Mrs. LT again

[Cherie]

:omgno: Is Ex- Mrs. LT now Mrs. LT again

:omgno:

[Amy Jade]

Good - That's cool then. When I was 14 a gang of grown men - all in their late 20's (seemed like giants to me at the time) beat me and my friend up for no reason. I got each and every one of them back when I was 19 and am OK with 3 of them now all these years later.

That's awful, I think with the age gap especially.

This girl was never somebody who got physical, I think she was a follower and she agrees it was to fit in. I was only hit twice, I used to take the name calling but if people touched me I used to go crazy haha

[Crimson Dynamo]

:omgno: Is Ex- Mrs. LT now Mrs. LT again

:omgno:


no :idc:

[Babayaro.]

Yes I am, but usually i'm too forgiving which is annoying

[Daniel-X]

Yeah very forgiving almost a little too forgiving at times

[smudgie]

Day to day stuff life is too short to hold grudges.
Big stuff...much better for yourself just to let it go and not eat you up, not so much forgiving as forgetting and getting on with life.

[kirklancaster]

That's awful, I think with the age gap especially.

This girl was never somebody who got physical, I think she was a follower and she agrees it was to fit in. I was only hit twice, I used to take the name calling but if people touched me I used to go crazy haha

Good for you Amy Jade. I detest bullying of all types.

[kirklancaster]

:omgno: Is Ex- Mrs. LT now Mrs. LT again

:laugh: He does seem to have become less.... vitriolic towards her. Maybe it's halloween which is mellowing him towards her Mokka. :hehe:

[Ninastar]

Depends. If people seem genuine and try to change their horrible behaviour or whatever, then yes, I'll forgive them. But if someone says they will change and continue to act the same, I wont forgive them and I'll carry on my life without them.

[Denver]

I can forgive but I'll never forget.

[Kizzy]

I thought I was but I'm not very good at it, I don't bother with exes or anything.

[T*]

I think so, but I tend to hold grudges also

[Jason.]

I'd like to think I usually am quite forgiving, but there are times where I can be a bit stubborn if I'm in a bad mood and take a while to forgive or hold what they've done against that person.

[Kate!]

Depends what they have done. Usually yes.

[Kazanne]

It depends , something heinous then no chance , but everyday ,petty stuff I can forgive , you have to really, otherwise you get bent out of shape.

[Cal.]

Too forgiving.

[Liam-]

Depends what it is, if it's something serious, I tend to try and forgive but I still hold said person at arms length afterwards.

[Xtopher]

I'm a professional at holding grudges. Very rarely I do forgive.

[user104658]

Forgive people yes but don't forget, and don't be surprised if they do exactly the same thing again no matter how much they've apologised. People don't change.

[Marsh.]

I am forgiving, perhaps too forgiving. But when it comes to big things I don't forget even if I wanted to.

[Cherie]

I am forgiving, perhaps too forgiving. But when it comes to big things I don't forget even if I wanted to.

:worry:

[Marsh.]

:worry:

So let that be a warning. :nono:

[Jake.]

Yeah, I'm awful for remembering things people have done/holding grudges though, I find it pretty hard to move past something

[DemolitionRed]

I'm the same - you 'oribble, argumentative, trouble-causing cow. :laugh::laugh::laugh: Just kidding Red.

Yes we can get annoyed, irritated, frustrated and angry by arguing online, but holding a grudge is silly.

I've got a great deal of respect for you Kirk because you and me can go at it hammer and tongue and still come up shaking hands :laugh: I just wish more people were like that.

[kirklancaster]

Forgive people yes but don't forget, and don't be surprised if they do exactly the same thing again no matter how much they've apologised. People don't change.

So true.

[Cherie]

So let that be a warning. :nono:

:omgno: the wrath of Marsh

[kirklancaster]

I've got a great deal of respect for you Kirk because you and me can go at it hammer and tongue and still come up shaking hands :laugh: I just wish more people were like that.

Thanks Red - The respect is mutual. I AM self-opinionated but I KNOW I am not always right, but that describes all those who frequent Serious Debate.

[kirklancaster]

So let that be a warning. :nono:

:laugh:

[Livia]

It depends solely on the offence as to whether I forgive or not. And if I don't forgive I'll need revenge... but not for a while. Like Demolition Red says, it is different online, although some things that have been said will never be forgiven. Liars are different... once someone's lied and been found out (without fessing up, because that's a totally different scenario) then I will assume they are always lying.