Do you believe in "soulmates"?

[Ashley.]

What is a soulmate, and how do you know when you've found them?

I think soulmates exist. I think there's someone for everyone; someone you share a lot of things in common with and you get that "glow" around them. However, sometimes you can go through life and never find them, which is quite sad.

[Kizzy]

yes

[JoshBB]

I think there are multiple soulmates but only a few, so you're lucky if you meet one.

[Will.]

Why is this in serious debates and news? :laugh:

[Kate!]

I think there are multiple soulmates but only a few, so you're lucky if you meet one.

Yes

[Niamh.]

It depends what you mean when you say "soulmate" I don't believe that there's only one person in the world for everyone. I also don't believe we have souls. I think I would find it hard to meet someone who I'm more compatable with then Gav though

[Ashley.]

Why is this in serious debates and news?

The term "soulmate" derives from Christianity, and I want to talk about how true this term really is.

[Will.]

The term "soulmate" derives from Christianity

oh ok,

I thought a 'soulmate' was just a really good friend. :laugh:

[Ashley.]

oh ok,

I thought a 'soulmate' was just a really good friend. :laugh:

Here's an interesting article I found on the original meaning of Soulmates, I thought it was very interesting:
http://www.christianpost.com/news/soul-mates-what-does-the-bible-say-about-the-one-youre-destined-to-marry-102136/

[Will.]

Here's an interesting article I found on the original meaning of Soulmates, I thought it was very interesting:
http://www.christianpost.com/news/soul-mates-what-does-the-bible-say-about-the-one-youre-destined-to-marry-102136/

Thank you, I will read it now!

[Ninastar]

I believe in them, but I think they are very very rare.

I'll use my aunt as an example. She was in a horrible relationship and was pregnant with twins and lost them. She was so depressed about it for the longest time. Soon she left that relationship and met her latest partner. He didn't have the best health, but he had 3 young sons who thought the world of her. They were totally the opposite, but they worked so well. Anyway, later on he got really sick and needed a kidney transplant and the waiting list was really long. My aunt the asks the hospital to check if she was a match and she was!

So he got better but then he died like 7 years later. It was horrible, she said that when he died, she saw his soul leave his body. I wouldn't believe anyone else apart from her.

One thing that made me think 'okay wow' was when I was on the phone to her last month. it was the 5th anniversary of his death and I was talking to her about him, and she stopped talking and was like 'Oh my god, wow...' and I was like omg what's happened?? and then she told me that the clock where his ashes are kept (he collected clocks, had like over 100 around the house) had opened up and the little door where his ashes were kept was wide open. She said that it's only ever happened twice since he's passed and the other time was when his sons were at the house.

But yeah, I think finding a soulmate is very rare and very few of us are lucky enough to do so

[user104658]

I believe that everyone has multiple soul-mates, though most of us are only lucky enough to actually meet and get to know a few of them. I also don't believe that a soul-mate necessarily has to be a romantic connection, they might even be the same gender (with no degree of homosexuality) "JD & Turk" style.

[Ninastar]

Oh also I dont think a soulmate has to be someone you're in love with. I think it can be a sister/brother/aunt/friend/whatever.

[Niamh.]

I need someone to actually define what they mean by soulmate though, I mean as I don't actually believe people have souls, I cant say I believe in soul mates but if people just mean someone who they are extremely compatable with then yeah sure I believe in that :shrug:

[Crimson Dynamo]

Of course not or noone would ever get married

people meet people generally around where they work and live

You can find a partner in any town in the UK


Its romantic bollocks

[Kate!]

Oh also I dont think a soulmate has to be someone you're in love with. I think it can be a sister/brother/aunt/friend/whatever.

I think it can these too.

[Kizzy]

The term "soulmate" derives from Christianity, and I want to talk about how true this term really is.

No way.

[Ashley.]

No way.

Well I know that Christians invented souls, so I'm just taking a wild guess that the term "soul mate" started with them. :laugh:

[Niamh.]

Of course not or noone would ever get married

people meet people generally around where they work and live

You can find a partner in any town in the UK


Its romantic bollocks

Whenever people start talking about soulmates I almost feel like I have to lie and say yeah I believe in that, otherwise my own relationship isn't as important as someone who says they do believe in soul mates :laugh: But then I remember that all that matters is what I know myself about my relationship :pipe:

[user104658]

I need someone to actually define what they mean by soulmate though, I mean as I don't actually believe people have souls, I cant say I believe in soul mates but if people just mean someone who they are extremely compatable with then yeah sure I believe in that :shrug:

Well obvz I don't believe in the literal soul either. I define it as someone who is just perfectly "on your wavelength". Someone who gets your humour, things that make you mad, other "little quirks" - even if they're obscure, and even if you've only just met them - because the way they think is just "in sync" with the way you think. I guess someone who you would happily share any and every opinion with without fear of it being controversial, because you already know before even saying it that that person is going to be thinking the same sort of thing...

Like you and me Niamh. We're little Tibby soulmates :lovedup:.

[Ashley.]

I need someone to actually define what they mean by soulmate though, I mean as I don't actually believe people have souls, I cant say I believe in soul mates but if people just mean someone who they are extremely compatable with then yeah sure I believe in that :shrug:

I think that's the thing, really. There are several different meanings published by many different sources. But I think that you know when you have found them. You get that glow, that butterfly feeling that never goes away, like the elastic band that binds you together is shortening the closer that you get.

I know this is pretty spiritual **** but I do believe in the whole elastic band theory, which is why long distance relationships never work and you get that gutting feeling when you haven't seen them in a long time - as if the elastic band is breaking.

[Niamh.]

Well obvz I don't believe in the literal soul either. I define it as someone who is just perfectly "on your wavelength". Someone who gets your humour, things that make you mad, other "little quirks" - even if they're obscure, and even if you've only just met them - because the way they think is just "in sync" with the way you think. I guess someone who you would happily share any and every opinion with without fear of it being controversial, because you already know before even saying it that that person is going to be thinking the same sort of thing...

Like you and me Niamh. We're little Tibby soulmates :lovedup:.

Well, I believe in your definition then :love:

[Crimson Dynamo]

Whenever people start talking about soulmates I almost feel like I have to lie and say yeah I believe in that, otherwise my own relationship isn't as important as someone who says they do believe in soul mates :laugh: But then I remember that all that matters is what I know myself about my relationship :pipe:

lol

but unless one qualifies what one means the discussion cant really go anywhere


To try and claim only one person is right for you is to patently misunderstand population numbers and statistics

[Niamh.]

I think that's the thing, really. There are several different meanings published by many different soulmates. But I think that you know when you have found them. You get that glow, that butterfly feeling that never goes away, like the elastic band that binds you together is shortening the closer that you get.

I know this is pretty spiritual **** but I do believe in the whole elastic band theory, which is why long distance relationships never work and you get that gutting feeling when you haven't seen them in a long time - as if the elastic band is breaking.

But what you just decribed there is being in love

[Niamh.]

lol

but unless one qualifies what one means the discussion cant really go anywhere


To try and claim only one person is right for you is to patently misunderstand population numbers and statistics

I agree with that

[Kate!]

If you had to pick a Tibb soulmate could you or not?

Id pick Visage

[Crimson Dynamo]

I think that's the thing, really. There are several different meanings published by many different soulmates. But I think that you know when you have found them. You get that glow, that butterfly feeling that never goes away, like the elastic band that binds you together is shortening the closer that you get.

I know this is pretty spiritual **** but I do believe in the whole elastic band theory, which is why long distance relationships never work and you get that gutting feeling when you haven't seen them in a long time - as if the elastic band is breaking.

that is just falling in love and that has been genetically imprinted through natural selection and time in order for children to be born and genes to be passed on

[Ashley.]

But what you just decribed there is being in love

I've never been "in love", so I wouldn't know. :laugh: I just think that with soulmates it's an entirely different level of feeling to that of love. It's so much more than that. It's not just love.

[Ammi]

I think that's the thing, really. There are several different meanings published by many different sources. But I think that you know when you have found them. You get that glow, that butterfly feeling that never goes away, like the elastic band that binds you together is shortening the closer that you get.

I know this is pretty spiritual **** but I do believe in the whole elastic band theory, which is why long distance relationships never work and you get that gutting feeling when you haven't seen them in a long time - as if the elastic band is breaking.

.....hmmm, I would say that's a physical attraction and a sexual chemistry though, that might not develop into anything deeper beyond that in the long term to make a 'soul mate' or a long lasting relationship...we could feel similar things with a crush, I guess..

[Crimson Dynamo]

I've never been "in love", so I wouldn't know. :laugh: I just think that with soulmates it's an entirely different level of feeling to that of love. It's so much more than that. It's not just love.

you are just romanticising love

girls tend to do this



:umm2:

[user104658]

lol

but unless one qualifies what one means the discussion cant really go anywhere


To try and claim only one person is right for you is to patently misunderstand population numbers and statistics

Yes "one person in the world" is insane. I mean, my wife grew up 210 miles from where I did and technically in another country (Yes... she is an Engl... but it's OK I dragged her back north) and I'd STILL consider that to be pretty "local" when you think about it. When you consider that some people marry - and seem very happy with - people they were born in the same hospital as, and then sat next to in Higher English... the idea of "one person for everyone" starts to sound a bit bonkers.

[Ashley.]

you are just romanticising love

girls tend to do this



:umm2:

I'm not "romanticising" it (which doesn't really make sense as love is romance), I'm just imagining what it's like because I've never felt it before.

[Niamh.]

you are just romanticising love

girls tend to do this



:umm2:

:nono: at your sexism but yes I also agree

[Niamh.]

I'm not "romanticising" it (which doesn't really make sense as love is romance), I'm just imagining what it's like because I've never felt it before.

Love is romance? I wouldn't say so, you can love someone without being romantic

[Kate!]

I've never been "in love", so I wouldn't know. :laugh: I just think that with soulmates it's an entirely different level of feeling to that of love. It's so much more than that. It's not just love.

Its transcendant. Being in love is totally different to just loving someone.

[Ammi]

..I do believe, as others have said...that it's a complete compatibility between two people and yeah, not everyone finds that...some people though, find it more than once in their lives...I believe in 'sliding doors' and if a different connection in life was taken and that if that meant that you never met your life partner/had no knowledge of them existing...then you could find that same complete compatibility with someone else and then they would have been your 'soul mate'...

[Kizzy]

Well I know that Christians invented souls, so I'm just taking a wild guess that the term "soul mate" started with them. :laugh:

They invented the concept of heaven as a tool of social control but not souls or soul mates.

[Ammi]

you are just romanticising love

girls tend to do this



:umm2:

..and so do guys as well, it has nothing to do with what gender you are, just that you may be a 'romantic' person....

[Ashley.]

Its transcendant. Being in love is totally different to just loving someone.

Yes. Quite a wide difference, too.

[Cherie]

Why is this in serious debates and news? :laugh:

:nono: at your sexism but yes I also agree

:laugh: it was only a matter of time before the thread took a serious turn, encompassing religion and sexism

[user104658]

I think that's the thing, really. There are several different meanings published by many different sources. But I think that you know when you have found them. You get that glow, that butterfly feeling that never goes away, like the elastic band that binds you together is shortening the closer that you get.

I know this is pretty spiritual **** but I do believe in the whole elastic band theory, which is why long distance relationships never work and you get that gutting feeling when you haven't seen them in a long time - as if the elastic band is breaking.

Hmmm that's just early-stage love stuff though? As you get properly into the guts of loving someone it's not that simple. I do still sometimes get butterflies randomly with my wife but it's not a constant feeling... how would someone live like that?

Anyway, yeah, I also think that's being "in love" and not necessarily the same thing as a "soul-mate". I consider me and my wife to be both and feel lucky to have that. I do know couples who are very very much in love who I wouldn't think are "soul mates" at all.

[user104658]

I'm not "romanticising" it (which doesn't really make sense as love is romance), I'm just imagining what it's like because I've never felt it before.

This thread is making me totes sad :(. C'mon guys, we have to find Ashley someone to love!

Who are eligible TiBB bachelors?

[Kizzy]

:nono: at your sexism but yes I also agree

Let's glass him!

[joeysteele]

If you had to pick a Tibb soulmate could you or not?

Id pick Visage

Its not hard for me although there are many people I would go as far as to term friends and possible soulmates.
No hesitation however mine would be Mystic Mock.
My very best friend on here.

Visage however is a brilliant choice you made too.

[Ashley.]

This thread is making me totes sad :(. C'mon guys, we have to find Ashley someone to love!

Who are eligible TiBB bachelors?

:joker:

[Ashley.]

Let's glass him!

:joker:

[Cherie]

Let's glass him!

:joker:

[Ashley.]

If you had to pick a Tibb soulmate could you or not?

Id pick Visage

Brenda or Daniel, me thinks

[Cherie]

This thread is making me totes sad :(. C'mon guys, we have to find Ashley someone to love!

Who are eligible TiBB bachelors?

:umm2: this is not Match.com :nono: anyway there aren't any :joker:

[Ashley.]

:umm2: this is not Match.com :nono: anyway there aren't any :joker:

They're all batting for the other team!

[Cherie]

They're all batting for the other team!

It does seem like that but someone did a sexuality thread recently and there were a surprising number of straight people :laugh:

[joeysteele]

Yes I believe in soulmates but I see them as anyone deemed so in any kind of relationship that you have.
Not as to any exclusive relationship, a soulmate to me is someone who can come to know you inside out almost and who you share a strong bond with.

[Ashley.]

It does seem like that but someone did a sexuality thread recently and there were a surprising number of straight people :laugh:

I think half of them were female. :laugh:

[Ross.]

Let's glass him!

omg :joker:

[Gusto Brunt]

Yes, but I've never met mine yet. I know she's out there. Wish I could find her. :(

Or she find me. :D

[Kate!]

I have a female soulmate and I'm straight but we are almost one person. We know what the other is thinking about.

[Niamh.]

Let's glass him!

:laugh2:

[user104658]

I'm just imagining what it's like because I've never felt it before.

Yes, but I've never met mine yet. I know she's out there. Wish I could find her. :(

Or she find me. :D

:wink: :flowers: :creep: :flutter: :fc: :whistle:

[Dollface]

Yeah I believe in soulmates. To me a soulmate is someone who gets you like no-one else, who has almost the same personality and somehow knows how you're feeling without you even saying anything. I think everyone has that special soulmate out there somewhere, but they might be in a completely different country, might never meet them, might die without ever finding them.

[Cherie]

Yes, but I've never met mine yet. I know she's out there. Wish I could find her. :(

Or she find me. :D

:bawling: Gusto

[Ashley.]

Yes, but I've never met mine yet. I know she's out there. Wish I could find her. :(

Or she find me. :D

I'm sure she's looking for you too!

https://classandtrashshow.files.wordpress.com/2014/03/detectivelatoy.gif?w=300&h=168

[Dollface]

Brenda or Daniel, me thinks

oh.. OH.. OH




OH

[Ashley.]

oh.. OH.. OH




OH

Omfg I feel like I haven't spoken to you in ages!

**** them, I choose you <3

[Marsh.]

I'm not "romanticising" it (which doesn't really make sense as love is romance), I'm just imagining what it's like because I've never felt it before.

Love is romance? :omgno:

I love my parents but I wouldn't call it romantic love. :omgno:

[Natalie.]

I don't think there's only one person out there for people.
There's people who you can be very close to and are quite similar to you but it doesn't have to be in a romantic way

[Ashley.]

Love is romance? :omgno:

I love my parents but I wouldn't call it romantic love. :omgno:

I mean love love.

[Dollface]

Omfg I feel like I haven't spoken to you in ages!

**** them, I choose you <3

YES THAT IS THE ANSWER I WAS HOPING FOR <3

(sorry brenda and daniel but i'm stealing yo' girl) :lovedup:

and yes why haven't we spoken in ages this isn't fair i need you

[Dollface]

I don't think there's only one person out there for people.
There's people who you can be very close to and are quite similar to you but it doesn't have to be in a romantic way

Yeah I believe best friends can be soul mates too, the way me and my bestie became friends was very much like fate tbh and our personalities are so similar it's almost scary

[Kate!]

Love is...... pain sometimes. I lost 'the one' 5 years ago because it was never acknowledged so the chance went by. Circumstances (private) now dictate we'll never be together but we've acknowledged it now and strangely I feel at peace knowing he exists. Some love is that special.

[Northern Monkey]

It depends what you mean when you say "soulmate" I don't believe that there's only one person in the world for everyone. I also don't believe we have souls. I think I would find it hard to meet someone who I'm more compatable with then Gav though

Yeah this is exactly my answer:clap1:


Edit:Not the part about Gav though:laugh:

[Niamh.]

Yeah this is exactly my answer:clap1:


Edit:Not the part about Gav though:laugh:

I should hope not :nono:

[Marsh.]

:joker:

[Cherie]

Why are people so focussed on the word soul, soulmate is just a term to describe two people who get each other totally, it's got nothing to do with having a soul imo

[Jamie89]

This thread is making me totes sad :(. C'mon guys, we have to find Ashley someone to love!

Who are eligible TiBB bachelors?

http://38.media.tumblr.com/0a7f93cae38fb57da86055f8f564cc93/tumblr_inline_ntbik0EYws1rr9i0h_500.gif

[Crimson Dynamo]

Its a silly romantic word that means nowt

when you fall in love of course you think that the person is the only one for you etc

its your genes tricking you to procreate and pass them on


:rolleyes:

[Ashley.]

Its a silly romantic word that means nowt

when you fall in love of course you think that the person is the only one for you etc

its your genes tricking you to procreate and pass them on


:rolleyes:

We heard you the first two times...

[Ross.]

Ignore LT, he's just missing the comfort with Ex-Mrs LT

[Crimson Dynamo]

We heard you the first two times...


Essentially the thread really is

"do you think that when you fall in love you will think that you have met the perfect partner?"

and of course the answer is yes



and in some cases it works out like that but in the majority of cases it does not

[Crimson Dynamo]

Ignore LT, he's just missing the comfort with Ex-Mrs LT

:nono:

I spent 2 hours alone with her in the car on Friday

(driving)


:omgno:

[Ashley.]

Essentially the thread really is

"do you think that when you fall in love you will think that you have met the perfect partner?"

and of course the answer is yes

and in some cases it works out like that but in the majority of cases it does not

You depress me LT...

https://i.ytimg.com/vi/94Mzxq0LUA8/mqdefault.jpg

[Northern Monkey]

Well I know that Christians invented souls, so I'm just taking a wild guess that the term "soul mate" started with them. :laugh:

Not true.Souls were in religions long before Christianity.The ancient Egyptians for instance had the 'Ka' which was essentially the same as the soul.

[Crimson Dynamo]

You depress me LT...

https://i.ytimg.com/vi/94Mzxq0LUA8/mqdefault.jpg


Life is unfair and hard. But also good.

[kirklancaster]

Yeah this is exactly my answer:clap1:


Edit:Not the part about Gav though:laugh:

:laugh: We believe you Paul.

[waterhog]

if you believe in soul mates - where have you been all my life - I am looking for you ?

[kirklancaster]

Not true.Souls were in religions long before Christianity.The ancient Egyptians for instance had the 'Ka' which was essentially the same as the soul.

Then the Pharoe sold the rights to KA to the Ford Motor Company. :laugh:

[the truth]

yes in a funny kind of way I do. not just as lovers but as friends, some people connect almost instantly at a higher level. even great comic partners like laurel and hardy, Morecombe and wise, the 2 ronnies, or writing partners or directors and movie stars like bogey and bacall, spencer tracy and Katherine Hepburn, john ford and john wayne or scorseses and deniro...or mentor and apprenstice like mike tyson and cus damato...
they say deniro and Scorsese don't even need to speak to each other on set its a whole series of nods winks the odd grunt and hey presto another masterpiece....when a couple find love for life, that is magic. to me that consists of everything physical mental spiritual attraction, admiration, intrigue, mystery, lust, passion, compassion, teamwork, support, excitement, loyalty etc etc its a rare but wonderful thing I do believe in

[user104658]

You forgot Ant & Dec.

[Cherie]

We heard you the first two times...

:joker:

yes in a funny kind of way I do. not just as lovers but as friends, some people connect almost instantly at a higher level. even great comic partners like laurel and hardy, Morecombe and wise, the 2 ronnies, or writing partners or directors and movie stars like bogey and bacall, spencer tracy and Katherine Hepburn, john ford and john wayne or scorseses and deniro...or mentor and apprenstice like mike tyson and cus damato...
they say deniro and Scorsese don't even need to speak to each other on set its a whole series of nods winks the odd grunt and hey presto another masterpiece....when a couple find love for life, that is magic. to me that consists of everything physical mental spiritual attraction, admiration, intrigue, mystery, lust, passion, compassion, teamwork, support, excitement, loyalty etc etc its a rare but wonderful thing I do believe in

:lovedup:

[Cherie]

You forgot Ant & Dec.

:joker:

[Samuel.]

Guess it depends on the definition. If it's a feeling of deep love, sure. If it's about finding "the one" who you have some sort of spiritual connection with, definitely not.

Ultimately it's all brain chemical ****ery like any emotion and it's not as nearly as romantic as it fools you into thinking it is.

[Northern Monkey]

You forgot Ant & Dec.

Yeah if soul mates are real then they should be the dictionary definition.

[user104658]

Yeah if soul mates are real then they should be the dictionary definition.

Sometimes, I imagine the picture of one of them in the paper, if the other one unexpectedly died. Heartbreaking! :bawling:

[the truth]

:joker:



:lovedup:

:shrug:

[DemolitionRed]

A 'soul mate' is our own personal metaphor regarding how we feel about a person.

I went to primary school with the woman who is still my closest friend. We've stuck with each other like a stamp to a letter for many years and I honestly couldn't imagine life without her.

My husband. Besides mutual love, we know how to make one another laugh; we never tire of each others company and I believe we have brought each other great happiness. I can't imagine life without him either.

my soul mate is the person/people I can turn to, no matter what and know they would absolutely want to help me and visa versa. Therefore, my dog is not my soul mate, my parents who would likely just tell me to pull myself together are not my soul mates and my children who wouldn't know what to do or say if I went to them with a serious problem, are not my soul mates either. That though, doesn't mean I don't have immense love for them...just a different sort of love.

[kirklancaster]

Sometimes, I imagine the picture of one of them in the paper, if the other one unexpectedly died. Heartbreaking! :bawling:

Ernie Wise was like that with Eric,and was never really the same once Eric had passed.

[Glenn.]

No soulmates do not exist. It's merely a coincidence to find someone to which you have a lot in common. There's 7 billion people on the planet, you're bound to find someone who likes what you like.

[Kizzy]

No soulmates do not exist. It's merely a coincidence to find someone to which you have a lot in common. There's 7 billion people on the planet, you're bound to find someone who likes what you like.

7 billion ... so the chances of finding one you such an affinity with must be pretty remote then?

[Dominic]

Soulmates exist but by soulmates it's just people who you have a lot in common with not that you have identical views and opinions with

[King Gizzard]

Yeah why not

Applications open

[the truth]

No soulmates do not exist. It's merely a coincidence to find someone to which you have a lot in common. There's 7 billion people on the planet, you're bound to find someone who likes what you like.

that's not what soul mate is, some soul mates don't always agree, in fact in some cases opposites attract

[Glenn.]

7 billion ... so the chances of finding one you such an affinity with must be pretty remote then?

Coincidence. It's not destiny

[Kizzy]

Coincidence. It's not destiny

Well that's one theory...

[Glenn.]

The most logical theory

[Ammi]

that's not what soul mate is, some soul mates don't always agree, in fact in some cases opposites attract

..yeah I agree with this, truth...obviously there has to be connections of like-mind as well but the 'opposites' of someone can complete and compliment, so making that person so right for someone's character...

[lostalex]

there is no such thing as "souls"... that's religious bull****... so no, i don't.

WTF is a "soul" anyway? is that like a ghost? it's like a ghost that exists inside your body? that's dumb. it makes no sense.