SO FRUSTRATED /end

[Daniel-X]

Right, it's all a bit long winded but I'll just explain as short as I can what's happened. My friend had a birthday party at the end of March and I was invited and stuff and I put her a happy birthday message in FaceBook, my profile picture is of her and me and we're actually really close. Anyway, without me knowing I sit in a room with all my friends at dinner and she purposley took them to one side yesterday when I went out the room and told them to come round to hers tonight for a party, I found out yesterday afternoon off one of my other friends and just thought like 'oh she'll probably ask me later'. She put a story on snapchat of loads of ale and was like 'Can't wait for tonight' and when I tried asking her what was going on knowing full well what was she just kept avoiding my question and asking me other things. Anyway, I thought tonight I'd put a story on saying 'someone give me plans' shes seen it and ignored it, when I've looked at her story she's invited people she didn't even invite to her proper birthday party yet not invited me.

I've come to the conclusion she's not invited me because a few lads from another school are there and they've expressed previously they dislike me. Despite not knowing me.

However, this girl is invited to my birthday party and is behaving perfectly fine and nice to me still despite being so sneaky and sly to me. Shall I just removed her from my birthday? Or is that childish?

[reece(:]

I'd uninvite her because i'm petty like that, but I value my friendships on both ways. Don't expect an invite out from me if I don't get one from you :clap1:

[Babayaro.]

Not ale

[Greg!]

Uninvite the silly cah!

If she doesn't consider you good enough for her then she's not worth your time tbqh imho

[Jamie89]

I'd ask her directly what's going on, that you know she invited everyone except you and ask her why. You can't resolve it unless you're both totally open with each other and since it looks like she won't be, you'll have to be more direct with her. Then take it from there. If it turns out she hasn't invited you becausr there's people going that don't like you then I wouldn't be happy about that if it were me. Maybe she's not as good a friend as you thought? You need to talk to her properly about it though.

[Daniel-X]

Not ale

Make an actual contribution to the thread.

[Crimson Dynamo]

she wants to cop with a guy and does not want you there

is this what is not going on or am i missing something?

:shrug:

[Daniel-X]

I'd uninvite her because i'm petty like that, but I value my friendships on both ways. Don't expect an invite out from me if I don't get one from you :clap1:

Uninvite the silly cah!

If she doesn't consider you good enough for her then she's not worth your time tbqh imho

I'm inclined to do this but she's not being nasty to me or anything she's still being nice, and I don't want to cause unnecessary drama but I kind of don't want her at my party either.

I'd ask her directly what's going on, that you know she invited everyone except you and ask her why. You can't resolve it unless you're both totally open with each other and since it looks like she won't be, you'll have to be more direct with her. Then take it from there. If it turns out she hasn't invited you becausr there's people going that don't like you then I wouldn't be happy about that if it were me. Maybe she's not as good a friend as you thought? You need to talk to her properly about it though.

I don't really know how to though, it probably is the best solution but I don't to come across all angry and confrontational like 'Why did you not invite me?' cos I dunno I think I'd be taken aback and annoyed if someone asked me that. However, I think it is the only way I'm going to stop thinking about it. I'll wait till I next see her and I might ask her.

she wants to cop with a guy and does not want you there

is this what is not going on or am i missing something?

:shrug:

I dunno TBH LT. It's all very odd. I mean I could just be jumping to the wrong conclusion and there might be another reason but idk.

[Lostie!]

I'd uninvite her because i'm petty like that, but I value my friendships on both ways. Don't expect an invite out from me if I don't get one from you :clap1:

Same. :whistle:

It's annoying when friends don't treat you with the same basic respect as you do them. I've had "friends" who've, for no reason apparent to me, decided to exclude me at times so I just cut ties with them. I have other friends who value me so I don't see the point in wasting time with those who clearly don't anymore.

In your case, since it's bothering you I'd definitely try to speak to her about it but it seems you already have and she tried to dodge your questions. Try again and if she continues to do the same, don't waste any more energy on her and concentrate on the friends who treat you as a friend should. At least you'll know you tried.

[Ross.]

I feel these lyrics are appropriate

What's worse, lookin' jealous or crazy?
Jealous or crazy?
Or like being walked all over lately, walked all over lately
I'd rather be crazy

anyway now that's out my system

So basically uninvite the bitch :hee:

I think it'd be better to ask her in person about it tho rather than text, she can't dodge your questions that way

[Crimson Dynamo]

I'm inclined to do this but she's not being nasty to me or anything she's still being nice, and I don't want to cause unnecessary drama but I kind of don't want her at my party either.



I don't really know how to though, it probably is the best solution but I don't to come across all angry and confrontational like 'Why did you not invite me?' cos I dunno I think I'd be taken aback and annoyed if someone asked me that. However, I think it is the only way I'm going to stop thinking about it. I'll wait till I next see her and I might ask her.



I dunno TBH LT. It's all very odd. I mean I could just be jumping to the wrong conclusion and there might be another reason but idk.

So i take it you are gay and probs the guy she likes or his mate are like "dont bring your gay pal" and as she wants to cop she is like "ok"


I would not take it personally she just wants some male attention or a bunk up and you would cramp her style

[Greg!]

I'd ask her directly what's going on, that you know she invited everyone except you and ask her why. You can't resolve it unless you're both totally open with each other and since it looks like she won't be, you'll have to be more direct with her. Then take it from there. If it turns out she hasn't invited you becausr there's people going that don't like you then I wouldn't be happy about that if it were me. Maybe she's not as good a friend as you thought? You need to talk to her properly about it though.

Yeah do this ignore me earlier post

[Daniel-X]

Same. :whistle:

It's annoying when friends don't treat you with the same basic respect as you do them. I've had "friends" who've, for no reason apparent to me, decided to exclude me at times so I just cut ties with them. I have other friends who value me so I don't see the point in wasting time with those who clearly don't anymore.

In your case, since it's bothering you I'd definitely try to speak to her about it but it seems you already have and she tried to dodge your questions. Try again and if she continues to do the same, don't waste any more energy on her and concentrate on the friends who treat you as a friend should. At least you'll know you tried.

Like I say Lostie I really am inclined to just remove her from the chat, a few of my friends have told me to just remove her but I don't think they understand the drama it will cause TBH. I really don't want to fall out with this girl but I don't want her thinking she can just use me when she wants me and dump me when she doesn't.

Yeah I think I'll speak to her in person when I next see her rather than text and if she just ignores my questions or is weird with me than so be it. Like you say at least I've tried.

I feel these lyrics are appropriate

What's worse, lookin' jealous or crazy?
Jealous or crazy?
Or like being walked all over lately, walked all over lately
I'd rather be crazy

anyway now that's out my system

So basically uninvite the bitch :hee:

I think it'd be better to ask her in person about it tho rather than text, she can't dodge your questions that way

Thanks Ross for the Bey lyrics :love:

Yeah I'll speak to her in school Tuesday or tomorrow if she ends up coming out.

So i take it you are gay and probs the guy she likes or his mate are like "dont bring your gay pal" and as she wants to cop she is like "ok"


I would not take it personally she just wants some male attention or a bunk up and you would cramp her style

Sorry, but I'd rather think that she'd cared about her friend than trying to cop off with someone. I don't really get how I would cramp her style either.

Yeah do this ignore me earlier post

A bipolar Greg tea?

[Crimson Dynamo]

"Sorry, but I'd rather think that she'd cared about her friend than trying to cop off with someone. I don't really get how I would cramp her style either. "

:joker:

Please, she wants to cop off, dont be so precious.

[Cherie]

If you uninvite her it will be difficult to keep the friendship going, either tell her you felt a bit left out at not bring invited, and see what she says or suck it up and assume she wants to do different things and doesn't feel like she has to include you in everything she does. She might not have told you as she doesn't want to create a drama :shrug:

[Daniel-X]

"Sorry, but I'd rather think that she'd cared about her friend than trying to cop off with someone. I don't really get how I would cramp her style either. "

:joker:

Please, she wants to cop off, dont be so precious.

'so precious' :umm2:

Her moral compass is pretty skewed if she thinks her behaviour is appropriate if that's her reasoning.

If you uninvite her it will be difficult to keep the friendship going, either tell her you felt a bit left out at not bring invited, and see what she says or suck it up and assume she wants to do different things and doesn't feel like she has to include you in everything she does. She might not have told you as she doesn't want to create a drama :shrug:

Create a drama? She has created one through not inviting me because it's just made it seem really weird.

She should include me though that's my point, it's not everything she does I wouldn't mind if just a few where there it's the fact she's pretty much isolated me out.

[Babayaro.]

Make an actual contribution to the thread.

Sorry mod

[Daniel-X]

Sorry mod

Well you're basically just taking the piss out of me. Generally doing what you usually do and not making a valid contribution

[Babayaro.]

Well you're basically just taking the piss out of me. Generally doing what you usually do and not making a valid contribution

I get you're angry and that but don't get all pissy with me because I simply stated my shock at your friend's alcoholic beverage preference :idc:

[Firewire]

Not Marc being a bully

[Firewire]

Iconic sig Daniel

[Ross.]

Daniel is Brittnee and Marc is Peter?

[Firewire]

Marc isn't that bad

[Daniel-X]

I get you're angry and that but don't get all pissy with me because I simply stated my shock at your friend's alcoholic beverage preference :idc:

Sorry, I'm just in a bad mood. I shouldn't have taken it out on you, I thought you were just taking the piss.

[Firewire]

Marc would never intend to hurt your feelings

[Daniel-X]

Iconic sig Daniel

Daniel is Brittnee and Marc is Peter?

Marc isn't that bad

Marc would never intend to hurt your feelings

I am Brittnee and LT is Peter. Poor Marc getting scapegoated?

[hijaxers]

Just front her Daniel , I find piss assing round futile , be a straight up and down person and hit the nail on the head , does she deserve you as a friend ? not really from where i'm sat - there are loads of lovely people out there that don't play head **** games ya know .

[Dollface]

tbh i wouldnt bother having a birthday party, you'll just be spending your money on a bunch of people that you wont see ever again once schools over

[Dollface]

but yeah my advice is tell her she's a sly bitch and turn all of her friends against her

[Babayaro.]

Tbh I have a similar problem to you, as pretty much all of my friends I hung around with during the last few years of school have just stopped talking to me as much as they used to for no aparent reason. I'm kind of over it now though

[Firewire]

Same here Marc I have two friends from my school year everyone else sucks

[Amy Jade]

I'd confront her, no point in playing along because at some point you'll bring it up. She sounds like a bitch to me, if she seriously invited people she wants to bang over a friend she's a skank

[Mystic Mock]

I wonder if she's forgot to invite you?:think:

But if she hasn't then she's not a friend that I would want if I was in your shoes.

[Cherie]

'so precious' :umm2:

Her moral compass is pretty skewed if she thinks her behaviour is appropriate if that's her reasoning.



Create a drama? She has created one through not inviting me because it's just made it seem really weird.

She should include me though that's my point, it's not everything she does I wouldn't mind if just a few where there it's the fact she's pretty much isolated me out.


Have you always done everything together or is she a newish friend?

[Daniel-X]

UPDATE: I asked her over snapchat about it and she just saved the messages and ignored me

[Mystic Mock]

UPDATE: I asked her over snapchat about it and she just saved the messages and ignored me

Well then I'd cut ties with her Daniel, they'll be plenty of people out there that will cherish a friendship with you a lot more than this girl clearly does.

[jennyjuniper]

Right, it's all a bit long winded but I'll just explain as short as I can what's happened. My friend had a birthday party at the end of March and I was invited and stuff and I put her a happy birthday message in FaceBook, my profile picture is of her and me and we're actually really close. Anyway, without me knowing I sit in a room with all my friends at dinner and she purposley took them to one side yesterday when I went out the room and told them to come round to hers tonight for a party, I found out yesterday afternoon off one of my other friends and just thought like 'oh she'll probably ask me later'. She put a story on snapchat of loads of ale and was like 'Can't wait for tonight' and when I tried asking her what was going on knowing full well what was she just kept avoiding my question and asking me other things. Anyway, I thought tonight I'd put a story on saying 'someone give me plans' shes seen it and ignored it, when I've looked at her story she's invited people she didn't even invite to her proper birthday party yet not invited me.

I've come to the conclusion she's not invited me because a few lads from another school are there and they've expressed previously they dislike me. Despite not knowing me.

However, this girl is invited to my birthday party and is behaving perfectly fine and nice to me still despite being so sneaky and sly to me. Shall I just removed her from my birthday? Or is that childish?

A real friend wouldn't treat you like that. If the lads she invited didn't like you she should have uninvited them rasther than you.
I wouldn't have her at my party. People like her are 'fair weather friends' and not worth having.

[VanessaFeltz.]

do the same thing to her

an eye for an eye.

[Cal.]

Smack ha

[Cherie]

Have you always done everything together or is she a newish friend?

You don't answer my question?

UPDATE: I asked her over snapchat about it and she just saved the messages and ignored me


I don't think there is any more to be said then, if she doesn't want to explain it's clear she is not a friend, though I would say you have made it easy for her to wriggle out of it by confronting her over social media rather than addressing it face to face.

[Daniel-X]

You don't answer my question?




I don't think there is any more to be said then, if she doesn't want to explain it's clear she is not a friend, though I would say you have made it easy for her to wriggle out of it by confronting her over social media rather than addressing it face to face.

We've been friends for like eighteen months. Good friends for about six.

[Cherie]

We've been friends for like eighteen months. Good friends for about six.


Oh okay well not too long then, she sounds like the worst kind of friend tbh, one that freezes you out when she wants to impress someone else. Sorry Daniel It's horrible but if you remain in touch with her it looks like it will be on her terms, we all meet people like that, users who are not real friends, who pick you up and drop you when it suits, you are better off distancing yourself, you don't have to cut all ties just don't be there for her all the time she will soon get the message that you won't be used by her.

[rubymoo]

I think it's time to move on Daniel, as hard as it is at the moment and i'm sure you feel pretty ****ty about it, life is just too short to let people like her treat you like that. As Cherie said, distance yourself and don't be there for her all the time. Find other friends to hang out with and make your own plans, i would still invite her to your party but i'd hang with other people, be a social butterfly and have fun, then after your party keep yourself busy with other friends.

It's a pretty ****ty learning curve but there are people out there like her, you just need to find others that treat you with the respect you deserve.

[Daniel-X]

Oh okay well not too long then, she sounds like the worst kind of friend tbh, one that freezes you out when she wants to impress someone else. Sorry Daniel It's horrible but if you remain in touch with her it looks like it will be on her terms, we all meet people like that, users who are not real friends, who pick you up and drop you when it suits, you are better off distancing yourself, you don't have to cut all ties just don't be there for her all the time she will soon get the message that you won't be used by her.

I think it's time to move on Daniel, as hard as it is at the moment and i'm sure you feel pretty ****ty about it, life is just too short to let people like her treat you like that. As Cherie said, distance yourself and don't be there for her all the time. Find other friends to hang out with and make your own plans, i would still invite her to your party but i'd hang with other people, be a social butterfly and have fun, then after your party keep yourself busy with other friends.

It's a pretty ****ty learning curve but there are people out there like her, you just need to find others that treat you with the respect you deserve.

Thank you both of you :love: