Would you forgive a cheat

[thesheriff443]

Following on from the thread sleeping with someone who is married,
would you forgive your husband/wife partner boyfriend/girlfriend for cheating on you?

Would it matter how many times they cheated and who they cheated on you with?

[Vicky.]

It depends. I could forgive a one night stand easily enough. If it was a fullblown affair then probably not.

[Niamh.]

Oh that's a very tough question to answer, I think a proper affair I wouldn't be able to forgive because of all the lying and deceit involved. I would struggle with a one night stand as well tbh but I may be able to forgive that, I'm not sure though

[Rob!]

It's not tough at all for me - no. :hee:

[Mokka]

I would say the circumstances would dictate the answer. There would need to be real repentance... a some kind of assurance it wasn't going on or going to happen again.

I would like to think I could be a reasonable person who recognizes the fallacies of human nature and forgive and move on...but in reality I am pretty emotionally charged as it goes... jealous and all that ...and it would probably never leave my mind... and would end up destroying the foundation of trust in the relationship overall.

[Niamh.]

It's not tough at all for me - no. :hee:

It's easier to say that when you aren't married with kids and a house and have been with the person years :laugh: Not saying i definitely would either though, I just can't say how I'd act in that situation unless it happened :think:

[Tom4784]

It depends on the circumstances. Mistakes and errors in judgement are usually forgiven once if they own up to it and show true regret and remorse.

[Kyle]

I have forgiven but only after the relationship ended.

As far as I'm concerned the relationship is over but life's too short to be angry at someone forever. It happens.

[thesheriff443]

It's easier to say that when you aren't married with kids and a house and have been with the person years :laugh: Not saying i definitely would either though, I just can't say how I'd act in that situation unless it happened :think:

This is how I feel.

[Vicky.]

It's easier to say that when you aren't married with kids and a house and have been with the person years :laugh: Not saying i definitely would either though, I just can't say how I'd act in that situation unless it happened :think:

Yeah definitely. When I had no responsibilities and mainly casual relationships I would probably have left someone for just kissing someone else. It becomes a lot bigger decision when you have properly settled down and that I think.

However I could still forgive pretty easily for a one off shag. The affair though..its the constant lies that would make that one harder to decide. Honestly, I couldn't say I would never forgive an affair either though. Hopefully I am never in the situation where I have to think about this :laugh:

[Crimson Dynamo]

It would obviously depend on the circumstances and what you mean by cheat - an ambiguous general term

[Niamh.]

It would obviously depend on the circumstances and what you mean by cheat - an ambiguous general term

I took it to mean sleep with someone else for the purpose of this thread

[Crimson Dynamo]

I took it to mean sleep with someone else for the purpose of this thread

yes but finding out about a 2 year affair is not quite the same as a one night stand blind drunk were you cant recall the sex act in any way

[Niamh.]

Yeah definitely. When I had no responsibilities and mainly casual relationships I would probably have left someone for just kissing someone else. It becomes a lot bigger decision when you have properly settled down and that I think.

However I could still forgive pretty easily for a one off shag. The affair though..its the constant lies that would make that one harder to decide. Honestly, I couldn't say I would never forgive an affair either though. Hopefully I am never in the situation where I have to think about this :laugh:

I think if I found out my husband had spent weeks or months or more lying to my face, I would never again be able to trust him and he wouldn't be the person I thought he was anymore

[Kyle]

I know for a lot of people there's a lot of nuance involved and shades of grey or whatever but for me personally some things are just better black or white. You cheat, it's been a pleasure but we're done and I like it that way.

Obviously I've never been married or have kids so ive never had to worry about complications like that but I still don't really see me mind changing.

[Lostie!]

No. Once is one time too many.

[Niamh.]

I know for a lot of people there's a lot of nuance involved and shades of grey or whatever but for me personally some things are just better black or white. You cheat, it's been a pleasure but we're done and I like it that way.

Obviously I've never been married or have kids so ive never had to worry about complications like that but I still don't really see me mind changing.

You have to admit that it's interesting how the majority of out right No's in here are the younger/not married with kids and the ones who weren't sure were/are married with kids though.....coincidence? :laugh:

[Kyle]

You have to admit that it's interesting how the majority of out right No's in here are the younger/not married with kids and the ones who weren't sure were/are married with kids though.....coincidence? :laugh:

Probably Niamh and maybe you're right. :shrug:

All I can do is speak for me in the now though, I don't know what a future Kyle would do.

[Niamh.]

Probably Niamh and maybe you're right. :shrug:

All I can do is speak for me in the now though, I don't know what a future Kyle would do.

Oh I know, I'm just saying and I would have given the same answer you did when I was younger and less attached :laugh:

again though, that's not saying I still could or would forgive and be able to move on, I'm just not totally sure

[ArgyESC]

No! :nono:

[Josy]

I'm a jealous bitch so no way mayteY!

[Niamh.]

I'm a jealous bitch so no way mayteY!

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[Kyle]

Oh I know, I'm just saying and I would have given the same answer you did when I was younger and less attached :laugh:

again though, that's not saying I still could or would forgive and be able to move on, I'm just not totally sure

Absolutely, and for the record I think whether you outright believe cheating should be unforgivable or that there are circumstances to take into account I don't think either is wrong.

It's totally up to you as a person to decide what you think you can or cannot take because at the end of the day it's you that's going to deal with the consequences of whatever decision you make it. The only time I would ever step in and maybe have a word in edgeways is if the person's partner is a serial offender who is making a mug out of the person or is violent. Other than that You do you*

*resists urge to make sexual pun :omgno:

[Josy]

http://i64.tinypic.com/j7sw15.png

Yeah this is pretty much my facial reaction to just about everything tbh

[Kyle]

I'm a jealous bitch so no way mayteY!

I've always imagined you'd have a harem of men though.

Is it called a harem when it's a woman having loads of men? :think:

[Niamh.]

Yeah this is pretty much my facial reaction to just about everything tbh

:laugh:

[Josy]

I've always imagined you'd have a harem of men though.

Is it called a harem when it's a woman having loads of men? :think:

So basically you think I'm a slut, wow thanks Kyle you dick















:joker::joker::joker::joker:

[Niamh.]

So basically you think I'm a slut, wow thanks Kyle you dick















:joker::joker::joker::joker:

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:fan:

[Josy]

:laugh3:

[Kyle]

So basically you think I'm a slut, wow thanks Kyle you dick















:joker::joker::joker::joker:

:o:omgno:D:

No I meant like powerful female rulers of the past like Cleopatra and...ok I don't know history but you know what I mean!! :fist:

[Josy]

Ok you swerved that, count yourself lucky this time son.

[Tom4784]

So basically you think I'm a slut, wow thanks Kyle you dick


Josy to re-enact Megan McKenna's freakout at John Partridge?












:joker::joker::joker::joker:

Josy to re-enact Megan McKenna's freakout at John Partridge?

[Josy]

Josy to re-enact Megan McKenna's freakout at John Partridge?

:joker::joker:

[Kyle]

Ok you swerved that, count yourself lucky this time son.

:laugh: I didn't swerve anything I was being nice honest. It just came across wrong because I'm an insolent little tit.

Niamh you tell her, I can be nice sometimes can't I?

[Josy]

Hmm ok

[Natalie.]

No I wouldn't, not a one night stand or affair.

[Marsh.]

Oh I know, I'm just saying and I would have given the same answer you did when I was younger and less attached :laugh:

again though, that's not saying I still could or would forgive and be able to move on, I'm just not totally sure

Irish Gav would never. :nono:

[Vicky.]

Totally read that as thanks Kyle for your dick :umm2:

[Marsh.]

Josy and Kyle sitting in a hotel room.......

[Kyle]

Totally read that as thanks Kyle for your dick :umm2:

I must say I've never had a thank you. I'm getting all emotional. Usually it's a get off me that was crap. :worry:

[Josy]

Totally read that as thanks Kyle for your dick :umm2:

:joker::joker::joker::joker:

[Niamh.]

Irish Gav would never. :nono:

He better not :nono: he would never though :lovedup:

[Josy]

Irish Gav would never. :nono:

Hold up here...are you saying that Irish Gav would never but English Gav would? :think:

If so, set about him Vicky :nono:

[Tom4784]

Not Josy McKenna sewing discord amongst the mods :nono:

[Niamh.]

Hold up here...are you saying that Irish Gav would never but English Gav would? :think:

If so, set about him Vicky :nono:

Us Irish are just far more trustworthy Josy :hee:

[Crimson Dynamo]

If marsh had called josy a wanton slut he would be banned by now


what kind of favouritism..

:idc:

[ArgyESC]

If marsh had called josy a wanton slut he would be banned by now


what kind of favouritism..

:idc:

Indeed.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Indeed.

quite

[Niamh.]

You better ban Kyle Josy, LT and ESCArgy have had enough of his insults

[ArgyESC]

And one can only wonder...

Isn't Kyle tired of demeaning himself in order to be getting support by the mods?

[Kyle]

See you in 3 days lads and lasses

[Crimson Dynamo]

:laugh2:

[Kyle]

And one can only wonder...

Isn't Kyle tired of demeaning himself in order to be getting support from the mods?

I'll have you know it's hard work demeaning yourself in this day and age :fist:

[Marsh.]

Hold up here...are you saying that Irish Gav would never but English Gav would? :think:

If so, set about him Vicky :nono:

:fan: Oops

[Marsh.]

If marsh had called josy a wanton slut he would be banned by now


what kind of favouritism..

:idc:

:joker:

[Kazanne]

Once,maybe, twice never.

[Headie]

Depends how much money they have

[ArgyESC]

I'll have you know it's hard work demeaning yourself in this day and age :fist:

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[Crimson Dynamo]

Once,maybe twice never.

That should be a Album title :joker:

[Jamie89]

I've forgiven a one night stand before and even though it still ended up not working out I'm glad I did and probably would again in the future depending on the circumstances. I wouldn't forgive an affair though.

[armand.kay]

Depend so on a few things..
1) is it just a one night thing or another relationship?
2) how long we've been together like if it's a new relationship I would just end it.
3) am I in like be with them?

[caprimint]

The honest answer is I don't really know.

It would be hard because I am so against cheating and all about loyalty and honesty so it'd be difficult for me to completely trust the person again (depending on circumstances obviously and the extent of the 'cheating'), but also if I was in a relationship I'd be very attached to them and would want to forgive them more than anything. I'm a believer in second chances too, so the answer is probably.

[Withano]

Humans needs to stop pretending theyre monogomous tbh. They're not. No mammals are. We've developed this weird trait because of social constructs and culture and its completely against are natural instincts.

...saying that, those who want to have a monogomous relationship should always dump those who do not.

[Amy Jade]

No.

My ex cheated on me on holiday, his friends girlfriend found out and told me and we askes the girl in question. She had no idea he had a girlfriend but even if she had I would not blame her.

Anyway I dumped him straight away.

[Johnnyuk123]

Following on from the thread sleeping with someone who is married,
would you forgive your husband/wife partner boyfriend/girlfriend for cheating on you?

Would it matter how many times they cheated and who they cheated on you with?

I would NEVER forgive a cheat.:nono:

[Ashley.]

Even if I did forgive them, I'd never be able to forget what they did. And I don't think I'd want to stay with someone if all I saw in them was deceit.

So to answer your question, yes, I could forgive them. But I wouldn't take them back.

[Tom4784]

Once,maybe twice never.

Everybody's answer to the thought of spending a night with Marsh?

[Cherie]

Everybody's answer to the thought of spending a night with Marsh?

:clap1:

[Marsh.]

bITCH

[Tom4784]

bITCH

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[Jessica.]

No, the foundation of a loving relationship is trust and respect, if that's broken then how can you trust them again?

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[Ammi]

..it's not really a question that can be answered in a general way...but to answer it in a general way..:laugh:...I would say yes, I'm not someone who hold onto stuff, that's far too self destructive and self damaging..but obviously it depends on, depends on, depends on etc...forgiveness what have to be just exactly that though, it couldn't leave mistrust otherwise it's not really complete forgiveness for me....

[-Sue-]

Never - once a cheat always a cheat once the trust is lost it is almost impossible to get back...

[Livia]

Nope, I would not. I would send him home with his balls in a different bag from the one they arrived in.

[smudgie]

:nono: no.
I had to kiss a few frogs before I found my prince, no way could he stay if he strays.
I am in no way a jealous or possessive person but I do demand complete loyalty and trust from the man I have shared so much of my life with.