Work Advice

[Jack.]

I need some advice off you guys. I've recently started a job, I'd previously worked there and didn't get on with the manager but this was a few years ago, So i've returned back there but in a different job role, But the manager still can't stand me and is talking down to me. Do i just stick it out and ignore her or do I tell her where to stick the job?

[Smithy]

Suppose how bad she is and it you can deal with her or not :shrug:

[Pete.]

If you're unhappy, find another job but stick at the job until find somewhere else. Only leave when you accepted elsewhere, unless she is completely unbearable.

[Jack.]

Suppose how bad she is and it you can deal with her or not :shrug:
I can just about deal with her at the moment but i probably won't be able to much longer.

If you're unhappy, find another job but stick at the job until find somewhere else. Only leave when you accepted elsewhere, unless she is completely unbearable.

Tbh I'm not the only staff member that she has been a complete bitch to, I can't see many of the "New staff" staying there long at all.

[Mokka]

I can just about deal with her at the moment but i probably won't be able to much longer.



Tbh I'm not the only staff member that she has been a complete bitch to, I can't see many of the "New staff" staying there long at all.

Anyone higher up you can take your complaints too? Who hired you??

[Jamie89]

It can be horrible when you don't get on with your manager but all you can do is just get on with it really. I've had jobs where I haven't got on with the people I've worked for, and I'd bet most people don't like their bosses. Can you just ignore her? Or if it's so bad and she's going out of her way to make you uncomfortable, is there an HR person you can speak to maybe? Unless it's unbearable I don't think it would be worth leaving over (and tbh if it's unbearable then she needs to be reported because she's not doing her job right if she's making her staff feel like that).

[Jack.]

Anyone higher up you can take your complaints too? Who hired you??

The manager of the other care home. There is higher up but i've got a feeling that once she found out that i complained about her she would be even more of a bitch.

[Mokka]

The manager of the other care home. There is higher up but i've got a feeling that once she found out that i complained about her she would be even more of a bitch.

Damned if you do...damned if you don't... so I say do...for much the same reasons that Jamie posted

[Marsh.]

Smack the bitch.

[Jack.]

Smack the bitch.

I feel like doing that :joker:

[Jack.]

It can be horrible when you don't get on with your manager but all you can do is just get on with it really. I've had jobs where I haven't got on with the people I've worked for, and I'd bet most people don't like their bosses. Can you just ignore her? Or if it's so bad and she's going out of her way to make you uncomfortable, is there an HR person you can speak to maybe? Unless it's unbearable I don't think it would be worth leaving over (and tbh if it's unbearable then she needs to be reported because she's not doing her job right if she's making her staff feel like that).

Yeah what pisses me off is all my life i treated everyone the same and i can't stand it when people talk down to me. I find it hard going to work everyday anyway i suffer with anxiety, Depression and long list of things and then going into work and having to listen to her, Is just pissing me off if you know what i mean.

[Jason.]

Smack the bitch.

Jonny in Two Pints teas

[Jack.]

Jonny in Two Pints teas

:flutter:

[Jordan.]

She can't hate you that much if she gave you the job back

[y.winter]

If the overall feeling is bad, I see no reason for staying. If you can find a similar job somewhere else that pays as good as them (and I doubt it doesn't exist) - it makes the decision a no-brainer.
Are you happy with your job? Can you see it changing for the better? Is it the only job you can find?
How many "no"-s did you answer?

[Greg!]

Tell her to **** off or consider going to a tribunal or something and expose her for being a bitch

[Marsh.]

Jonny in Two Pints teas

:joker:

[Crimson Dynamo]

Take a life lesson, we all hate management/bosses



Suck it up and grow a pair

[Greg!]

Take a life lesson, we all hate management/bosses



Suck it up and grow a pair

Um no one has to accept their bosses being unnecessarily horrible to them

[Marsh.]

Take a life lesson, we all hate management/bosses



Suck it up and grow a pair

Not everyone puts up with life being a bitch when something can be done about it. :smug:

[Amy Jade]

I would go higher for sure, if you hate being there so much and want to leave you dont have much to lose really and if you do leave and get an exit interview with somebody in a more senior position throw the condescending bitch under the bus.

[bots]

My advice would be to behave in a professional and courteous manner. Its impossible for everyone to like everyone else, but if you always act in a professional way, thats all anyone can ask of you.

[Northern Monkey]

I'm the kind of person that won't stick at a job if it's making me unhappy.I've quit quite a few in my time.My feeling is why should i be pissed off every day,It's not worth it.
However the problem is that there aren't as many jobs around these days.Try your best to find somewhere else for as long as you can put up with it.Then if you find another job make sure that bitch gets reported.If there's enough complaints and she making staff quit then she'll be outta there.
If the job starts to affect you mentally then just go.It's honestly not worth it.

[Tom4784]

With people like that, the best thing to do is to ask to speak to her in private and politely and professionally ask her not to treat you like crap. As long as you remain calm and professional then she can't really object and chances are she'll crumble and relent because she probably never expected to be confronted over her behavior. Might be a good idea to record the conversation if you can, if she crosses the line you'll have proof of it.

It isn't in your contract to be treated like a doormat by what sounds like someone who shouldn't be a manager in the first place and it's well within your rights to try to stamp it out.

[caprimint]

I know probably what I would do and what I would advise somebody to do are two different things.

It depends on a lot of things - are able to put up with her for a while? I would probably try to ignore her as much as I possibly could and just interact when necessary, if you really want to keep this job. In the meantime keep searching for a new job but stay there if you feel you can.

[Ammi]

...you have some good advice their and I'm so sorry that you're not happy in your job atm, that sucks because we spend so much of our time in working hours...I think what Jordan said, though...they did re-employ you..(so in any type of pursuing it officially, that's something that will be a big thing in your favour because why would they re-employ someone who can be criticised in their work..)...but obviously, official routes are when it gets messy as well so it's looking at other things...it's a bit of a tricky one I think because 'talking down' can be just a way with people, rather than a specific of what she says, just how she says it, more..?...in a condescending and superior way...so whether you feel as though she's abusing her position in what she says to you and breaking any guidelines etc....I had a head/boss once and she had many positive things about her but she came over as quite patronising in how she spoke because she spoke to adults in the same way as she spoke to 5yr olds, it was just her way but some of my colleagues found it hard on occasions and quite offensive...she didn't though ever say anything offensive or 'put down', it was just her way....

...anyways, I know it's no comfort but she could talk to people how she does because she herself is insecure, so that gives her a better feeling of 'value/importance' to do that, that's often the way as well...and as you say, she's awful to many people so she's not picking on you as such...some people though are more effected by these things because of their own sensitivities etc and times they've been made to feel 'less than' associations, these become our pet hates in people's characters....whatever your decision with this job, you could also..(because it's always good to do whatever is in our own control..)...google up some stuff about positive self-assertive techniques and things to help your own confidence..?...that will help you in any job and always be a positive in your life with these silly people.../whatever you decide, good luck and be confident in your decision ..:hug:...(try to have a not too bad day..:love:..)....

[Ammi]

...she's probably has less confidence than you or any of your colleagues, Jack...because you all don't feel the need to feel your 'superiority' to anyone.../no help in your work day I know but....:hug:...

[Cherie]

With people like that, the best thing to do is to ask to speak to her in private and politely and professionally ask her not to treat you like crap. As long as you remain calm and professional then she can't really object and chances are she'll crumble and relent because she probably never expected to be confronted over her behavior. Might be a good idea to record the conversation if you can, if she crosses the line you'll have proof of it.

It isn't in your contract to be treated like a doormat by what sounds like someone who shouldn't be a manager in the first place and it's well within your rights to try to stamp it out.

Good advice there, as a manager she is (or should be) trained to manage her staff, she doesn't have to like you or you her but there should be a professional relationship. It sounds like you are not alone in how you are being treated, so I imagine she is maybe laying down the law to newbies and maybe doesn't realise she is coming across badly or maybe she knows she is and thinks she can get away with it, you say you work in a care home I hope she doesn't treat the residents badly :worry: I would ask for a meeting with her as Dezzy suggested and maybe that will clear the air, you are then in your rights to go higher if she doesn't adapt her behaviour as you have gone through the right channels

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

Ask for a meeting and there confront them. Ask if they have an issue with you. Last time it made you uncomfortable, you felt disrespected and couldn't the job at the best of your availability and this time the same issue is still the there-so wa gwan biatch, what's your beef? You got something to say, say it bitch

[waterhog]

I need some advice off you guys. I've recently started a job, I'd previously worked there and didn't get on with the manager but this was a few years ago, So i've returned back there but in a different job role, But the manager still can't stand me and is talking down to me. Do i just stick it out and ignore her or do I tell her where to stick the job?

jack I have the same advice I would give to anyone - write him or her a love of my life poem and you will be the employee of the month - it works for me every month :joker: