Have you had any revelations about yourself lately??

[Mokka]

As in, an awareness about yourself that may have always been there, or has recently developed/changed... whether physical or mental?

For example... I just realized that I have dimples. I have like three of them on my chin that I never in my life knew existed. I thought it was a new thing because my face changed shape this summer with weight loss... but my daughter tells me that I have always had them. :shrug:
I used to fantasize about having dimples when I was young.... I thought they would be lovely to have....that and freckles.... and I was always jealous of my best friend for them.
Now, I see them every time I look in the mirror... it fascinates me.

[Maru]

Lots of things lately, especially medical stuff. I am finding out things that have been harder to pin about myself are abundantly clear these days. That simple hunches I'd easily dismissed about myself over time have proven to be correct. I also apparently am really good at my job.

Also, life isn't as hard as it looks sometimes. 9 times out of 10, it's much simpler or can be made simple, but people create a lot of issues for themselves by following their "for sure" life narratives...like you can actually break away from all that, be healthy, happy and responsible and don't have to overly worry about all the rest. Life is not a resistance.

[Mokka]

Lots of things lately, especially medical stuff. I am finding out things that have been harder to pin about myself are abundantly clear these days. That simple hunches I'd easily dismissed about myself over time have proven to be correct. I also apparently am really good at my job.

Also, life isn't as hard as it looks sometimes. 9 times out of 10, it's much simpler or can be made simple, but people create a lot of issues for themselves by following their "for sure" life narratives...like you can actually break away from all that, be healthy, happy and responsible and don't have to overly worry about all the rest. Life is not a resistance.

Any examples Maru?

Idk about the life is simple bit. I guess I haven't reached this epiphany yet...this higher state/nirvana if you will. Seems pretty ****ing difficult of late.

[Jay.]

'you always have those bags?'

thanks babe, kinda the reason why i always wear my glasses now

[smudgie]

Yes, last Friday I realised my flippant " I am as blind as a bat" was actually a reality.
Thankfully I am getting fast tracked for my cataract ops and the NHS have agreed funding for me to go private.
Mentally, as I get older I have realised that looking back at things I saw as monumental choices or worries were mere blips, learn from it and don't worry too much about anything life has to throw at me.

[Ammi]

Yes, last Friday I realised my flippant " I am as blind as a bat" was actually a reality.
Thankfully I am getting fast tracked for my cataract ops and the NHS have agreed funding for me to go private.
Mentally, as I get older I have realised that looking back at things I saw as monumental choices or worries were mere blips, learn from it and don't worry too much about anything life has to throw at me.

....:hug:...I'm so glad they're funding it to be done really quickly for you, Smudgie...

[smudgie]

....:hug:...I'm so glad they're funding it to be done really quickly for you, Smudgie...

Thank you Ammi, so am I.
My iPad is under my chin as I write..with extra magnified glasses from the cheap shop.
Optician can't give me glasses as he reckons I am off the scale.
I have only good things to say about the NHS.

[Cal.]

I realised that I wanna change the world with my life x

[Mokka]

'you always have those bags?'

thanks babe, kinda the reason why i always wear my glasses now

Lol. I have always worn glasses to hide behind to. I only used contacts for a brief time in my youth for sport.... but not really outside of that

[Mokka]

Yes, last Friday I realised my flippant " I am as blind as a bat" was actually a reality.
Thankfully I am getting fast tracked for my cataract ops and the NHS have agreed funding for me to go private.
Mentally, as I get older I have realised that looking back at things I saw as monumental choices or worries were mere blips, learn from it and don't worry too much about anything life has to throw at me.

I hope your surgery goes well ... and happens soon smudge.
I hope hindsight is as good to me as it is you someday :laugh:

[Vicky.]

I have found out I am not actually as 'left wing' as I thought I was

And also have lost weight but my boobs have got bigger? can't work that one out but not going to complain tbh :laugh:

[Cal.]

I have found out I am not actually as 'left wing' as I thought I was

And also have lost weight but my boobs have got bigger? can't work that one out but not going to complain tbh :laugh:

Yes I wouldn't complain babes:laugh:

[Mokka]

I have found out I am not actually as 'left wing' as I thought I was

And also have lost weight but my boobs have got bigger? can't work that one out but not going to complain tbh :laugh:

Lol... good problem to have

[smudgie]

I have found out I am not actually as 'left wing' as I thought I was

And also have lost weight but my boobs have got bigger? can't work that one out but not going to complain tbh :laugh:

Could you let me in on your secret special diet please, sounds like you hit the jackpot.

[Jessica.]

I have got my first wrinkle. :bawling: it's a laugh line

[Mokka]

I have got my first wrinkle. :bawling: it's a laugh line

Laugh lines are a good thing... I have declared it to be so :smug:

[Maru]

Any examples Maru?

Idk about the life is simple bit. I guess I haven't reached this epiphany yet...this higher state/nirvana if you will. Seems pretty ****ing difficult of late.

Oh I'm not disputing life can still be difficult. I just don't think it's to be stressed to the extent that we tend to stress it when things that challenge us happen. I tackle them as learning experiences now.

Most of my examples are highly personalized, so it's hard to be specific without a lot of detail. In short, I've had a lot of medical problems the past two decades as well as getting my business up and running in addition to occasional family stuff, getting my degree, working/not working due to illness. I had to learn to destress and adopt better habits just to survive. However, there's a big difference between surviving and coping and actually overcoming obstacles... at my worst, I was floating barely above water trying to do the latter and learned that there are a lot of things we put on ourselves that aren't necessarily fair... like you can't control other people's drama, their choices or viewpoints... but you can control your proximity to it and how much space you decide to make for it in your life/space, how it effects you and your choices, etc.

Eventually, I became very good at listening to my body which helped me to solve many of those health issues, handling my family business without accepting other people's ****, adopting a routine, staying organized and in general, living a life centered around being healthy, not forcing or trying to find new ways manufacture/manifest happiness in your life... if that makes any sense. The latter usually involves far more work (much of which is redundant work) than we think and is not actually as necessary to achieve a peace of mind/feeling centered.

There is a lot that goes with this and I could be more specific, but I think everybody is different.

[Maru]

Oh new epiphany... I am finally aging :laugh:

I have some small lines going down as a V on the front of my chest. They're fairly apparent now. It's just such a weird spot to get those tiny lines.

[Braden]

That I am s much better off not drinking alcohol.

I'm almost six months sober and I'm the healthiest I've ever been in my life, mentally and physically.

[Mokka]

That I am s much better off not drinking alcohol.

I'm almost six months sober and I'm the healthiest I've ever been in my life, mentally and physically.

Congratulations Braden :love:

[Mokka]

Oh I'm not disputing life can still be difficult. I just don't think it's to be stressed to the extent that we tend to stress it when things that challenge us happen. I tackle them as learning experiences now.

Most of my examples are highly personalized, so it's hard to be specific without a lot of detail. In short, I've had a lot of medical problems the past two decades as well as getting my business up and running in addition to occasional family stuff, getting my degree, working/not working due to illness. I had to learn to destress and adopt better habits just to survive. However, there's a big difference between surviving and coping and actually overcoming obstacles... at my worst, I was floating barely above water trying to do the latter and learned that there are a lot of things we put on ourselves that aren't necessarily fair... like you can't control other people's drama, their choices or viewpoints... but you can control your proximity to it and how much space you decide to make for it in your life/space, how it effects you and your choices, etc.

Eventually, I became very good at listening to my body which helped me to solve many of those health issues, handling my family business without accepting other people's ****, adopting a routine, staying organized and in general, living a life centered around being healthy, not forcing or trying to find new ways manufacture/manifest happiness in your life... if that makes any sense. The latter usually involves far more work (much of which is redundant work) than we think and is not actually as necessary to achieve a peace of mind/feeling centered.

There is a lot that goes with this and I could be more specific, but I think everybody is different.

I get what you are saying... I am maybe in the midst of a few of these revelations myself... but maybe still feel like I am barely keeping my head above water.
I appreciate your candid and honest responses on this forum btw.

[Marsh.]

'you always have those bags?'

thanks babe, kinda the reason why i always wear my glasses now

You wear glasses on your balls?

[Jessica.]

That I am s much better off not drinking alcohol.

I'm almost six months sober and I'm the healthiest I've ever been in my life, mentally and physically.
:clap1: You're brilliant for making such a change for your own well-being. I wish I had the willpower to make more changes.

[Ammi]

That I am s much better off not drinking alcohol.

I'm almost six months sober and I'm the healthiest I've ever been in my life, mentally and physically.

...awwww...:lovedup:..I think that's it Braden with these decisions and choices..knowing which ones fit us best and then feeling good with our choices and happy with them..so then that builds mentally which builds physically and etc etc.../being happy with who you are I think is basically what you're doing in feeling healthy... and who you are looks pretty fine to me..:love:..

[Jay.]

You wear glasses on your balls?

:joker::joker:

[RichardG]

it's been a particularly bad week for me after three years of "badness" and i guess i'm coming to a realisation that things probably aren't going to get a whole lot better which kinda sucks

trying to be vague to avoid making things too awkward :worry:

[Mokka]

it's been a particularly bad week for me after three years of "badness" and i guess i'm coming to a realisation that things probably aren't going to get a whole lot better which kinda sucks

trying to be vague to avoid making things too awkward :worry:

I mean... I get being vague on here because private stuff often gets used against you... so you don't have to say more... but I can understand the sentiment and feeling behind your post. I would like to hope that when things feel that bad...there is always room for it to get better... and that is me saying that and coming off a particularly bad week after a long time of bad as well.
I hope for us both that I am right:fc:

[Maru]

I realised that I wanna change the world with my life x

That I am s much better off not drinking alcohol.

I'm almost six months sober and I'm the healthiest I've ever been in my life, mentally and physically.

:clap1:

[Maru]

it's been a particularly bad week for me after three years of "badness" and i guess i'm coming to a realisation that things probably aren't going to get a whole lot better which kinda sucks

trying to be vague to avoid making things too awkward :worry:

RichardG :(:hug:

[Ammi]

it's been a particularly bad week for me after three years of "badness" and i guess i'm coming to a realisation that things probably aren't going to get a whole lot better which kinda sucks

trying to be vague to avoid making things too awkward :worry:

...awwwww you..:hug:...I understand there may be things that have made you feel like you've had three bad years because the bad things in them have overshadowed for you and they've been the things that have most defined those years for you..but there will have been good things as well Richard...it's just at times/at those really sucky times..it's hard to see and feel the good and easy for it to just pass us by without us absorbing it...it's that silly thing of if we feel things won't get better, if our mind set is negative then that's what it will bring because all we'll see and absorb at the negatives...we sort of become our own thought processes...


...you've had a bad week, a really grim week but it's gone and try if you can to believe that this week/next week is going to have some good stuff in it...keep yourself open to believing that nice things will happen also..(as well as whatever grim things..)...and then when they do happen because they do for most of us..you'll see them and absorb them, they won't just pass you by without you even noticing../absorbing them will give you strength in yourself to deal with the rubbish...:hug:...

[joeysteele]

it's been a particularly bad week for me after three years of "badness" and i guess i'm coming to a realisation that things probably aren't going to get a whole lot better which kinda sucks

trying to be vague to avoid making things too awkward :worry:

I am really sorry to hear that Richard,I do hope things will start to get better for you.
Sharing concerns can really help,my thoughts are genuinely with you for better times to come.

For myself, the last few weeks particularly have shown me time needs to be better used around those that really matter and to really make the effort to avoid loud and aggressive people, who really are not worth any time or effort.

[RichardG]

:hug: