Is it unreasonable to ask a flatmate not to use the kitchen as a social area?

[UserSince2005]

So I have a very small kitchen, and over the past week one of my flatmates has repeatedly invited large groups of friends over (5-10 people) to socialise in the kitchen. They are in there for hours and it's impossible to even make a cup of tea without constantly having to ask people to move, so trying to cook would be a nightmare.

Like I dont mind once every now and then. but I feel like hes taking the piss now.

[Jamie89]

If it's happening a lot and it's bothering you then yeah I'd say it's reasonable to talk to him about it. It's your kitchen too, and maybe he hasn't considered its an inconvenience for you.

[Cherie]

So I have a very small kitchen, and over the past week one of my flatmates has repeatedly invited large groups of friends over (5-10 people) to socialise in the kitchen. They are in there for hours and it's impossible to even make a cup of tea without constantly having to ask people to move, so trying to cook would be a nightmare.

Like I dont mind once every now and then. but I feel like hes taking the piss now.

Nope get him told

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

You both need new flatmates to suit your needs. In the meantime tell him once or twice a week only

[Marsh.]

Move in with me xoxo

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

show them the replies to this thread

[UserSince2005]

Omg this housemate is a straight up tard.

Just washed his clothes in the bathroom instead of going to the laundrette. Bathroom completely flooded and hes drying his clothes in there hahah

such a weird American trump voting loser

[caprimint]

Why doesn't he take them into the living area (assuming you have one)? :suspect: Surely they're all just stood around in the kitchen?

[UserSince2005]

We dont have a living area.

[Ashley.]

Obviously you're both quite different people, he's a socialite and you just want a cup of tea... so perhaps you should look at moving?

[Cherie]

Omg this housemate is a straight up tard.

Just washed his clothes in the bathroom instead of going to the laundrette. Bathroom completely flooded and hes drying his clothes in there hahah

such a weird American trump voting loser

He's got mates though :hehe:

[Withano]

We dont have a living area.

Well, then yes he should use the kitchen

[Vicky.]

If you have no living area, I can see why they use the kitchen. I cannot imagine living in a flat/house without a living room? Sounds really weird and I don't think I have ever seen a setup like that.

Move out, and get somewhere with some space. And when looking for a housemate...make clear that you do not want huge gatherings of people so if thats their plans, its a no.

[UserSince2005]

If you have no living area, I can see why they use the kitchen. I cannot imagine living in a flat/house without a living room? Sounds really weird and I don't think I have ever seen a setup like that.

Move out, and get somewhere with some space. And when looking for a housemate...make clear that you do not want huge gatherings of people so if thats their plans, its a no.
Most new houseshares dont have living areas

usually 4-5 of the room get converted into bedroom leaving just a kitchen and a bathroom.

[Vicky.]

Most new houseshares dont have living areas

usually 4-5 of the room get converted into bedroom leaving just a kitchen and a bathroom.

Are you in the UK?

I have honestly never heard of this :laugh: I have friends in houseshares with like 7 bedrooms. The rooms are let individually but they share one or two lounges between them, joint kitchen etc.

Another friend is in a flatshare. Flat only has 2 bedrooms, but they still have a shared lounge.

[Lostie!]

Well, then yes he should use the kitchen

Or go somewhere else.

[caprimint]

Make casual suggestions like "omg there's this reaaally nice pub I've been to" etc

[Withano]

Or go somewhere else.

I mean, if somebody made a thread saying 'omg my housemate told me to not socialise inside the house cos we dont have a sitting room' we'd all agree that it was ridiculous of the housemate, and advise the person to ignore them and carry on socialising in the kitchen.

[Cherie]

I mean, if somebody made a thread saying 'omg my housemate told me to not socialise inside the house cos we dont have a sitting room' we'd all agree that it was ridiculous of the housemate, and advise the person to ignore them and carry on socialising in the kitchen.

But if he can't get in to cook, it's a bit inconsiderate isn't it? Plus it must be noisy, would you put up with listening to noise every night?

[Cherie]

Maybe take the kettle into your room to cover the tea option, :hehe:bit's likely he doesn't realise it's bugging you, if he has all these friends why don't they rotate whose house they go to

[Vicky.]

Poke them towards his room with a broom?

[Cherie]

Poke them towards his room with a broom?

:joker:

[Denver]

Your friend is in the right

[UserSince2005]

Are you in the UK?

I have honestly never heard of this :laugh: I have friends in houseshares with like 7 bedrooms. The rooms are let individually but they share one or two lounges between them, joint kitchen etc.

Another friend is in a flatshare. Flat only has 2 bedrooms, but they still have a shared lounge.

Yeah uk, im moving to berlin next year though.

[UserSince2005]

But if he can't get in to cook, it's a bit inconsiderate isn't it? Plus it must be noisy, would you put up with listening to noise every night?

yes, its wanting to cook, but the kitchen is so small, it would be silly trying to cook.

I might next time just cook and show them how much in the way they are and then maybe they will get the hint to **** off.

[caprimint]

Cook something that smells disgusting like broccoli and they might leave of their own accord

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[UserSince2005]

Omg he keeps outdoing himself in terms of obnoxiousness

Just went to have a shower to find someone has thrown up in it last night

I assume it was him

When that ****er wakes up he's getting it

[Cherie]

Ask him if he and his friends would like to pay your rent as they have more use out of the kitchen and bathroom than you do, that's disgusting

[UserSince2005]

Ask him if he and his friends would like to pay your rent as they have more use out of the kitchen and bathroom than you do, that's disgusting


The ironic thing is that he pays the least because he has the smallest bedroom.

[UserSince2005]

****ing gross american.

when i meet my brothers girlfriend this christmas for the first time, im telling her how ****ing disgusting her nationality is.

[Ashley.]

Stop complaining and move out.

[Lostie!]

I mean, if somebody made a thread saying 'omg my housemate told me to not socialise inside the house cos we dont have a sitting room' we'd all agree that it was ridiculous of the housemate, and advise the person to ignore them and carry on socialising in the kitchen.

I wouldn't. It's hardly ridiculous to object to an obnoxious flatmate insisting on having groups of people over to what is clearly an inconvenient venue for significant social gatherings and as a result making it difficult to live there, especially when there are various other places you can hang out with your friends. That's ridiculous.

Not to mention that standing around in a small crowded kitchen hardly sounds fun in the first place.

[Ashley.]

I wouldn't. It's hardly ridiculous to object to an obnoxious flatmate insisting on having groups of people over to what is clearly an inconvenient venue for significant social gatherings and as a result making it difficult to live there, especially when there are various other places you can hang out with your friends. That's ridiculous.

Not to mention that standing around in a small crowded kitchen hardly sounds fun in the first place.

By the looks of things (going by the various insults that he's been throwing around including that lovely one I woke up to this morning regarding Americans), asking his flatmate to stop having friends around isn't going to make the situation any better because it's clearly the flatmate that's the problem.

[UserSince2005]

To be fair he first thing he did when he woke up was clean the shower out.

my opinion on americans has gone back to neutral.

[Babayaro.]

Well, then yes he should use the kitchen

:joker:

[Cherie]

To be fair he first thing he did when he woke up was clean the shower out.

my opinion on americans has gone back to neutral.

Your standards are low if you feel he did a great thing clearing up his vomit :joker:

[UserSince2005]

I took the advice in this thread and moved flats today.

TIBB works.