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Will.
04-01-2017, 11:08 PM
My nan (Beryl) passed away in hospital on 4th January 2017 at 8:10PM.
Beryl suffered from two strokes in May of 2016 and spent about a month in hospital before making a recovery and moving into a care home.
My nan never truly liked the care home as she always wanted to stay independent and live at home, however she made the best of the situation and still led an active lifestyle.
Unfortunately she fell down the stairs at the care home and it was a couple of weeks before she was taken in hospital as the doctors failed to notice she had broken several bones. She was given pain killers and it breaks my hurt knowing she must have been in so much pain in the weeks before they noticed she had broken bones.
Once she moved back into the care home her care plan was supposedly advanced so she wouldn't have any more accidents.
However it's break my hurt to tell you that the care home failed to look after her and she subsequently fell down the stairs again and was taken in hospital in early/mid December.
My nan had broken several more bones around her shoulder/arm/legs/foot and she had shattered her elbow which means the bone was broken beyond repair.
Beryl spent most of December and unfortunately struggled to improve, she had a punctured lung (I think - struggling to remember all the exact details) and this resulted in a chest infection which had serous effects on her.
I visited her on the 2nd January and this was the second last time I ever saw of her, sadly her voice was mostly gone due her chest infection and she asked how college was going and she saw my new coat for the first time (she had wanted to see it for a while).
Later that evening things took a turn for the worst and she became even more poorly and the decision was made for me to go and see her on Tuesday morning.
The visit was emotionally heartbreaking and I struggled to get into the room because I had a breakdown minutes before seeing her. I went with my mum and we all cried whilst being with her, she had an oxygen mask on and she was asleep.
I held her hand in my final visit.
The next 24 hours she was very sleepy and nothing improved.
Unfortunately on Wednesday evening she passed away.
Beryl was a very kind and sweet lady, she lived in a small road with a few other elderly people who she loved and helped in the best way possible, unfortunately none of them are still around.
My nan loved animals, especially penguins! She was very much against animals being killed and was a proud vegetarian. She loved her daily trip into her local town, she knew all the bus drivers. :laugh:
Her hobbies included puzzles, reading, gardening, and antiques.
She loved her wine!
I visited her at least once a week, she would always cook me pasta and give me loads of food. :hehe:
She was practically a second mum to me, we did everything together and I could tell her anything.
I know she will be up in paradise with her feet up in a house filled with penguins drinking a glass of wine.
That's awful :(
I'm so sorry babes I hope you're okay :love:
Rest in Peace.
Marsh.
04-01-2017, 11:08 PM
Omfg. The one from the videos? :(
So sorry Will.
Vanessa
04-01-2017, 11:09 PM
Aw, I'm sorry about that. :sad:
Really sorry to hear this Will
Lostie!
04-01-2017, 11:10 PM
I'm really sorry to hear that :(
Will.
04-01-2017, 11:12 PM
She was all very fond you guys in here <3
Ross.
04-01-2017, 11:12 PM
Oh Will I'm so sorry to hear this :(
Always here if you need to chat
Kizzy
04-01-2017, 11:12 PM
So sorry to hear this Will, thinking of you :(
LukeB
04-01-2017, 11:13 PM
Sorry to hear this Will </3 hope you and your family are okay :love:
Denver
04-01-2017, 11:13 PM
<3
Will.
04-01-2017, 11:13 PM
The kind words mean a lot, I a mess right now and have been for the past week, not having her anymore will be very difficult.
Crimson Dynamo
04-01-2017, 11:15 PM
aaw will.so sorry to hear this news. we all got to know her and all feel a little of your pain xx
Jamie89
04-01-2017, 11:15 PM
I'm so sorry to hear that, Will :sad: Hope you're doing ok
Calderyon
04-01-2017, 11:18 PM
Really sorry for your loss. :(
Daniel-X
04-01-2017, 11:20 PM
Horrible news, hope you and your family are okay :(
Mitchell
04-01-2017, 11:21 PM
Oh no :( sorry to hear that will x
Cherie
04-01-2017, 11:21 PM
Will :sad:
Greg!
04-01-2017, 11:29 PM
RIP your lovely nan :( she was so sweet in that video you posted of her xx
Omg I just saw this thread and im speechless, I'm so sorry will :sad: :hug: Hope you're okay- she was a lovely woman and I remember her being an amazing woman in the documentary you made of her :love:
If you ever need to talk i'm here!
Ashley.
04-01-2017, 11:31 PM
:hug:
Braden
04-01-2017, 11:31 PM
Sorry to hear that, Will :(
Wizard.
04-01-2017, 11:34 PM
Awh Will! My heart breaks for you. It's literally the most devastating thing losing a loved one. We're all here for you if you need to talk, just take some time to process and grieve. I don't know if you are religious but your Nan will always be watching over and you'll see her again one day, although I know that's not very comforting right now <3
LaLaLand
04-01-2017, 11:37 PM
So sorry Will. RIP.
Will.
05-01-2017, 12:27 AM
Lovely words everyone, means so much. <3
Tom4784
05-01-2017, 12:29 AM
:hug:
Will.
05-01-2017, 12:30 AM
:love:
andybigbro
05-01-2017, 12:38 AM
I'm sorry to hear this Will. :sad:
Sending hugs to you and your family :hug:
Gstar
05-01-2017, 12:58 AM
Sorry for your loss xx
Babayaro.
05-01-2017, 01:00 AM
This is awful, Will. Sending you and your family my best wishes :love:
Shaun
05-01-2017, 02:10 AM
Sorry to hear that Will :( all the best to you & your family :love:
Amy Jade
05-01-2017, 02:35 AM
I'm so sorry Will, I remember you uploading a video about her and she seemed a very lovely and kind lady and she obviously worshipped you.
I hope you and your family are all OK, remember the good times xx
Ninastar
05-01-2017, 04:45 AM
Aww I'm so sorry for your loss Will. How awful :(
jennyjuniper
05-01-2017, 07:13 AM
So sorry to hear that Will.I sometimes think we can be closer to nana's than our own mums.
caprimint
05-01-2017, 07:27 AM
Aww, sorry to hear this, hope you're okay :(:hug:
DrunkerThanMoses
05-01-2017, 07:45 AM
Sorry to hear that will, my great nan died on monday as well. She only turned 100 as well last week. She wasent even ill so her death is a shock as well. Happy she made it to 100 though
arista
05-01-2017, 08:14 AM
She past away in hospital at 8:10PM today. :(
I have no words atm but promise to explain everything asap.
I was told an hour ago, my dad rushed to my house and that's when I realised.
She was a Great Lady
helping you even on this Forum.
She will be missed
Nicky91
05-01-2017, 09:07 AM
so sad to hear this Will :( :( :bawling:
hope ur okay :(
ArgyESC
05-01-2017, 09:09 AM
Oh, I understand. :(
RIP
Gusto Brunt
05-01-2017, 09:41 AM
I'm very sorry to hear that, Will. :( RIP, your nan. :(
Will.
05-01-2017, 10:07 AM
Such seeet words, it's very comforting at this difficult time. I promise I'll reply to everyone individually. Xx
Niamh.
05-01-2017, 10:19 AM
Oh I'm so sorry Will :hug:
y.winter
05-01-2017, 11:06 AM
So sad to hear about that Will :sad:
She looked like such a wonderful lady and I'm sure you made her proud :hug:
Will.
05-01-2017, 11:40 AM
:love:
Livia
05-01-2017, 11:51 AM
So sorry to hear your sad news, Will. x
So sorry for your family and your loss Will :hug: of your Nan. Cherish those memories.
Natalie.
05-01-2017, 03:23 PM
So sorry for your loss Will :hug:
Will.
05-01-2017, 03:38 PM
:love:
Will.
05-01-2017, 03:39 PM
I've collected a lot of her belongings today, lots of old photos which I've never seen.
Sorry for your loss will and i know it feels so strange and unreal at the moment.
Please take it all in and losten to those closest to you as their words will be more of a help than you could imagine.
I know its raw right now but things will get better.
And dont be afraid to talk to your friends on here they seem like a loving caring and kind bunch.
Much love and my deepest sympathies.
Stuart.
Firewire
05-01-2017, 04:04 PM
So sorry to hear that Will
She seemed like a lovely woman and so incredibly proud of you :hug:
Will.
05-01-2017, 04:35 PM
Omfg. The one from the videos? :(
So sorry Will.
Oh sorry Marsh, never saw your question.
Yes the one from the videos. :(
Will.
05-01-2017, 04:54 PM
That's awful :(
I'm so sorry babes I hope you're okay :love:
Rest in Peace.
Thank you Cal, I'm trying my best to be okay. :love:
Omfg. The one from the videos? :(
So sorry Will.
Thank you Marsh. :love:
Aw, I'm sorry about that. :sad:
Thank you Vanessa. :love:
Really sorry to hear this Will
Thank you MB. :love:
I'm really sorry to hear that :(
Thanks Lostie, you and my nan would have got on very well. :love:
Oh Will I'm so sorry to hear this :(
Always here if you need to chat
Thank you Ross, I will if I need a chat. :love:
So sorry to hear this Will, thinking of you :(
Thank you Kizzy. xxx
Sorry to hear this Will </3 hope you and your family are okay :love:
Thank you Luke, everyone is adjusting to life without her, it's been a very emotional day. :love:
<3
:love:
aaw will.so sorry to hear this news. we all got to know her and all feel a little of your pain xx
Thank you LT.You all did! She loved you all alot. xx
I'm so sorry to hear that, Will :sad: Hope you're doing ok
Thank you Jamie, I'm sure as the days past it will get better. :love:
Really sorry for your loss. :(
Thank you, your kind words means a lot. :love:
Horrible news, hope you and your family are okay :(
Thank you Daniel for your lovely words everyone is trying their best to stay strong. :love:
Oh no :( sorry to hear that will x
Thank you Mitchell. :love:
Will :sad:
Cherrie. :love:
RIP your lovely nan :( she was so sweet in that video you posted of her xx
Thank you, she loved doing her videos for TiBB! :love:
Omg I just saw this thread and im speechless, I'm so sorry will :sad: :hug: Hope you're okay- she was a lovely woman and I remember her being an amazing woman in the documentary you made of her :love:
If you ever need to talk i'm here!
Thank you Tom, sorry it's a bit of shock. I'm sure she's seen your message and is very flattered, it means a lot. :love:
I will if I need a chat. :love:
:hug:
:love:
Sorry to hear that, Will :(
Thank you. :love:
Awh Will! My heart breaks for you. It's literally the most devastating thing losing a loved one. We're all here for you if you need to talk, just take some time to process and grieve. I don't know if you are religious but your Nan will always be watching over and you'll see her again one day, although I know that's not very comforting right now <3
Thank you, everyones support is so nice and it means a lot. Taking time is definitely a good option, I'm sure she will. I'll be posting a little something in a minute which was very special. :love:
So sorry Will. RIP.
Thank you. :love:
:hug:
:love:
I'm sorry to hear this Will. :sad:
Sending hugs to you and your family :hug:
Thank you, lovely words. :love:
Sorry for your loss xx
Thank you, means a lot. :love:
This is awful, Will. Sending you and your family my best wishes :love:
Thank you Marc, lovely message. :love:
Sorry to hear that Will :( all the best to you & your family :love:
Thank you Shaun, very sweet. :love:
I'm so sorry Will, I remember you uploading a video about her and she seemed a very lovely and kind lady and she obviously worshipped you.
I hope you and your family are all OK, remember the good times xx
Thank you, she definitely did! I'm sure she is looking down and feeling very special about your lovely words about her. :love:
Aww I'm so sorry for your loss Will. How awful :(
Thank you Caitlin, means a lot. :love:
So sorry to hear that Will.I sometimes think we can be closer to nana's than our own mums.
Thank you Jenny, I definitely agree, they are like a second mum. :love:
Aww, sorry to hear this, hope you're okay :(:hug:
Thank you, I'm okay, still in shock. :hug: x
Sorry to hear that will, my great nan died on monday as well. She only turned 100 as well last week. She wasent even ill so her death is a shock as well. Happy she made it to 100 though
Oh I'm so sorry, lovely that she got to a 100. My great nan died last Summer and just got to 100 as well, it meant so much her getting to 100. I'm sure our nans will meet up in Heaven/paradise looking down on us. :love:
She was a Great Lady
helping you even on this Forum.
She will be missed
Thank you Arista, means a lot. :love:
so sad to hear this Will :( :( :bawling:
hope ur okay :(
Thank you Nicky, I'm trying to be okay but still in shock. :love:
Oh, I understand. :(
RIP
Thank you. x
I'm very sorry to hear that, Will. :( RIP, your nan. :(
Thank you. :love:
Oh I'm so sorry Will :hug:
Thank you Niamh, I will miss posting videos of her. :love:
So sad to hear about that Will :sad:
She looked like such a wonderful lady and I'm sure you made her proud :hug:
Thank you, I'm sure she's seen your message and is feeling very special, such kind words. :hug:
So sorry to hear your sad news, Will. x
Thank you Livia. x
:sad: sad news, she was lucky to have someone who cared about her as much as you!
Thank you Jessica for your kind words, she was extremely special to me! :love:
So sorry for your family and your loss Will :hug: of your Nan. Cherish those memories.
Thank you, I definitely will cherish the memories. :love:
So sorry for your loss Will :hug:
Thank you Natalie. :love:
Sorry for your loss will and i know it feels so strange and unreal at the moment.
Please take it all in and losten to those closest to you as their words will be more of a help than you could imagine.
I know its raw right now but things will get better.
And dont be afraid to talk to your friends on here they seem like a loving caring and kind bunch.
Much love and my deepest sympathies.
Stuart.
Thank you, it does feel very unreal, I'm sure it will get easier as the days past. Such lovely and kind words, means a lot. :love:
So sorry to hear that Will
She seemed like a lovely woman and so incredibly proud of you :hug:
Thank you Jonathan, lovely and sweet words, means so much. :love:
reece(:
05-01-2017, 04:55 PM
Sorry for your loss Will :love:
Will.
05-01-2017, 04:56 PM
Sorry for your loss Will :love:
Thank you Reece. :love:
Jason.
05-01-2017, 05:27 PM
My condolences, Will :(
Hope you and your family are okay during this tough time. :hug:
Will.
05-01-2017, 05:28 PM
This morning I was in my room getting ready because I was going to help clear her room in the care home taking her belongings back to her house.
On my chest of drawers on the other side of my room I keep my perfume and christmas cards on the top.
I got my card from nan this Sunday from the care home as she went into hospital before christmas.
As I was getting ready the card from nan fell over, I believe this is sign that she is with me. There's no explanation to why it fell, my door, windows, curtains were all closed and her card it was in the middle, it wasn't on the end.
It felt as if she was saying hello.
xx
Will.
05-01-2017, 05:29 PM
My condolences, Will :(
Hope you and your family are okay during this tough time. :hug:
Thank you Jason, means so much having such lovely and kinds word from everyone. Still in a lot of shock but the support is helping a lot. :love::hug:
Wizard.
05-01-2017, 06:27 PM
This morning I was in my room getting ready because I was going to help clear her room in the care home taking her belongings back to her house.
On my chest of drawers on the other side of my room I keep my perfume and christmas cards on the top.
I got my card from nan this Sunday from the care home as she went into hospital before christmas.
As I was getting ready the card from nan fell over, I believe this is sign that she is with me. There's no explanation to why it fell, my door, windows, curtains were all closed and her card it was in the middle, it wasn't on the end.
It felt as if she was saying hello.
xx
She is with you hun, she is letting you know that she is alright.
Oh no. She was so nice. I'm putting RIP in my signature as a sign of respect. </3
Ross.
05-01-2017, 06:36 PM
This morning I was in my room getting ready because I was going to help clear her room in the care home taking her belongings back to her house.
On my chest of drawers on the other side of my room I keep my perfume and christmas cards on the top.
I got my card from nan this Sunday from the care home as she went into hospital before christmas.
As I was getting ready the card from nan fell over, I believe this is sign that she is with me. There's no explanation to why it fell, my door, windows, curtains were all closed and her card it was in the middle, it wasn't on the end.
It felt as if she was saying hello.
xx
:love: :hug:
Will.
05-01-2017, 06:39 PM
Oh no. She was so nice. I'm putting RIP in my signature as a sign of respect. </3
Bless you, that's such a sweet thing to do. :love:
Will.
05-01-2017, 06:40 PM
She is with you hun, she is letting you know that she is alright.
:love: :hug:
:love:
Firewire
05-01-2017, 06:40 PM
This morning I was in my room getting ready because I was going to help clear her room in the care home taking her belongings back to her house.
On my chest of drawers on the other side of my room I keep my perfume and christmas cards on the top.
I got my card from nan this Sunday from the care home as she went into hospital before christmas.
As I was getting ready the card from nan fell over, I believe this is sign that she is with me. There's no explanation to why it fell, my door, windows, curtains were all closed and her card it was in the middle, it wasn't on the end.
It felt as if she was saying hello.
xx
bitch run
y.winter
05-01-2017, 06:40 PM
Oh Will :hug: it really makes me sad reading it.
I remember watching your docu and admiring how elegant and nice she was, very smart lady and your bond was heartwarming.
She was so lucky having you as a grandson, praising her the way you did.
Stay strong :love: everyone's here for you whenever you need
Bless you, that's such a sweet thing to do. :love:
Anything for you x
She was privileged to have such a great grandson. If you want to PM me and let your feelings out, please do, I'd be more then welcome.
Will.
05-01-2017, 06:51 PM
Anything for you x
She was privileged to have such a great grandson. If you want to PM me and let your feelings out, please do, I'd be more then welcome.
Thank you Josh, you're such a kind member, beautiful words. I sure will if I need someone to talk to. :love:
Will.
05-01-2017, 06:52 PM
Oh Will :hug: it really makes me sad reading it.
I remember watching your docu and admiring how elegant and nice she was, very smart lady and your bond was heartwarming.
She was so lucky having you as a grandson, praising her the way you did.
Stay strong :love: everyone's here for you whenever you need
This made me so happy reading this, really uplifting words. Thank you, everyone's support has been so nice, I can't express how much it means. :love:
Will.
05-01-2017, 10:00 PM
Thank you everyone again, your support means the world to me. :love:
Will.
05-01-2017, 11:47 PM
I've updated the OP with what happened. :(
Marsh.
05-01-2017, 11:50 PM
Omg, that's heartbreaking Will. My love to you and your family. :love:
Such a shame that it was so avoidable, you do hear about horror stories of care homes and things. I suppose you just have to think at least she isn't in any pain anymore, she's at peace.
Babayaro.
05-01-2017, 11:55 PM
Reading that is so sad, Will. She was very lucky to have someone who cared about her as much as you did. :love:
Will.
05-01-2017, 11:55 PM
Omg, that's heartbreaking Will. My love to you and your family. :love:
Such a shame that it was so avoidable, you do hear about horror stories of care homes and things. I suppose you just have to think at least she isn't in any pain anymore, she's at peace.
Thank you Marsh, it's really helping me having all this support. :love:
That's what breaks my heart, to know it was so avoidable and she could easily still be here, that's the only comfort knowing she's not in pain anymore.
It's so irritating because she cared for everyone, she would go down the town at anytime for anyone, she would always get her neighbour her food shopping if she needed something. If I asked her for something, she would be out the door before I had got off the phone. :(
The world really isn't a fair place. :(
Will.
05-01-2017, 11:57 PM
Reading that is so sad, Will. She was very lucky to have someone who cared about her as much as you did. :love:
I started crying writing it, she was my world. :love:
Thank you for such lovely words. :love:
Cherie
05-01-2017, 11:58 PM
Thank you Marsh, it's really helping me having all this support. :love:
That's what breaks my heart, to know it was so avoidable and she could easily still be here, that's the only comfort knowing she's not in pain anymore.
It's so irritating because she cared for everyone, she would go down the town at anytime for anyone, she would always get her neighbour her food shopping if she needed something. If I asked her for something, she would be out the door before I had got off the phone. :(
The world really isn't a fair place. :(
Oh Will I feel your pain :hug:
Will.
05-01-2017, 11:59 PM
Oh Will I feel your pain :hug:
:hug:
SuperV
06-01-2017, 12:16 AM
Will, I am so sorry this has happened. I know the pain it is to loose someone so close to you in your life. Remember that everything happens for a good reason. You know she isn't in pain anymore and is watching over you. Yes we are just random people on the internet but if you need anything from any of us, we will all be here for you. :hug::lovedup:
Good job, now I'm crying! :blush::blush:
God bless you.
Will.
06-01-2017, 12:20 AM
Will, I am so sorry this has happened. I know the pain it is to loose someone so close to you in your life. Remember that everything happens for a good reason. You know she isn't in pain anymore and is watching over you. Yes we are just random people on the internet but if you need anything from any of us, we will all be here for you. :hug::lovedup:
Good job, now I'm crying! :blush::blush:
God bless you.
Thank you Super V, a lovely message which has really uplifted me. <3 :lovedup:
You guys on here mean so much to me, I will if I'm feeling down at any point. :love:
Aw bless you. :love:
Daniel-X
06-01-2017, 12:40 AM
Reading that has really made me sad, she sounds like such a lovely kind woman. I'm 100% sure she feels the exact same about you. Stay strong and I'm always here if you want to speak. All my love goes out to you and your family :love:
y.winter
06-01-2017, 06:08 AM
My nan loved animals, especially penguins! She was very much against animals being killed and was a proud vegetarian. She loved her daily trip into her local town, she knew all the bus drivers. :laugh:
Her hobbies included puzzles, reading, gardening, and antiques.
She loved her wine!
:sad: She's such a (good) image of how I imagine British old ladies being :laugh: She's amazing, I would have adopted her to be my nan also :love:
I read it all and it's all very really touching. It reminds me of when my family (with him) decided to move my (widower, advanced cancer-sick) grandpa to this care home and one week after it he choked on his food and passed away. It came to all of us as a shock, understanding how everything is so fragile. But we knew it wouldn't have got any better had he remained alive, and as he lived life to its fullest, altogether it was bitter sweet. We remember and cherish him and the good person that he was with a great smile on our faces and you celebrating her life is the best thing you could have done. :hug:
really sorry here to hear that will. R.I.P :( hope you're okay!
Will.
06-01-2017, 10:42 AM
Reading that has really made me sad, she sounds like such a lovely kind woman. I'm 100% sure she feels the exact same about you. Stay strong and I'm always here if you want to speak. All my love goes out to you and your family :love:
I'm sure she does, thank you for such sweet words that are really helping me in my difficult time. That's lovely of you and I'm sure I will speak to you if Im feeling down. Thank you Daniel. :love:
Will.
06-01-2017, 10:42 AM
Will I'm so sorry :(
Rob. :love: :hug:
Will.
06-01-2017, 10:44 AM
:sad: She's such a (good) image of how I imagine British old ladies being :laugh: She's amazing, I would have adopted her to be my nan also :love:
I read it all and it's all very really touching. It reminds me of when my family (with him) decided to move my (widower, advanced cancer-sick) grandpa to this care home and one week after it he choked on his food and passed away. It came to all of us as a shock, understanding how everything is so fragile. But we knew it wouldn't have got any better had he remained alive, and as he lived life to its fullest, altogether it was bitter sweet. We remember and cherish him and the good person that he was with a great smile on our faces and you celebrating her life is the best thing you could have done. :hug:
lool, I'm sure she would have loved that. :laugh:
Oh that's ever so sad and unexpected, I'm so sorry, that must have been a huge shock. He sounds like a lovely man, I'm sure he is a very proud grandpa looking down on you all. :hug:
:love:
Will.
06-01-2017, 10:46 AM
really sorry here to hear that will. R.I.P :( hope you're okay!
Thank you Jay, I'm still not good but I'm trying my best, your support means a lot and really helps. :love:
Gusto Brunt
10-01-2017, 02:49 PM
Just thought I'd check in Will, to see if you're okay. :)
Will.
12-01-2017, 06:20 PM
Just thought I'd check in Will, to see if you're okay. :)
I'm okay ish thank you. x
Will.
12-01-2017, 06:20 PM
Just over a week ago. :(
Will.
12-01-2017, 06:20 PM
Her funeral is next Thursday <3
Gusto Brunt
13-01-2017, 09:04 AM
I'm okay ish thank you. x
They say time's a great healer, but it took me a long while to get over my mum's death. I say get over, you never forget.
Over time fond memories replace sadness.
jennyjuniper
13-01-2017, 09:17 AM
So sorry Will. At least she had a loving family. Maybe not the time to say this, but that care home sounds as though it needs investigating. When any elderly person falls, the chances of broken bones is extremely high and it seems negligent at the very least, to think that they didn'øt take her to hospital straight away to be checked out.
I hope the pain is gradually healing Will and I'm sorry to hear this :( I've never really lost anyone so I can only imagine how hard it must be
Will.
17-01-2017, 06:15 PM
They say time's a great healer, but it took me a long while to get over my mum's death. I say get over, you never forget.
Over time fond memories replace sadness.
Yeah it seems that as the days gets on it gets better but worse at the same time, difficult to explain. :love:
Memories are so important. :flutter:
Will.
17-01-2017, 06:18 PM
So sorry Will. At least she had a loving family. Maybe not the time to say this, but that care home sounds as though it needs investigating. When any elderly person falls, the chances of broken bones is extremely high and it seems negligent at the very least, to think that they didn'øt take her to hospital straight away to be checked out.
Thank you. :love:
I completely agree, it does need investigating, I think there's a lawyer on the case atm.
After she fell once and returned to the care home she was supposedly put on a higher care plan but then she fell again and that resulted in her death in hospital. :(
It's a shame because it's a beautiful care home and most of the staff are quite friendly.
Although when she went into hospital no one from there ever contacted to see how she was.
Will.
17-01-2017, 06:19 PM
I hope the pain is gradually healing Will and I'm sorry to hear this :( I've never really lost anyone so I can only imagine how hard it must be
Thank you Tom such lovely words. :love:
I hope it does to but I don't think it will happen anytime soon. :(
Will.
17-01-2017, 06:21 PM
It's honestly the most frustrating thing in the world to know that she could still be alive today if she hadn't had fallen...
I find it so difficult thinking that what if she decided to stay in her room a bit longer and not gone down the stairs.
:(
Gusto Brunt
17-01-2017, 06:39 PM
It's honestly the most frustrating thing in the world to know that she could still be alive today if she hadn't had fallen...
I find it so difficult thinking that what if she decided to stay in her room a bit longer and not gone down the stairs.
:(
I know what you mean. My mum went to hospital with a nasty sore on her leg that wouldn't heal. She ended up having a heart attack two weeks later, and died.
I regret her going to hospital and wonder how different things would have been if she had been treated at home.
That was three years ago. I don't get sad now. Indeed I often laugh at the funny things she'd say.:joker:
Even in death a loved one can bring much comfort.
Will.
19-01-2017, 03:14 PM
I know what you mean. My mum went to hospital with a nasty sore on her leg that wouldn't heal. She ended up having a heart attack two weeks later, and died.
I regret her going to hospital and wonder how different things would have been if she had been treated at home.
That was three years ago. I don't get sad now. Indeed I often laugh at the funny things she'd say.:joker:
Even in death a loved one can bring much comfort.
Yeah the best thing to do is just cherish the memories as it helps so much. :love:
Will.
19-01-2017, 03:19 PM
The funeral was very sweet in a little chapel, it wasn't religious because she wasn't in her later years in life.
There were cuddly penguins laid around the chapel as they were her favourite animal and everyone got given penguin pins to wear.
It was a fairly short service, the speaker was ever so nice and it didn't feel like a funeral until the burial.
Her burial was short, it was quite cramped aroud the area and had to be careful where to walk because didn't want to fall in!
The wake was cute at a pub near my aunties, I met my great aunt (nans sister) who is like my nans twin, they look and act so alike! She was telling me such funny stories about when she lived in east London.
You would all love my great aunt, she's just like my nan! I felt so comfortable around her and could spend hours talking to her, I hope to go and stay/visit with her sometime.
Crimson Dynamo
19-01-2017, 03:20 PM
Its the circle of life Will
the circle of life
:love:
Will.
19-01-2017, 03:27 PM
Overall it was a lovely day even though it was a sad occasion.
It was so nice to meet some of my extended family who are ever so nice and who I hope I'll have a relationship with in the years to come.
Nan would be proud. :love:
LukeB
19-01-2017, 03:28 PM
hope you are okay Will :love:
Will.
19-01-2017, 03:38 PM
You really should spend some extra time with your Nan's sister. :) It would be good for her as well as you!
Yes Definitely! I would love to go up and stay with her! I got on so well with her.
It's ever so sad because her husband died 2 months ago and she lost her daughter a year ago and now her sister. :(
Will.
19-01-2017, 03:42 PM
hope you are okay Will :love:
Thank you Luke! I'm feeling okay as today was really nice and a beautiful send off. :love:
Ronald.
19-01-2017, 03:44 PM
Sad news. Sorry for your loss. R.
Ithinkiloveyoutoo
19-01-2017, 03:45 PM
:hug:
Will.
19-01-2017, 03:45 PM
Sad news. Sorry for your loss. R.
Thank you. :love:
Will.
19-01-2017, 03:46 PM
:hug:
:love:
Jamie89
19-01-2017, 08:13 PM
The funeral was very sweet in a little chapel, it wasn't religious because she wasn't in her later years in life.
There were cuddly penguins laid around the chapel as they were her favourite animal and everyone got given penguin pins to wear.
It was a fairly short service, the speaker was ever so nice and it didn't feel like a funeral until the burial.
Her burial was short, it was quite cramped aroud the area and had to be careful where to walk because didn't want to fall in!
The wake was cute at a pub near my aunties, I met my great aunt (nans sister) who is like my nans twin, they look and act so alike! She was telling me such funny stories about when she lived in east London.
You would all love my great aunt, she's just like my nan! I felt so comfortable around her and could spend hours talking to her, I hope to go and stay/visit with her sometime.
That sounds lovely Will :love: and how great that you met your great aunt and might form a closer bond with her :flutter: That would make your nan really proud I'm sure.
Cherie
19-01-2017, 08:19 PM
The funeral was very sweet in a little chapel, it wasn't religious because she wasn't in her later years in life.
There were cuddly penguins laid around the chapel as they were her favourite animal and everyone got given penguin pins to wear.
It was a fairly short service, the speaker was ever so nice and it didn't feel like a funeral until the burial.
Her burial was short, it was quite cramped aroud the area and had to be careful where to walk because didn't want to fall in!
The wake was cute at a pub near my aunties, I met my great aunt (nans sister) who is like my nans twin, they look and act so alike! She was telling me such funny stories about when she lived in east London.
You would all love my great aunt, she's just like my nan! I felt so comfortable around her and could spend hours talking to her, I hope to go and stay/visit with her sometime.
Sounds like she got a great send off :love: and what a beautiful sunny day you had
Will.
22-01-2017, 08:39 PM
That sounds lovely Will :love: and how great that you met your great aunt and might form a closer bond with her :flutter: That would make your nan really proud I'm sure.
Thank you Jamie. :love:
Yeah, she likes my nan but she's more energetic in the way she acts, like I thought my nan was really sarcastic, but her sister is way more sarcastic. :laugh:
:hug:
Will.
22-01-2017, 08:39 PM
Sounds like she got a great send off :love: and what a beautiful sunny day you had
Oh yes it was ever so sunny! Really bright! :love:
Will.
05-07-2017, 10:08 PM
6 months ago yesterday :(
The last couple of months have been really bad, I've been really depressed and struggling with sleep.
I'm trying to keep myself busy over Summer by doing sport (Tennis and Swimming) for the first time in a lost time. It helps quite a bit.
Withano
05-07-2017, 10:14 PM
:hug:
smudgie
05-07-2017, 10:44 PM
6 months ago yesterday :(
The last couple of months have been really bad, I've been really depressed and struggling with sleep.
I'm trying to keep myself busy over Summer by doing sport (Tennis and Swimming) for the first time in a lost time. It helps quite a bit.
Keep hold of all your good memories of her Will. :hug:
Mystic Mock
06-07-2017, 01:08 AM
6 months ago yesterday :(
The last couple of months have been really bad, I've been really depressed and struggling with sleep.
I'm trying to keep myself busy over Summer by doing sport (Tennis and Swimming) for the first time in a lost time. It helps quite a bit.
I hope that the Sports activities can take your mind off of your Nan (if that's the right way to put it) but I hope that you know what I mean.
I think that it's good to grieve, but you definitely don't want your Nan passing away to be on your mind 24/7.
I really don't know if this is coming off as bad what I'm saying here, but I hope that you're okay Will.
Mitchell
06-07-2017, 01:12 AM
I loved discussing her on here, true TIBB legend :love:
Amy Jade
06-07-2017, 01:51 AM
This made me tear up Will, you obviously adored her. I know it's so hard especially as you were so close.
I was very close to my Aunt who passed away so I know it is a struggle. If you ever need a chat PM me anytìme x
Gstar
06-07-2017, 06:24 AM
Losing your nan is literally the worst thing ever. It's a good idea to keep yourself distracted/get a new hobby so you're going the right way about it. Time is truly the greatest healer.
P.s. This is really random but Leona Lewis - Better In Time is the song that mostly describes your situation, same with mine when I lost my nan. I'm sure you're aware of the song, it's very emotional but thought I'd still tell you. Most underrated song ever.
Cherie
06-07-2017, 07:01 AM
aw Will, its normal when you were so close to her that you will be grieving, and you will grieve for a long time, people seem to think that grief is something that is over and done with at the funeral, but it is only in the weeks after that realisation hits, I lost my Mum 2 years ago and still randomly cry at times when I think of her, loss takes along time to get over
:hug:
Niamh.
06-07-2017, 09:13 AM
aw Will, its normal when you were so close to her that you will be grieving, and you will grieve for a long time, people seem to think that grief is something that is over and done with at the funeral, but it is only in the weeks after that realisation hits, I lost my Mum 2 years ago and still randomly cry at times when I think of her, loss takes along time to get over
:hug:
aww sorry Cherie, I think about losing my mom sometimes and it totally freaks me out, she's the person who has always been there for me all through my life, although knowing my mom she'll probably out live me
Hugs Will, remembering her is a good thing, it keeps are alive :hug:
Will.
06-07-2017, 02:34 PM
:hug:
:love:
Keep hold of all your good memories of her Will. :hug:
I will :love:
I hope that the Sports activities can take your mind off of your Nan (if that's the right way to put it) but I hope that you know what I mean.
I think that it's good to grieve, but you definitely don't want your Nan passing away to be on your mind 24/7.
I really don't know if this is coming off as bad what I'm saying here, but I hope that you're okay Will.
Yeah constantly thinking about it really doesn't help emotionally and mentally. Yeah hobbies and keeping myself busy definitely helps because you have something to focus on if that makes sense. :love:
I loved discussing her on here, true TIBB legend :love:
Aww :love:
This made me tear up Will, you obviously adored her. I know it's so hard especially as you were so close.
I was very close to my Aunt who passed away so I know it is a struggle. If you ever need a chat PM me anytìme x
Sorry about your aunt, yeah it's really difficult. Thank you Amy, means a lot. :love:
Losing your nan is literally the worst thing ever. It's a good idea to keep yourself distracted/get a new hobby so you're going the right way about it. Time is truly the greatest healer.
P.s. This is really random but Leona Lewis - Better In Time is the song that mostly describes your situation, same with mine when I lost my nan. I'm sure you're aware of the song, it's very emotional but thought I'd still tell you. Most underrated song ever.
Yeah having a new hobby helps as it keeps my mind thinking about something else. I guess it will take a lot of time to get over it, although I don't think you ever really get over it.
Sorry about your nan. :love:
The song rings a bell, I'm sure I've heard it many times. I'll have a listen! :love:
aw Will, its normal when you were so close to her that you will be grieving, and you will grieve for a long time, people seem to think that grief is something that is over and done with at the funeral, but it is only in the weeks after that realisation hits, I lost my Mum 2 years ago and still randomly cry at times when I think of her, loss takes along time to get over
:hug:
Yeah it seems to get worse as the weeks go ok because th3 realisation hits in. Aww sorry about your mum, yeah it really does take a long time. :( :love:
Hugs Will, remembering her is a good thing, it keeps are alive :hug:
That's true :love: :hug:
Jamie89
06-07-2017, 04:08 PM
Sorry you've been struggling so much, Will :sad: It shows how important she was to you though and I'm sure you were just as important to her too, so I'm sure she'd be really pleased to know you've been keeping yourself busy lately and focusing more on yourself, she'll be so proud of you :love: You'll always have sad moments but that's not such a bad thing, you've got all the happy memories as well, and it does get better over time.
Will.
06-07-2017, 11:05 PM
Sorry you've been struggling so much, Will :sad: It shows how important she was to you though and I'm sure you were just as important to her too, so I'm sure she'd be really pleased to know you've been keeping yourself busy lately and focusing more on yourself, she'll be so proud of you :love: You'll always have sad moments but that's not such a bad thing, you've got all the happy memories as well, and it does get better over time.
Aww this was so touching to read. :love:
Thank you Jamie. :hug:
Will.
04-01-2018, 12:25 AM
A year ago today :(
Greg!
04-01-2018, 12:33 AM
:love:
michael21
04-01-2018, 12:37 AM
A year ago today :(
:bawling::bawling: :bawling::bawling: :bawling::bawling:
A reminded to live life and not spend it watsting time on the internet/forums
Wizard.
04-01-2018, 01:26 AM
A year ago today :(
Not until 8:10pm
Shaun
04-01-2018, 03:25 AM
Not until 8:10pm
:unsure:
I'm so sorry, Will. I remember your Nan. It is good you are still taking the time for yourself to honor her memory, but remember her legacy always lives with you.
Jake.
04-01-2018, 07:46 AM
Not until 8:10pm
:umm2:
Anyway, thinking of you Will
RileyH
04-01-2018, 07:50 AM
<3
Cherie
04-01-2018, 09:36 AM
aw, RIP Nan
Vicky.
04-01-2018, 09:52 AM
Sorry to hear this. RIP
Kazanne
04-01-2018, 10:21 AM
My thoughts are with you Will,she sounds like a diamond of a woman, who has left you lots of happy memories,I think I remember her in one of your videos, RIP lovely lady.
Will.
04-01-2018, 11:26 AM
:love:
I'm so sorry, Will. I remember your Nan. It is good you are still taking the time for yourself to honor her memory, but remember her legacy always lives with you.
<3
aw, RIP Nan
Sorry to hear this. RIP
My thoughts are with you Will,she sounds like a diamond of a woman, who has left you lots of happy memories,I think I remember her in one of your videos, RIP lovely lady.
:love: so lovely everyone x
rusticgal
04-01-2018, 11:51 AM
That's so sad Will....but how lucky she was to have a grandson like you.
Big hugs xx
Jamie89
04-01-2018, 01:12 PM
Thinking of you Will, hope you're ok :love:
y.winter
04-01-2018, 08:50 PM
I still remember her docu and she was lovely :hug::love:
Wizard.
04-01-2018, 08:53 PM
RIP Will’s Nan sorry for your loss hope you’re okay :hugs:
Marsh.
04-01-2018, 08:55 PM
:bawling::bawling: :bawling::bawling: :bawling::bawling:
A reminded to live life and not spend it watsting time on the internet/forums
Not until 8:10pm
https://i.imgur.com/PzoOAD3.gif
Wizard.
04-01-2018, 08:56 PM
https://i.imgur.com/PzoOAD3.gif
I waited until the appropriate time!
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