Attention seekers

[Jay]

I was bored so thought i would make this.

What do you think of Attention seekers?

[Lauren]

Depends what kind.

People who change their style, or their opinions just to gain attention or fit into a group - I don't think much of them. They can do what they want but ultimately they're just gonna be unhappy.

Some people are attention seekers because of other things, maybe they're upset about something. They just need help.

People who argue for absolutely no reason apart from to make a name for themselves - :bored: They're a bit ****.

[Dan_]

To be honest I find them a little bit sad, the fact they feel the need to do something to continually get noticed however trivial it might be shows to me they have something slightly wrong with them and must feel unwanted in some respect.

[Mrluvaluva]

Who's attention seeking? lol. I'm confused?

[Jay]

Originally posted by MrLuvaLuva
Who's attention seeking? lol. I'm confused?

No one i was just bored.

[Mrluvaluva]

I'm bored too. Is there many people on here at the mo?

[Jay]

There's a few people on i think.

[Mrluvaluva]

Yeah. About six. lol

[Mike]

Attention seekers argh, got no time for them at all.

[Mrluvaluva]

me neither

[Diablo]

I had a friend who was the biggest attention seeker.. complete pain in the ass!

I dont have the time or patience for them

[Bells]

I've had to put up with quite a few, and I'm at the stage now where I can't anymore. A lot of them simply are because they want to feel cared for and loved, and sometimes lie for attention etc. You get to the point where you just ignore it. And now I've found that I don't let it affect me and really don't bother or pay attention to the attention seekers.

[Siouxsie]

I work in a class full of attention seeking kids and it drives me nuts sometimes. :mad:There are the naughty attention seekers and the ignorant attention seekers and the eek !!:yuk: slaverry kids they do my head in. :eureka:

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by Ash
I've had to put up with quite a few, and I'm at the stage now where I can't anymore. A lot of them simply are because they want to feel cared for and loved, and sometimes lie for attention etc. You get to the point where you just ignore it. And now I've found that I don't let it affect me and really don't bother or pay attention to the attention seekers.


Do you think that is the best way to deal with attention seekers Ash? Just to ignore them?

[Sophii3x]

There are different types. There are some who show off and some who just want to be cared and loved for.

Also it annoys me when people label people who cut themselves and make themselves sick, attection seekers. Maybe some do it for attention, but most don't. There's the whole emotional side to it, and until you go through it you can't really judge.

[Bells]

Originally posted by MrLuvaLuva
Originally posted by Ash
I've had to put up with quite a few, and I'm at the stage now where I can't anymore. A lot of them simply are because they want to feel cared for and loved, and sometimes lie for attention etc. You get to the point where you just ignore it. And now I've found that I don't let it affect me and really don't bother or pay attention to the attention seekers.


Do you think that is the best way to deal with attention seekers Ash? Just to ignore them?

Well, I said it gets to the point where you just ignore it.
And it's worked for me thus far!

[Mrluvaluva]

That's true Soph.

It's like you said though, "Maybe some do it for attention". Some people obviously do, and it is a cry for help that something is wrong in their lives. These kind of people need reassurance and help.

There are many different kinds of attention seekers though.

Like Lozzy pants said (lol), there are "People who change their style, or their opinions just to gain attention or fit into a group". It's sad to think that people would want to change themselves to try and fit in. That's just false. You are who you are, and if people don't like you for it, then they are not worth having as a friend. There is always someone out there who will like you for being you.

Another form of attention seeker, is one that may be quite loud and outlandish. They will go to pains to get themselves noticed. That can be quite offputting to the recipient or bystanders.

Also, when breakups happen for instance. Say a couple have been married for 20 years and are going through a separation. The wife wants to leave, but the husband still loves her (or maybe thinks he does). He may do things to bring attention to himself, by threatening things, say, that he might not intend to do and would never go through with, but primarily to make his wife stay. Say she stays with him out of guilt? That is no marriage is it. It's living a lie. It's wrong and unacceptable.

People still do it though.

People come on this forum and post crap to get attention. The world is made up of allsorts.

What I am trying to say, is sometimes people seek attention to better situations, and sometimes not. Quite the opposite infact.

[Siouxsie]

Originally posted by Jay
There's a few people on i think.


now now Jay :nono: :wink::joker:

[Lauren]

Haha, Lozzy Pants. :hugesmile:

Errmm anyway, what was I about to say.... uhrm.... Oh yeah.

Sue, why do some of the kids in your class slaver? :laugh2:

[nodisharmony]

"Attention seekers" is usually labelled to children.

Many times when a five year old boy suddenly has a sister or brother come into the world and the attention slides towards the baby boy or girl and the five year old gets jealous and does something bad, just to get attention.

It stems from jealousy really!


nodisharmony :angel:

[Jay]

Originally posted by Siouxsie
Originally posted by Jay
There's a few people on i think.


now now Jay :nono: :wink::joker:

Lol i didn't mean it like that, he was asking how many people were online not how many attention seekers were on :hugesmile:

[~Kizwiz~]

You can still be an adult and be an attention seeker! People who actively go out just to harpe onabout themselves really get my goat!

I have no time for people who are Me, Me Me, Me, Me!!!!

There comes a time in everyones lives when either you cut attention seekers out of your life or get cut out because your the attention seeker.

[lily.]

Originally posted by kizwiz
...I have no time for people who are Me, Me Me, Me, Me!!!!...


Anyone in particular there Kiz? :wink:

O/T... u have mail.. I was worried about u girl! :spin2:

edit: I have mail.. apparently I don't check my mail regularly.. ha ha!

[~Kizwiz~]

Originally posted by Stropz

Anyone in particular there Kiz? :wink:

O/T... u have mail.. I was worried about u girl! :spin2:

edit: I have mail.. apparently I don't check my mail regularly.. ha ha!

Hee hee..... finally get online.

And nobody springs to mind :whistle:

[lily.]

haha.. anyway, going back to the topic.

I find as a parent, that the best thing to do with attention seeking behaviour is ignore it. I've gone through all the various stages with my kids from babies to toddlers to brats.. :laugh: .. and it's something you learn very early on to recognise.

Any parent will tell you that they know the difference between their baby's cry. Whether it's a cry for something (food, changed etc.), or a cry for nothing (just attention basically). And, it's true. Unfortunately, I made the mistake of going to my first child when she cried for attention, thus spoiling her with hugs.. resulting in me getting no sleep for approximately 2 years.. You live and learn!!! :thumbs:

[~Kizwiz~]

Oooh good point stropz, you can tell the difference between crying. The hurt/hunger cry is very much different to the tantrum/strop/anger wail. Because it is a wail and it mainly comes with shouting and stomping!

[sol]

Yeah there's this mental girl in my business class who always used to do OTT sneezes all the time to get attention and she still says weird stuff like saying bonjour to people when she sees them, but she's not normal so no one says anything.

[Bells]

^^^ How odd! She obviously does have problems then, rather than being an 'attention seeker' in the sense I understand the word.
The things she does are funny and so random. :conf: I get why nobody says anything though!

[Lauren]

OTT Sneezes? LOL. :hello:

[Bells]

I can just imagine... aaaa ... aaaaaaaaaaaa.... AAAAAAAAAA.................. CHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.

Strange.

[~Kizwiz~]

Fake laughs really get me too........ just laugh normally FFS!!

[Bells]

^^^ Lol I know what you mean. Some people I know do have really infectious laughs, but you can so tell when someone's being fake.

[~Kizwiz~]

I hate my laugh but I cant fake it...... If I find something really funny I cackle!

[Bells]

Yeah it is difficult to fake a laugh. Which is why you can tell.

LOL I remember last year some friends told me I cackled sometimes. I didn't even notice! So now I don't so much cackle, but still have an infectious laugh (which sometimes goes high-pitched). :laugh:

[~Kizwiz~]

I love to hear real laughs..... it makes a person sincere

[Sunny_01]

I have a friend who can talk about no-one but herself, its such a shame because she is a nice enough girl. Sadly every conversation we all have turns to her and something she has done or wants to do, I dont think she gets tired of takling about herself ever. Also if someone is ill in our group of friends she will have an illness or a fall and hurt herself. She also does this if she is feeling left out of things when we all get a little tired of her. She is currently walking like an idiot after she "fell over the dog" last weekend and hurt her back and leg! all because she was feeling left out me thinks and I sadly always question whether her "accidents" were real.

[sol]

Originally posted by Ash
I can just imagine... aaaa ... aaaaaaaaaaaa.... AAAAAAAAAA.................. CHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.

Strange.

Lol yeah, but she used to screach in them as well so everyone got a pierced ear drum. She did one today as well, she hadn't done one for a long time. Probably because she was being ignored by everyone today. Weirdo :conf2:

[Siouxsie]

Originally posted by kizwiz
Fake laughs really get me too........ just laugh normally FFS!! yes that really gts to me to kiz grrrrrrrrrrrr

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by Sunny_01
I have a friend who can talk about no-one but herself, its such a shame because she is a nice enough girl. Sadly every conversation we all have turns to her and something she has done or wants to do, I dont think she gets tired of takling about herself ever. Also if someone is ill in our group of friends she will have an illness or a fall and hurt herself. She also does this if she is feeling left out of things when we all get a little tired of her. She is currently walking like an idiot after she "fell over the dog" last weekend and hurt her back and leg! all because she was feeling left out me thinks and I sadly always question whether her "accidents" were real.


There's a girl in my office like that. It has come to the point now where I avoid conversation with her.

[andybigbro]

i dont mind them lol i will admit i am one :bigsmile: but its fun i like to be at the center of antention and everyone has at one time

[Sophii3x]

I don't know wether this is attention seeking or not but..
..a former best friend used to do nothing but brag. She would go on and on about herself non stop all day long. Bragging about how much money her parents had, her new make up and clothes. And then she was on about how happy her parents were together which upset me soo much because around that time my parents were on the verge of splitting up, and she knew this so in the end i just snapped. We had a HUGE argument and she ended up slapping me.

I still give her the evils in school.:laugh:

[Chrizzle]

Two types of attention seekers:

The good- Just fun people that are confident and like to have attention for being fun and loud.

The bad- Pathetic sad low lives that need attention to get through life:mad:

[Lauren]

Originally posted by kizwiz
Fake laughs really get me too........ just laugh normally FFS!!

My real laugh is so irritating! I hate it :hugesmile:
I laugh too much, aswell - cos I find little teeny things funny.

[Jay]

I no a few attention seekers and it drives me mad i can't stand people like that.

[Mrluvaluva]

They're a pain in the ass ain't they? When it has no point I mean. Just saying or doing **** solely for attention.

[Chrizzle]

Theres this girl in my year who is SUCH an attention seeker, she makes up rumours about herself, spreads them and then denies them:rolleyes:

[Jay]

It's like when someone does something out of nothing to get attention its like grow up you sadcase :bored:

[Mrluvaluva]

That is quite worrying Chris. Why does she have to do that? Is she so insecure?

[Sophii3x]

Originally posted by Chrizzle
Theres this girl in my year who is SUCH an attention seeker, she makes up rumours about herself, spreads them and then denies them:rolleyes:

PMSL! Just pathetic.
I think everyone has tried to seek attention in their lives. If they say they haven't, they are lying!

I cut myself for my parents attention when I was 13. Not proud of what I did, and I do regret it.

[Chrizzle]

Not sure.

Shes been 'pregnant' a couple of times.
Been out with a few middle aged men.
Mums an American prostitute, got attacked twice.
Allergic to everything we had to do in practical for Science:rolleyes:

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by Jay
It's like when someone does something out of nothing to get attention its like grow up you sadcase :bored:


Sometimes people can make something out of nothing. It is just their insecurities showing through. Sometimes, from people who are not confident in themselves.

[Jay]

Originally posted by MrLuvaLuva
Originally posted by Jay
It's like when someone does something out of nothing to get attention its like grow up you sadcase :bored:


Sometimes people can make something out of nothing. It is just their insecurities showing through. Sometimes, from people who are not confident in themselves.

True, but you no when someones not getting attention and they do something to get attention? thats the thing that annoys me plus i no grown people who do it and its like so childish.

[Sophii3x]

Originally posted by Chrizzle
Not sure.

Shes been 'pregnant' a couple of times.
Been out with a few middle aged men.
Mums an American prostitute, got attacked twice.
Allergic to everything we had to do in practical for Science:rolleyes:

This girl must be really insecure if she says stuff like that to get attention.

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by Sophii3x
Originally posted by Chrizzle
Theres this girl in my year who is SUCH an attention seeker, she makes up rumours about herself, spreads them and then denies them:rolleyes:

PMSL! Just pathetic.
I think everyone has tried to seek attention in their lives. If they say they haven't, they are lying!

I cut myself for my parents attention when I was 13. Not proud of what I did, and I do regret it.


Soph. I admire you for saying that. And you are right. I hope things have worked themselves out.

[Lauren]

I agree Soph, but a lot of self-harm isn't for attention.

Though I reckon everyone has tried some form of attention seeking in their life, even in small amounts.

[Sophii3x]

Originally posted by Lauren
I agree Soph, but a lot of self-harm isn't for attention.

It was with me though, but I wasn't alright emotionally at the time. It was for attention because I felt that my parents were ignoring me all the time. I was just really stupid.

NEVER cut yourselves people!

[Jay]

Originally posted by Lauren
I agree Soph, but a lot of self-harm isn't for attention.

Though I reckon everyone has tried some form of attention seeking in their life, even in small amounts.

Yeah agree with you, getting attention from a family member ain't attention seeking in such away, i think most people have done things to get attention from there mums or dads.

[Chrizzle]

I've slammed doors, screamed etc for attention when I was younger.
We all did it.

[Sophii3x]

Originally posted by Chrizzle
I've slammed doors, screamed etc for attention when I was younger.
We all did it.

I still do that!:laugh2: Not for attention though, when i'm angry

[Lauren]

Originally posted by Sophii3x
NEVER cut yourselves people!

Yeah, what Soph said. :laugh:

[Mrluvaluva]

It aint nice.

[Sophii3x]

Originally posted by MrLuvaLuva
It aint nice.

Nah it isn't:laugh: Seeing the scars after is the WORST thing ever

[Lauren]

Originally posted by Sophii3x
Originally posted by MrLuvaLuva
It aint nice.

Nah it isn't:laugh: Seeing the scars after is the WORST thing ever

Do you have many? Are they still visible?

If you rub tea tree oil on self-inflicted scars they often fade, btw - just a tip :thumbs:

[Sophii3x]

Originally posted by Lauren
Originally posted by Sophii3x
Originally posted by MrLuvaLuva
It aint nice.

Nah it isn't:laugh: Seeing the scars after is the WORST thing ever

Do you have many? Are they still visible?

If you rub tea tree oil on self-inflicted scars they often fade, btw - just a tip :thumbs:

Yea I have quite alot they are still visible, not as bad as they were though. I tried tea tree oil one, it didn't work though.

[Sophii3x]

Ohh did anyone else cry for attention when you were younger?

[Lauren]

Originally posted by Sophii3x
Ohh did anyone else cry for attention when you were younger?

I used to just cry. :laugh: Or stay quiet and reserved so my mum thought I was being bullied or something, haha. Evil.

[Sophii3x]

Originally posted by Lauren
Originally posted by Sophii3x
Ohh did anyone else cry for attention when you were younger?

I used to just cry. :laugh: Or stay quiet and reserved so my mum thought I was being bullied or something, haha. Evil.

haha! I think it's much easier for girls to do that.
I used to turn on the crocidile tears when I wanted something! I was mean:sad:

Also being a middle child is tough.

[Jay]

I remember loosing my temper alot to get attention and my own way when i was little :cheer2:

But when you see people like old enough to no better trying to get attention then you no there weird lol.

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by Jay
I remember loosing my temper alot to get attention and my own way when i was little :cheer2:

But when you see people like old enough to no better trying to get attention then you no there weird lol.



That is what growin up is all about. Takin responsibilities for your actions. Just because someone is older does not make them different from anyone else.Everybody has feelings.

[Jay]

Originally posted by MrLuvaLuva
Originally posted by Jay
I remember loosing my temper alot to get attention and my own way when i was little :cheer2:

But when you see people like old enough to no better trying to get attention then you no there weird lol.



That is what growin up is all about. Takin responsibilities for your actions. Just because someone is older does not make them different from anyone else.Everybody has feelings.

yeah but why attention seek like a child would? makes them pathectic to be honest. I can understand a kid or a teenager attention seeking but adults is bit over the top.

[Lauren]

Attention seekers don't consider feelings of others around them.

[lily.]

Attention seekers are usually selfish people who are only interested in their own problems and their own feelings. They don't care for those around them. As has been mentioned, most people can admit to doing it as a child or a young teenager at some point, but as you get older, most people outgrow it.

Others don't and often end up being neurotic hypocondriacs, or worse.

[nodisharmony]

Originally posted by kizwiz
You can still be an adult and be an attention seeker! People who actively go out just to harpe onabout themselves really get my goat!

I have no time for people who are Me, Me Me, Me, Me!!!!

There comes a time in everyones lives when either you cut attention seekers out of your life or get cut out because your the attention seeker.

Much wisdom can come from many people at times, but, I also notice that when groups form, members of a particular group crave attention, so they stick with that group in order to get their fix.

I use the word, "fix", like a smoker craving for a cigarette, when getting stressed.

Many children do crave for attention and so do adults too.

I would say it is better to accept it and also, it is even better to accept that those who accuse those who may be looking for attention, may also be craving for attention themselves.

Like I said earlier..


nodisharmony :angel:

[Siouxsie]

yes i hate me! me !me! people too i work with a girl like that and she likes to be the centre of attention at al times. As soon as anyone else speaks she tries to change the sugject and is just not interested in what anyone else has to say :mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:

[Mrluvaluva]

Another kind of attention seeker is one that just goes on and on about the same things all the time. Trying to get your attention about something. But it just becomes pathetic so you end up ignoring it. Quite sad really. They have to talk about the same things as there is nothing else in their life.

[Siouxsie]

yeah ive met many of them too

[~Kizwiz~]

Originally posted by MrLuvaLuva
Another kind of attention seeker is one that just goes on and on about the same things all the time. Trying to get your attention about something. But it just becomes pathetic so you end up ignoring it. Quite sad really. They have to talk about the same things as there is nothing else in their life.

I agree with you there B..... it gets to a time when you just want a bit of peace and quiet without all the hassle

[nodisharmony]

Attention seekers can also be labelled to neighbours.

If a nosy neighbour called Karen, is listening in on her neighbours, Daniella & Theodore

She can hear a conversation next door where Daniella & Theodore are and hear something which appeals to her and suddenly, she butts in, even when it is very obvious that she is not wanted.

As the neighbours Daniella & Theodore are tactful and friendly, they will put up with Karen and try to carry on the conversation anyway. Karen will butt in, but suddenly, the conversation goes onto a subject which annoys Karen.

But Karen is an attention seeker, as she is very shallow, even though she has made plenty of friends. Well, not friends really? But she calls them friends and stirs stuff too.

Anyway, Karen keeps trying to change the new subject that Daniella & Theodore have started, but every time, Karen can't change it.

But Karen still seeks attention and starts to critisise the conversation, as it makes her feel better and also makes herself feel good. But Daniella & Theodore keep on anyway.

Eventually Karen goes away and talks to her friends, well, the one's she thinks her friends? As they just agree with her anyway.

After this, Daniella & Theodore are glad that this attention seeking neighbour who they can't stand has gone away.

The most important observation that Daniella & Theodore realise, is, if Karen didn't like the subject what they were talking about, all she had to do is go away and accept it.

But as Karen was an Attention Seeker, she couldn't manage that simple lesson.

Life is hard sometimes, for the attention seekers.

But Daniella & Theodore knew how to treat her and won!

At least, for now!!


nodisharmony :angel:

[lily.]

OMG.. Am I Karen? :laugh::laugh::laugh:

[Mrluvaluva]

No Stropz. It's me.

[lily.]

Well Damn... U don't look like a Karen. Unless he was referring to your weekend past-time.. *wink wink - nudge nudge*

[Bells]

I didn't really understand that example. :conf:

[lily.]

He was mixed up. He meant to say "Deirdre". That's Barry's weekend alias. :thumbs:

[Mrluvaluva]

No Susan.

[lily.]

Oh, I do apologise.

[~Kizwiz~]

Karen... LMFAO......sorry... I just cant stop.....:laugh2:

[~Kizwiz~]

I'm Karen..... oh my god!!!!!:conf2:

[Bells]

What's up Kiz? I couldn't seem to follow that. Still can't. :laugh:

[~Kizwiz~]

I am the attention seeker that people tolerate but dont actually like......WTF!!!!! Way to go Nodis to make a girl feel wanted

[Ella]

Some Attention seekers are funny! They just make me laugh with there blatant attemps!