My son in law has had an affair

[Ronald.]

Hi forum, haven't been online much the past few days as the wife and I have spent a lot of time with our eldest daughter.

Our eldest daughter came knocking at the door at the end of last week in floods of tears, revealing that her other half had been cheating on her with some other female.

My poor daughter was heartbroken and no father wants to see one of his girls so upset. We're all in shock as the man in question has always been a pleasure - we welcomed him into our family with ease.

He had been sending inappropriate pictures and texts, and occasionally met up with her for sex. He apparently put a stop it but guilt got the better of him in the end and he confessed last week.

It's been a difficult weekend for everyone. My wife and I are there for her but it's difficult to know what to say to her. How to comfort a heartbroken daughter?

Hope you've all been well.
Ron.

[Marsh.]

Was he listening to Little Mix too?

[Ronald.]

Was he listening to Little Mix too?

What do you mean Marsh? R.

[Marsh.]

Sorry, I couldn't help myself. :hehe: It was a reference to the thread about your lesbian daughter. :fan:

Adultery is a bugbear of mine, I find it really unnecessary and it takes a certain someone to treat their loved ones so disgustingly. I hope your daughter comes through it ok.

[Ronald.]

Sorry, I couldn't help myself. :hehe: It was a reference to the thread about your lesbian daughter. :fan:

Adultery is a bugbear of mine, I find it really unnecessary and it takes a certain someone to treat their loved ones so disgustingly. I hope your daughter comes through it ok.

Oh ha ha yes I remember now. That's my other daughter who likes Little Mix- she enjoyed her sleepover , no lesbian moments to my knowledge. R.

[Marsh.]

Oh ha ha yes I remember now. That's my other daughter who likes Little Mix- she enjoyed her sleepover , no lesbian moments to my knowledge. R.

:laugh: Glad to hear it. Did they share the room in the end?

[Amy Jade]

It's a horrible situation and i hope your daughter is ok and does what she thinks is best x

Being cheated on honestly destroys you for a little while :(

[Ronald.]

:laugh: Glad to hear it. Did they share the room in the end?

Yes the room is quite small (a single bed), we put up a blow up bed next to the door. I took the forum's advice and avoided any intrusive questions. If she is a lesbian she will tell me in her own time I'm sure. R.

[Marsh.]

Yes the room is quite small (a single bed), we put up a blow up bed next to the door. I took the forum's advice and avoided any intrusive questions. If she is a lesbian she will tell me in her own time I'm sure. R.

:clap1:

[Ronald.]

Maybe my eldest is better off being a lesbian if men are going to treat her like that!! R.

[Marsh.]

Maybe my eldest is better off being a lesbian if men are going to treat her like that!! R.

Have you seen him since it happened or has he made himself scarce?

[Ronald.]

Have you seen him since it happened or has he made himself scarce?

Haven't seen him myself. I'd love to give him a peace of my mind! He's been texting my daughter but she's having none of it at the moment. She's distraught though. R.

[Marsh.]

Do they have children?

[Ronald.]

Do they have children?

No children but they were talking about trying. Good job this has come out now rather than later! R.

[Withano]

She should leave him.. at least for a little while.

Theres a skill to working out who the good ones are, but that usually comes down to luck or experience.

[Wizard.]

Was he listening to Little Mix too?

:joker:

[Deirdre]

Maybe my eldest is better off being a lesbian if men are going to treat her like that!! R.

girls are no better :nono:

I say she should leave this guy. Lucky escape in my opinion. I would never dream of texting somebody else if I'm with somebody I love. If I did, I'd leave her.

[Mystic Mock]

She'll meet the right guy.

[Rogan Josh]

Haven't seen him myself. I'd love to give him a peace of my mind! He's been texting my daughter but she's having none of it at the moment. She's distraught though. R.

I know you will both be angry and your daughter heartbroken, but please just give her all your love and sympathy, but they will have to fix this matter on their own. Its' a difficult and sensitive time for all and I know you will feel like tearing him apart as I know I would, but its' up to them , what they do. You will be in my thoughts, look after both of yourselves, you need to. Some of us have been through this with our kids already and they always make their own minds up, no matter what we say :bawling:

[Cherie]

It's all go in your house R :sad:

[thesheriff443]

The fact that he confessed means its been laying heavy on his mind, so there maybe hope that they can work through this if your daughter is willing to forgive him.
The fact they don't have kids is a good thing in a bad situation because if their relationship is over their can be closure, but with kids you never really have full closure.

[Crimson Dynamo]

That's not just cheating its totally disrespect, deceipt and recklessness. The trust has been obliterated and the relationship ruined. He can never be trusted again so get rid, there are plenty good trustful men around and thankfully she found out he wasn't one before children came.

It's harsh but she needs to get rid of this pig ASAP.

[Marsh.]

That's not just cheating its totally disrespect, deceipt and recklessness. The trust has been obliterated and the relationship ruined. He can never be trusted again so get rid, there are plenty good trustful men around and thankfully she found out he wasn't one before children came.

It's harsh but she needs to get rid of this pig ASAP.

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[Ronald.]

I know you will both be angry and your daughter heartbroken, but please just give her all your love and sympathy, but they will have to fix this matter on their own. Its' a difficult and sensitive time for all and I know you will feel like tearing him apart as I know I would, but its' up to them , what they do. You will be in my thoughts, look after both of yourselves, you need to. Some of us have been through this with our kids already and they always make their own minds up, no matter what we say :bawling:

What kind and constructive , helpful words . Thank you. R.

[Ronald.]

It's all go in your house R :sad:

That's having daughters for you cherie. It's a fathers job to worry. As soon my first was born I thought uh oh! When my second was born I knew was in for trouble! Love them both dearly though - good as gold! Wouldn't change them for the world . R.

[Will.]

Sort him out Ronald! x

[thesheriff443]

That's not just cheating its totally disrespect, deceipt and recklessness. The trust has been obliterated and the relationship ruined. He can never be trusted again so get rid, there are plenty good trustful men around and thankfully she found out he wasn't one before children came.

It's harsh but she needs to get rid of this pig ASAP.

That's a knee jerk post, relationships a far more complicated, I would like to know the out come of this situation.

[thesheriff443]

Also cheating is a two way street.

[jennyjuniper]

Maybe my eldest is better off being a lesbian if men are going to treat her like that!! R.

Lesbians get cheated on too Ronald.:shrug: Sorry to hear about your daughter and son-in-law though. Do they have children? I always said I would never let anyone have a second chance to cheat on me, but I realise it's a whole other thing when children are involved. Hope all is well in the end.:wavey:

[Ronald.]

Hi everyone just an update

It's great to see that this scum bag is firmly in the past. My eldest is moving to Swansea for a fresh start tomorrow. I will be helping her move all her stuff. She will be closer to her work as well which is a bonus. It's a lovely mezzanine all furnished.

The only thing is that she is moving further away from us but it is our eventual plan to move to Swansea. We will still see her just as much, just more money in petrol. R.

[Deirdre]

Hi everyone just an update

It's great to see that this scum bag is firmly in the past. My eldest is moving to Swansea for a fresh start tomorrow. I will be helping her move all her stuff. She will be closer to her work as well which is a bonus. It's a lovely mezzanine all furnished.

The only thing is that she is moving further away from us but it is our eventual plan to move to Swansea. We will still see her just as much, just more money in petrol. R.

you sound like a great dad, wish mine was like you :)

[Cherie]

Great news R!

[Ronald.]

you sound like a great dad, wish mine was like you :)

What a lovely thing to say! Thank you! R.

[Will.]

I want a dad like you Ronald, no nonsense!

[Ronald.]

I want a dad like you Ronald, no nonsense!

I can be no nonsense but I'm a huge softy really! R.

[Tozzie]

so sorry to hear this Ron. We love our kids and when they hurt we hurt. I can imagine how furious you are with him but as someone said here, its best to let them sort it out between them. As long as she knows you are there for her thats the main thing. Some couples can get over infidelity, but I do think if he has done it once he could do it again. Should your daughter decide to take him back and it happened again, all you can do is be there to pick up the pieces like we parents always are. I think a break from each other is in order to see how each of them feel apart. Keep your chin up Ron, life has a way of sorting things out somehow xxxx

[Marsh.]

Good for her. :clap1:

[Tozzie]

ooops, I'm behind the times. She's kicked him into touch, good for her indeed.