Would you recommend stopping driving?

[Daniel-X]

Basically, my confidence has been massively knocked with my driving lessons after last week. I changed the car into the wrong gear on a dual carriageway and panicked, I couldn't get back into the lesson and burst into tears while I was driving. Stuff like this has happened before (minor though compared to this) and it's always a problem to do with me putting the car in the wrong gear or stalling. Now I feel like I should stop learning to drive or drive automatic and was just seeing what anyone else would do?

It sounds pathetic that I'm throwing the towel in after that but I've genuinely had enough, mainly down to the fact that I don't know anyone who's had a blip like that before. Everyone else is better than me and it's horrible having to listen to how much progress everyone is doing when I'm going backwards. I don't want replies like 'grow up :umm2:' etc. so just leave if you have no advice to offer.

[Firewire]

Never give up

[Jamie89]

How long have you been learning for/how many lessons have you had so far?

Driving isn't for everyone and if it's not for you there's no shame in giving up. If you haven't been learning for that long though my advice would be to stick with it for a bit longer as if it's just a specific part of driving that you haven't quite got the hang of yet you might find that it's just something that comes with time and more practice, like do you enjoy driving generally and it's just that you occasionally make mistakes with the gears, or do you not like driving at all?

[Jamie89]

Also don't judge your own progress by how other people do, everyone has different paces and does well at different things (and a lot of people will just embellish how good they are to make themselves sound better :laugh: )

[Daniel-X]

How long have you been learning for/how many lessons have you had so far?

Driving isn't for everyone and if it's not for you there's no shame in giving up. If you haven't been learning for that long though my advice would be to stick with it for a bit longer as if it's just a specific part of driving that you haven't quite got the hang of yet you might find that it's just something that comes with time and more practice, like do you enjoy driving generally and it's just that you occasionally make mistakes with the gears, or do you not like driving at all?

I've had about twelve lessons so far but it took me ages to get around not crossing my bloody hands when driving the wheel, and once I've got my head round that suddenly I end up going really **** with my gears. I honestly don't know what to do, it's probably my competitive streak coming out because some people who started after me are a lot lot better and it's just frustrating that I can't get the hang of it.

[Drew.]

I had similar problems, i had trouble stalling the car a lot and struggled picking the right gears to be in. One lesson i got so angry and frustrated i was raging so hard my instructor took over the wheel, drove us to mcdonalds and bought me a meal and basically convinced me it was only a blip and all part of learning. I wouldn't give in, it happens to most people, your instructor should probably do more to reassure you.

[Peppermint]

You just wrote that you're competitive, so you already answered your own question. Keep it up if it's something you really want to do, you'll get there in the end.

[Greg!]

Babes don't give up, I was in tears on my second lesson because I did something similar and ****ed up the guy's car (it wasn't on a dual carriageway mind) give it a few more weeks and if you're still not improving (but I bet you will) then maybe stop the lessons for a bit until you feel ready. :love:

[Good King Glennceslas]

You will have bad lessons and great lessons. Keep at it.

[Jamie89]

I've had about twelve lessons so far but it took me ages to get around not crossing my bloody hands when driving the wheel, and once I've got my head round that suddenly I end up going really **** with my gears. I honestly don't know what to do, it's probably my competitive streak coming out because some people who started after me are a lot lot better and it's just frustrating that I can't get the hang of it.

Oh I had about 50 lessons before I was ready to take my test :laugh: If it's just a competitive thing or you're frustrated about not being as good as you'd like to be yet then I'd keep going with it tbh and just try and put less pressure on yourself. There's so much to think about when your driving and it takes a while to be fully competent at all those things, it all just takes time and practice though, it doesn't mean you're not capable of doing it just because you haven't got the hang of it right away.

[Daniel-X]

I had similar problems, i had trouble stalling the car a lot and struggled picking the right gears to be in. One lesson i got so angry and frustrated i was raging so hard my instructor took over the wheel, drove us to mcdonalds and bought me a meal and basically convinced me it was only a blip and all part of learning. I wouldn't give in, it happens to most people, your instructor should probably do more to reassure you.

Babes don't give up, I was in tears on my second lesson because I did something similar and ****ed up the guy's car (it wasn't on a dual carriageway mind) give it a few more weeks and if you're still not improving (but I bet you will) then maybe stop the lessons for a bit until you feel ready. :love:

You will have bad lessons and great lessons. Keep at it.

These are really comforting to know :love: thank you everyone. I've been massively depressed about it all since it happened on Saturday, I'll just see how this week's lesson goes but I just feel like it's always one step forward and two steps back.

[Samm]

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[lewis111]

I took almost a year to pass my test and done very similar things
I'm pretty sure the avergae number of lessons is like 26/27 so you're bound to make mistakes on lesson 12ish
And remember you only need to be perfect for this test - stuff like crossing your arms when turning or whatever doesn't matter when you're driving yourself

[Amy Jade]

Definitely don't give up, passing my test was the best thing I ever did.

[Christmas Dynasnow]

If you cry when selecting the wrong gear then you are not ready for driving full stop.

You need to pull yourself together, driving is a serious business

You may not like replies like grow up, the reason is that is exactly what you need to do and you know it.

get on with it and learn and enjoy the freedom it brings, feeling sorry for yourself wont pass the test or drive you to Tesco

[Amy Jade]

Ignore LeatherTrumpet.

[Christmas Dynasnow]

Ignore LeatherTrumpet.

yes ignore reality and let members stroke your ego

that wont get you driving

[Amy Jade]

Not stoking anyones ego but a little encouragement goes a long way.

[Greg!]

Almost everyone cries during or after a driving lesson at some point so I don't get what leather trumpet is on about :)

[Christmas Dynasnow]

Almost everyone cries during or after a driving lesson at some point so I don't get what leather trumpet is on about :)

er no they jolly well dont

:umm2:

[Amy Jade]

Almost everyone cries during or after a driving lesson at some point so I don't get what leather trumpet is on about :)

Did they even have driving lessons back when he was young?

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[Christmas Dynasnow]

ageism is as bad as racism, or homophobia


now where is that report button..

[Daniel-X]

If you cry when selecting the wrong gear then you are not ready for driving full stop.

You need to pull yourself together, driving is a serious business

You may not like replies like grow up, the reason is that is exactly what you need to do and you know it.

get on with it and learn and enjoy the freedom it brings, feeling sorry for yourself wont pass the test or drive you to Tesco

If I could've done I would put, LT please refrain from posting in the OP but I'm not that rude :)

I was seriously ill last week (had the flu and had been depressed for the majority of the week) THAT is why I cried. Stop acting all high and mighty as if you're superior to everyone else, we're all human and all make mistakes. This thread was made for the sole purpose so that people could advise me as to what to do. Not so you could make a joke out of me and treat me like a child.

[Jack_]

If I could've done I would put, LT please refrain from posting in the OP but I'm not that rude :)

I was seriously ill last week (had the flu and had been depressed for the majority of the week) THAT is why I cried. Stop acting all high and mighty as if you're superior to everyone else, we're all human and all make mistakes. This thread was made for the sole purpose so that people could advise me as to what to do. Not so you could make a joke out of me and treat me like a child.

I know it's difficult but try not to rise to it

[Christmas Dynasnow]

If I could've done I would put, LT please refrain from posting in the OP but I'm not that rude :)

I was seriously ill last week (had the flu and had been depressed for the majority of the week) THAT is why I cried. Stop acting all high and mighty as if you're superior to everyone else, we're all human and all make mistakes. This thread was made for the sole purpose so that people could advise me as to what to do. Not so you could make a joke out of me and treat me like a child.

if you just want sympathy state so in the OP otherwise do not moan about replies, this is a public forum and as such dont mini-moderate replies

[Daniel-X]

if you just want sympathy state so in the OP otherwise do not moan about replies, this is a public forum and as such dont mini-moderate replies

I wasn't after sympathy at all, if you read my post I was after ADVICE. I included my 'grow up' comment because I knew exactly the type of BILE you would post and thought you might actually refrain from posting.

You learned to drive at twenty four, I saw your post the other day. I'm seventeen. Now please, do stop replying to me.

[Peppermint]

dont mini-moderate replies
:joker:

[Cherry Christmas]

I think you have good lessons followed by bad it's all about the practice, do you get to practice in between Pp lessons honestly it's lesson 12 I think you are being too hard on yourself

[smudgie]

Dont give up.
Have a little break and maybe miss one or two weeks, then you will realise that you really want to learn.
Hubby used to take me out to get confidence for my (real) lessons, scratched all the side of the car coming out of a car park, then once when he said go straight over the next roundabout I took him literally:blush:
But we all get there in the end, tears and laughter are all part of the journey.
Good luck with it Daniel.

[RileyH]

I'd just keep going if I were you for a few more lessons, but if it does keep on like this then I'd stop. But good luck with everything hun :love:

[Will.]

Oh babes that sounds awful.

I’m just doing automatic as I cba with manual and everyone in my family drives automatics so it’s not a big deal.

I tried driving this manual van my dad hired in Summer and I was 5 metres away from crashing it sjsjsjsjsnns

I wouldn’t stop, just do automatic. I have so much more confidence with an automatic.

[Good King Glennceslas]

My cousin is learning to drive and she cried last week, weirdly enough because of gears :suspect:

She had a lesson today that went really well. It happens.
I nearly run over someone in one of my lessons. **** happens. Pick yourself up and carry on.

If you feel like you need to rest it, go for it. It’s your life.

[T*]

Keep at it sis :love: Don't give up and I wouldn't do automatic bc you won't be able to drive a manual on an auto licence where as on the manual license you can drive both, plus Manual cars are cheaper to buy and insure and it's just a good skill in general to have
Hope you're okay!

[Ross.]

You're being too hard on yourself lovey, it takes time and you will get there in the end. It doesn't matter how long it takes you and the worst thing you can do is compare your progress to others so STOP IT, alright?

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And I agree with Tom, stick with the manual as although it may seem easy to just do automatic, manual is a useful skill to have and gives you a lot more options in the future

[Jordan.]

I'm too shook to even start lessons so I already admire your bravery chick. Try not to dwell on negative thoughts and just realise it's a learning curve and part of the process :flowers:

[King Gizzard]

I couldn’t even get past learning the clutches and gears when I did learning for a bit, couldn’t be arsed.

Learned to pretty much drive an automatic truck in the states in about an hour, shame it isn’t socially acceptable in England, much easier

Stick with it tho

[ChristmasNeeve]

I had a melt down in one of my lessons before my test too :laugh: Luckily I had a lovely instructor who gave me lots of motivational talks and I passed my test and I swear his voice was in my head all through it lol Stick with it, you'll be fine, everyone makes stupid mistakes when they're learning :love:

[ChristmasNeeve]

Keep at it sis :love: Don't give up and I wouldn't do automatic bc you won't be able to drive a manual on an auto licence where as on the manual license you can drive both, plus Manual cars are cheaper to buy and insure and it's just a good skill in general to have
Hope you're okay!

Plus once it clicks manual is grand, it can be frustrating at the start though

[Cherry Christmas]

I couldn’t even get past learning the clutches and gears when I did learning for a bit, couldn’t be arsed.

Learned to pretty much drive an automatic truck in the states in about an hour, shame it isn’t socially acceptable in England, much easier

Stick with it tho

I don't this it is an issue whether people drive an automatic or manual, its just as Tom says you get screwed when buying and also with lessons as instructors will only do 2 hour sessions which I think is too long when you are staring off as you are concentrating so much, my son was going to learn in an automatic but ended up doing manual in the end purely because no one would do one hour lessons in an automatic...:umm2:

[RichardG]

I can't even cross the road without nearly getting run over, it will be a while before I go for driving lessons. :laugh: Stick with it though you're half way there now.

[reece(:]

Exactly why I'm taking automatic, gears scare me so much D:

[Daniel-X]

Thanks everyone, this has given me a bit of a confidence boost. I'll stick with manual for a couple of weeks longer but change to automatic if this persists.

[ChristmasNeeve]

Thanks everyone, this has given me a bit of a confidence boost. I'll stick with manual for a couple of weeks longer but change to automatic if this persists.

Do you have your own car or a car belong to a family member that you can practice in? What I used to do was on my lunch breaks in work, I used to spend 45 minutes driving around the industrial estate gearing up and down. It helped practicing off the main road

[Cal.]

I learn manual so you should do manual to be gorgeous like me

[Daniel-X]

I learn manual so you should do manual to be gorgeous like me

You've had one lesson. *stirs drink*

[Cal.]

You've had one lesson. *stirs drink*

2 actually

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[Ashsleigh]

I accidentally threw my car into reverse going down the dual carriageway during one of my lessons. :laugh: All part of learning, making mistakes is also knowing how to avoid them.

[Ant.]

People who have been driving for years make blips and car accidents happen for that reason. No one you know mightn't have slipped up like you did, but you aren't the only one, and I'm sure you aren't in a very small minority.

Driving's very dangerous regardless, but if you want to carry on, you shoudn't let this stop you! It's only natural to have a hiccup here and there x

[Marsh.]

Basically, my confidence has been massively knocked with my driving lessons after last week. I changed the car into the wrong gear on a dual carriageway and panicked, I couldn't get back into the lesson and burst into tears while I was driving. Stuff like this has happened before (minor though compared to this) and it's always a problem to do with me putting the car in the wrong gear or stalling. Now I feel like I should stop learning to drive or drive automatic and was just seeing what anyone else would do?

It sounds pathetic that I'm throwing the towel in after that but I've genuinely had enough, mainly down to the fact that I don't know anyone who's had a blip like that before. Everyone else is better than me and it's horrible having to listen to how much progress everyone is doing when I'm going backwards. I don't want replies like 'grow up :umm2:' etc. so just leave if you have no advice to offer.

How was your instructor with you after these slip ups?

[Marsh.]

I've had about twelve lessons so far but it took me ages to get around not crossing my bloody hands when driving the wheel, and once I've got my head round that suddenly I end up going really **** with my gears. I honestly don't know what to do, it's probably my competitive streak coming out because some people who started after me are a lot lot better and it's just frustrating that I can't get the hang of it.

Don't put yourself down.

Granted, I didn't have some of the problems you've listed but it did take me until about hour 20 for the everything to just click and I was a lot more confident and operating the car smoothly to then start moving on to just concentrating on the manoeuvres properly.

[Marsh.]

Babes don't give up, I was in tears on my second lesson because I did something similar and ****ed up the guy's car (it wasn't on a dual carriageway mind) give it a few more weeks and if you're still not improving (but I bet you will) then maybe stop the lessons for a bit until you feel ready. :love:

I'd advise against this.

If you stop the lessons for a while after your confidence has been knocked like this, it'll be even harder to go back to them and before you know it years have passed and you'll be too scared to start again.

[Marsh.]

once when he said go straight over the next roundabout I took him literally:blush:

:joker::joker::joker:

[Marsh.]

Oh babes that sounds awful.

I’m just doing automatic as I cba with manual and everyone in my family drives automatics so it’s not a big deal.

I tried driving this manual van my dad hired in Summer and I was 5 metres away from crashing it sjsjsjsjsnns

I wouldn’t stop, just do automatic. I have so much more confidence with an automatic.

What a lazy way of driving.

[Will.]

What a lazy way of driving.

SHUT THE **** UP, I don’t know anyone who drives a manual.

[Marsh.]

shut the **** up, i don’t know anyone who drives a manual.

lazy rich people!

[Peppermint]

Dont give up.
Hubby used to take me out to get confidence for my (real) lessons, scratched all the side of the car coming out of a car park, then once when he said go straight over the next roundabout I took him literally:blush:

:laugh2: That's amazing.

[Brillopad]

Never give up

I agree with this. You may take a bit longer than others but you’ll get there in the end. Maybe take a short break to focus then get back in that car. Just focus on that licence.

[Daniel-X]

I've just come back from probably my best lesson yet (I wasn't on a dual carriageway granted) but it went really well, I think the encouragement in here and other circumstances outside of driving have really boosted my confidence. Didn't do one thing wrong.

[RileyH]

omg well done :love:

[Daniel-X]

omg well done :love:

Thank you :love:

[BBUKAUSFAN]

tryed to drive manual once gave up after 15 minuets, Automatic is the way to go no stress at all just foot down and go.