Dirty perv in work

[Amy Jade]

I am fuming, today in work I was on the fast scan lanes and a man came to me saying he didn't know how to use them and could I help, which I did even though he is a regular, after I had helped him he reached over and pulled my jacket and touched my boob, I pulled back and he said he was trying to see my name badge.

I never said much but then on my break I mentioned it and another person said 'ohh Jim? the one in the shorts? He's done that to such and such too'. Made me feel sick this afternoon, dirty old bastard trying to touch up young girls

[RileyH]

should've smacked him

[Firewire]

That’s sexual harassment, you could’ve reported him to the police

[Nicky91]

disgusting i feel bad for you Amy :(

[Mystic Mock]

So he gets away with being a perv because he is an old bastard?

[Crimson Dynamo]

Your manager should deal with this but you need to make a complaint to the manager. Sexual abuse if not acceptable and should be prosecuted.

[Daniel-X]

Report him

[smudgie]

He should be reported and banned from the premises for life.:fist:

[Daniel.]

I think we should call the police :Nadia:

[UserSince2005]

I have my arse grabbed in the gym once.

I made a thread about it I think.

At the time i was shocked like you, but looking back on it it was kind of hot.

[Vicky.]

So common from my experience. Any job working with the public, expect some degree of groping. Bosses don't care, and police laugh and say its part of the job D: Doesn;t seem to happen to males as often as females, but even some blokes I worked with in my teens used to get idiots groping them

[Vicky.]

I should clarify maybe, the bit about police, I did not report someone for groping alone. This was groping and trying to drag me into the loos. Response was basically...nothing actually bad happened, he was just trying it on, get over it. I was 17.

[Crimson Dynamo]

tough for the police in a you against him scenario yes but the store can ban people without the law

[Jordan.]

We always get creepy old men at work I remember one got banned because he made an innuendo about one of the checkout gals groping his banana :skull:

[UserSince2005]

actually i just found the thread where i reported my sexual assault and everyone made a joke out of it and laughed at me, and the thread was closed.

funny how when i girl makes the same thread people give the complete opposite response.

sexism once again on tibb

[Cherie]

We always get creepy old men at work I remember one got banned because he made an innuendo about one of the checkout gals groping his banana :skull:

:joker:

[Cherie]

Did you report it to your manager, if he is a regular the manager should have a word

[the truth]

I've been groped in taxis by women and the odd gay bloke they wereally a bit tipsy I didn't complain but it's rare I'm not exactly Brad Pitt but another driver always gets his pen's grabbed

[Marsh.]

Your manager should deal with this but you need to make a complaint to the manager. Sexual abuse if not acceptable and should be prosecuted.

Hello Jim.

[Marsh.]

actually i just found the thread where i reported my sexual assault and everyone made a joke out of it and laughed at me, and the thread was closed.

funny how when i girl makes the same thread people give the complete opposite response.

sexism once again on tibb

Oh shut up. You just said you were loving it.

[jaxie]

You should definitely report it, you shouldn't have to put up with being groped at work.

[Babayaro.]

Hello Jim.

:joker: fffff

[thesheriff443]

Needs reporting, clearly not an accident, and makes you think how far has he gone or will go to get a fix, has he touched children, if there was doubt then let it go but clearly a sex pest.

[Vicky.]

actually i just found the thread where i reported my sexual assault and everyone made a joke out of it and laughed at me, and the thread was closed.

funny how when i girl makes the same thread people give the complete opposite response.

sexism once again on tibb

Just checked that thread and the deleted posts in it. You were basically making a joke out of sexual abuse. Thats why it was closed.

[caprimint]

We always get creepy old men at work I remember one got banned because he made an innuendo about one of the checkout gals groping his banana :skull:
:joker:

But this is disgusting, you definitely should report him

[ethanjames]

always report it. nobody should be aloud to do that in any circumstance.

[Gusto Brunt]

Disgusting filthy piece of scum. I hate 'people' like that. :mad:

[Amy Jade]

I mentioned it today to my section leader and to be honest he made me feel stupid for speaking up.

He said was he actually trying to see your badge though? I said well if he was he clearly shouldn't be attempting to touch me anyway especially where he did and I said other people knew who it was straight away and I was just uncomfortable in general and he said 'ok Amy we'll send someone in to look after you if he comes in while you're in ok?'

So basically wish I'd just kept my mouth shut and just mentioned it to someone if he comes to me again and they can take over

[Marsh.]

I mentioned it today to my section leader and to be honest he made me feel stupid for speaking up.

He said was he actually trying to see your badge though? I said well if he was he clearly shouldn't be attempting to touch me anyway especially where he did and I said other people knew who it was straight away and I was just uncomfortable in general and he said 'ok Amy we'll send someone in to look after you if he comes in while you're in ok?'

So basically wish I'd just kept my mouth shut and just mentioned it to someone if he comes to me again and they can take over

That's ridiculous. And quite patronising.

That's another way of saying "This issue is yours and yours alone so we'll send someone to look after you when he's around". Pathetic.

[caprimint]

Yeah not a good response at all, sounds like he didn't really know what to suggest

[Beso]

I mentioned it today to my section leader and to be honest he made me feel stupid for speaking up.

He said was he actually trying to see your badge though? I said well if he was he clearly shouldn't be attempting to touch me anyway especially where he did and I said other people knew who it was straight away and I was just uncomfortable in general and he said 'ok Amy we'll send someone in to look after you if he comes in while you're in ok?'

So basically wish I'd just kept my mouth shut and just mentioned it to someone if he comes to me again and they can take over

Take time off..quit if he dont go.....get a nice fat cheque.

[Marsh.]

If it happens again go over his head.

The boss you spoke to not the perv.

[Vanessa]

It happened to me in my previous workplace. The guy kept grabbing my arse at work. I was glad when i was moved to another department. :fist:

[Cherie]

It happened to me in my previous workplace. The guy kept grabbing my arse at work. I was glad when i was moved to another department. :fist:

why wasn't he removed?

[Vanessa]

why wasn't he removed?

I didn't think ll anyone. At the time I was ashamed. :(

[Cherie]

I didn't think ll anyone. At the time I was ashamed. :(

:sad:

[DemolitionRed]

I mentioned it today to my section leader and to be honest he made me feel stupid for speaking up.

He said was he actually trying to see your badge though? I said well if he was he clearly shouldn't be attempting to touch me anyway especially where he did and I said other people knew who it was straight away and I was just uncomfortable in general and he said 'ok Amy we'll send someone in to look after you if he comes in while you're in ok?'

So basically wish I'd just kept my mouth shut and just mentioned it to someone if he comes to me again and they can take over

Absolutely not acceptable. Your section leader has a responsibility to look after his staff, it comes under 'duty of care'. I hope you have the courage to take this complaint the next step up from your section leader and be sure to tell that person what your section leader said. If you don't want to take it that far, you need to approach your section leader next time you're in and tell him you are not satisfied with his response and would like him to reconsider what's to be done about the man who groped you. Before he has the chance to reply, you need to tell him that you'd prefer not to take this to his manager but won't hesitate to do so if he can't sort it out.

[Vanessa]

:sad:

It's ok. I'm so much happier in this department. Everyone is great and we have a laugh. Some men are just creeps.

[Vanessa]

Sexual harassment is unacceptable. It's not part of the job at all l. We all have the right to work without fear if some twat getting too close.

[DemolitionRed]

Oh and keep a diary of events.

[UserSince2005]

Oh shut up. You just said you were loving it.

errr i was very upset at the time, and no one cared. the shock was a bit much for me.

[UserSince2005]

Just checked that thread and the deleted posts in it. You were basically making a joke out of sexual abuse. Thats why it was closed.

Thats not how i remember it, i recall being very upset, somewhat traumatised.

[Beso]

Put your name badge on your fist next time he comes in.

[user104658]

I mentioned it today to my section leader and to be honest he made me feel stupid for speaking up.

He said was he actually trying to see your badge though? I said well if he was he clearly shouldn't be attempting to touch me anyway especially where he did and I said other people knew who it was straight away and I was just uncomfortable in general and he said 'ok Amy we'll send someone in to look after you if he comes in while you're in ok?'

So basically wish I'd just kept my mouth shut and just mentioned it to someone if he comes to me again and they can take over

wtf? Is this a large company or chain? If it is, report your "section leader" because he's dangerously incompetent and needs retraining, if not busted down a level. His response to this situation practically leaves them wide open to a lawsuit if you go to a doctor and claim that you've been psychologically affected by the incident (anxiety, fear of people touching you, etc.)


As for the "customer", considering he's done this to at least two staff members, he should be banned from the premises and given a trespass notice. If he violates that he can be arrested. I've had people barred for as little as swearing at staff... physically touching a staff member either aggressively or inappropriately would be a swift boot out the door instantly.

[Amy Jade]

I won't take it further unless it happens again I don't think. If somebody who knows me wonders if I was overreacting then others could to? I will avoid the man if he comes in again, there are a few guys where I work who will step in.