What dating sites/apps have you used in the past?

[Withano]

Any success stories?

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

grindr and squirt

[Withano]

Wtf is squirt :joker:

[Crimson Dynamo]

yes i used one called zoosk and scored a hit with the first girl i properly contacted

it was a pic of the TL holding a tarantula as it goes and it was in focus and correctly posed

I was however shocked by the terrible use of photographs by the women

[RileyH]

not squirt :skull:

but none

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

it’s like a hookup site it’s more sleazy than grindr though :worry:

[Withano]

it’s more sleazy than grindr

Oh hun.

[Jamie89]

Grindr and Hornet... define 'success stories' :laugh:

[RileyH]

Grindr and Hornet... define 'success stories' :laugh:

did you get a shag out of it or not

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

isn’t hornet for classy business gays or s/t

[King Gizzard]

Just POF, and lasted about three days on that

[Jamie89]

did you get a shag out of it or not

Grindr - yes, Hornet - a classy business luncheon

[RileyH]

Grindr - yes, Hornet - a classy business luncheon

ooh how classy?

[Amy Jade]

Tinder

[Withano]

Just POF, and lasted about three days on that

POF is ****ing gross! I cant believe I forgot about it! The people on there are a whole other species.

[Withano]

define 'success stories' :laugh:

I was honestly thinking along the lines of 'any long term relationships' but that isnt half as fun!

[MTVN]

I have used Tinder but have not actually met anyone from it so don't know if it counts. I have met someone from Happn but it didn't go very far

[Ant.]

Blued, Christiansingles, POF, eHarmony, Recon, muddymatches and snapchat, if that counts

[Niamh.]

There was no such thing as an app the last time I was single so none [emoji14]

[UserSince2005]

Grindr, Hornet, Scruff, Tinder, somewhat active on all at the moment but having the most success on Chappy TBH

[Ashley.]

None. :hee:

[jaxie]

I've never needed to use anything like that, they werent really around when I was dating. Met MrJaxie at the fair went with a group of friends and he came along with one. I don't do rides and things, they got me on the waltzer and after I threw up. He stayed with me, stroked my back and took me home after. And he looked like a young Tom Cruise. A winner all the way.

[Ashley.]

I've never needed to use anything like that, they werent really around when I was dating. Met MrJaxie at the fair went with a group of friends and he came along with one. I don't do rides and things, they got me on the waltzer and after I threw up. He stayed with me, stroked my back and took me home after. And he looked like a young Tom Cruise. A winner all the way.

:lovedup:

[Withano]

I tried for like a month about 2 years ago but then remembered I hate people so deleted my account

[Babayaro.]

Just Tinder. It seems to have broke though...


:think:

[Locke.]

Just Tinder.

[Josy]

There was no such thing as an app the last time I was single so none [emoji14]

This.

We had to go out and actually socialise, I find all the dating apps and stuff these days quite sad if I'm honest.

[Ashley.]

This.

We had to go out and actually socialise, I find all the dating apps and stuff these days quite sad if I'm honest.

It's definitely sad that it's become so popular. Surely they ruin the magic of meeting someone from just being in the right place at the right time, rather than scrolling through the profiles of complete strangers to find someone you may have a chance of being compatible with based solely on how they've chosen to present themselves. It just doesn't sound fun, or magical or romantic.

[Josy]

It's definitely sad that it's become so popular. Surely they ruin the magic of meeting someone from just being in the right place at the right time, rather than scrolling through the profiles of complete strangers to find someone you may have a chance of being compatible with based solely on how they've chosen to present themselves. It just doesn't sound fun, or magical or romantic.

Couldn't agree more

[Niamh.]

This.

We had to go out and actually socialise, I find all the dating apps and stuff these days quite sad if I'm honest.

I agree with this for younger people, I think it must get harder to meet people though when you get older

[Denver]

Im not sad

[Jeol]

Met my boyfriend on tinder, didn't realise how addicted I was to swiping until I deleted my account!

[Nicky91]

none, i don't even know what a dating site is :laugh:

[caprimint]

Signed up to Badoo and Lovoo some years ago, met someone off Lovoo and he was really nice. Signed up to POF before I moved to London to meet some people in the area (not really intended for relationship purposes), and I met a few people off there who were also awesome people. I'd say POF is easily the best from my experience.

[Locke.]

It's definitely sad that it's become so popular. Surely they ruin the magic of meeting someone from just being in the right place at the right time, rather than scrolling through the profiles of complete strangers to find someone you may have a chance of being compatible with based solely on how they've chosen to present themselves. It just doesn't sound fun, or magical or romantic.

Not sure what you're talking about, there is nothing more romantic than getting a notification from Tinder about a new match, unlocking your phone at world record speed, loading up your matches, and discovering that it's just some grenade you accidentally swiped right on when you were pissed a few nights ago. An exhilarating experience you can't get at the local coffee shop

[Gusto Brunt]

I've used OKCupid, Oasis, Badoo, Freedating, Plenty of Fish and another one - the name escapes me.

I've dated a few women on there. When I say dated, I mean just one date per woman. They're okay chatting online but when it comes to the meet - or date - they're different people.

I was chatting to a woman at the weekend. She was sending really long messages on char, and then I said I had to answer the door, and when I came back, she had blocked me. :D

[Marsh.]

This.

We had to go out and actually socialise, I find all the dating apps and stuff these days quite sad if I'm honest.

Not judgemental at all.

It isn't like the sad pervs in the chat rooms back in the 90s.

People use the apps to organise social meet ups.

And not always sexual meet ups. :nono:

[Josy]

Not judgemental at all.

It isn't like the sad pervs in the chat rooms back in the 90s.

People use the apps to organise social meet ups.

And not always sexual meet ups. :nono:Not judgemental just my opinion on dating apps and sites, and thats specifically what my opinion was on using the apps for sex and or dating, the title of the thread outlines dating not social meetups

[Jamie89]

Not judgemental just my opinion on dating apps and sites, and thats specifically what my opinion was on using the apps for sex and or dating, the title of the thread outlines dating not social meetupsDating is a social meet up though. I used them a fair bit when I first moved to London and I didn't know many people to go out with but I still wanted to go out on dates, I dont see how that's sad :shrug:
Lots of people just use the apps for titillation and get off on chatting and swapping pics etc and that's where it can be really anti-social and even unhealthy though, but other that it can aid a social life rather than be detrimental to it.

[Jamie89]

They're also really helpful for people who don't get out very much, like a friend of mine is disabled and doesn't leave the house very often (and hates bars and clubs etc because of access) but he occasionally meets people after chatting and getting to know them online, so they have a huge benefit to people like him.

[Josy]

Dating is a social meet up though. I used them a fair bit when I first moved to London and I didn't know many people to go out with but I still wanted to go out on dates, I dont see how that's sad :shrug:
Lots of people just use the apps for titillation and get off on chatting and swapping pics etc and that's where it can be really anti-social and even unhealthy though, but other that it can aid a social life rather than be detrimental to it.Im not saying the people using them are sad the whole aspect of it i find sad...

[Rob!]

Im not saying the people using them are sad the whole aspect of it i find sad...

Is that like the guns are dangerous, just the people holding them are argument?

[Josy]

Is that like the guns are dangerous, just the people holding them are argument?No its me saying I find the whole dating site thing to be sad, hopefully thats clear enough for you Rob

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

:skull:

[Marsh.]

Not judgemental just my opinion on dating apps and sites, and thats specifically what my opinion was on using the apps for sex and or dating, the title of the thread outlines dating not social meetups
I meant dating. Meeting up with someone looking for a potential partner is dating.

Grindr and it's ilk have the seedy reputation but the mainstream ones are largely used by ordinary people looking for ordinary dates.

[Marsh.]

No its me saying I find the whole dating site thing to be sad, hopefully thats clear enough for you Rob
Yes that fits into the metaphor he used.

[Josy]

I meant dating. Meeting up with someone looking for a potential partner is dating.

Grindr and it's ilk have the seedy reputation but the mainstream ones are largely used by ordinary people looking for ordinary dates.Yeah i know all that marsh, doesnt change my opinion :shrug:

[Rob!]

No its me saying I find the whole dating site thing to be sad, hopefully thats clear enough for you Rob

Yes, well it's not exactly an open minded opinion. In the digital age, the statistics of people who meet and stay together through these sort of apps are huge. It helps people who are less confident get to know people, or allowing folk to get in contact with people who are suitable for them who live a longer distance away. There's nothing sad about it.

[Josy]

Yes, well it's not exactly an open minded opinion. In the digital age, the statistics of people who meet and stay together through these sort of apps are huge. It helps people who are less confident get to know people, or allowing folk to get in contact with people who are suitable for them who live a longer distance away. There's nothing sad about it.Theres nothing sad about it in your opinion, I disagree.

[Rob!]

Theres nothing sad about it in your opinion, I disagree.

So why do you feel that way? What is sad about it?

[Josy]

So why do you feel that way? What is sad about it?Its sad that people are turning more and more towards technology for things like socialising, dating meeting people etc rather than go out and live life rather than sit staring at a screen (yes it can be good for people that have trouble going out etc which ive always said in similar threads) I also find peoples addictions and over use of social media to be another massive negative point of the internet.

Yes you can throw out statistics about the positive side of online dating but theres also negatives to match, like couples that meet online then marry are three times more likely to get divorced, 20 odd percent of couples that started dating online dont last a year and so on.

Of course for some it will work, fair play to them but IMO people should be out there, socialising, interacting and meeting people face to face, not getting excited at the thought of being matched with someone who enjoys the same tv show as they do.

[Marsh.]

Yeah i know all that marsh, doesnt change my opinion :shrug:
Well your response insinuated a social meet up was different to dating.

I was correcting you not trying to change your opinion. :hee:

[Josy]

Well your response insinuated a social meet up was different to dating.

I was correcting you not trying to change your opinion. :hee:Theres many variations of a social meet up marsh and yes some are different to dating, please keep that in mind the next time you attend a birthday party

[Marsh.]

Theres many variations of a social meet up marsh and yes some are different to dating, please keep that in mind the next time you attend a birthday party

We're not discussing birthday parties, we're discussing arranging meet ups via DATING apps.

I don't know about you but I don't attend strangers birthday parties. :hee:

[Josy]

We're not discussing birthday parties, we're discussing arranging meet ups via DATING apps.

I don't know about you but I don't attend strangers birthday parties. :hee:Nice diversion tactic.

Make your mind up what it is your actually disagreeing with me about.

[Marsh.]

Nice diversion tactic.

Make your mind up what it is your actually disagreeing with me about.

Diversion from what? :umm2:

You responded to my original post as though I was discussing meet ups with friends. I corrected you, any meet ups arranged via a dating app are for dating purposes. Obviously.

[Josy]

The wording in your reply to me suggests otherwise until of course I pointed what the thread was actually about then you changed your tune ;)

Not judgemental at all.

It isn't like the sad pervs in the chat rooms back in the 90s.

People use the apps to organise social meet ups.

And not always sexual meet ups. :nono:

[Niamh.]

I know what you mean Josy, it's a bit sad in general how apps and social media have taken over real life socialising I think. I see it with my kids as well, they go out with their friends a lot less then we would have at their age, they face time or snap chat or interact on the PS4 a lot more often.

[Josy]

I know what you mean Josy, it's a bit sad in general how apps and social media have taken over real life socialising I think. I see it with my kids as well, they go out with their friends a lot less then we would have at their age, they face time or snap chat or interact on the PS4 a lot more often.Yep, its such an obvious difference now from years ago, just an example but some of my nieces and nephews will sit on their tablets or phones when its a lovely day outside when really they should be out enjoying it whilst they can

[Rob!]

Its sad that people are turning more and more towards technology for things like socialising, dating meeting people etc rather than go out and live life rather than sit staring at a screen (yes it can be good for people that have trouble going out etc which ive always said in similar threads).

How can you say that as the admin of an internet forum? :laugh: This whole place is where people with similar interests can gather and discuss and chat and make friends. How is it any different?

[Cal.]

I just label people I find attractive as my boyfriend irl anyway

I have about 20 boyfriends atm and none of them know they're in a relationship with me

[Josy]

How can you say that as the admin of an internet forum? [emoji23] This whole place is where people with similar interests can gather and discuss and chat and make friends. How is it any different?Its completely different from dating sites and apps in the sense that none of us joined this forum to find a date or meet up with others, its a disussion forum....

[Niamh.]

How can you say that as the admin of an internet forum? :laugh: This whole place is where people with similar interests can gather and discuss and chat and make friends. How is it any different?

I don't have the time or energy for anymore real life friends :fan:

[UserSince2005]

at the end of the day if i want to **** someone tonight it could be happening in 5 minutes. literally. london is cray.

[Ant.]

I just label people I find attractive as my boyfriend irl anyway

I have about 20 boyfriends atm and none of them know they're in a relationship with me

OMG Someone else does this :love:

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

Yes, well it's not exactly an open minded opinion. In the digital age, the statistics of people who meet and stay together through these sort of apps are huge. It helps people who are less confident get to know people, or allowing folk to get in contact with people who are suitable for them who live a longer distance away. There's nothing sad about it.

https://i.imgur.com/GeVFJHv.gif

[Marsh.]

The wording in your reply to me suggests otherwise until of course I pointed what the thread was actually about then you changed your tune ;)

How is that post not in the context of dating?

The differentiation between a sexual hookup/pervs in chat rooms in the 90s to meeting someone new in a social context?

YOU are the one who was confused, for no conceivable reason.

But whatever.

[Withano]

I don't even really understand how a date without an app would work really. Like how would you know that you liked each other pre-date? Or would you go to the date to find out if you like each other? That doesn't seem too time-efficient.

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

other than meeting someone on a night out how do people meet anyway? like is it considered normal to bump into someone at tesco and ask them out on a date or

[Josy]

How is that post not in the context of dating?

The differentiation between a sexual hookup/pervs in chat rooms in the 90s to meeting someone new in a social context?

YOU are the one who was confused, for no conceivable reason.

But whatever.Lol its not my fault you got mixed up and lost track of what you were disagreeing with lmao so yeah whatever...

[Josy]

I don't even really understand how a date without an app would work really. Like how would you know that you liked each other pre-date? Or would you go to the date to find out if you like each other? That doesn't seem too time-efficient.Well thats where apps ruin the dating thing IMO, people used to go out to clubs pubs, social gatherings etc make eye contact, feel an attraction to someone, and take it from there, there was no rush but these days its too easy to not put any effort in because there will always be someone else when you swipe left.

[Marsh.]

Lol its not my fault you got mixed up and lost track of what you were disagreeing with lmao do yeah whatever...

I haven't lost track?

Instead of baiting, actually explain what you're talking about.

You were the one to tell me my opinion wasn't about dating when it clearly was. Differentiating between an app that's rather seedy and all about casual sex and what that is about dating and finding a potential partner.

But, again, whatever.

[Marsh.]

Well thats where apps ruin the dating thing IMO, people used to go out to clubs pubs, social gatherings etc make eye contact, feel an attraction to someone, and take it from there, there was no rush but these days its too easy to not put any effort in because there will always be someone else when you swipe left.

Just as there is already a thousand other people in the bar. How is it any different?

[Marsh.]

other than meeting someone on a night out how do people meet anyway? like is it considered normal to bump into someone at tesco and ask them out on a date or

I think Josy was introduced to suitors by her papa at the village dance.

[Josy]

I haven't lost track?

Instead of baiting, actually explain what you're talking about.

You were the one to tell me my opinion wasn't about dating when it clearly was. Differentiating between an app that's rather seedy and all about casual sex and what that is about dating and finding a potential partner.

But, again, whatever.How am i baiting? Theres nothing to explain its all there to read, you worded your comment in a silly way whilst sarcastically accusing me of being judgemental then tried to backtrack.

Social meetups do not solely mean dating no matter how much you try to say they do, go google it.

[Josy]

I think Josy was introduced to suitors by her papa at the village dance.No I just actually left my house to socialise instead of depending on an app to tell me I match up with someone ;)

What was that you said about baiting...

[Withano]

Well thats where apps ruin the dating thing IMO, people used to go out to clubs pubs, social gatherings etc make eye contact, feel an attraction to someone, and take it from there, there was no rush but these days its too easy to not put any effort in because there will always be someone else when you swipe left.

Oh.. but then I feel like there must have been a swap or a shift in priorities.

I would be distraught if a friend left my side at a club or a pub because his eyes met with some bloody stranger.. I feel like to have old-style dating, you would have to give up new-style socialising with friends?

I'm much more content with the idea of a friend swiping left and right at home and then coming to enjoy a night out with friends, than the idea of someone doing a 2-birds-1-stone type thing and trying to chat up new gash in between dancing terribly to music we hate, and smoking delicious cigarettes.

[Josy]

Oh.. but then I feel like there must have been a swap or a shift in priorities.

I would be distraught if a friend left my side at a club or a pub because his eyes met with some bloody stranger.. I feel like to have old-style dating, you would have to give up new-style socialising with friends?

I'm much more content with the idea of a friend swiping left and right at home and then coming to enjoy a night out with friends, than the idea of someone doing a 2-birds-1-stone type thing and trying to chat up new gash in between dancing terribly to music we hate, and smoking delicious cigarettes.So on nights out you only speak to and socialise with those you were out with to start with? Genuinely curious..

[Marsh.]

No I just actually left my house to socialise instead of depending on an app to tell me I match up with someone ;)

What was that you said about baiting...

Yes, because the app isn't used to then.... meet up with people.

And also, the apps are only used by unsociable dregs of society. Oh wait, it's actually very mainstream.

[Josy]

other than meeting someone on a night out how do people meet anyway? like is it considered normal to bump into someone at tesco and ask them out on a date orPeople meet in all different ways or they used to lol, through mutual friends, college/uni, work, at clubs for hobbies and so on

[Marsh.]

How am i baiting? Theres nothing to explain its all there to read, you worded your comment in a silly way whilst sarcastically accusing me of being judgemental then tried to backtrack.

Social meetups do not solely mean dating no matter how much you try to say they do, go google it.

I didn't word it in a silly way.

I never said social meet ups "solely" mean dating. I said it was clear I was referring to dating as that is what this thread is about. You referenced how "sad" you found the apps so I offered the difference between what I would deem the "sad" aspect of the apps (the seedy/dangerous stranger sex aspect and the old stereotype of meeting people online being the dirty pervs or the chat rooms of the 90s) and aiding the traditional dating as a social activity (meeting up for drinks/a meal/a movie/whatever).

But, yeah, I was clearly diverting... because you said.

[Marsh.]

Oh.. but then I feel like there must have been a swap or a shift in priorities.

I would be distraught if a friend left my side at a club or a pub because his eyes met with some bloody stranger.. I feel like to have old-style dating, you would have to give up new-style socialising with friends?

I'm much more content with the idea of a friend swiping left and right at home and then coming to enjoy a night out with friends, than the idea of someone doing a 2-birds-1-stone type thing and trying to chat up new gash in between dancing terribly to music we hate, and smoking delicious cigarettes.

Tbh, that's another positive. At least with the apps you know when you meet up (on the proviso they are who they say they are) you at least already know you will have something in common with the person and therefore if all else fails it won't be a 100% disaster.

[Withano]

So on nights out you only speak to and socialise with those you were out with to start with? Genuinely curious..

Probably about 75-85% of the time yeah. There might be an old friend to bump in to, a friends old friend, or a stranger who has a lighter for my delicious cigarettes.

I dont think I've ever been ditched by a friend for a stranger that a friend has found attractive from a distance in a bar. That sounds heartbreaking! I don't think I could ever do that to someone I planned a night out with either! Seems cruel almost to ask them to go out for drinks and ditch them as soon as a stranger gives you a wink.

[Josy]

Yes, because the app isn't used to then.... meet up with people.

And also, the apps are only used by unsociable dregs of society. Oh wait, it's actually very mainstream.I never replied at first because again your comment made no sense before the edit.

I dont think ive ever said dating apps werent mainstream so not sure where youre going with that...

[Josy]

Probably about 75-85% of the time yeah. There might be an old friend to bump in to, a friends old friend, or a stranger who has a lighter for my delicious cigarettes.

I dont think I've ever been ditched by a friend for a stranger that a friend has found attractive from a distance in a bar. That sounds heartbreaking! I don't think I could ever do that to someone I planned a night out with either! Seems cruel almost to ask them to go out for drinks and ditch them as soon as a stranger gives you a wink.Fair enough lol

[Withano]

Tbh, that's another positive. At least with the apps you know when you meet up (on the proviso they are who they say they are) you at least already know you will have something in common with the person and therefore if all else fails it won't be a 100% disaster.

Yeh, thats the main positive for me. I haven't used them for a year and a half, and I'm not planning on using one any time soon. But I'd imagine a date would be far more interesting if you knew two or three shared interests beforehand.

[Marsh.]

I never replied at first because again your comment made no sense before the edit.

I dont think ive ever said dating apps werent mainstream so not sure where youre going with that...

I never said you did. I was picking up on your insinuation to Scott about how you used to socialise and actually go out and meet people. That insinuates those on these apps are unsociable and don't go out to meet people? Yes?

Even though these apps are designed for people to arrange actual meet ups of course.

[Josy]

I never said you did. I was picking up on your insinuation to Scott about how you used to socialise and actually go out and meet people. That insinuates those on these apps are unsociable and don't go out to meet people? Yes?

Even though these apps are designed for people to arrange actual meet ups of course.Youre getting a bit caught up with thinking everything I post is insinuating something.

[Marsh.]

Youre getting a bit caught up with thinking everything I post is insinuating something.

:joker:

There is no other reason for you to flippantly come out with sentences like "We used to actually go out and socialise" unless you think the current method is the opposite.

Now who's diverting?

[Josy]

:joker:

There is no other reason for you to flippantly come out with sentences like "We used to actually go out and socialise" unless you think the current method is the opposite.

Now who's diverting?I think if you scroll back youll find it was your baiting post about myself that I replied to with that comment.

[Marsh.]

I think if you scroll back youll find it was your baiting post about myself that I replied to with that comment.

Whatever. It was still a comment you made in relation to your stance on the topic. You made a similar comment to Niamh, the actual post I originally responded to.

[Josy]

Whatever. It was still a comment you made in relation to your stance on the topic.No it was just a snidey reply you and your baiting tbh :shrug:

Anyway, you like dating apps and clearly took offence to me having a negative opinion about them, dont think theres much more to discuss between us regarding it.

[Marsh.]

No it was just a snidey reply you and your baiting tbh :shrug:

Anyway, you like dating apps and clearly took offence to me having a negative opinion about them, dont think theres much more to discuss between us regarding it.

Well, I don't use the apps so whether that defines me as personally "liking" them is up to you.

Not offended, but felt the need to respond to your disparaging and judgemental view, yeah. A view you're entitled to have, but when it's based on what I see as a misguided view on something I will comment where I think you're viewing it wrong.

Obviously, without all of the hullabaloo about dating as a social activity in the middle.

[Marsh.]

Can I also commend you for using the word "baiting" in every post since I mentioned it. :joker:

[Josy]

Well, I don't use the apps so whether that defines me as personally "liking" them is up to you.

Not offended, but felt the need to respond to your disparaging and judgemental view, yeah. A view you're entitled to have, but when it's based on what I see as a misguided view on something I will comment where I think you're viewing it wrong.

Obviously, without all of the hullabaloo about dating as a social activity in the middle.My views are neither disparaging or judgmental but carry on.

[Jake.]

For those who don’t have the confidence to approach people on a night out or wherever, they’re a pretty good option to have

[caprimint]

other than meeting someone on a night out how do people meet anyway? like is it considered normal to bump into someone at tesco and ask them out on a date or
:joker:

Someone actually came up to me the other day in Tesco asking where I live and I was like I have a bf and he looked so awkward and just walked away and apologized

[Marsh.]

My views are neither disparaging or judgmental but carry on.

Well I'm entitled to the opinion that it is.

You basically called them all unsocial and sad. "Divert" and deny all you want, but you did because of a misguided view of the apps themselves.

[Jake.]

oh + I personally don’t see a difference between talking to people on an internet forum/making friends from it in real life and talking to someone through an app any different (regardless on wherever it’s to do with dating).

[Josy]

oh + I personally don’t see a difference between talking to people on an internet forum/making friends from it in real life and talking to someone through an app any different (regardless on wherever it’s to do with dating).Well the main difference would be you never joined this forum to date and/or meet up with people? That only happened by chance through time.

[Niamh.]

I don't even really understand how a date without an app would work really. Like how would you know that you liked each other pre-date? Or would you go to the date to find out if you like each other? That doesn't seem too time-efficient.You don't understand how a date without an app would work? How did people ever get together before computers then? [emoji23] body language, speaking to each other, flirting. . .

[Niamh.]

I think Josy was introduced to suitors by her papa at the village dance.So rude

[Marsh.]

So rude

As was Josy but never mind. :shrug:

[Jake.]

Well the main difference would be you never joined this forum to date and/or meet up with people? That only happened by chance through time.

But I joined to chat with people, no?

[Marsh.]

But I joined to chat with people, no?

Completely agree.

[Josy]

But I joined to chat with people, no?Yeah to chat about bb but whats that got to do with a dating app :think:

[Jake.]

Yeah to chat about bb but whats that got to do with a dating app :think:

Because it’s socialising through the internet?

[Marsh.]

Yeah to chat about bb but whats that got to do with a dating app :think:

Well, it all encompasses socialising. Whether there's an intent to begin with to finding a partner/a friend or not, it's about connecting with others and seeing what happens.

[Marsh.]

Because it’s socialising through the internet?

I agree.
And dating by its nature is a socialising activity.

[Jake.]

Like if I’m happy meeting people on a Big Brother forum/posting photos on instagram/tweeting and what not on twitter and so on, I don’t feel like I’m in a place to rule out a dating app

[Niamh.]

I'm so confused I thought the thread starter meant dating sites as in to find a romantic partner, is that not it?

[Marsh.]

I'm so confused I thought the thread starter meant dating sites as in to go d a romantic partner, is that not it?

Yes. :joker: Jake's drawing a parallel between that and other online socialising, it all relates tbh and isn't much different.

People make friends/partners on twitter and that's not designed for dating either.

[Jake.]

I'm so confused I thought the thread starter meant dating sites as in to go d a romantic partner, is that not it?

Dating apps can just be talking tbf, sometimes nothing even comes of it date-wise

[Josy]

Because it’s socialising through the internet?Right but its not used to replace socialising face to face is it, a dating app is replacing the social aspect of dating, face to face first meetings, first impressions etc

[Marsh.]

Dating apps can just be talking, sometimes nothing comes of talking to people date-wise

Yeah, it would be no different to meeting someone in a bar and arranging to go for a meal with them but then nothing coming of that one date.

[Marsh.]

Right but its not used to replace socialising face to face is it, a dating app is replacing the social aspect of dating, face to face first meetings, first impressions etc

But you still get that?

These people aren't having completely online relationships. They're networking online and arranging to meet people. The app is there to arrange it, not to replace a real relationship.

You'll still get first impressions and a first face to face meeting. Meeting someone face to face will still be fresh and new no matter if you already know you share an interest in Fifa.

[Jake.]

Right but its not used to replace socialising face to face is it, a dating app is replacing the social aspect of dating, face to face first meetings, first impressions etc

How is it not? I’m sure plenty of people on here (along other forums) use it as their was of socialising?

[Jake.]

Like I don’t even get how you’d meet someone face to face and arrange a date unless you was confident in doing so, I know I’m not. Dating apps can eliminate that awkward first step for some people.

[Josy]

I'm so confused I thought the thread starter meant dating sites as in to find a romantic partner, is that not it?Yeah thats where the confusion started earlier in the thread i was talking about the dating point of the thread then someone brought up social meet ups (which isnt dating imo) then rob compared a dating app to tibb which i just dont get since im pretty sure none of us joined tibb to find a date

[Marsh.]

then someone brought up social meet ups (which isnt dating imo)

No meeting someone socially to go for a drink (as opposed to meeting for casual sex) or whatever isn't dating.

Ok Josy.

[Josy]

Dating apps can just be talking tbf, sometimes nothing even comes of it date-wiseYeah maybe but thats not the point of them really is it

[Jake.]

Yeah maybe but thats not the point of them really is it

Depends what the person is using it for I guess

[Marsh.]

Yeah thats where the confusion started earlier in the thread i was talking about the dating point of the thread then someone brought up social meet ups (which isnt dating imo) then rob compared a dating app to tibb which i just dont get since im pretty sure none of us joined tibb to find a date

That's like saying "You went on that night out for your best friend's birthday, you didn't go out specifically looking for a date so happening to meet someone there doesn't really count".

[Jamie89]

I know what you mean Josy, it's a bit sad in general how apps and social media have taken over real life socialising I think. I see it with my kids as well, they go out with their friends a lot less then we would have at their age, they face time or snap chat or interact on the PS4 a lot more often.People join dating sites with the intent to go out and socialise though tbf, like that's the end goal with it, going out on dates.

For a lot of people as well they go out to meet people as well as use dating sites. Truth is not everyone's going to be lucky enough to bump into someone that they want to spend the rest of their lives with, it just doesn't happen for everyone, so why not widen the net lol? I think a much sadder thought is that option not being available and those people resigning themselves to loneliness tbh.

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

I think Josy was introduced to suitors by her papa at the village dance.

IM SCREAMiNF

[Niamh.]

People join dating sites with the intent to go out and socialise though tbf, like that's the end goal with it, going out on dates.

For a lot of people as well they go out to meet people as well as use dating sites. Truth is not everyone's going to be lucky enough to bump into someone that they want to spend the rest of their lives with, it just doesn't happen for everyone, so why not widen the net lol? I think a much sadder thought is that option not being available and those people resigning themselves to loneliness tbh.Yeah I said earlier I can definitely see how it would be good for older people because it's harder to meet people then I think, I suppose I'm just thinking about when I was a teenager/early twenties it was easy to meet people by just going out or through friends etc I don't mean people are sad for using them, I mean it would be sad if meeting people that way is lost to apps

[Withano]

You don't understand how a date without an app would work? How did people ever get together before computers then? [emoji23] body language, speaking to each other, flirting. . .

Yeah! I know they existed. But like the step through step process doesn't really make sense

Like step 1: Your eyes meet an actual strangers eyes in a bar? (Not in my world, you look at me, I'm calling the police).
2: approach them? (kinda weird)
3: compliment them? (Weirdo mate)
4: ask them on a date? (That cant be right? Thats way too soon?)
5: be on date with a stranger and guess each others interests? (Whut)
6: hope it goes well etc - i get how it works from there I suppose.. its just the first several steps that confuse me!

[Niamh.]

Yeah! I know they existed. But like the step through step process doesn't really make sense

Like step 1: Your eyes meet an actual strangers eyes in a bar? (Not in my world, you look at me, I'm calling the police).
2: approach them? (kinda weird)
3: compliment them? (Weirdo mate)
4: ask them on a date? (That cant be right? Thats way too soon?)
5: be on date with a stranger and guess each others interests? (Whut)
6: hope it goes well etc - i get how it works from there I suppose.. its just the first several steps that confuse me!This post is just making the case for me [emoji23] thank goodness you're good at other stuff Withano

[reece(:]

You don't understand how a date without an app would work? How did people ever get together before computers then? [emoji23] body language, speaking to each other, flirting. . .

Aka inebriation?

[Withano]

This post is just making the case for me [emoji23] thank goodness you're good at other stuff Withano

Tbf the concept of dating apps and websites is mostly lost on me too.. but it does make more sense to me than however dates came about in a pre-app world!

[Niamh.]

Tbf the concept of dating apps and websites is mostly lost on me too.. but it does make more sense to me than however dates came about in a pre-app world![emoji23]

[Babayaro.]

I think Josy was introduced to suitors by her papa at the village dance.

:joker::joker:

[user104658]

Tbh I do find dating apps (the entire concept, as well as in practice) pretty depressing :shrug:. And I met my wife online! Though on a forum, not a dating site.

[Ashley.]

They sure do make the answer to "how did you two meet?" a little less romantic.

[Tom4784]

It's not something I'm interested in, don't care for meeting strangers for sex tbh and I'd rather form a connection in the flesh than online.

[thesheriff443]

I don't have the time or energy for anymore real life friends :fan:

Sounds like your swinging, lol

[thesheriff443]

Never been on any, but its a sign of the times.

[Niamh.]

Sounds like your swinging, lol

Definitely not, no

[user104658]

To elaborate on my stance, I guess I find it a bit sad when people have to actively search for that connection - be it a relationship or even just physical - rather than just letting life happen and those things being a part of it. It's not exclusively apps and sites I'd say that about, I feel the same about blind dates / setups / any active "love searching" I guess. I mean I understand why people do it, it just doesn't seem organic to me.

So like I said it's not even like I think Internet meeting is "sad" - I met my wife on a student forum, and we've been together 11 years - but neither of us were out there "looking for love". She actually had a boyfriend when we first started talking, and I was there to... Well... Borderline troll like I do here :joker:. But we got talking a bit on good old MSN, ended up talking every day, had a vague plan to meet up travelling after uni... Eventually ended up so desperate to meet in person that we abandonned that plan and booked flights there and then :joker: (she was on a year abroad in France).

But yeah... I know a few with similar stories - met on music forums, TV fan forums, etc. and that is still... I guess... A modern version of "normal". Just people interacting in everyday ways and finding connections. That's where the difference is, for me. I find it a bit bleak that people have to resort to "searching for someone" for emotional or physical intimacy.

[Marsh.]

How is it any different to someone purposely going on the lookout for a date/or sex on a night out?

[user104658]

How is it any different to someone purposely going on the lookout for a date/or sex on a night out?It isn't, but I find bar / club trawling even more bleak than dating apps if anything :umm2:. I guess things like Tinder are just the digital age equivalent of the same thing?

[thesheriff443]

Definitely not, no

Niamh releases statement, categorically denying being a swinger:shocked:

[Withano]

It isn't, but I find bar / club trawling even more bleak than dating apps if anything :umm2:. I guess things like Tinder are just the digital age equivalent of the same thing?

WELL HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO FALL IN LOVE THEN. asking for a friend.

[Denver]

Dating online you judge people straight away and don't give them a fair crack of the whip as you would in real life like go speed dating of double dating

[user104658]

WELL HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO FALL IN LOVE THEN. asking for a friend.You actually need to go out and do stuff. Yuck! I get it to be fair, I'm pretty glad I'm in a long term relationship. I'm far too old to be out doing stuff :umm2:. Although, she keeps telling me that I should go out and do stuff and have hobbies but it sounds pretty exhausting...

Dating online you judge people straight away and don't give them a fair crack of the whip as you would in real life like go speed dating of double datingI do also agree with that, it's a major problem with the dating site mechanic even if you are going purely by the physical. People have more to them than a static image; a lot of attraction is in the way people hold themselves, mannerisms, microexpressions, etc.

Basically... You can see a picture of someone and think they're "ok" but be HUGELY attracted to them in person when you actually see them move, speak, make eye contact etc... And likewise, you can think someone looks stunning in a picture and be left totally "meh" as soon as you see them in person. Even if they look exactly like their picture. Body language is much more important.

This is why people have "weird celebrity crushes". They look at a picture of them and wonder why on earth they'd find that person attractive... But then when they actually see them "live action" on screen they are for some reason attracted to how they "are".

[Withano]

You actually need to go out and do stuff. Yuck! I get it to be fair, I'm pretty glad I'm in a long term relationship. I'm far too old to be out doing stuff :umm2:. Although, she keeps telling me that I should go out and do stuff and have hobbies but it sounds pretty exhausting...



That only works in Disney films.

[Marsh.]

It isn't, but I find bar / club trawling even more bleak than dating apps if anything :umm2:. I guess things like Tinder are just the digital age equivalent of the same thing?
I think so. With or without apps there will be that rather seedy side to it. [emoji23]

[y.winter]

Never tried any of them. Some of them are awfully notorious and sleazy around *here* and it's far from what I'm looking for. It doesn't help that I'm not quite a socializing kind of guy, not into pubs and such, and I'm not sure if I'd like to face it in this specific platform. :unsure:

[user104658]

That only works in Disney films.

It only works if you believe. You have to believe in true love, Withano! It's the only away to escape from the empty, stingy, drippy hell of Tinder chlamydia hookups.

[Withano]

It only works if you believe. You have to believe in true love, Withano! It's the only away to escape from the empty, stingy, drippy hell of Tinder chlamydia hookups.

I feel a song number coming on.

[user104658]

I feel a song number coming on.When ur penis starts to burn,
There's a lesson you must leeearn...
Get some condoms on your wang
'fore you get that Tinder bang
Near, faaaar
Whereeeeeever you are...
I bel...

OK that's enough.

[Drew.]

Think i made a tinder profile like 3-4 years ago, god knows why though, i never went on it and never will so none.

[Withano]

When ur penis starts to burn,
There's a lesson you must leeearn...
Get some condoms on your wang
'fore you get that Tinder bang
Near, faaaar
Whereeeeeever you are...
I bel...

OK that's enough.

:joker: