Do you socialise regularly?

[Josy]

Do you socialise? like actually go out, meet up with friends, go to events, meet for tea/coffee, attend parties, weddings etc?

We socialise quite a lot I would say :think: we go out for drinks with different sets of friends/family every few weeks or at least once a month, we attend most parties like birthdays and weddings etc that we are invited to, we go to gigs, track days and so on.

Admittedly though sometimes we just cant be bothered with people and have cosy nights in by ourselves ignoring our phones and messages :idc:

[Crimson Dynamo]

No, and the TL is similar to a degree but has to a little for her teams at work etc

I have never really felt the need to, its nice to see my pals now and again but i can easy go a year without etc

Actually my best pal is in the huff with me at the moment because i never phone him (I only phone me old mum once a day anyroad, i just dont use the phone) I tell him to use text or email as I have not got the time for an hour l;ong call whilst he drives to a meeting etc

:idc:

[thesheriff443]

As you get older I think your friend list gets shorter, people move in different directions, locations or mind set.

Only have one real friend.

That's not to say I don't go out as a couple with my other half.

[LemonJam]

I used to almost every day but now I'm settling down etc maybe once or twice a week.

[Nicky91]

No, and the TL is similar to a degree but has to a little for her teams at work etc

I have never really felt the need to, its nice to see my pals now and again but i can easy go a year without etc

Actually my best pal is in the huff with me at the moment because i never phone him (I only phone me old mum once a day anyroad, i just dont use the phone) I tell him to use text or email as I have not got the time for an hour l;ong call whilst he drives to a meeting etc

:idc:

oh, i didn't know they had text and email in the stone-age :fan:

[Crimson Dynamo]

oh, i didn't know they had text and email in the stone-age :fan:

hows your social life Nicky?

[Nicky91]

hows your social life Nicky?

i've been in contact with miss none of your business, and mister privacy

many times i guess :joker:

[Crimson Dynamo]

i've been in contact with miss none of your business, and mister privacy

many times i guess :joker:

yes that figures

[Nicky91]

yes that figures

why ask me, you know i lack social skills due to my autism :fist:

[Crimson Dynamo]

why ask me, you know i lack social skills due to my autism :fist:

you may lack some but not all and your autism, i presume, is on a spectrum so does not preclude you from socialsing?

[user104658]

Not that much these days, I pretty much burnt out at Uni, night out after house party after night out... it just all got really old :shrug:. I have a drink and a catch-up with friends every couple of months, and occasionally out for lunch with th'wife and some people when kids are at school.

Getting out as a couple / with others in groups isn't easy for us these days, we would love to do it more, but the youngest's support needs mean that she can't be watched by random babysitters / childminders / friends... it has to be family who she knows... so that means my dad and his girlfriend coming up (1.5 hour drive, and they're also frequently away from home / unavailable) or my sister , who lives on an island... 2 hour drive + a ferry away, so that's pretty much just bigger occasions (birthdays, weddings, etc.) when we "book her in advance", or if she happens to be spending time on the mainland anyway. Wife's family is 4 hours away in England.

So basically... to make a long story short... I don't go out that much these days, would be more, but childcare is an issue.


That said... I also pretty much enjoy my own company so I'm not that bothered :shrug:. I'm the weirdo who goes to the cinema alone on a weekday :joker:. I like it, probably prefer it most of the time :umm2:. Also I reckon when I was younger people probably wondered why I was at the cinema alone... but these days... I think I look quite blatantly like "dad getting some peace and quiet" :laugh:

[Nicky91]

you may lack some but not all and your autism, i presume, is on a spectrum so does not preclude you from socialsing?

well i tried socialising yes, but i sometimes can say the wrong things and then i feel so embarrassed


i joined TiBB because i wanted more friends, others to chat with

[Beso]

Not really now, my partner cant get about so much due to her fibro:bawling:..its her bthday today as it happens but doesnt want to go out because of it.

I usually go up london on a saturday once a fortnight and just pub crawl the place to death on my own.


Could go out every friday for drinks with work mates but basildons a ****hole, and they wont make the effort to gi across to billiricay.

Go to the occasional west ham game but i find that stadium tedious........

If i was still in scotland i would probably be out every weekend..football first then on the piss.

[Crimson Dynamo]

well i tried socialising yes, but i sometimes can say the wrong things and then i feel so embarrassed


i joined TiBB because i wanted more friends, others to chat with

Thats great but your Tibb friends are not real friends per se

[Crimson Dynamo]

Not really now, my partner cant get about so much due to her fibro:bawling:..its her bthday today as it happens but doesnt want to go out because of it.

I usually go up london on a saturday once a fortnight and just pub crawl the place to death on my own.


Could go out every friday for drinks with work mates but basildons a ****hole, and they wont make the effort to gi across to billiricay.

Go to the occasional west ham game but i find that stadium tedious........

If i was still in scotland i would probably be out every weekend..football first then on the piss.

:fist: there is nowt wrong with Basildon

:hmph:

[Beso]

:fist: there is nowt wrong with Basildon

:hmph:

Calm down brian.

[smudgie]

Not really.
I see friends every week, and neighbours pop in for coffee, but my outside of the house social life is quite limited. We try and get over to the coast or into the Dales/Moors most weeks, can't beat the fresh air and magnificent scenery.
My social whirl today consists of the blood clinic and the solicitors...oh yeah, this girl knows how to enjoy herself:laugh:

[Crimson Dynamo]

Calm down brian.

I used to love a night out at the Barge and the Powerhouse

[MTVN]

Probably 4 or 5 days a week I'll socialise but its mainly pretty low-level stuff like going for a couple of pints or playing a round of golf rather than big events or a proper night out

[Niamh.]

I meet up with my 3 best friends every couple of months for a proper night out, in between I might meet them individually for lunch or breakfast once or twice. Myself and Gav have gotten pretty lazy, in general we'd rather spend a Fri/Sat night by the fire in our PJs with a glass of wine :laugh: If we are doing anything it's usually a weekend or night away at a hotel and we'd usually go out then for dinner and to the pub. Oh we go to the cinema alot actually both with and without the kids and we'd go to "events" like friends birthday parties and that kind of thing but they don't come around too often

[Beso]

I used to love a night out at the Barge and the Powerhouse

Is the barge not in flange?

Never heard of the powerhouse.

[Beso]

Oh just googled the powerhouse...funny link...the chair im sitting in right now..my smoking chair....was bought from a lady directly opposite it...true story..in a housing area on its own isnt it.

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

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[Cherie]

I meet up with my 3 best friends every couple of months for a proper night out, in between I might meet them individually for lunch or breakfast once or twice. Myself and Gav have gotten pretty lazy, in general we'd rather spend a Fri/Sat night by the fire in our PJs with a glass of wine :laugh: If we are doing anything it's usually a weekend or night away at a hotel and we'd usually go out then for dinner and to the pub. Oh we go to the cinema alot actually both with and without the kids and we'd go to "events" like friends birthday parties and that kind of thing but they don't come around too often

This is me :flutter: I am very lazy about having people round..and hate hosting parties, all that effort ...

[Eddie.]

I go out a lot, matter of fact, I'm gonna go out for lunch with my mates later...

[Niamh.]

This is me :flutter: I am very lazy about having people round..and hate hosting parties, all that effort ...

:love:

I do Christmas every year and my mom and her husband and one of my brothers usually comes down for that, that's enough hosting for me :laugh:

[reece(:]

Yeah, I live with my coursemates

[caprimint]

Nah not really, I'm not particularly bothered enough to socialize with anyone on a regular basis aside from my bf who I'm with every day, then chat a bit with my housemates whenever we're in the same room. We probably see his friend once a week on average, but hardly ever make an effort to meet my friends. Obviously text people a lot though.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Is the barge not in flange?

Never heard of the powerhouse.

The Powerhouse was up in Vange as I recall (and was also the Bull) and the

The Powerhouse shut after a murder there (no surprise as it was rammed full of rogues)

Used to drink in the The Fortune of War - Laindon too as it was a good West Ham pub

[Cherie]

Vange..:omgno:

[Crimson Dynamo]

Vange..:omgno:

Used to work there

and Pitsea

:idc:


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[Beso]

Used to work there

and Pitsea

:idc:


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Im in the next town along towards london on the c2c making my own memories, work in noakbridge just north of badildon....i giggle everytime i see that sign..the barge is shut down now as well....beehive it is.:bawling:

[Cherie]

Used to work there

and Pitsea

:idc:


http://southendnewsnetwork.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/10/img_7363.jpg

:joker: what a name never heard of the place

Pitsea yes

[Vicky.]

Nope. I have always been pretty anti-social tbh. Gavin used to love going out though and he seems to have recently came over to the dark side with me. Now we decline most invitations in favour of staying in as its just a ****ing hassle to leave the house, sort babysitters, if we have a drink then theres a hangover with small kids to consider.... I think we are getting old :laugh:

[Locke.]

Probably see my mates an average of once every 2 weeks these days

[RileyH]

Not really, I will every so often but I enjoy my own company etc

I used to go out everyday for like a year tho and I got bored soo

[Greg!]

Going out for me used to be a massive chore and was quite rare but since I've started uni I've been going out a few times a week :)

[Jordan.]

Absolutely not, nowt compares to a quiet evening alone

[Firewire]

About three times a year

[Ramsay]

All i used to care about was socialising up until about a year ago now all i want to do is sit in on my own and watch Archer.

[Withano]

Ugh yes. Its so annoying.

[Withano]

Thats great but your Tibb friends are not real friends per se

I thought we had something special LT? ):

[Wizard.]

Not really as I can't drink because of my stomach developing some sort of allergy to it and it's no fun being out sober with a load of pissed people but if someone invited me to an activity or just for coffee I happily would but nobody wants to do anything except party.

[Daniel.]

Three or four times a week

[Rob!]

Yeah I'm out fairly reguarly.

[Amy Jade]

Yeah, meet with my best friends 2 to 3 times a week, we have cards for the cinema so it's a good way to meet up.

We go out almost every friday night too.

[y.winter]

No, which is not that bad, though I should try a little bit harder.
Generally I don't really like crowded/loud places, I'm more of a stay-at-home/restaurant/park laid-back kind of person, and with just a couple of close friends, I don't find myself socializing a lot (nor feeling the need to compensate myself for it).

[Crimson Dynamo]

Last night we had salmon and baked potato/cottage cheese, a nice wine and the apprentice and grand designs cosied up on the sofa with the three dogs :hee:

you dont get that at a dinner party or in a club off your tits on heroin and poppers like teenagers do

:fist:

[Tozzie]

I love to socialise with my friends but these days not so much going to the pub or nightclubs, I'm too old, nope, these days its meet up for coffee and meals. I love musical theatre and cinema and we often meet up for those outings. I've a couple of circle of friends and we tend to do different things.

[Cal.]

I'll generally go out drinking once a week as well as one or two meals with friends. In the past week I've been to a party and had a carvery with friends so that pretty much checks out.