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Razmataz

09-05-2007, 06:56 PM

I've been in a relationship now for 6 weeks, and it's amazing, but on nights out and days in, I've gained some popularness with another lass.

She keeps telling me I should be with her/ Cheat on my girlfriend as she will never know.

As a faithful partner I have not even considered it, but my question is.

Why is it when you become taken, other girls swarm around you wanting your attention?

Sunny_01

09-05-2007, 07:01 PM

its half the fun of the chase Ryan my lovely! we girls like to prove that we can have what we want when we want it.

Dont tell me that if you cant have something you really, really want you dont go all out to get it no matter what it is!

I do have to say though your faithfullness is an admirable quality and I for one would have more respect for a guy that didnt cheat :flowers:

Razmataz

09-05-2007, 07:06 PM

Originally posted by Sunny_01
its half the fun of the chase Ryan my lovely! we girls like to prove that we can have what we want when we want it.

Dont tell me that if you cant have something you really, really want you dont go all out to get it no matter what it is!

I do have to say though your faithfullness is an admirable quality and I for one would have more respect for a guy that didnt cheat :flowers:

My girlfriend lives in Mansfield, this girl lives a 3 minute walk away..

that's what annoys me about it.

Bells

09-05-2007, 07:10 PM

It's just the thrill of the challenge to be honest. Also the fact that you're with another girl might make them think they're missing out, so again that adds to the challenge.

But if you did cheat and go to this other girl, chances are she won't be the same, because the thrill of the challenge has gone. Not to mention she probably won't have as much respect for you because she'll probably expect that you'll cheat on her with another girl and so on (once a cheater, always a cheater and all that). Then you'll be left with neither of the two girls. So it is good that you're faithful.

lily.

09-05-2007, 07:18 PM

The grass is always greener Ryan. There's nothing wrong with a bit of flirting, and window-shopping. But, if your relationship with your girlfriend means anything to you then you wont go any further than that.

If you don't feel like your relationship with your girlfriend is what you want, then you should end it first, before you take up with the local lass.

However, I would give you one piece of advice. Don't break up with your girl because of the other girl. If you are breaking up, make sure it's because you want to. Breaking up for the sake of going elsewhere might prove to be something you would regret, because, as Ash said, she might lose interest if there's no "chase" and she might not be a great catch after all.

It's good to see you saying you wouldn't cheat though. I wouldn't either. I would end my current relationship if I had any intention of being with someone else.

nodisharmony

09-05-2007, 07:19 PM

I am a "one-girl" guy and totally faithful..

I have had a couple of girls "that I can think of", that have shown interest in me, since I have been in my three year relationship with my girlfriend.

My girlfriend is quite pretty and very extrovert and full of personality and of course, "sexy", like Danielle Lloyd is:love:

She gets hassled all the time and I am more than jealous, "let me tell you."

But, in answer to your question, I have to look at the opposite for a second. Here is a saying:-

(Nobody wants you, when your all alone)

But, when you are with someone and she is attractive and desirable, girls will look at you differently!! That's when you become HOT property and in total demand.

But, I believe that you should stick with what you have. If she loves you and understands you and has that staying power, which lots of girls don't have.

Like, for example:- meet a guy, go out for one night, pick out the faults and then dump him, just like that.

That is crazy!!!

nodisharmony :angel:

Ella

09-05-2007, 08:40 PM

Ohhh thats a tricky one! The girl that is asking you to cheat sounds...No ofeense but she sounds horrible! No self respecting female would/should do that!

But she probably wants you because she knows she can't have you..Plus she may have liked you before but kept putting it off because you were single and she could wait to tell you..But she's probably telling you now before things get to serious between you and your current lass.

That's just my opinion anyway!

Razmataz

10-05-2007, 09:12 AM

Well I understand I'm not going to get 'young' members enquiring here so I guess I can say this.

During this morning about 4am I received a very 'rude' text message from the lass and I was admittedly startled so I enquired, and she came out with all this stuff that really hit my 'sweet spot', I didn't reply to that message as I felt myself straying away further than I really should do.

I woke up this morning to another text saying other 'rude' stuff, which I really didn't appreciate...because one line said "I can give you what your girlfriend can't, anytime anyplace. Do you want it?"

I'm not replying, and I'm now in a pickle.

Joe

10-05-2007, 09:19 AM

coming from a young'en (me only bein 19 :bigsmile:) personally I would decide who you like the most because at the end of the day one of them is gonna end up bein let down.

The grass isnt always greener on the other side and you could end up with this new lass and totally regret it. If you love the first one then it wont matter how far she lives, altho I know its nicer having someone who only lives down the road and its gotta be very tempting but just think very carefully before ya decide whats going on.

Whatever you do dont have both on the go at the same time or you'll end up losing both so take your time :banana:

Hope that helped!

Sunny_01

10-05-2007, 09:28 AM

Dont be in a pickle Ryan, you didnt like what she said and that should speak volumes to you. Do you want to be with someone who openly pursues you while you are with another girl, knowing that she could do the same with another guy behind your back!! works both ways you know!

Living apart shouldnt be an issue if you really like your GF, just enjoy yourself. I remember when someone used to complain that he struggled to get a decent gf, look at him now!

Razmataz

10-05-2007, 09:32 AM

Originally posted by Sunny_01
Dont be in a pickle Ryan, you didnt like what she said and that should speak volumes to you. Do you want to be with someone who openly pursues you while you are with another girl, knowing that she could do the same with another guy behind your back!! works both ways you know!

Living apart shouldnt be an issue if you really like your GF, just enjoy yourself. I remember when someone used to complain that he struggled to get a decent gf, look at him now!

me? Well I just text her back, and in lehmans terms I basically told her to 'P off with her advances as they wont work'.

:thumbs:

Sunny_01

10-05-2007, 09:34 AM

good for your Ryan, I am glad that you have been able to make a decision :angel:

Yup You lol :cheer2:

Razmataz

10-05-2007, 09:39 AM

Originally posted by Sunny_01
good for your Ryan, I am glad that you have been able to make a decision :angel:

Yup You lol :cheer2:

Ahhhhh :laugh:

My girlfriend just phoned me, made me smile....ahh moments like that ey.

I remember moaning to you, Jeeze.

Sunny_01

10-05-2007, 10:01 AM

you were not moaning - just expressing yourself :wink:

Ruth

10-05-2007, 03:35 PM

First of all, if the second girl is encouraging you to cheat on your girlfriend, she's not worth bothering with. Secondly, this second girl obviously can't be trusted, so you have no way of knowing that she would not spill the beans herself.

GiRTh

10-05-2007, 05:35 PM

Get in there my son. Dip your wick.

Can I say that I'm appalled by some of the comments I've seen in here Sunny, Linda. I'm appaled.:wink:

Any way there is no harm in having a bit on the side while in your normal relationship. You say she's just down the road. Well, what are you waiting for. Get down there tonight. Step to it soldier.

It's a shame I've got a daughter cus I'd be a great father to a boy wouldn't I:whistle:

lily.

10-05-2007, 09:57 PM

And this is why you are single G. You pathetic excuse for a man.. :nono:

Seriously Ryan, you done the right thing. Girl 2 is a slapper. Sending you txt's like that when she knows you are taken is against the "code".

You know it makes sense.. :thumbs:

Mrluvaluva

10-05-2007, 09:59 PM

Originally posted by GiRTh

It's a shame I've got a daughter cus I'd be a great father to a boy wouldn't I:whistle:

I can't believe you said that. And no, you would not! And the answer is Ryan, they always want what they can't have.

Razmataz

10-05-2007, 10:15 PM

Originally posted by L
And this is why you are single G. You pathetic excuse for a man.. :nono:

Seriously Ryan, you done the right thing. Girl 2 is a slapper. Sending you txt's like that when she knows you are taken is against the "code".

You know it makes sense.. :thumbs:

I decided to pay more attention to your comic strip. :laugh2:

but she got 'told' tonight...I went round and put my foot down...my girl would knock 10 'shi*s' out of her....so yeah..:thumbs:

Sunny_01

10-05-2007, 10:26 PM

Originally posted by GiRTh
Can I say that I'm appalled by some of the comments I've seen in here Sunny, Linda. I'm appaled.:wink:

Sorry Sir - must try harder :cheer2:

SiMoN!

10-05-2007, 10:31 PM

girls want what they cant have

Razmataz

11-05-2007, 06:49 AM

Originally posted by SiMoN!
girls want what they cant have

:laugh2: Same applies for Boys.

GiRTh

11-05-2007, 10:46 AM

What are all these women doing on this thread. Get off this is mans talk.:whistle:

lily.

11-05-2007, 10:48 AM

Don't you bring your chit talk in here G.... Amma walk all up n down your ass!

GiRTh

11-05-2007, 10:51 AM

Get in there son.

Girl two may be a slapper but she'll do all sorts of nasty things to you. Let me tell you, you won't wnat to miss out on that. And the fact that she's just down the road. Fumble around there and see where it takes you. Step to it soldier. Dont let the side down.:wink:

GiRTh

11-05-2007, 10:55 AM

Originally posted by L
And this is why you are single G. You pathetic excuse for a man.. :nono:

Seriously Ryan, you done the right thing. Girl 2 is a slapper. Sending you txt's like that when she knows you are taken is against the "code".

You know it makes sense.. :thumbs: 'The code' What you on about. What code? Get your end away Ryan. You know it makes sense.

Sunny_01

11-05-2007, 04:03 PM

you dont know the code G because you are not a woman, come on you are old enough by now to know that we women have a "code" that we adjust to suit our needs :cheer2:

nodisharmony

11-05-2007, 04:09 PM

Originally posted by GiRTh Any way there is no harm in having a bit on the side while in your normal relationship.

The one's who cheat in a relationship, don't love their partner at all.

Their minds are on "Lust":nono:

No Thanks:yuk: I stay faithful, as it's my way and the only way. No "bit on the side" :nono:

nodisharmony :angel:

bananarama

11-05-2007, 04:41 PM

Originally posted by Ryceratops!
I've been in a relationship now for 6 weeks, and it's amazing, but on nights out and days in, I've gained some popularness with another lass.

She keeps telling me I should be with her/ Cheat on my girlfriend as she will never know.

As a faithful partner I have not even considered it, but my question is.

Why is it when you become taken, other girls swarm around you wanting your attention?

If you are happy with your relationship then without doubt. STAY FAITHFUL or you could lose both.......

Remember the old saying Hell has no fury like a womans scorn.

This other girl could become a risk to you relationship if by rejecting her she decides to make up stories about you going with her and may well intend your current girlfriend to here such stories.

It might be worth considering telling your girlfriend you are being pestered.

The one pestering you is a challenge for her to steal another mans boyfriend and wreck a relationship after which she will dump you and find another target. She probably doesnt even fancy you. She just enjoys causing trouble......

You are wise to tell her to get off your back but beware in case she tells lies for revenge.....

GiRTh

11-05-2007, 05:08 PM

Originally posted by Sunny_01
you dont know the code G because you are not a woman, come on you are old enough by now to know that we women have a "code" that we adjust to suit our needs :cheer2: Indeed Sunny. I know all about that code.

GiRTh

11-05-2007, 05:09 PM

Baloney. All of you. Ryan should be suggesting a threesome. I'm sure girl two would be up for it.:whistle:

lily.

11-05-2007, 09:43 PM

Ryan, tell your girl what the trashy ho has been doing, and then your girl will kick the chit out of said trashy ho, and all's well that ends well. :thumbs:

If I was ur girl, I'd take great pleasure in kicking the chit out of trashy ho. In fact, I have done in the past. :laugh:

GiRTh

12-05-2007, 01:03 PM

Originally posted by L

If I was ur girl, I'd take great pleasure in kicking the chit out of trashy ho. In fact, I have done in the past. :laugh: No doubting that.:wink:

I still think Ryan is passing up an amazing opportunity here. Three's up is the way forward Ryan.:whistle: