Is a quarter life crisis a thing?

[Conzors]

Here I am, a 24 year old man. Never been in a relationship, lives on his own, has a car and is in a decent job. Am I wrong for wanting more?

My mum and Dad were married and had a child at my age. Yet I can’t seem to hold down a boyfriend for two minutes?

Am I to blame?
Is society to blame?

I’m in bed, struggling to sleep, wondering where my life is headed. Am I normal? Is this normal? Should I be married and have a kid by now?

Should I have felt love by now?

I also had cereal after my dinner which has pissed me off cos why? I didn’t need it. It’s just greed.

Yet tomorrow I’ll probably moan about how fat I am whilst I dip my Dorito in the sour cream and chive dip.

What is life? Is this normal how I’m feeling?

Anyone my age feeling the same thing????????

I’m panicking and can’t sleeeeeep

[Rob!]

Perfectly normal. I've been doing CBT for the past few months (nearly over with :) ) and my councilor told me that men in their twenties are very much prone to anxieties over their health, future and general direction in life.

[Conzors]

Perfectly normal. I've been doing CBT for the past few months (nearly over with :) ) and my councilor told me that men in their twenties are very much prone to anxieties over their health, future and general direction in life.



Really?

Other 24 year olds have done so much more! They still live at home off Mum and Dad and I chose to move out. Was I wrong?

[Rob!]

Is still living with your parents doing so much more though?

[armand.kay]

Have you considered introducing drugs into your life? I hear it's a good way to postpone these thoughts.

[armand.kay]

tbh who is married with kids at 24 these days? People don't have kids till 30s/early 40s. Focus on your own personal achievements and what you can do for yourself and the rest will come.

[caprimint]

It's not a problem at all, everyone does different things in their lives at different times, there are no rules

[Mystic Mock]

I'm only 3 years younger than you and I've not achieved any of the things that you've achieved in life so far.

Basically your life isn't that bad, and it's certainly not bad to want to improve your life even more.

[Gusto Brunt]

I'm 36 next birthday. Never married. No kids. Not had a girlfriend for three years.

And???

No big deal to me.

24 is so young...it'll come whatever you want naturally. But don't fret about it.

[thesheriff443]

You are just over thinking, you are doing well, don't jump into a bad relationship just because you are not in one yet.

[LeatherTrumpet]

married with a kid?

you are still a kid yourself. Get a bloody grip and enjoy life or go and help other people to get some perspective. Now dont be so bloody soppy and go and get on with things.

live your own life and not someone else who does not exist

[bitontheslide]

Desperation for something we don't have is not a recipe for a fulfilling and contented life.

[Conzors]

Thanks people for all your honesty! Was just in a bit of a panic!

❤️

[LeatherTrumpet]

What address will the invoice be sent to please?

[y.winter]

I'm around your age with a well paying stable career in IT, a car and no relationship, living with my parents (out of choice though, it's due to change).
I do share similar thoughts, but it's just overthinking, over-analyzing, not having a relationship probably doesn't help too - but it's not the catastrophe that you would fear it is. Actually had a really nice long chat about it with a friend.
I can assure you most of the people at your age would die for a job, a car, living alone like you can afford - your grass is not less greener. And yes, we're only 24-25, there's so much more to go, so I'm not worried and neither should you be.
And all these "shouldn't I have"/"I should be X by that time" is just wrong - you shouldn't be anything but the things you feel and want to be. Let others be these things, stick to what you want.

[Anaesthesia]

Let me echo the comments of, you don't have to be ready for anything and you don't run your life by what others are doing at your age.

I didn't go to uni at 18 because I was too busy partying.

I decided I wanted kids early so I didn't have to disrupt my future career.

After 2 children, my husband cleared off while they were both under 3.

Then...I went to uni, scored a 2:1 in law while they were at nursery.

Worked a few jobs part time while they were at school, built up to a great job in the City when they were early teens.

Son had serious school problems, so I left to home school him. Got him into Agricultural College.

Met a new guy many years younger than me; we have been together now for 11 years.

Went into finance and learned all I could; I am now back in the legal field as a commercial finance lawyer.

You do what you have to do, and you can be anything you want to be; there is no blueprint. If you want something enough, you can absolutely go out there and get it.

You'll only have a crisis if you impose random expectations on yourself.

Go for it xx