Do you have good judgement of character?

[Jessica.]

Do you always end up being friends with people who disappoint you or behave unexpectedly toxic or do you generally realise when to cut people off if they are unsavoury?

I feel like I am generally good at judging what kind of person is after a short conversation, especially by looking at their eyes, for some reason I can get a feeling if the person is worth making an effort for. :joker:

[ChristmasNeeve]

No I'm awful at first impression judging, I've liked people who turned out to be assholes and disliked ones who turned out to be lovely :worry: Gav is really good at it though

[Christmas Dynasnow]

I think most people think they are good but in my experience most people are pretty hopeless

just look at how many neighbours say on TV "well he was a nice quiet man who kept himself to himself, very polite" when they dig up 22 decomposing prossies from his patio

:joker:

[Matthew.]

my mum is the best at it

[Christmas Dynasnow]

oh and mediums and confidence tricksters always use that as a line of flattery to draw you in

"i see you are a good judge of character"

..:skull:

[Jessica.]

oh and mediums and confidence tricksters always use that as a line of flattery to draw you in

"i see you are a good judge of character"

..:skull:

horrendous, I've never told someone else they had good judgement of character :joker:

[ethanjames]

I try not to judge anyone when I first meet them and form an opinion over time as they may just be having an off day etc but that's kinda impossible but I'm pretty awful overall at judging people when I first meet them and I always get them wrong so I try and give everyone a chance to prove me wrong

[Christmas Dynasnow]

horrendous, I've never told someone else they had good judgement of character :joker:

You should as it is always greatly received

people love to be told that

[montblanc]

Not I'm awful at first impression judging, I've liked people who turned out to be assholes and disliked ones who turned out to be lovely :worry:

this :joker:

sometimes i'm spot on but the majority of the time i'm pretty bad :skull:

[Cherry Christmas]

Sometimes and sometimes not I can't imagine anyone goes through life without being let down at some point by a friend or family member

[Cherry Christmas]

You should as it is always greatly received

people love to be told that

You are a great judge of character :flutter:

[Christmas Dynasnow]

You are a great judge of character :flutter:


aaaaw thanks Cherie :love:

:flowers:

You are my fave member I have always said that

[Christmas Dynasnow]

wait, what...


:oh:

[_Tom_]

I feel like I am generally good at judging what kind of person is after a short conversation, especially by looking at their eyes, for some reason I can get a feeling if the person is worth making an effort for. :joker:

Not Victoria's evil eyes

[Jessica.]

Thing is, as you are growing up you just end up with people, like your family and friends from when you didn't know any better. Once I realised I could be picky about who I considered family and chose my friends with the intention of long lasting friendships then I think I've had a good streak.

[The Grinch]

I usually see the good in someone when I meet them.

[Cherry Christmas]

aaaaw thanks Cherie :love:

:flowers:

You are my fave member I have always said that

Finds out LT has buried Tl under the patio and is just pretending the two of them go to Tesco every week, the picture of the bags being a stroke of genius

[Christmas Dynasnow]

i am suspicious of everyone

:suspect:

[Christmas Dynasnow]

Finds out LT has buried Tl under the patio and is just pretending the two of them go to Tesco every week, the picture of the bags being a stroke of genius

:hmph: my neighbours would say I am a quiet polite man who keeps himself to himself and often can be seen in B&Q buying Quicklime

[Cherry Christmas]

:hmph: my neighbours would say I am a quiet polite man who keeps himself to himself and often can be seen in B&Q buying Quicklime

:laugh:

[Marsh.]

Yes. But then overall I don't see it as a special gift of being able to judge people's true characters, I just think actual arseholes have very little ability to cover up the fact they are an abhorrent piece of sh*t and give themselves away fairly quickly.

[Kazanne]

aaaaw thanks Cherie :love:

:flowers:

You are my fave member I have always said that

Right , you can pack your stuff up and do one :fist:

[user104658]

The second someone tells you that "you seem like a good judge of character..." you should be IMMEDIATELY suspicious of their character and what they want from you :suspect:.

[Cherry Christmas]

The second someone tells you that "you seem like a good judge of character..." you should be IMMEDIATELY suspicious of their character and what they want from you :suspect:.

That would be my view!

[Babayaro.]

Usually pretty good

[Candy Annie Cane]

Nah, a bit like Niamh. However, a lot of people don't give off their true characters when you first meet them. Most people don't like me when I first meet them as I am really quite shy but I can come over quite stand offish, but once I feel more comfortable I am a joy to be around :laugh:

I try to give most people a chance, particularly if they return the favour

[Tozzie]

I tend to like everyone and see the best in them initially and I don't think I'm a good judge of character. I've been wrong about people many times and totally misjudged their character. I usually in the end see them for who they are, nice or not nice characters though.

[Eddie.]

No I'm awful at first impression judging, I've liked people who turned out to be assholes and disliked ones who turned out to be lovely :worry: Gav is really good at it though

I feel you Niamh :joker:

[Merry Mockmas]

I think that everyone likes to think of themselves as a good judge of character, personally I think that I can tell if someone is worth my time or not.

[Christmas Dynasnow]

i dont have any members on ignore

so i must be terrible at this

[Nicky91]

yes i usually want to be friends with people who share same humour like i have

[Christmas Dynasnow]

yes i usually want to be friends with people who share same humour like i have

Smithy and Marsh I think would be 2 I would chose for you based on that stated criteria

[Kazanne]

I can usually sniff a liar from a mile away as to be a good liar you have to have a good memory,and most people slip up somewhere along the line,you can kind of tell how people have been brought up by their demeanor and manners (or lack of) I think it's quite easy to pick up on sleazy people , aswell as the big heads who think they know it all,my fave people are the people who don't take life too seriously ,are open minded and compassionate,but have a strong moral compass,so yes I think my judgment of people is fairly good .

[bots]

I think life teaches you to at least be wary when dealing with new acquaintances. It takes time to build up a profile of what a person is like.

[Livia]

If I don't like you at first, I'm probably never going to like you. But I can't say I'm always 100% right about that, sometimes I'm completely wrong about someone. But not often...

[Ashsleigh]

I wouldn't say I have perfect judgement but I know a twat when I see one.

[smudgie]

I guess you either take to someone or not.
Sometimes in life some of us like a 'bad boy' to have fun with but would never dream of being real friends with etc.
You learn the hard way who to trust or not as you grow in life, so I suppose we all learn our own judgement of people.

[armand.kay]

Usually pretty good, like my life doesn't seem to be riddled with drama like a lot of people I know.

[Gstar]

Always been good

[Ammi]

The second someone tells you that "you seem like a good judge of character..." you should be IMMEDIATELY suspicious of their character and what they want from you :suspect:.

..:laugh:...yeah I would probably agree with that, TS...

...over-thinking maybe but I don’t generally in ‘good or bad judge of character’...when it comes to an instant or immediate judgement thing...if something about someone’s character when we first meet them doesn’t in some way ‘sit right’, then there is usually some kind of ‘bad association’ we feel when we don’t even realise it...someone or something which has hurt us in the past and there are things about the person that we’re associating and sub consciously pulling from that...which may be completely unfounded because these things can be so minor...anyways, when we have those ‘first imprssions’ of good or positive then the tendency is to focus on the good and positive...so not be ‘looking’ for other stuff more...so thinking we have been a good judge of character..?...and the same with the opposite of maybe a negative experience association..?...so looking (..sub-consciously..)...for the negative stuff...which is always there with everyone if it’s looked for and focused on, if that makes sense...so yeah...we just basically live and learn with everyone in our lives through our experiences with them and are neither good or bad judges of character...generally imo...

[arista]

i am suspicious of everyone

:suspect:


how nice