Infractions should NOT come as a private message?

[Crimson Dynamo]

When you look up at your private message and its in bold and you think "oh what lovely message is this :amazed: "and then its an infraction or a profile warning or a ban :oh: that is not right.

These type of messages should come in another way and a member should not think "oh God what have I done now" every time he (or she) gets a private message :skull:


As a member who rarely understands what it is I have actually done wrong (but am sure i have broke the rules ) I find this constant state of anxiety not good and i think we can all agree this needs to be sensitively addressed in this inclusive time in which we live??


I cant be the only member who suffers from "Private message inbox infraction anxiety disorder" ?


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[sleleen]

I wouldn’t mind having an infraction thread or something, I don’t care who knows about my infractions and I think most people are the same, so I don’t care if they aren’t private

[Cherie]

or as I like to call it PMIIAD....

[Matthew.]

I wouldn’t mind having an infraction thread or something, I don’t care who knows about my infractions and I think most people are the same, so I don’t care if they aren’t private

This :worship:

[Twosugars]

I wouldn’t mind having an infraction thread or something, I don’t care who knows about my infractions and I think most people are the same, so I don’t care if they aren’t private

Yup, let's have transparency

[Beso]

A certain mod usually outs the infracted person in random threads anyway.

[Morgan.]

Yeah a public infraction thread would be welcome. It would be interesting to see what people are infracted for so we know where we stand in rules, and it works for transparency reasons too.

[sleleen]

Yeah a public infraction thread would be welcome. It would be interesting to see what people are infracted for so we know where we stand in rules, and it works for transparency reasons too.

This

[bots]

No infraction thread. It will just encourage member baiting

[Josy]

Heres a plan.... this answers the other thread too I guess, how about at least trying not to get infractions :hee:

[Amy Jade]

if there were a public infractions thread there is a chance someone could take advantage of it and bait someone to try and get them a ban.

Saying that I wouldn't be bothered if mine were public at all. We all make mistakes after all.

[Shaun]

I think they should be handwritten by Josy and handed out to our parents at a TiBB Parents Evening

That or put out a notice in the member's local paper, informing their area that they've used a derogatory term about the disabled or whatever.

[Josy]

I think they should be handwritten by Josy and handed out to our parents at a TiBB Parents Evening

That or put out a notice in the member's local paper, informing their area that they've used a derogatory term about the disabled or whatever.I will look into this

[Vanessa]

I know, I hate it as well. :laugh:

[Beso]

Heres a plan.... this answers the other thread too I guess, how about at least trying not to get infractions :hee:

Please don't try and take what I have left of my life away from me josy

[thesheriff443]

I will look into this

My parents are worst than me😱

[Withano]

Every time I get a PM, I assume its a well-thoughout out from-the-heart message from a close pal. What are these infractions?

[Marsh.]

Yeah, I assume every notification I get is an infraction/warning/ban.

When it's a wall message or actual PM I'm pleasantly surprised. Although that is only 5% of the time. :fan:

[Matthew.]

No need to close it

[Crimson Dynamo]

I think they should be handwritten by Josy and handed out to our parents at a TiBB Parents Evening

That or put out a notice in the member's local paper, informing their area that they've used a derogatory term about the disabled or whatever.

No way, i am still getting over being mistaken for Vicky's son at the last one

[Cal.]

I’m not bothered as I don’t get them

[Niamh.]

I’m not bothered as I don’t get them

You're like the perfect child :flutter:

[Cal.]

You're like the perfect child :flutter:

Brightening up your day :flowers:

[Cherie]

Brightening up your day :flowers:

when will you brighten mine :fist:

[Niamh.]

when will you brighten mine :fist:

When you stop reporting RileyH :oh:

[Cal.]

when will you brighten mine :fist:

:flowers:

Flowers for both of my TiBB mams!

[Cherie]

When you stop reporting RileyH :oh:

:fan: he is so reportable though, and it gives you something to do

[Cherie]

:flowers:

Flowers for both of my TiBB mams!

:love:

[Niamh.]

:flowers:

Flowers for both of my TiBB mams!

:love:

[Alf]

Heres a plan.... this answers the other thread too I guess, how about at least trying not to get infractions :hee:It isn't that easy when you're not in a position of power.

How many infractions have you had?

[Josy]

It isn't that easy when you're not in a position of power.



How many infractions have you had?





It's very easy. Dont break rules

Before I became a moderator I had zero infractions or warning because I didnt go around breaking rules I agreed to when I signed up....

[Alf]

It's very easy. Dont break rules

Before I became a moderator I had zero infractions or warning because I didnt go around breaking rules I agreed to when I signed up....Review and change your rules. Stop hiding behind them.

[user104658]

I'm disappointed when it's not a warning or infraction and now I'm worried that I'm some sort of TiBB sociopath :worry:

[user104658]

Also :skull: at LT currently being banned :joker:

[Josy]

Review and change your rules. Stop hiding behind them.No.

[bots]

#justiceforpms

[Niamh.]

#justiceforpms

aww how caring you are to us women :love:

[Alf]

No.Are you trolling me?

I see this as baiting. What you gonna do about your baiting?

Is it worth me reporting your baiting?

[Mokka]

Are you trolling me?

I see this as baiting. What you gonna do about your baiting?

Is it worth me reporting your baiting?

No, I've tried before... nothing happens

[Josy]

Are you trolling me?

I see this as baiting. What you gonna do about your baiting?

Is it worth me reporting your baiting?If answering your question is trolling then yeah must be No, I've tried before... nothing happens[emoji23]

[Vicky.]

How would those who dislike the PM method like them to be sent? I cannot actually think of another way that would..let members know they have one.

[Alf]

If answering your question is trolling then yeah must be [emoji23]Remember that Southampton lesbian thread I referred to earlier? I had a post that simply said "no" deleted in that thread, it was a reply to the member Twosugars, go check it out if you think I'm lying.

Why when you reply with "no" is it OK, but not for me?

Get out of that one!

[Niamh.]

How would those who dislike the PM method like them to be sent? I cannot actually think of another way that would..let members know they have one.

Carrier pigeon?

[AnnieK]

I think a singing telegram would be good, or a Howler like in Harry Potter

[Samm]

ages ago wasn't there a banned thread on here? a mod would say ___ has been banned for whatever reason and their ban date, why did that get rihmoved

[bots]

I think TiBB should invest in an army of robot drones that can be sent out to those banned. I'm sure Arista could help out with this

[Josy]

ages ago wasn't there a banned thread on here? a mod would say ___ has been banned for whatever reason and their ban date, why did that get rihmovedThe recent user bans link replaced it

[Josy]

Remember that Southampton lesbian thread I referred to earlier? I had a post that simply said "no" deleted in that thread, it was a reply to the member Twosugars, go check it out if you think I'm lying.



Why when you reply with "no" is it OK, but not for me?



Get out of that one!You had questions regarding deleted posts answered in a PM earlier.

I said no as there was no further answer required :shrug:

[Marsh.]

How would those who dislike the PM method like them to be sent? I cannot actually think of another way that would..let members know they have one.

Carrier pigeon please.

By the time it gets here it will be expired.

[Cherie]

Carrier pigeon please.

By the time it gets here it will be expired.

:joker:

[Cherie]

Strip o grams, are they still a thing? LT would look forward to his daily dose then :hee:

[Vicky.]

Remember that Southampton lesbian thread I referred to earlier? I had a post that simply said "no" deleted in that thread, it was a reply to the member Twosugars, go check it out if you think I'm lying.

Why when you reply with "no" is it OK, but not for me?

Get out of that one!

I know josy said she messagd you. But I will answer this too as just checked it out. Your no was deleted as it was quoting a deleted post. If theres more to a post than one word answers (Ie. Had you gone into detail of an opinion on the topic) then sometimes we manually delete the quoted post bit to leave your post standing..but your no would not have made any sense without the original post, which was deleted

[Ant.]

How would those who dislike the PM method like them to be sent? I cannot actually think of another way that would..let members know they have one.

I'd rather not be told!

Let me break the rules and be confused as **** when I'm banned not knowing truly why!

[Kate!]

I may be in the minority here but I would rather have my infractions by PM. Its private then.

[Ant.]

Carrier pigeon please.

By the time it gets here it will be expired.

:laugh2:

[Vicky.]

Carrier pigeon please.

By the time it gets here it will be expired.

Ooh smart arse... :hehe:

[Glenn.]

All mine are expired now so this doesn’t affect me

[Marsh.]

All mine are expired now so this doesn’t affect me

Reported for baiting.

[Ant.]

I've got another 3 months until all my expire?

THE ****?!

[Glenn.]

Reported for baiting.

I am reformed

[Ant.]

I think we should have a thread where we can contest our infractions. As a prospective mod (my goal is to be a mod by Christmas this year!) I simply CANNOT have any infractions, it ruins my CV AND reference! Consequently I need them removed ASAP!

[Alf]

I think we should have a thread where we can contest our infractions. As a prospective mod (my goal is to be a mod by Christmas this year!) I simply CANNOT have any infractions, it ruins my CV AND reference! Consequently I need them removed ASAP!Do you mean a fair trial, where we can defend ourselves by putting our case across?

That would be too civilised.

[Niamh.]

Do you mean a fair trial, where we can defend ourselves by putting our case across?

That would be too civilised.

It isn't civilised at all Alf because we did have an appeals section at one point which we had to close because of how uncivilised people would become in there

[Vicky.]

It isn't civilised at all Alf because we did have an appeals section at one point which we had to close because of how uncivilised people would become in there

Plus the exact same abuse goes on in PMs to staff currently. So this shows that the same issues would be there if the appeals forum as reopened.

[James]

Making infractions public isn't a good idea, and people would soon complain. Often an infracted post is part of a series of deleted posts, so the rest of the forum wouldn't be able to understand the context.

The appeals forum was more trouble than it was worth. It just encouraged complaints and people rarely admitted they'd done something wrong.

[Livia]

There would be uproar if there was a public thread and people could see some of the petty stuff people get infracted for.

[Vanessa]

Everytime I have a pm I think : what have I done? :joker:

[Beso]

Making infractions public isn't a good idea, and people would soon complain. Often an infracted post is part of a series of deleted posts, so the rest of the forum wouldn't be able to understand the context.

The appeals forum was more trouble than it was worth. It just encouraged complaints and people rarely admitted they'd done something wrong.

Can you please at least, post all the reasons you can be infracted for...we can then make a tic list thread where we just tic the ones we have had one for.....ALL OF THEM THOUGH..even the weird ones.:joker:

[Mitchell]

I’m an angel :love: