TiBB HotSeat 2019 - Round #29 (Vicky.)

[Matthew.]

TiBB HotSeat 2019
Round #29 - Vicky.
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(because this was the goat diary room chair and I won’t hear otherwise.)

- HotSeat is a game in which forum members put themselves forward to be interviewed by other members of the forum about absolutely anything, for example their favourite TV shows, their least favourite movies, what music they listen to. But looking at previous HotSeats, I’m sure you will come up with more interesting questions than that.

- This is a great opportunity to get to know Vicky better, as after all it’s better to be an open book than a dusty one that’s never been opened!

- Vicky is under no obligation to answer every single question that is put forward to her, but the HotSeat would encourage her to answer most of them, otherwise there’s not much point in sitting on it, is there?

- You have until Liam-‘s round, which is tomorrow, to ask Vicky those questions you’ve been waiting to ask but never had the guts to until now...

- Are you interested in playing HotSeat? Sign up here! (http://www.thisisbigbrother.com/forums/showthread.php?t=357508)

Go!

[Twosugars]

:wavey: lovely Vicky


Your favourite mod? :laugh:

What do you love about tibb, what do you hate and what changes would you make?

[Matthew.]

What is your avi?

[Matthew.]

Some of your favourite housemates?

[Vicky.]

Was actually kind of expecting to come onto an avalanche, so pleasantly surprised :laugh:

:wavey: lovely Vicky


Your favourite mod? :laugh:

Niamh, by a mile. Used to be really close to josy too but..we seem to have drifted apart recently.

What do you love about tibb, what do you hate and what changes would you make?

Ahh this could go into essays. Will try to keep it briefer.

I love how close people are on here. Like, half of us hate each other but still can pretty much predict what someones reponses will be on a topic, and can (on the whole..not all) agree to disagre even when strong opinions clash. We are kind of like a huge dysfunctional family. A couple on here I would probably genuinely class as friends..not as in FB friends (have a few I barely speak to from here on FB list) but actual friends who I would love to go for a drink with!

I hate..people picking and picking at other members to get them to snap. Again, as we all know each other so well, we also know how to get under each others skin, should we chose to. And some seem to chose to do that a lot. I guess again, its kind of the same as a family, where a couple of members of it just do not get on at all and will snipe and snipe at each other and maybe have a blowup when everyones pissed at xmas or something..but I see the purposeful picking a LOT. Probably more as I am a mod so see the picking then the reports when the member does finally bite back. Seems more and more common these days, mind it used to be a LOT worse back a few years, so small mercies its not quite that bad now :laugh:

This change question will not endear me to admin.
- A couple of permabans I think would sort out a lot of problems on here (no I will not tell you who)
- Lose the swear filter
- Members want us to become more strict with infractions, I would actually see the rules loosened a little. I am a huge advocate for free speech at the moment, and do think people should be able to speak totally freely (without going into hate speech obviously) especially in the serious debates section. I would lose the member insults part in that section, as topics there obviously do get people a bit riled up and while we do allow a bit more in there than say, in the BB section, I would rather it was almost unmoderated in a way. Where we only have to step in when it becomes like..death threats or whatever. Of course members would have to help us with this by basically..reigning it in of their own accord and thinking about posts before they make them. But I would love to give that a try tbh.
- Totally change the infraction system. I find it unfair at times, and its just ineffective at the moment too. Would much rather a system where, you get a warning for a certain thing, say out and out insults. Then, next time you do it, its an instant days ban. Then going up from there. Or back to the three strikes and out system we use to have, though I fear that one might..leave us with no members at all as it was very harsh. Mind, when that system was in place, it seemed people did not just constantly insult each other and such, so the harshness increased quality of posts somewhat.
- More forum skins. Thats not that important though, and realistically members would need to design them as james is actually very busy (I know y'all think he does nothing, thats not true at all and he does a lot behind the scenes) so maybe, another one of those competitions for the best one, or best three or something. I know thats been mentioned before.
- A totally unmoderated over 18 section, thats opt in. Would love to give this one a try but admin are totally against it. I can see their reasoning, but would still like to try it.
- I actually think we need a new mod also. With dezzy leaving, and a lot of us aren't on as much as we used to be, there are times when the forums kind of like the wild west, and we come back to pages and pages of petty arguments about nothing..where with a bit of luck, a new mod could calm things a bit before it got to that stage. I also do think, we get a bit stuck in our ways sometimes, so new blood tends to..point out our issues to us also. There were a few bad habits I had got into when the last mod intake was done and I was pulled up on stuff by fresh eyes. I do think it helps, to keep us on our toes a bit.
- I would totally ban one word replies, and GIFS in SD. Its a huge bugbear of mine and so unnecessary in a place thats about actual serious opinions.
- Also would seperate news and ceeb. And SD from politics also. Politics overtakes the SD section and honestly, am sick of the sight of trump threads, and corbyn threads, and boris threads. SD used to be a place where you got actual interesting discussions on a variety of topics. I used to sit and read threads when I had nothing to do on a night, and it was always interesting, seeing inteliigent members setting out their views on whatever topic, without insulting and baiting each other constantly too..just adding their views, and arguing sometimes but..not with snipes but actually arguing their views. Its something I really miss.

I know a lot of that was about SD. But, its always ben my fave bit of here and it upsets me somewhat that is gone to **** in recent years and would love to see it normal again.

Also sorry admin, for bringing up stuff thats been definitely denied a few times, so I should know better :p
What is your avi?
Ian Somerhalder :love: Oddly I dont seem to fancy him anywhere else, but when playing Damon..which says to me its more the character I fancy than him.

Some of your favourite housemates?

Aaron, Marcus and Makosi will pretty much always be my top 3 I think. Honourable mentions to Nadia (first time around..not second), Kemal, Derek (maybe the whole of the BB6 cast in honesty..by far my fave), Lea, Anna, Alex (bb3), Victor and Rex though.

[Mitchell]

Ahh this could go into essays. Will try to keep it briefer.

I love how close people are on here. Like, half of us hate each other but still can pretty much predict what someones reponses will be on a topic, and can (on the whole..not all) agree to disagre even when strong opinions clash. We are kind of like a huge dysfunctional family. A couple on here I would probably genuinely class as friends..not as in FB friends (have a few I barely speak to from here on FB list) but actual friends who I would love to go for a drink with!

I hate..people picking and picking at other members to get them to snap. Again, as we all know each other so well, we also know how to get under each others skin, should we chose to. And some seem to chose to do that a lot. I guess again, its kind of the same as a family, where a couple of members of it just do not get on at all and will snipe and snipe at each other and maybe have a blowup when everyones pissed at xmas or something..but I see the purposeful picking a LOT. Probably more as I am a mod so see the picking then the reports when the member does finally bite back. Seems more and more common these days, mind it used to be a LOT worse back a few years, so small mercies its not quite that bad now :laugh:

This change question will not endear me to admin.
- A couple of permabans I think would sort out a lot of problems on here (no I will not tell you who)
- Lose the swear filter
- Members want us to become more strict with infractions, I would actually see the rules loosened a little. I am a huge advocate for free speech at the moment, and do think people should be able to speak totally freely (without going into hate speech obviously) especially in the serious debates section. I would lose the member insults part in that section, as topics there obviously do get people a bit riled up and while we do allow a bit more in there than say, in the BB section, I would rather it was almost unmoderated in a way. Where we only have to step in when it becomes like..death threats or whatever. Of course members would have to help us with this by basically..reigning it in of their own accord and thinking about posts before they make them. But I would love to give that a try tbh.
- Totally change the infraction system. I find it unfair at times, and its just ineffective at the moment too. Would much rather a system where, you get a warning for a certain thing, say out and out insults. Then, next time you do it, its an instant days ban. Then going up from there. Or back to the three strikes and out system we use to have, though I fear that one might..leave us with no members at all as it was very harsh. Mind, when that system was in place, it seemed people did not just constantly insult each other and such, so the harshness increased quality of posts somewhat.
- More forum skins. Thats not that important though, and realistically members would need to design them as james is actually very busy (I know y'all think he does nothing, thats not true at all and he does a lot behind the scenes) so maybe, another one of those competitions for the best one, or best three or something. I know thats been mentioned before.
- A totally unmoderated over 18 section, thats opt in. Would love to give this one a try but admin are totally against it. I can see their reasoning, but would still like to try it.
- I actually think we need a new mod also. With dezzy leaving, and a lot of us aren't on as much as we used to be, there are times when the forums kind of like the wild west, and we come back to pages and pages of petty arguments about nothing..where with a bit of luck, a new mod could calm things a bit before it got to that stage. I also do think, we get a bit stuck in our ways sometimes, so new blood tends to..point out our issues to us also. There were a few bad habits I had got into when the last mod intake was done and I was pulled up on stuff by fresh eyes. I do think it helps, to keep us on our toes a bit.
- I would totally ban one word replies, and GIFS in SD. Its a huge bugbear of mine and so unnecessary in a place thats about actual serious opinions.
- Also would seperate news and ceeb. And SD from politics also. Politics overtakes the SD section and honestly, am sick of the sight of trump threads, and corbyn threads, and boris threads. SD used to be a place where you got actual interesting discussions on a variety of topics. I used to sit and read threads when I had nothing to do on a night, and it was always interesting, seeing inteliigent members setting out their views on whatever topic, without insulting and baiting each other constantly too..just adding their views, and arguing sometimes but..not with snipes but actually arguing their views. Its something I really miss.

I know a lot of that was about SD. But, its always ben my fave bit of here and it upsets me somewhat that is gone to **** in recent years and would love to see it normal again.

Also sorry admin, for bringing up stuff thats been definitely denied a few times, so I should know better :p


Where can I vote for you tbh

[Mitchell]

What made you want to be a moderator?

[Mitchell]

What are the hardest parts of being a moderator?

[Mitchell]

Who do you look up to?

[Mitchell]

What are your favourite bands?

[Mitchell]

If you could see 5 artists, dead or alive, who would they be?

[michael21]

Are you sexy

If yes do you plan on bringing sexy back

[michael21]

What your fab number

[michael21]

What you fav color

[michael21]

Do you like cat

[michael21]

Do you like dogs

[Vicky.]

What made you want to be a moderator?
I didn't want to be a moderator, until I was a moderator :laugh: I had only been a member a few weeks/months..I was way too obsessed with bb10, and had joined to talk about it, was making somethingg ridiculous like a hundred posts a day..but mainly through the night as oddly enough, at that time I had a life by day! So, was sat making my endless posts from like, midnight to 5am ish. And apparently more mods were needed. And mark (or james) said I would be a good choice because I was very active st night, and none of the other staff were. I stayed within the rules and was nice to people, which I suspect helped too. It was also at a tim when there were issues with a very particular troll (who targetted me..over all others actually) who tended to come on at night and tbh I think the staff were a bit pissed off with me constantly PMing pointing out the multis before they noticed them! Was asked, agreed to a 'training session' on msn (shows how long ago it was..) and was very cuirious about it all tbh, so agreed. It was very very different modding then than now..was on the old forum and the way we had to do things..when deleting stuff we had to copy the whole thread into a hidden forum before doing so as deleted posts did not show at all anymore, were also on the 3 strikes and out system, so members in general stayed within the rules. There was ****ing hell on mind, when they announced me. I remember shaun going particularly off it :laugh:

So yeah, I didn't want to be a mod as such. I was a mod before I wanted to do it :p
What are the hardest parts of being a moderator?
Probably when you can't do right for doing wrong tbh. Regardless of the decisions you make, you piss off at least one person. Its been MUCH better since tibb staff was inroduced though, I have to say. I know members hate it, but the amount of abuse we got via PM for infracting certain members was absolutely insane. I had some nutter actually threaten to hunt down me and my kids and kill us for gods sake, as I gave him a warning for something. A BB only poster, so noone would know them, not that I would name them anyway :p I get that its annoying, but honestly..it was ridiculous.

Also an issue, is when posts are basically borderline rule breaks and you know some will take it as offensive but also know there will be hell on if you remove them as technically they are fine..and have to make a judgement call..and it turns out to be the wrong one :laugh:
Who do you look up to?
Erm, I don't think I look up to anyone really. At a push, would be soppy and predictable and say my dad.
What are your favourite bands?
Ahaha still to this day, busted. Mind, I went to see them when they reformed and it was rubbish, the new stuff they had was crap, and the crowd was heckling them to play the older stuff instead :laugh:
If you could see 5 artists, dead or alive, who would they be?
Bon Jovi
Iamx (obsessed since watching HTGAWM. Seems to have a good range of stuff too)
Michael Jackson
Eminem
Avril Lavigne (though..years back)

Honestly, I don't really listen to music at all these days..not into anyone specific besides my random youtubing of iamx stuff. Used to be far far more interested.

[Vicky.]

Are you sexy

If yes do you plan on bringing sexy back
Erm, probably not by most peoples standards :laugh:
What your fab number
Fave number? 11..for some reason.
What you fav color
Black..
Do you like cat
NO
Do you like dogs
Some. In general probably yes.

[Matthew.]

Was actually kind of expecting to come onto an avalanche, so pleasantly surprised :laugh:

Probably because during the week I wake up at 7am and make the thread, and at that time Ammi’s still online and she spams the thread :love:

[Twosugars]

Vicky, thank you for the detailed reply to my tibb questions :love:
I like your ideas very much!

What have been your highlights and low points as a mod and as a member?

Could you reassure us you're not thinking of quitting please?

Favourite thread? Favourite type of thread?
Games or competitions you'd like to see?

[michael21]

Am i the greatest forum member to have ever lived

[AnnieK]

Favourite TiBB era?

[AnnieK]

Favourite TiBB feud

[AnnieK]

Any massive regrets in life?

[AnnieK]

Unlimited money or good health?

[AnnieK]

Weirdest crush?

[Vicky.]

Probably because during the week I wake up at 7am and make the thread, and at that time Ammi’s still online and she spams the thread :love:

Ahh makes sense :D

Vicky, thank you for the detailed reply to my tibb questions :love:
I like your ideas very much!

What have been your highlights and low points as a mod and as a member?
Highlight would have to be (and this is a bad answer for a mod) the night staff basically quit for the first time and allowed a huge argument to run, think it was on BB11s final night? Everyone got everything off their chests, there were massive issues on the forum at the time and it was so needed but so brutal at the same time D: Thats basically the basis for when we just..let it go sometimes here too, every now and again. I dont see the harm at all and do think every now and again a blowout helps. Admin disagree and prb won't like this answer.

Another one that stands out, is 'controversy'. Again, hug hell on but fantastic :laugh:

Besides that, I would say the few months I spend with niamh, michelle, jessica, smithy, tommy and others on TC. TC was actually banned for the drama it caused..so I maybe should not have been on at all as a mod, but it was just so fun and addictive. Theres a fair few gifs and pictures probably flotaing about still of that time, which probably makes us all look like idiots, but meh, it was a massive massive highlight for me and I do miss when everything was so..lighthearted and I was relatively close to a fair few members, rather than just a couple. Me and tommy having competitions on 'cam4' to see who could get the most perverts on their stream was ****ing amazing too..possibly the most fun I have ever had online :D

Low point..not a point as such but just how everything has been maybe for the past year. As both a mod and a member, its just been dire tbh. The forum has gone massively downhill and while less activity is to be expected as BB has ended and we have not rebranded (yet) there is really no reason for how nasty the forum has become. It just seems to be endless sniping, baiting, insulting, moaning and basically..negativity all the time, regardless of topic.
Could you reassure us you're not thinking of quitting please?
Erm, I cannot do that sorry. Its quite well known I am getting ed up to the back teeth of everything on here, and actually 'tried' to quit a few times recently but ended up staying. But..its a bit up in the air tbh.

I have no immediate plans of leaving. But I do not enjoy this place anywhere near as much as I used to and as such, might just..disappear at some stage, but I imagine everyone will do that over time, especially if we don't rebrand and do something to bring back new members.

Also I seem to have developed a habit where, if a decision I make causes hell on..I throw a bit of a strop in the towers an say I am done. But that appears to be me just being melodramatic rather than anything else, as I tend to be back a few days later once I have chilled a bit :laugh:

So yeah, went into a bit of detail, but no I cannot really reassure anyone that. Though, for now, I am going nowhere :)
Favourite thread?/

I cannot show you it! But controversy. Its deleted now, sadly. But the insults I got...it was hilarious :laugh:
Favourite type of thread?
Lighthearted stuff. Probably those that start about nothing of note and end up being filled with billocks, like the recent lasagne thread :laugh:

I would have answered this before SD went to ****, with serous ones that are not about politics. Threads on abortion, surrogacy, euthanasia, etc where members put across proper opinions (without insulting each other, but whilst being passionate about their views). But even those kinds of threads are..pretty crao these days. Every now and again theres a decent one, but its generally soon to be ruined by someone popping in to snipe/bait :bored:
Games or competitions you'd like to see?

Games I don't do, or follow tbh. I would like to see the razies back. That was quite fun and I loked forwards to that, was gutted when they were banned (or was it the organiser stopped them? Dont remember)

[Tony Montana]

Aaron, Marcus and Makosi will pretty much always be my top 3 I think. Honourable mentions to Nadia (first time around..not second), Kemal, Derek (maybe the whole of the BB6 cast in honesty..by far my fave), Lea, Anna, Alex (bb3), Victor and Rex though.

Amazing taste you have. :clap1:

[Tony Montana]

Film that has made you cry?

[Tony Montana]

Rank the 6 Friends.

[Vicky.]

Am i the greatest forum member to have ever lived
Certainly not D:
Favourite TiBB era?
Not sure if its an era as such, but the TC 'era'. Others may not see that as a significant time, but as explained above, I do :laugh:
Favourite TiBB feud

Hmm I cannot really think of any big ones or anything.

My fave personal feud would be with novo though. My god he knew how to get under my skin and I hated him while finding him hilarious too. he was such a tit, and actually emailed me once as I had banned him for being a tit. Him and locke..they were annoying as **** yet I still liked them deep down. Locke was MUCH nicer than novo though IMO.
Any massive regrets in life?

Many. Main one would probably be not doing higher education at the time. I hated school too much to even consider it, while I was actually really good at anything acamdemic so would have easily aced higher education. But no. Went straight into work instead.

Another, would be my convictions, which make it near impossible for me to ever go back to America, unless I fill in a visa waiver form and pretend they dont exist (which is another crime in itself, however I am assured our police do not share their database with USA so unless you are acting the tit in the airport, you will be fine). Oddly, I still do not regret my actual crimes, which I should, but guilt is not my thing. I just regret being stupid enough to get caught, THEN stupid enough to admit to the police when one of them, would have been bard to prove so I should have no commented everything rather than spilling my guts :bored:

Ako, not a regret as such as **** knows what caused it really, but whatever made me ****ing ill. I loved working, behind a bar and karaokes too. I moaned about it sure, but it was great in hindsight. These days I am emdicated o the eyeballs, cannot even move from my room half the ****ing time and am just basically for the scrap heap, while docotors refuse to even investigate to find the ****ing problem and fix it! Last time they tried to fix it thy made everything so much worse, so maybe thats why they are reluctant..UDK but its annoying to be written off at 32. IT was present, just rasndomly appeared maybe 6 years ago, but was a random thing, that lasted a few hours of agony, then left. Maybe happened once a month which was obviously fairly easy to deal with. Then when I had my son, once the hormones and such all died down, like a month after the birth the pain was just there constant. So I guess it was made worse by pregnancy. I do not regret having him of course, but regret that having him messed me up for seemingly the rest of my life. Hard not to be bitter about that really, though of course I don't blame him.

Unlimited money or good health?

Hard one. Before my health was knackered, would have gone for the money everytime. A lot of money would certainly make this kind of life much more bearable, and also unlimited money could buy me unlimited painkillers to deal with it, and also decent doctors who would try to fix me!

However, presently I would go for good health. I want my life back.


Weirdest crush?
Aha this will make a lot of people think much less of me, but the weirdest crush I ever had has got to be.. Dzhokhar Tsarnaev, the Boston bomber :worry:

I mentioned this once in the odd crushes thread, and I know one member agrees with me. But I think she may be the only one :laugh:

Amazing taste you have. :clap1:

Why thank you :D

[Vicky.]

Film that has made you cry?
Armageddon. Not when Bruce dies, but when he is telling his daughter he will be back and I know he won't :( I didn't cry watching it the first time, it was after, when I knew how it went.

Rank the 6 Friends.

Chandler, Phoebe, Ross, Rachel, Joey, Monica.

[Tony Montana]

If you could have one superpower, what would it be?

[Tony Montana]

Favourite decade?

[Tony Montana]

Proudest achievement in life?

[Vicky.]

If you could have one superpower, what would it be?
Torn between flying and being able to go invisible..will go with flying I think, given I do it in so many dreams and its bloody amazing :laugh:
Favourite decade?

80s
Proudest achievement in life?

I don't have any achievements in life :worry:

[Matthew.]

You said that you’d like to see a new mod hired, who would you choose for this position?

[Matthew.]

What was Controversy about?

(if I’m allowed to ask that :worry:)

[michael21]

Have you ever pee the bed

[Twosugars]

You said that you’d like to see a new mod hired, who would you choose for this position?

:laugh: oh Matthew :hehe:

[Calderyon]

Ahh this could go into essays. Will try to keep it briefer.

This failed.

[Matthew.]

:laugh: oh Matthew :hehe:

Couldn’t agree more tbh

[Twosugars]

Would you consider doing a degree with Open University? What would you like to study?

It was fun to read your recollections of mods letting arguments run their course on tibb.
Considering what you said about the forum getting nastier over the last year, would you like to see a purge day as advocated by Withano, ie unmoderated day to clear the air?

Will tibb ever rebrand,? And is it necessary?

Razzies that's like opposite of ML?

Glad you're not going to quit atm :love: I hope you can see that this forum needs you...

[Twosugars]

Couldn’t agree more tbh

:joker: you crafty bugger

[Tony Montana]

Do you think this forum should be renamed now that BB is potentially dead. If yes, what would you rename it?

[Vicky.]

You said that you’d like to see a new mod hired, who would you choose for this position?

Erm, I cannot answer this really. Sorry :p

What was Controversy about?

(if I’m allowed to ask that :worry:)
It was basically 'most hated' rather than most loved. But a few members kicked off about how that was a horrid name/horrid premise, etc etc so it was renamed controversy, and the 'rules' changed slightly to make out it was about 'controversial members' even though it was still obviously just most hated :hehe:
Have you ever pee the bed
Yeah

This failed.

True :D

[Matthew.]

Erm, I cannot answer this really. Sorry :p

Fair enough

[Vicky.]

Would you consider doing a degree with Open University? What would you like to study?

I have vaguely considered this a few times. I actually, if I am ever fixed, would love to be a midwife I have decided over time. So I guess OU would be something to start off that line of work. Seems a total waste of time at the moment though, when it seems unlikely I will ever have a real job again.


It was fun to read your recollections of mods letting arguments run their course on tibb.
Considering what you said about the forum getting nastier over the last year, would you like to see a purge day as advocated by Withano, ie unmoderated day to clear the air?

I think its worth a shot, though do think it has the potential to make the forum even worse too, which is probably the main reason admin are against it. I can see both sides really. So have splinters in my arse on that.

Will tibb ever rebrand,? And is it necessary?Not sure .I would personally say its necessary eventually, but maybe not quite yet.

Razzies that's like opposite of ML?

Glad you're not going to quit atm :love: I hope you can see that this forum needs you...

Razzies was not really opposite of ML..but it was negative type awards. Stuff like worst threads, worst duo, etc.

Do you think this forum should be renamed now that BB is potentially dead. If yes, what would you rename it?

I think a total rebrand is needed, however am uncreative so have no idea what really :laugh: Its only BBUK thats dead, so maybe more focus on other BBs could help a bit, but we don;t really get many new members to talk about other BBs as obviously they have their own forums and stuff to use so why would they come here..

[Twosugars]

Fair enough

Poor Matthew. Keep your dream alive :dance:

[Twosugars]

You mentioned your health and how it limits your life.
Tell more if you don't mind.

[SherzyK]

Wanna help me save the rhinos?

[Tony Montana]

Have you ever met any celebrities?

[Twosugars]

What do you watch on tv?
Favourite film and show of the last year?
Books?
Your go to websites ?

[Vicky.]

You mentioned your health and how it limits your life.
Tell more if you don't mind.
Have gone into this on multiple threads so I kind of worry people are sick of hearing it :laugh:

I used to get this weird problem, where every now and again I got this horrific stabbing type pain in the right side of my ribs, that was worse when I moved and kind of felt like a bearhug at the same time..this would persist for a few hours then lessen up. The first time I got it I actually called an ambulance as the chest pain part scared me a bit, they ecg d me and that and said my chest was fine, though diagnosed something called costochondritus. I have since found out that was a misdiagnosis as the pains in the wronf place to be that..

Anyway, this went on months, with the pain coming on average once a month, nothing seemed to trigger it, it was just random. I dealt with it by..well just dealing with it when it happened.

However, after I had my son the pain was near constant. And increasing in intensity also. I was unable to even move for long periods of time due to it, again nothing seemed to trigger it, nothing seems to ease it..just nothing makes any difference. Was put on strong painkillers eventually while investigations were done. Eventually a consultant decided that the pain might be being cause by gallstones. So I was booked in for a removal. Was told the risks were slight, but various things could go wrong. Usual stuff for operations. However, there were complications.. my terrible luck would obviously make it so. It seemed it was only a small ish problem, that the surgeon had cu the wrong place and I had a bile leak. A few days of drains would see me fine. The pain of the drains, it was horrific. Again it hurt to even move at all and it felt like something was eating into my insides constantly..and this was ontop of the usual rib pain, which had not been budged at all by the op. Hospital decided I had been in too long so tried to discharge me..said the drain things could be cut and I could deal with them at home. I was in an absolutely ridiculous amount of pain at this point and absolutely was in no state to go home, I was in tears, unable to stand..my husband blatantly refused to take me home like that too. So they gave a shot of morphine and went to ask for a second opinion. Second doctor came and took one look at me, and sent me back down for emergency surgery. They had to reopen the holes and do a total washout apparently, unsure what else they did (only found out about the surgery while complaining about my treatment..as one of the reports said I had surgery aswell as a washout) but they did something! Turned out the whole time after the failed op..I had been leaking bile from another place the surgeon has ****ed up..and basically my body was drowning in it and being burnt all over..and that if I had not had the second opinion and got the required treatment, had I gone home like they were trying to pressure me to do (alls fine, the ains normal, just deal with it etc) I would have died there that night. Which is lovely.

To cut a very long story short..after all this was done with, I then still had the drain feeling in my chest a lot of the time, along with more burny tpe pain pretty much all over my ribcage. And the original pain too which they tried to write off as 'phantom pain' now as apparently people with gallbladder issues sometimes still gt the gallstone pain even after having no gallbladder, same as people can 'feel' legs that have been amputated and that. Eventually they did decide that it was never caused by me gallbladder mind..but now blatantly refuse to continue investigations into what it actually is. I am convinced it has to be omething to do with hormones, given the pain went way completely the whole time I was pregnant, then came back with a vegeance a month of so afterwards. Its the only thing that makes any sense to me, but they laugh at me for the suggestion :bored:

Basically, I now have both the stabbing/knifetwisting/bearhug type pain in my ribcage near constantly (sometimes get a few hours letup, where pain totally goes away for a bit, but it always comes back after some time..usually like 4-5 hours) along with the nerve damage from the failed operation. Honestly, the mix of them has me totally incapacitated a lot of the time. Medication helps somewhat, but it has its own issues, for example the pregablin I take for the nerve pain is quite effective, but it makes me weird and 'dreamy', quite unbalanced and also makes me sleepwalk! I take large amounts of palexia these days for the rib pain. I take 400mg a day, which according to my doctors is the equvialant of 200mg or morphine.

Which is odd. Because I was on 80mg a day of oramorph, then pain clinic started bull****ting on about how that was a dangerously high dose and started saying I needed to half it. At that stage I switched pain clinics as it was clear they were taking the piss tbh, thinking I could just half my pain meds and not have it effect my life in a very very negative way. Other pain clinic took me off oramorph completely and put me onto palexia. It appears, my GPs do not realise palexia is an opiate, as they have no problem prescribing huge doses..despite them also listening to the other pain clinic (I am convinced they were told their budget was cut so were trying to save cash, only thing that makes sense) who were saying that even 80mg a day of morphine was so so dangerous. However, in switching me from oramorph to palexia, they have more than doubled my morphine dose, from 80mg a day to 200mg! Which has helped considerably, but I am dreading when they click on to it and start taking this off me mind..

Another essay, but yeah. Pain issues still plague me like ****, even on 200mg morphine a day. Its quite effective for the rib pain mind..but only for short periods of time whilst its working, inbetween hours are still horrific. But luckily, I can usually work out how to go out with the kids and that. Work it around my morphine doses. Or sometimes, just take double dose while out..as long as its not a regular thing its fine. So I have a vague semblence of a life at the min, but only until the GP realises that they have me on a higher opiate dose than before D:


[Spoilering as massive and some will find it just..more going over old ground]


Wanna help me save the rhinos?

Sure, how?

[Cherie]

favourite holiday destination

[Vicky.]

Have you ever met any celebrities?
Not really, unless BB housemates count as 'celebrites' :laugh: I knew Charlie from bb10. Was someone in my drinking circle. Also vaguely knew Anthony from bb6, in a 'seen him when out and said hi once or twice' way. And Alex from bb12..was one of my sisters close friends too.

But actual celebs, nope.
What do you watch on tv?

I don't watch TV as such, but on netflix at the min am watching spartacus. Have seen it before but on rewatch as have nowt new to see at the min. Just finished watching how to get away with murder which was fantastic. Also just finiushed gotham, which I didn't think I would like but loved. Watching the handmaids tale as it comes out (seems sporadic..) too.
Favourite film and show of the last year? Wow, I literally can think of no films from last year at all. Have been to see aladdin this year though which was alright. I don't really do films these days, only ones that we take the kids to see really.

Show - in the same boat. I don't watch TV shows now that theres no BB. I didn't even watch BB properly in the final seasons tbh.

Books?

Game of thrones books are my current obsession :D Rereading them which is taking ages and ages but well worth it, the details in them is incerdible and so much better than the show. Besides that, my bookshelf is basically filled with trueblood books, vampire diaries, dexter and buffy :laugh:
Your go to websites ?
Mumsnet is my go to site for most stuff. Its odd, as I always had a 'ew mumsnet, all about prams!' reaction to there, however I had never actually read anything on there to form that opinion..so the opinion came from others it seems. As it turns out, theres next to no discussion of 'mums' stuff. Its just a website mainly populated by women, discussing all things in life..politics, feminism, news stories, tv, whatever. I actually cannot believe I turned my nose up at it for so long, without even ever checking it out D:

Tibb would be my second choice. Used to be the first page I checked for everything. Not at the min, hopefully will get back to there.

Also when very bored, I still go on neopets :D I have mentioned this before. Its such an odd site these days, as it was created for college kids years back, but now, the players are all pretty much adults, on a site thats clearly designed for kids, especially since nickelodean bought it. Feels odd sometimes tbh, but its so bloody addictive I still check it every now and again as don't want to see my items go to waste..

[Vicky.]

favourite holiday destination

That I have actually been to, Lanzaote. We are possibly overdoing it at the min though as been every year for a fair few years now. But always seems the only affordable place thats decent weather (we go in like..March or November ish, when prices are not too bad). I guess the other canaries are an option too but they seem a lot more cash...so Lanzarote it is.

Dream, Thailand or Barbados, maybe one day :love:

[Tony Montana]

Any phobias you have?

[Tony Montana]

Top 5 favourite Game of Thrones characters

[Tony Montana]

Top 5 least favourite Game of Thrones characters?

[Twosugars]

Have gone into this on multiple threads so I kind of worry people are sick of hearing it :laugh:

I used to get this weird problem, where every now and again I got this horrific stabbing type pain in the right side of my ribs, that was worse when I moved and kind of felt like a bearhug at the same time..this would persist for a few hours then lessen up. The first time I got it I actually called an ambulance as the chest pain part scared me a bit, they ecg d me and that and said my chest was fine, though diagnosed something called costochondritus. I have since found out that was a misdiagnosis as the pains in the wronf place to be that..

Anyway, this went on months, with the pain coming on average once a month, nothing seemed to trigger it, it was just random. I dealt with it by..well just dealing with it when it happened.

However, after I had my son the pain was near constant. And increasing in intensity also. I was unable to even move for long periods of time due to it, again nothing seemed to trigger it, nothing seems to ease it..just nothing makes any difference. Was put on strong painkillers eventually while investigations were done. Eventually a consultant decided that the pain might be being cause by gallstones. So I was booked in for a removal. Was told the risks were slight, but various things could go wrong. Usual stuff for operations. However, there were complications.. my terrible luck would obviously make it so. It seemed it was only a small ish problem, that the surgeon had cu the wrong place and I had a bile leak. A few days of drains would see me fine. The pain of the drains, it was horrific. Again it hurt to even move at all and it felt like something was eating into my insides constantly..and this was ontop of the usual rib pain, which had not been budged at all by the op. Hospital decided I had been in too long so tried to discharge me..said the drain things could be cut and I could deal with them at home. I was in an absolutely ridiculous amount of pain at this point and absolutely was in no state to go home, I was in tears, unable to stand..my husband blatantly refused to take me home like that too. So they gave a shot of morphine and went to ask for a second opinion. Second doctor came and took one look at me, and sent me back down for emergency surgery. They had to reopen the holes and do a total washout apparently, unsure what else they did (only found out about the surgery while complaining about my treatment..as one of the reports said I had surgery aswell as a washout) but they did something! Turned out the whole time after the failed op..I had been leaking bile from another place the surgeon has ****ed up..and basically my body was drowning in it and being burnt all over..and that if I had not had the second opinion and got the required treatment, had I gone home like they were trying to pressure me to do (alls fine, the ains normal, just deal with it etc) I would have died there that night. Which is lovely.

To cut a very long story short..after all this was done with, I then still had the drain feeling in my chest a lot of the time, along with more burny tpe pain pretty much all over my ribcage. And the original pain too which they tried to write off as 'phantom pain' now as apparently people with gallbladder issues sometimes still gt the gallstone pain even after having no gallbladder, same as people can 'feel' legs that have been amputated and that. Eventually they did decide that it was never caused by me gallbladder mind..but now blatantly refuse to continue investigations into what it actually is. I am convinced it has to be omething to do with hormones, given the pain went way completely the whole time I was pregnant, then came back with a vegeance a month of so afterwards. Its the only thing that makes any sense to me, but they laugh at me for the suggestion :bored:

Basically, I now have both the stabbing/knifetwisting/bearhug type pain in my ribcage near constantly (sometimes get a few hours letup, where pain totally goes away for a bit, but it always comes back after some time..usually like 4-5 hours) along with the nerve damage from the failed operation. Honestly, the mix of them has me totally incapacitated a lot of the time. Medication helps somewhat, but it has its own issues, for example the pregablin I take for the nerve pain is quite effective, but it makes me weird and 'dreamy', quite unbalanced and also makes me sleepwalk! I take large amounts of palexia these days for the rib pain. I take 400mg a day, which according to my doctors is the equvialant of 200mg or morphine.

Which is odd. Because I was on 80mg a day of oramorph, then pain clinic started bull****ting on about how that was a dangerously high dose and started saying I needed to half it. At that stage I switched pain clinics as it was clear they were taking the piss tbh, thinking I could just half my pain meds and not have it effect my life in a very very negative way. Other pain clinic took me off oramorph completely and put me onto palexia. It appears, my GPs do not realise palexia is an opiate, as they have no problem prescribing huge doses..despite them also listening to the other pain clinic (I am convinced they were told their budget was cut so were trying to save cash, only thing that makes sense) who were saying that even 80mg a day of morphine was so so dangerous. However, in switching me from oramorph to palexia, they have more than doubled my morphine dose, from 80mg a day to 200mg! Which has helped considerably, but I am dreading when they click on to it and start taking this off me mind..

Another essay, but yeah. Pain issues still plague me like ****, even on 200mg morphine a day. Its quite effective for the rib pain mind..but only for short periods of time whilst its working, inbetween hours are still horrific. But luckily, I can usually work out how to go out with the kids and that. Work it around my morphine doses. Or sometimes, just take double dose while out..as long as its not a regular thing its fine. So I have a vague semblence of a life at the min, but only until the GP realises that they have me on a higher opiate dose than before D:


[Spoilering as massive and some will find it just..more going over old ground]




Sure, how?

Thanks for that. I'll reply in a pm :)

[michael21]

What you blood sugar level

[AnnieK]

Have gone into this on multiple threads so I kind of worry people are sick of hearing it :laugh:

I used to get this weird problem, where every now and again I got this horrific stabbing type pain in the right side of my ribs, that was worse when I moved and kind of felt like a bearhug at the same time..this would persist for a few hours then lessen up. The first time I got it I actually called an ambulance as the chest pain part scared me a bit, they ecg d me and that and said my chest was fine, though diagnosed something called costochondritus. I have since found out that was a misdiagnosis as the pains in the wronf place to be that..

Anyway, this went on months, with the pain coming on average once a month, nothing seemed to trigger it, it was just random. I dealt with it by..well just dealing with it when it happened.

However, after I had my son the pain was near constant. And increasing in intensity also. I was unable to even move for long periods of time due to it, again nothing seemed to trigger it, nothing seems to ease it..just nothing makes any difference. Was put on strong painkillers eventually while investigations were done. Eventually a consultant decided that the pain might be being cause by gallstones. So I was booked in for a removal. Was told the risks were slight, but various things could go wrong. Usual stuff for operations. However, there were complications.. my terrible luck would obviously make it so. It seemed it was only a small ish problem, that the surgeon had cu the wrong place and I had a bile leak. A few days of drains would see me fine. The pain of the drains, it was horrific. Again it hurt to even move at all and it felt like something was eating into my insides constantly..and this was ontop of the usual rib pain, which had not been budged at all by the op. Hospital decided I had been in too long so tried to discharge me..said the drain things could be cut and I could deal with them at home. I was in an absolutely ridiculous amount of pain at this point and absolutely was in no state to go home, I was in tears, unable to stand..my husband blatantly refused to take me home like that too. So they gave a shot of morphine and went to ask for a second opinion. Second doctor came and took one look at me, and sent me back down for emergency surgery. They had to reopen the holes and do a total washout apparently, unsure what else they did (only found out about the surgery while complaining about my treatment..as one of the reports said I had surgery aswell as a washout) but they did something! Turned out the whole time after the failed op..I had been leaking bile from another place the surgeon has ****ed up..and basically my body was drowning in it and being burnt all over..and that if I had not had the second opinion and got the required treatment, had I gone home like they were trying to pressure me to do (alls fine, the ains normal, just deal with it etc) I would have died there that night. Which is lovely.

To cut a very long story short..after all this was done with, I then still had the drain feeling in my chest a lot of the time, along with more burny tpe pain pretty much all over my ribcage. And the original pain too which they tried to write off as 'phantom pain' now as apparently people with gallbladder issues sometimes still gt the gallstone pain even after having no gallbladder, same as people can 'feel' legs that have been amputated and that. Eventually they did decide that it was never caused by me gallbladder mind..but now blatantly refuse to continue investigations into what it actually is. I am convinced it has to be omething to do with hormones, given the pain went way completely the whole time I was pregnant, then came back with a vegeance a month of so afterwards. Its the only thing that makes any sense to me, but they laugh at me for the suggestion :bored:

Basically, I now have both the stabbing/knifetwisting/bearhug type pain in my ribcage near constantly (sometimes get a few hours letup, where pain totally goes away for a bit, but it always comes back after some time..usually like 4-5 hours) along with the nerve damage from the failed operation. Honestly, the mix of them has me totally incapacitated a lot of the time. Medication helps somewhat, but it has its own issues, for example the pregablin I take for the nerve pain is quite effective, but it makes me weird and 'dreamy', quite unbalanced and also makes me sleepwalk! I take large amounts of palexia these days for the rib pain. I take 400mg a day, which according to my doctors is the equvialant of 200mg or morphine.

Which is odd. Because I was on 80mg a day of oramorph, then pain clinic started bull****ting on about how that was a dangerously high dose and started saying I needed to half it. At that stage I switched pain clinics as it was clear they were taking the piss tbh, thinking I could just half my pain meds and not have it effect my life in a very very negative way. Other pain clinic took me off oramorph completely and put me onto palexia. It appears, my GPs do not realise palexia is an opiate, as they have no problem prescribing huge doses..despite them also listening to the other pain clinic (I am convinced they were told their budget was cut so were trying to save cash, only thing that makes sense) who were saying that even 80mg a day of morphine was so so dangerous. However, in switching me from oramorph to palexia, they have more than doubled my morphine dose, from 80mg a day to 200mg! Which has helped considerably, but I am dreading when they click on to it and start taking this off me mind..

Another essay, but yeah. Pain issues still plague me like ****, even on 200mg morphine a day. Its quite effective for the rib pain mind..but only for short periods of time whilst its working, inbetween hours are still horrific. But luckily, I can usually work out how to go out with the kids and that. Work it around my morphine doses. Or sometimes, just take double dose while out..as long as its not a regular thing its fine. So I have a vague semblence of a life at the min, but only until the GP realises that they have me on a higher opiate dose than before D:


[Spoilering as massive and some will find it just..more going over old ground]




Sure, how?


That sounds horrific Vic, have you tried weed to manage the pain,? Or any other alternative therapies?

[Vicky.]

Any phobias you have?
Emetophobia (fear of vomit) is my only phobia. Not a good combination with young kids :laugh: Luckily, when they have been ill, Gavin has been here to sort it. I have absolutely no idea how I would sort it if he was out..but I guess I wuld have to :worry:
Top 5 favourite Game of Thrones characters
Tyrion
Arya
Tormund
Davos
Olenna Tyrell :D
Top 5 least favourite Game of Thrones characters?
Joffrey
Ramsey
Greyworm (non idea why..just cannot stand him :laugh: )
Theon
Margaery
What you blood sugar level

When I have taken it previously, usually like 3 or so. Dint have one of the machine things to check now, but presumably that, mind I have had nowt to eat today yet because of pain so..might be lower.
That sounds horrific Vic, have you tried weed to manage the pain,? Or any other alternative therapies?
Smoking weed seems to help. However with the kids..I don't feel comfortable smoking it constantly, especially as I get high really easily for some reason. Thats my go to solution if they are at grandads or something though, as it helps a lot.

Cannabis oils I have tried have made no difference at all.

Have been advised to try something called kratom, but it seems that gets people high too :bored:

Stuck between a rock and a hard place really. A few things do help, but I cannot realistically do them with young kids. So just have to attempt to deal with it the best I can with prescription drugs :/

[Twosugars]

Is parenthood all it's cracked up to be?
Are you Vicky first and then a mother or the other way round?

[AnnieK]

Have you met any TiBB members in real life?

[AnnieK]

If there was a TiBB meet up, would you go?

[Vicky.]

If there was a TiBB meet up, would you go?
If there was one where there was not too much travel involved, probably. Oddly, would probably be nervous though, which I don't tend to get..
Have you met any TiBB members in real life?
Nope.
Is parenthood all it's cracked up to be?

Umm, I don't really know how to answer that as not sure what its cracked up to be :laugh:

Its certainly not easy, and not without its downfalls..for sure. Though, I was bollocked on facebook by some cock a few days back for complaining about the kids being demons. Apparently parents are never allowed to moan about their kids going mad, because some people are infertile and others cannot see their kids :laugh: Apparently children are a blessing, and negative times should not happen nor be spoken about, only good things (plus, I have no right to moan, as I 'opened my legs and made it happen'..was his words). The guy who said this..has a child who he does not see, through his own choices. His brother is in the same boat, but has multiple kids who he neither bothers with nor supports. So for him to criticize me..it took a lot of strength to not go to town on him and his ridiculous post :joker:
Are you Vicky first and then a mother or the other way round?

I would like to say Vicky first, but its generally the other way around thse days, I think it has to be really. When kids are elswwhere it fairly easy to go back to being me but..thats rare. Its really odd I think, being a parent, its like there are two different versions of you.

[Twosugars]

Omg that guy. Surprised you managed to hold back :laugh:

But thank you, you answered my vague questions.

Your favourite tibb members past and present?

Who do you like reading in SD?

Who would you like to post more?

Your favourite tibb eccentric?

[Vicky.]

Your favourite tibb members past and present?

Thats so hard as there are many..and also as answering this properly would be used against me at some point :laugh: I will go with niamh, and missittyfantastico. I know she has not posted in years, but I <34 her.

Who do you like reading in SD?

Jamie876 (or some number combo), Jack and ToySoldier (in threads not about male violence :p ) I think if pushed for names. People who tend to put thought into their posts and..post more than one word replies. And are not afraid of voicing alternative opinions to the 'accepted view' at times, but generally respectfully too. Anyone who fits that in SD..I like reading.


Who would you like to post more? Jamie and Jack, obviously. Also Shaun, tends to not post much these days where hes always been a forum staple tbh.

Your favourite tibb eccentric?
Arista..obviously

[Denver]

How was your time in prison?

[Ammi]

..Vicky...

[Ammi]

...what makes you happy../...the happiest..?...

[Ammi]

...the best day of your life...?...

[Ammi]

...did you laugh out loud today..?...

[Ammi]

...you have 3 wishes, what would they be...?...

[Ammi]

...if you could give your children only one bit of life advice...what..?...

[Ammi]

...do you like to hug...?...

[Ammi]

...which movie has made you cry the most..?...

[Ammi]

...beach or mountains..?...

[Ammi]

...your best ever day out...?...

[Ammi]

...your best childhood memory...?...

[Denver]

Live to regret or regret to live?

[Ammi]

...if you had £1 million pounds to donate to one charity...which charity would you choose..?...

[Vicky.]

How was your time in prison?
Have never been to prison.
...what makes you happy../...the happiest..?...
Corny, but the kids being happy. My daughters laugh (her real one, not the fake cackle she does) is the most wonderful sound ever tbh :laugh:

...the best day of your life...?...

Detailed below probably, dolphin day :laugh:

...did you laugh out loud today..?...
Nope, today has been a horrific day where I have been unable to even leave my bedroom, as doctors have not done my medication which was due yesterday, so am now officially in opiate withdrawal! Which is..fun. Have to stay away from the kids when am like this as its too hard to act normal when you feel like you are dying.

...you have 3 wishes, what would they be...?...
To be cured of whatever the hell this is/health for me and my family.
A bank account with endless cash
Be able to breathe underwater and swim quickly, kind of like a mermaid

...if you could give your children only one bit of life advice...what..?...
Stay on at bloody school, even if you dislike it. It will really do you good in the future rergadless of how pointless you think it will be. Also, enjoy/cherish your schooldays as tbh, they will probebly be the best days of your life, though you will not tink so at the time.
...do you like to hug...?...
Yup
...which movie has made you cry the most..?...
Armageddon is pretty much the only film thats made me cry. Mighty joe young though really makes me fill up and threaten to cry though.
...beach or mountains..?...
Beach
...your best ever day out...?...
A couple of years back, actually on my honeymoon. Was in Benidorm (awful place for honeymoon, I know but husband was obsessed :laugh: ) and went to a place called Mundomar..which is basically a big zoo. We went wandering and found a pool full of dolphins, and they came over to play with us right away. There were no staff around or anything, though there were big signs up saying so not touch the dolphins. Well for about half an hour, the dolphins played with us..bringing hoops from the bottom of the pool and jumping about and coming so we could touch them. It was fantastic and something I will never forget. Honestly, it was really tempting to actually get in and see if they would also swim with us (fairly sure they would have) but refrained. Eventually staff came and shooed us away screaming in Spanish..when they did the dolpins all kind of came to the edge of the pool and started making noises. Was such a weird but brilliant day.

Next time we went to Mundomar, turned out they had put fences up and had a guard next to the dolphin pool. It seems, that was because of us :D

[Vicky.]

...your best childhood memory...?...

Not really sure why this one christmas stands out in my memory, but the christmas after my sister was born. I will have been 3 or 4 at the time. I remember that shristmas so clearly, I got a new bike and was riding it round the house, purposely trying to run over my sisters presents (which were like..jonsons shampoo and stuff rather than presents) and getting excited over some ;ducktales' thing I got. It was also the year I got hungy hippos. Honestly, opening the present and seeing it was hungry hippos even now makes me feel all tingly and remember how..blissful my life was then!
Live to regret or regret to live?
Live to regret of course.
...if you had £1 million pounds to donate to one charity...which charity would you choose..?...
Womens aid. Or any charity that helps women fleeing male violence and such, There are so many of them. And all severely underfunded and very very needed.

[Twosugars]

So agree with you on TS (and others)
Have you read TS on the betting industry? :lovedup:
So informative and well written I got an erection :hee:

You write well too.
What are the issues that get you going?

[Vicky.]

So agree with you on TS (and others)
Have you read TS on the betting industry? :lovedup:
So informative and well written I got an erection :hee:

You write well too.
What are the issues that get you going?

Yeah his posts on betting stuff have been very interesting. Its something that affects me a lot too presently (wish it didn't!) so yeah, very informative.

Main issue that gets me going these days is anything to do with womens rights. As most on here know from..experience of threads about anything to do with womens rights. I tend to have not very popular opinions in a few of them, but they are strongly held opinions that I am unlikely to change..regardless of being told I am a bigot or misandrist whatever. Nope, I just primarily think of women. Same as a black rights activist thinks first of the rights of black people. Noone asks them to consider and help all the other groups of people first, like whats expected of feminists. See..off again without even a thread to start ot :joker: Yeah, definitely gets me going at the min.

[Kizzy]

Vicky! Love you one of the most real and genuine members here, you're refreshingly honest and heartfelt, flawed but flawless xxxx

Where in the world makes you happiest to be?
If you had to pick occupations for your kids now what would they be based on their personalities?

[Vicky.]

Vicky! Love you one of the most real and genuine members here, you're refreshingly honest and heartfelt, flawed but flawless xxxx

Where in the world makes you happiest to be?

Presently, I am happiest when we are in Lanzarote and the kids are behaving. They tend to be much better on holiday, which kind of makes me want to be on a constant holiday.

Or maybe, even better, Lanzarote in March, when the kids stay with Grandad for a week and me and Gavin get adult time /badmother :D

If we had more cash, I would be happiest in Florida though. When I have gone in the past with my mum and dad, it was fantastic so I figure it would be just as good, if not better with my own kids.

Also a bit cliché answer, I am generally very happy in my own home. Just to be able to have somewhere to call my own and relax, and just..feels like its meant to be really. Like, coming back from a holiday into my house..really does feel like 'coming home'..you know? Not sure I am explaining right there..but yeah.

[Vicky.]

If you had to pick occupations for your kids now what would they be based on there personalities?

Skye wants to be a hairdresser. She does my hair multiple times a day, to the point where its almost always greasy as she bloody touches it so much :laugh: But based on her personality at the minute, I would say nurse. Shes very into helping people, and cuddling when people are down and stuff..something thats pretty new as for ages and ages she would not show any affection at all. She panicks and screams for plasters whenever James cuts himself, meanwhile hes running about shoving the blood in peoples faces to try and freak them out, not bothered in the slightest!

James, I don't know. Some kind of sports person maybe, or something where a lot of energy and a very loud personality are appreciated :laugh:

[Kizzy]

Haha I'm with you on the coming home from holiday feeling :laugh: you and hubby enjoy your 18-30 heehee
Aw bless wish mine were still that lil, they sound like a right pair of monkeys :D

[Beso]

Hi Vicky. ...why did you not name the person you would perma ban?

Why did you spread further paranoia acroos the forum with that statement?