Just got a message from my ex husband on messenger

[Vanessa]

D:

[sleleen]

What’s it say?

[Mitchell]

Just saw your Facebook post and was worried, hope you're okay x

[Vanessa]

He's still chatting to me. I haven't seen him in a long time. I was very much in love with him, but things didn't work out.

[Vanessa]

Just saw your Facebook post and was worried, hope you're okay x

That wasn't him. It was some woman.

[Mitchell]

That wasn't him. It was some woman.

Ah ok, sorry got mixed up :joker:

[Vanessa]

He was so handsome :flutter:

[Morgan.]

He was so handsome :flutter:

Was?

[Denver]

Was?

Vanessa divorced him when he became 30?

[Vanessa]

Vanessa divorced him when he became 30?

Not quite :laugh:

[Vanessa]

My sister thinks I shouldn't keep in touch. She doesn't trust men :joker:

[Crimson Dynamo]

My sister thinks I shouldn't keep in touch. She doesn't trust men :joker:

She sounds like a wrongun ness

[Vanessa]

She sounds like a wrongun ness

:laugh:

[Mitchell]

Vanessa divorced him when he became 30?

Nope, after he didn’t stan Jaustin

[Vanessa]

It was such a long time ago. Now I feel old :joker:

[Vanessa]

He has asked to see me. Probably not a good idea :grin2:

[Kazanne]

He has asked to see me. Probably not a good idea :grin2:

Go with your feelings Vanessa,people change as they get older.

[Vanessa]

Go with your feelings Vanessa,people change as they get older.

Can you really stay friends with an ex? I don't know.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Can you really stay friends with an ex? I don't know.

Only if you bang them now and then

[Vanessa]

:joker:Only if you bang them now and then

[Kazanne]

Can you really stay friends with an ex? I don't know.

Yes,you can as long as you can let the past go.

[AnnieK]

Can you really stay friends with an ex? I don't know.

Course you can....people change and mature, you obviously loved him once, why could you not be friends now?

[Vanessa]

I'll have to think about it. I'm just not sure.

[AnnieK]

I'll have to think about it. I'm just not sure.

You should only do it if you want to. We don't know what went on in your relationship but if you feel it, do it. If not, don't. :love:

[thesheriff443]

My sister thinks I shouldn't keep in touch. She doesn't trust men :joker:

Us girls got to stick together ness

[caprimint]

Why didn't your relationship work out before? Do you think things could change this time around?

[Cherie]

A friend of mine remarried her ex husband last year and they are so happy, they had two kids together, divorced, they both married other people and had kids with them, when those relationships broke down they were single for a while but obviously met up at family gatherings, now 30 years after their first wedding, they are back together and happier than ever, no harm meeting up with him for a drink, what is the worst that can happen Ness, unless it was an abusive relationship in which case stay the hell away from him

[Beso]

D:

So...I got a friend request on fb or msngr from you..sent you a.msg and you didn't even have the decency to reply.

[Kazanne]

Go for it Ness, and like Cherie said as long as he wasn't abusive,what have you got to lose ? Things happen for a reason,this could be good for you,dont miss opportunities to be happy ,and there is no pressure for you to do anything other than what you want to do.

[Vanessa]

So...I got a friend request on fb or msngr from you..sent you a.msg and you didn't even have the decency to reply.

Sorry, I didn't see it.

[Vanessa]

Let's just say it's complicated. A lot happened between us that I don't really want to remember. That doesn't mean we didn't have some happy times as well.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Send him a couple of topless shots and a eggplant emoji and see what develops?

[Niamh.]

Why didn't your relationship work out before? Do you think things could change this time around?

Yeah was going to ask this, it really depends how and why things ended I think

[Cherie]

Let's just say it's complicated. A lot happened between us that I don't really want to remember. That doesn't mean we didn't have some happy times as well.

oh, that doesn't sound good tbh

[Vanessa]

I don't hold grudges, but sometime remembering the past can be painful.

[Niamh.]

I don't hold grudges, but sometime remembering the past can be painful.

There's a difference between holding a grudge and learning from mistakes and not putting yourself into bad situations again though. Just be careful

[Vanessa]

There's a difference between holding a grudge and learning from mistakes and not putting yourself into bad situations again though. Just be careful

True. He isn't a bad person, but our past isn't always a happy one

[Vanessa]

Why didn't your relationship work out before? Do you think things could change this time around?

I'm happy being single, to be honest. But maybe we could be friends?

[thesheriff443]

He will want more

[Kate!]

He will want more

Definitely

[bots]

i never give relationship advice. We can only make judgements from our own personal experiences and every relationship is different

[Kazanne]

Send him a couple of topless shots and a eggplant emoji and see what develops?

:laugh: trust you to bring us down in the gutter with a bump LT.

[Kazanne]

I'm happy being single, to be honest. But maybe we could be friends?

If you are happy as you are Vanessa, then don't change things maybe just chat to him online as friends.

[Beso]

Invite him round...I will.come round an hour before him and get myself settled in his old chair.

[arista]

Invite him round...I will.come round an hour before him and get myself settled in his old chair.


Perfect.

[Kazanne]

Invite him round...I will.come round an hour before him and get myself settled in his old chair.

:joker::joker:

[rusticgal]

Can you really stay friends with an ex? I don't know.


Not if you are still in love with him...but why has he got in touch with you. Do you think he wants you back?

[Josy]

I'm happy being single, to be honest. But maybe we could be friends?

Tell him this

Unless he's a cheat, if he was a cheat, tell him to **** off and delete him pronto.

[Niamh.]

Tell him this



Unless he's a cheat, if he was a cheat, tell him to **** off and delete him pronto.[emoji23]

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[Kate!]

Tell him this

Unless he's a cheat, if he was a cheat, tell him to **** off and delete him pronto.

Reply of the week :love:

[Black Dagger]

You have to always go with your heart and what you feel is right on these things even if they might not turn out right.


Look at me trying give any sort of advice when my ex has completely ****ed my head up and I don't even know what I want from life.

Just tell him exactly how you feel. Everything happens for a reason.

[AnnieK]

You have to always go with your heart and what you feel is right on these things even if they might not turn out right.


Look at me trying give any sort of advice when my ex has completely ****ed my head up and I don't even know what I want from life.

Just tell him exactly how you feel. Everything happens for a reason.

:love:

[Vanessa]

Thinking about our past, I got a bit sad today. But I feel better now. Thanks for the advice everyone.

[Vanessa]

Invite him round...I will.come round an hour before him and get myself settled in his old chair.

:laugh:

[thesheriff443]

Tell him this

Unless he's a cheat, if he was a cheat, tell him to **** off and delete him pronto.

Believe it or not this is Josy being nice, she has various levels of violence depending on the crime.

[thesheriff443]

Let’s take the jam out of lt’s donuts and ask about his ex.

[thesheriff443]

You have to ask what has made him contact you, has he had another failed relationship and wants an ego boost.

It’s very rare for ex’s to get back together after a long time apart but it does happen but if one of you or both of you have not changed in the years you have been apart it’s going to like have a dead pet back in your life after you berried them and grieved for them then picked yourself up and had to get on with life.

[Vanessa]

You have to ask what has made him contact you, has he had another failed relationship and wants an ego boost.

It’s very rare for ex’s to get back together after a long time apart but it does happen but if one of you or both of you have not changed in the years you have been apart it’s going to like have a dead pet back in your life after you berried them and grieved for them then picked yourself up and had to get on with life.

I know, I get teary just thinking about some of our past. But i try to think about the happy memories.

[thesheriff443]

I know, I get teary just thinking about some of our past. But i try to think about the happy memories.

It ended for a reason and clearly after all this time it has opened up old wounds.

Don’t get hurt worse than you did the first time round.

[Vanessa]

You have to ask what has made him contact you, has he had another failed relationship and wants an ego boost.

It’s very rare for ex’s to get back together after a long time apart but it does happen but if one of you or both of you have not changed in the years you have been apart it’s going to like have a dead pet back in your life after you berried them and grieved for them then picked yourself up and had to get on with life.

It ended for a reason and clearly after all this time it has opened up old wounds.

Don’t get hurt worse than you did the first time round.
I think you're right. And I don't like crying in front of people. I try not to.