Do you struggle in life?

[Beso]

Ah I can't post apologies...

But if I could it would be that I'm sorry but I can't add a yes or no poll that is private when you post ...


After works drinks, I do apologise for that x

[Wizard.]

Life is hard

[Beso]

Well I've just managed to contradict myself with the poll...so it's no that bad.


Xx

[Jessica.]

Every single day, everything I do is a struggle. Even when I'm just doing my hair or making a meal there's an internal feeling telling me "I can't do it, it's too much work, just give up and go back to bed."

[Ammi]

Every single day, everything I do is a struggle. Even when I'm just doing my hair or making a meal there's an internal feeling telling me "I can't do it, it's too much work, just give up and go back to bed."

...Jess...:hug:..:hug:..:hug:...

[Jessica.]

...Jess...:hug:..:hug:..:hug:...I've gotten better at taking control of it, I even went on a day out today and attended to some important business even though I was absolutely pooing myself with anxiety. [emoji4]

[Marsh.]

Yes.

[Marsh.]

I've gotten better at taking control of it, I even went on a day out today and attended to some important business even though I was absolutely pooing myself with anxiety. [emoji4]

:love:

[Ammi]

I've gotten better at taking control of it, I even went on a day out today and attended to some important business even though I was absolutely pooing myself with anxiety. [emoji4]

...but you did it, you took control of it ...that’s a huge thing, Jess...and the thing to hold onto and build on ...and don’t allow your thoughts to focus more on your anxiety levels of how you were feeling...try to refocus them on the control you took and that empowerment..?..:hug:...that was pretty amazing, eh...

[Jake.]

Yes. Beginning to realise so now more than ever.

[Ammi]

Yes. Beginning to realise so now more than ever.

..Jake..:hug:...

[smudgie]

Occasionally.
7 weeks on antibiotics and legs that won’t let me sleep gets a bit bothersome.
However there is always something to look forward to.

Keep strong Jess, little steps at a time will get you there.:hug:

[LaLaLand]

Currently, very much so. But there are people much worse off than me so I shouldn’t grumble. I’m lucky I have a family that help me but yeah, it’s hard atm thanks to panic disorder/attacks/general severe anxiety.

[Glenn.]

The darkness consumes me everyday

[user104658]

Anyone who says no as in NEVER is surely not being entirely honest?

[Cherie]

of course everyone struggles at some point, not every day though for most

literally what Wizard said, life is hard, but it can also be great, otherwise what is the point

[Ant.]

I do struggle but I cope

[Ant.]

Every single day, everything I do is a struggle. Even when I'm just doing my hair or making a meal there's an internal feeling telling me "I can't do it, it's too much work, just give up and go back to bed."

Yes. Beginning to realise so now more than ever.

Occasionally.
7 weeks on antibiotics and legs that won’t let me sleep gets a bit bothersome.
However there is always something to look forward to.

Keep strong Jess, little steps at a time will get you there.:hug:

The darkness consumes me everyday

:love:
Currently, very much so. But there are people much worse off than me so I shouldn’t grumble. I’m lucky I have a family that help me but yeah, it’s hard atm thanks to panic disorder/attacks/general severe anxiety.

You should grumble! There's always gonna be someone objectively "worse off" no matter what circumstance you're in, but that doesn't mean you can't be upset
I like to think a big part of healing is being honest about how much what you're going through hurts, and for that you should speak about it however you feel fit :hug:
I hope you feel better soon :hug: :love:

[Marsh.]

of course everyone struggles at some point, not every day though for most

literally what Wizard said, life is hard, but it can also be great, otherwise what is the point

That's the distinction. The thread is confused.

The title is "Do you struggle in life?" and the poll is "Do you struggle at times?"

Two different things.

I would imagine the second question is a yes for everyone, the first a yes for only some people.

[Jessica.]

Occasionally.

7 weeks on antibiotics and legs that won’t let me sleep gets a bit bothersome.

However there is always something to look forward to.



Keep strong Jess, little steps at a time will get you there.:hug:Thanks Smudgie, hope you get some relief from the issue with your legs.

[Black Dagger]

Every single day at the moment. I haven't been in a good place since Anthony dumped me and I just feel useless and hopeless and like I bore everybody so I just keep it bottled in now. I am just existing. I can count on one hand the amount of good days I've had in 7 months.

[Jessica.]

Every single day at the moment. I haven't been in a good place since Anthony dumped me and I just feel useless and hopeless and like I bore everybody so I just keep it bottled in now. I am just existing. I can count on one hand the amount of good days I've had in 7 months.Just remember that you have more people rooting for you than you think! :love:

[Black Dagger]

Just remember that you have more people rooting for you than you think! :love:

Love you kween. We need to do puzzles again soon :love:

[Jessica.]

Love you kween. We need to do puzzles again soon :love:Aww, definitely, I love a good puzzler!

[AnnieK]

Life is hard....its also a blessing. I spent 12 years and thousands of pounds trying to have a child, everything failed. I was told to give up. Almost 9 years ago to the day (27th) of this month, my life was complete when my miracle son was born. Fast forward 4 years almost to this day (31st) I was given the worst news, my mum had cancer....three days later we were told it was terminal, 4 weeks later she was dead. At times I still find it hard to breathe if I think about the speed we lost her. Enjoy what you have...even if you think it's ****...make memories and try to love life. Its hard, it's **** at times...but it's so limited. Talk to people if you feel down....chances are they will get it and help. :love:

[SherzyK]

Same as Ant, I do have my fair share of struggles but I’ve learned to adapt and overcome these. I just drink all my problems away tbh

[Mystic Mock]

I don't suffer with any mental health or anxiety issues, but I don't really excel at anything in particular so I struggle at being talented at anything if that counts as a valid answer.

[RileyH]

no

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[Mystic Mock]

I've gotten better at taking control of it, I even went on a day out today and attended to some important business even though I was absolutely pooing myself with anxiety. [emoji4]

That's impressive, I think that most of us (myself included) would've given up attending if they were feeling like that.

You should be proud of yourself imo.

[LaLaLand]

That's impressive, I think that most of us (myself included) would've given up attending if they were feeling like that.

You should be proud of yourself imo.

I agree with this.

When my anxiety is bad (lolwhenisn'titlately?) I plain don't go anywhere, can't face anything especially anything like what you've stated.

Good on you Jessica! :dance:

[Babayaro.]

Yes. Buuuut now I am able to deal with it and am able to 'snap out' of getting myself into a lull/slump. Whereas in the past it would not take a lot for me to get worked up/upset over. Slowly but surely I'm working on and improving my mental wellbeing and although things are by no means perfect, I'm feeling pretty optimistic about the future and what I have in life right now.

[Daniel-X]

Everyone struggles and if anyone says no then they’re lying. I am very good at coping though with things life throw at me (some of which have been very traumatic) and most of the time I’m happy/content with my life.

[Ammi]

Every single day at the moment. I haven't been in a good place since Anthony dumped me and I just feel useless and hopeless and like I bore everybody so I just keep it bottled in now. I am just existing. I can count on one hand the amount of good days I've had in 7 months.

...you did nothing to hurt him and yet you feel useless and you feel hopeless...?...that’s how the actions of others can make us feel if we allow them to...:hug:..hmmmm, I wonder how it would be for you now, had you still been with him...to be with someone but the relationship feel hollow or empty in some way...I think the struggle would still be there equally, just taking a different course...?...each day that you get through is a day that you should be loud and proud of the person you are and never bottle that in...a person he was never worthy of, he only wishes...:hug:..

[Ammi]

Life is hard....its also a blessing. I spent 12 years and thousands of pounds trying to have a child, everything failed. I was told to give up. Almost 9 years ago to the day (27th) of this month, my life was complete when my miracle son was born. Fast forward 4 years almost to this day (31st) I was given the worst news, my mum had cancer....three days later we were told it was terminal, 4 weeks later she was dead. At times I still find it hard to breathe if I think about the speed we lost her. Enjoy what you have...even if you think it's ****...make memories and try to love life. Its hard, it's **** at times...but it's so limited. Talk to people if you feel down....chances are they will get it and help. :love:

...life is amazing...if you had, had a child at any other time in your life then that child would have been a different child..it’s almost like a sliding doors, thing...because you carry your mum in your heart, she’ll always be with you, Annie...:hug:...

[Ammi]

Yes.

...I missed this..:hug:..Marsh..and you make others smile so much...

[Ammi]

...I agree with Ant, LaLa...yeah, you can grumble...whatever others are going through, doesn’t change your own struggles or the weight of them in your own life...grumbling is good for the soul...:hug:...(..for yours and other people’s soul..)...

[Beso]

Feel the love x

[Denver]

I'm struggling right now with personal issues and realising those people you should be able to trust without thinking about it are actually the people who dont care about you like you thought they did and now you cant trust them

[Cherie]

I'm struggling right now with personal issues and realising those people you should be able to trust without thinking about it are actually the people who dont care about you like you thought they did and now you can trust them

yes sadly its often the people you think should be there for you that aren't but on the plus side you know the people who step up are genuine :love:

[Cherie]

That's the distinction. The thread is confused.

The title is "Do you struggle in life?" and the poll is "Do you struggle at times?"

Two different things.

I would imagine the second question is a yes for everyone, the first a yes for only some people.

struggle can mean anything though, struggling financially, emotionally, academically, finding a job, so I would say the answer is yes to both for most

[Strictly Jake]

I feel I struggle a lot in a lot of aspects however I feel really happy at the moment. Might just be because I have been on holiday so I'm still in that mode I'll probably come crashing down this week in my usual routine

[arista]

The darkness consumes me everyday


Good you can have LED lights
to bring You Up

[user104658]

Does anyone else have it related to absolutely NOTHING? :joker: I'm in the best job I've ever had, with an ethical and supportive company (something I've been desperate for for years), I'm finally finishing my degree, my wife is settling into her career, we're in the best financial position we've ever been by a significant margin, we're looking at new/bigger houses, everything on paper really couldn't be going much better... And yet I'm (just emerging from, thankfully) an extremely dark few months. Not my worst ever but definitely top 5.

My latest theory is that I have some sort of adjustment disorder... Any change (even 100% positive change) can send me into a bit of a spiral. My brain goes into overdrive trying to predict endless possible outcomes to endless possible situations and I end up mentally and physically exhausted.

I swear, I once had a (very brief) episode of derealisation (the world feels like "nothing is quite real") because we dramatically changed the colour scheme in the living room. :umm2:

[UserSince2005]

Life aint easy.

It never gets easy.

I'm so proud of the life I have built myself considering my beginnings.

[Ammi]

Does anyone else have it related to absolutely NOTHING? :joker: I'm in the best job I've ever had, with an ethical and supportive company (something I've been desperate for for years), I'm finally finishing my degree, my wife is settling into her career, we're in the best financial position we've ever been by a significant margin, we're looking at new/bigger houses, everything on paper really couldn't be going much better... And yet I'm (just emerging from, thankfully) an extremely dark few months. Not my worst ever but definitely top 5.

My latest theory is that I have some sort of adjustment disorder... Any change (even 100% positive change) can send me into a bit of a spiral. My brain goes into overdrive trying to predict endless possible outcomes to endless possible situations and I end up mentally and physically exhausted.

I swear, I once had a (very brief) episode of derealisation (the world feels like "nothing is quite real") because we dramatically changed the colour scheme in the living room. :umm2:

...or although everything is heading exactly where you want it to be etc...it’s still been lots of change and possibly some uncertainty as well...new things, not as confident etc ...no matter how great change is, it can still shake us, shake our sense of worth and confidence and just our sense of how we fit..?...I’m glad that it’s feeling much brighter and I’m thrilled that things are heading exactly how you want them to be...:love:..

[user104658]

...or although everything is heading exactly where you want it to be etc...it’s still been lots of change and possibly some uncertainty as well...new things, not as confident etc ...no matter how great change is, it can still shake us, shake our sense of worth and confidence and just our sense of how we fit..?...I’m glad that it’s feeling much brighter and I’m thrilled that things are heading exactly how you want them to be...:love:..

You are most wise, dearest Ammi. I think my issues are multiple, really. A sense that the more I have, the more I have to lose is one? Also a feeling that "ups and downs" are inevitable and things keep heading up, so I'm constantly on guard for the "down" :think:. It sounds like a ridiculous whinge when I think about it.

The other aspect of course is being hopelessly hyper-intelligent so when my brain gets away from me the damn thing is a ****ing nightmare to kick back into shape ;) :worry:

[Moniqua]

i've been snatched MORE times than ah can count x :bawling: :(

but ah durnt let that define me, ah define ME mwah x :strength: :100: :awoooo:

[Cherie]

i've been snatched MORE times than ah can count x :bawling: :(

but ah durnt let that define me, ah define ME mwah x :strength: :100: :awoooo:

:flutter: my kinda gal

[thesheriff443]

A teacher who taught my daughter and I knew as a friend lost her mum a few months back took her own life last week.

Don’t ever be afraid to ask for help and talking about things is always the best way.

[Black Dagger]

...you did nothing to hurt him and yet you feel useless and you feel hopeless...?...that’s how the actions of others can make us feel if we allow them to...:hug:..hmmmm, I wonder how it would be for you now, had you still been with him...to be with someone but the relationship feel hollow or empty in some way...I think the struggle would still be there equally, just taking a different course...?...each day that you get through is a day that you should be loud and proud of the person you are and never bottle that in...a person he was never worthy of, he only wishes...:hug:..

I feel hopeless in the fact that I've let my brain dictate how I feel for the past 7 months when he's the one that broke my heart and gave up on us. I should have the strength and dignity to be like lol that's life. Plenty more dick. I never struggled with him. He was the happiest I'd been for a long time. Even with him having Bipolar. We didn't have any drama since I got back from Eurovision and now he's gone. I feel hopeless in the fact that I know everybody is sick of me talking about him and yet can't stop.

I will be in a good place again one day though :hug:

[LaLaLand]

A teacher who taught my daughter and I knew as a friend lost her mum a few months back took her own life last week.

Don’t ever be afraid to ask for help and talking about things is always the best way.

That's so awful. God. :(

Absolutely - always seek help when you can. I'm currently seeing a mental health worker about once every six weeks, just to talk about stuff and she'll be giving me little mundane tasks to do that I find challenging. It's not as often as I'd like but better than nothing at all. It's good to talk and share how you're coping.

She's also had me start a diary where I record what I do each day, how I feel and whenever I have a panic attack and my symptoms etc (it's surprising how regular I have them reading it back, I think I'm just used to it having suffered for over a decade now - second nature but this shouldn't be the case!)

[Kizzy]

I'm half way through a 13hr shift... fml

[AnnieK]

A teacher who taught my daughter and I knew as a friend lost her mum a few months back took her own life last week.

Don’t ever be afraid to ask for help and talking about things is always the best way.

My mum was scared of that....She called my best friend to the hospice to tell het to watch out for me doing anything crazy..... I never would but we were that close she worried I wouldn't cope

[Marsh.]

struggle can mean anything though, struggling financially, emotionally, academically, finding a job, so I would say the answer is yes to both for most

Of course it can. But generally if you're someone who struggles in life not just some of the time but all of the time, you're not talking about someone going through a skint patch or unemployment but someone who finds life itself difficult no matter the circumstance.

[Marsh.]

...I missed this..:hug:..Marsh..and you make others smile so much...

:love:

[Marsh.]

Does anyone else have it related to absolutely NOTHING? :joker: I'm in the best job I've ever had, with an ethical and supportive company (something I've been desperate for for years), I'm finally finishing my degree, my wife is settling into her career, we're in the best financial position we've ever been by a significant margin, we're looking at new/bigger houses, everything on paper really couldn't be going much better... And yet I'm (just emerging from, thankfully) an extremely dark few months. Not my worst ever but definitely top 5.

My latest theory is that I have some sort of adjustment disorder... Any change (even 100% positive change) can send me into a bit of a spiral. My brain goes into overdrive trying to predict endless possible outcomes to endless possible situations and I end up mentally and physically exhausted.

I swear, I once had a (very brief) episode of derealisation (the world feels like "nothing is quite real") because we dramatically changed the colour scheme in the living room. :umm2:

Sounds a bit of a "We've struggled for so long things CAN'T be going right for too much longer, WHAT WILL FAIL FIRST???" anxiety. My mum gets that.

Nothing positive can be positive, she's waiting for the other shoe to drop. :joker:

[Ammi]

I feel hopeless in the fact that I've let my brain dictate how I feel for the past 7 months when he's the one that broke my heart and gave up on us. I should have the strength and dignity to be like lol that's life. Plenty more dick. I never struggled with him. He was the happiest I'd been for a long time. Even with him having Bipolar. We didn't have any drama since I got back from Eurovision and now he's gone. I feel hopeless in the fact that I know everybody is sick of me talking about him and yet can't stop.

I will be in a good place again one day though :hug:

....hmmm, it’s a complicated one as well, Lucas ....because maybe you’ve allowed your brain to dictate for the last 7 months, because you’re not fully ready to move forward ...so you hold onto stuff that will keep you where you are in time, type thing..?...its not about ‘plenty more’ it’s about someone who had huge significance in your life...and at some point you’ll meet someone who will be more perfect for you, if you allow yourself to be open to that...but that’s going to be a huge leap of faith for you, a huge vulnerability that you’re going to have to open yourself to, we have to try not to associate and try to trust again..?...there is no time limit to something like that, it’s a bit like a grieving process..?...you’ll be ready when you’re ready and there are things that you have to talk out as well to help you to feel as though you can trust your heart again...don’t ever feel as though you can’t talk ...the relationship may have ‘made you the happiest’ but it’s also made you the unhappiest, so that’s something that’s going to take quite a bit of time to get through...and that would be the same for anyone, for everyone...I do feel that when you’re ready to move forward, you’ll let go of the things you need to keep atm because you’re not ready...it’s only been 7 months and he was hugely important in your life, that’s no time at all, my love...talk, talk, talk as much as you need to talk...but also feel your amazing self worth as well ...:hug:..

[Ammi]

Sounds a bit of a "We've struggled for so long things CAN'T be going right for too much longer, WHAT WILL FAIL FIRST???" anxiety. My mum gets that.

Nothing positive can be positive, she's waiting for the other shoe to drop. :joker:

...awww mums, eh..:love:...

[Tony Montana]

Yep, always struggling.

[user104658]

Sounds a bit of a "We've struggled for so long things CAN'T be going right for too much longer, WHAT WILL FAIL FIRST???" anxiety. My mum gets that.

Nothing positive can be positive, she's waiting for the other shoe to drop. :joker:

Indeed. It sounds PATHETIC though. "Boo hoo everything is going too well and that's scary waaah".