If you had your time again

[thesheriff443]

If you could re write your history would you change anything?

[Mystic Mock]

Being more outgoing at School.

And generally being better in certain social situations in general.

[Kate!]

Yes lots.

[LaLaLand]

And generally being better in certain social situations in general.

Seconded. I hate how crippling my anxiety gets the majority of the time. I wish I was just one of those people who could walk into a situation like a room full of people (both familiar or strange) and just not care but I can't seem to shake it.

I'd also really make an effort in keeping in touch with my high school friends, I feel like this is where things started to go wrong for me social life-wise. Once we left school and all went our own way, none of us really every saw each other again apart from a handful of times early on, lots moved away to uni and never returned, some even went abroad for years etc, and now when we ever see each other it's unavoidably awkward for want of a better word, which is very strange considering how you're with these people day in/day out for like five years, through probably the most important years of your life and then just... nothing. You never really get that same bond like you did with your school mates later in life with other people I've found, it's sort of unique. Hard to adjust but, c'est la vie - it's pretty common.

Also, trust my gut when I had a feeling the hottest girl in my year was hitting on me in Year 11 - I found out about 7 years later that my suspicions were true... She told me drunk in the pub one night (engaged and one child later may I add!) that she "fancied the pants off me" but we were both too immature to do anything about it plus we were in different "groups" friends-wise. Oh what could have been... :hehe:

[Mystic Mock]

Seconded. I hate how crippling my anxiety gets the majority of the time. I wish I was just one of those people who could walk into a situation like a room full of people (both familiar or strange) and just not care but I can't seem to shake it.

I'd also really make an effort in keeping in touch with my high school friends, I feel like this is where things started to go wrong for me social life-wise. Once we left school and all went our own way, none of us really every saw each other again apart from a handful of times early on, lots moved away to uni and never returned, some even went abroad for years etc, and now when we ever see each other it's unavoidably awkward for want of a better word, which is very strange considering how you're with these people day in/day out for like five years, through probably the most important years of your life and then just... nothing. You never really get that same bond like you did with your school mates later in life with other people I've found, it's sort of unique. Hard to adjust but, c'est la vie - it's pretty common.

Also, trust my gut when I had a feeling the hottest girl in my year was hitting on me in Year 11 - I found out about 7 years later that my suspicions were true... She told me drunk in the pub one night (engaged and one child later may I add!) that she "fancied the pants off me" but we were both too immature to do anything about it plus we were in different "groups" friends-wise. Oh what could have been... :hehe:

Yeah we all lose touch with at least one School friend I think, it's sadly a natural progression in life.

And at least someone had a crush on you in your time at School.:dance:

[Ammi]

..La La, with your anxiety...?...having small goals is a good thing, small but achievable things that take you outside of that anxiety box...and every one that you achieve, will chip away at the anxiety mountain in creating a confident one...it’ll obviously take a bit of time ...but each time you achieve a goal, it’ll make the next goal feel less daunting and much easier, because you’ll become more confident in yourself...(..also, a lot of people that do walk into that room..?..have possibly found it difficult to do that as well...but they’ve achieved that goal of doing it...)...



...:hug:..

[smudgie]

Not really.
My own mistakes made me who I am today.

[Mystic Mock]

..La La, with your anxiety...?...having small goals is a good thing, small but achievable things that take you outside of that anxiety box...and every one that you achieve, will chip away at the anxiety mountain in creating a confident one...it’ll obviously take a bit of time ...but each time you achieve a goal, it’ll make the next goal feel less daunting and much easier, because you’ll become more confident in yourself...(..also, a lot of people that do walk into that room..?..have possibly found it difficult to do that as well...but they’ve achieved that goal of doing it...)...



...:hug:..

I can't claim to know about anxiety, but I would agree with you on this statement.

[Calderyon]

Yes.

[Cherie]

No, no regrets

[bots]

wouldn't change a thing. The ups and downs in life are what make you who you are

[Kizzy]

Well ... this is a hard one. The easy thing would be to say yes.
But at the time I didn't have the tools or the knowledge I have now to aid me to see where I was going wrong, would a blind man regret tripping over a table?

[Strictly Jake]

My biggest regret is the options I took at school

I wish I had taken History, leisure and tourism and food tech at school. It would have led to a career I would have wanted

[Marsh.]

Not really.

I suppose there's all kinds of ways we wish we'd done stuff sooner. Either met that person, travelled to that place, done that qualification etc. You just have to believe this was the route you had to take. There was no other route to your destination. The harder the route, the more appreciative you are of where you end up.

If you end up in a good place that is. :hehe:

[Beso]

Yes lots.

This

[Kazanne]

I would like to change a few things but not my hubby or my children.

[Tony Montana]

Yep, I'd change a lot of things.

[Crimson Dynamo]

I would go back and try and change my caring and trusting nature as it only gets me in trouble

[LaLaLand]

..La La, with your anxiety...?...having small goals is a good thing, small but achievable things that take you outside of that anxiety box...and every one that you achieve, will chip away at the anxiety mountain in creating a confident one...it’ll obviously take a bit of time ...but each time you achieve a goal, it’ll make the next goal feel less daunting and much easier, because you’ll become more confident in yourself...(..also, a lot of people that do walk into that room..?..have possibly found it difficult to do that as well...but they’ve achieved that goal of doing it...)

Yeah that's what I'm doing currently. I've had it for 10 years officially (diagnosed) but it's morphed into panic disorder (basically I have long episodes of constant, round the clock unexpected panic attacks with very strong physical symptoms that leave me basically drained and unable to function for a while after them) but I'm trying to stay as active as I can day to day. I go to the gym twice a week thanks to a referral from my GP and it's really helping, also helping me with my long-standing weight problem as I've lost over 100lbs in weight now since last Summer. This weight loss is in turn making me feel a lot more confident in myself plus comments from people out and about complimenting me, so hopefully that continues - slowly but surely it will come, I'm positive. I turn 30 in June, that's like my current "goal" - lose 10 stone by then, maybe have a small party to celebrate. "Life begins at 30" perhaps? :hee:

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

Voted like 100000x times for makosi in the BB6 final

[Jigs]

I'm pretty happy with how things have gone... so far. I guess the one thing I'd change is doing work experience/internships whilst studying for my degree. It would have given me an advantage breaking into certain job fields that I am now struggling to break into because I am not financially able to do unpaid work experience or low-paid internships.

[Ammi]

Yeah that's what I'm doing currently. I've had it for 10 years officially (diagnosed) but it's morphed into panic disorder (basically I have long episodes of constant, round the clock unexpected panic attacks with very strong physical symptoms that leave me basically drained and unable to function for a while after them) but I'm trying to stay as active as I can day to day. I go to the gym twice a week thanks to a referral from my GP and it's really helping, also helping me with my long-standing weight problem as I've lost over 100lbs in weight now since last Summer. This weight loss is in turn making me feel a lot more confident in myself plus comments from people out and about complimenting me, so hopefully that continues - slowly but surely it will come, I'm positive. I turn 30 in June, that's like my current "goal" - lose 10 stone by then, maybe have a small party to celebrate. "Life begins at 30" perhaps? :hee:

....the good thing about going to the gym/working out, as well, LaLa..is the feel good will extend out because of the release of endorphins...so you’re losing weight, feeling higher energy levels, getting amazing compliments ...and having all of those positive endorphins running around ...:laugh:...and diet is also something we think about more when we do things like go to the gym ...so another positive feel good there, with healthier eating...I’m a huge CBT fan, it’s especially good for things like panic disorder, I don’t know if that’s something that you’ve spoken with your Gp about...but breathing and relaxation techniques really do make a huge difference as well...relaxing your whole body, while you relax your thoughts and mind, is really important...you should be really proud with what you’ve achieved and what you’ve overcome so far and with your weight loss and fitness...you’re going to be the most fabulously gorgeous 30yr old, we’ve ever known, for sure...:love:...