What would you do?

[Kate!]

If your best friend suddenly out of the blue cut you off without a word when everything was fine between you.

If they didn't return your texts...didn't answer their phone...blocked you on facebook. Etc.

It would be like they had died.

Would you take it on the chin? Or move heaven and earth to find out whats wrong?

[Kate!]

Its just happened to me. I feel like I have been bereaved.

[joeysteele]

I can't imagine any of my friends doing that.

If it happened, I'd seek them out probably to ask why.
However, I wouldn't press the issue.

[Smithy]

It (kind of) happened to me, reply’s just became one word answers and it took longer and longer to reply.

It’s horrible, it feels like a break up except you don’t even know what you did. I just left it, I wasn’t going to look a twat questioning them, it’s their loss :shrug: noodle headed prick :hmph:

[Kate!]

It (kind of) happened to me, reply’s just became one word answers and it took longer and longer to reply.

It’s horrible, it feels like a break up except you don’t even know what you did. I just left it, I wasn’t going to look a twat questioning them, it’s their loss :shrug: noodle headed prick :hmph:

It is horrible yes.

[AnnieK]

If it were my best friend I would go to her hoise for an explanation. I couldn't not know what I was supposed to have done.

Might be lockdown fever Kate....give her some time

[Kate!]

If it were my best friend I would go to her hoise for an explanation. I couldn't not know what I was supposed to have done.

Might be lockdown fever Kate....give her some time

Exactly. I don't know what is wrong??

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

It (kind of) happened to me, reply’s just became one word answers and it took longer and longer to reply.

It’s horrible, it feels like a break up except you don’t even know what you did. I just left it, I wasn’t going to look a twat questioning them, it’s their loss :shrug: noodle headed prick :hmph:

Is this that giant forehead having billboard forehead looking ass

[Marsh.]

It (kind of) happened to me, reply’s just became one word answers and it took longer and longer to reply.

It’s horrible, it feels like a break up except you don’t even know what you did. I just left it, I wasn’t going to look a twat questioning them, it’s their loss :shrug: noodle headed prick :hmph:

Scott doesn't look like a noodle. :nono:

[Kate!]

I don't want replies about bloody noodles :fist:

[Marsh.]

:(

[Cherie]

I can't imagine any of my true friends doing that either.

Imagine not replying to someone when you ask them a question...

Bin her

[Smithy]

Is this that giant forehead having billboard forehead looking ass

Nnnn yeah

[Jake.]

Not the same as a best friend doing it but I had it done by someone I was seeing/dating and uh yeah, it’s not pleasant. Best thing you can do is to leave it imo, as hard as it is.

[Beso]

Txt..

Have I done something to upset you.

[Kate!]

Txt..

Have I done something to upset you.

Ignoring all my texts phonecalls and facebook messages.

[Beso]

Ignoring all my texts phonecalls and facebook messages.


Shred them.

Or give them a week then try again.


I just hope you ain't upset pal x

[Kate!]

Shred them.

Or give them a week then try again.


I just hope you ain't upset pal x

I am Parmy. Not eating or sleepimg well at all.

[Beso]

Have a blether with annie..shes an honest person.

Got a joke for you if you want:sad:

[The Slim Reaper]

Just keep it moving. Try calling and speaking to them (don't text or message) once more and ask what the problem is, if he/she doesn't reply just move on.

[The Slim Reaper]

Have a blether with annie..shes an honest person.

Got a joke for you if you want:sad:

The joke isn't the first line? :smug:

[Kate!]

Just keep it moving. Try calling and speaking to them (don't text or message) once more and ask what the problem is, if he/she doesn't reply just move on.

Thank you. Xx

[Beso]

There it is....

[Beso]

I see it

[Brother Leon]

Just keep it moving. Try calling and speaking to them (don't text or message) once more and ask what the problem is, if he/she doesn't reply just move on.

This. This. This.

I’ve had many friends move on from me. It used to hurt and make me question why, but I don’t really care right now.

In my case it was mostly due to me no longer being Interested in taking every drug or drink I can get my hands on anymore and generally not wanting to have many nights out or “memories” like that anymore and before that it was growing out of the “hood” mindset.

The quicker you realise your self worth and that a friendship thrown away THAT easily was never one worth having, then the better for your mindset. Just straight up ask them what’s up and if you don’t like the response then it’s better off without.

[Beso]

Or listen to my joke to smile for a second.

[Kate!]

Or listen to my joke to smile for a second.

Tell me the joke then loov. Xx

[Braden]

That’s awful, Kate.

If I were in your position and it was a friend I adored and spent a lot of time with, I would want answers. If they’re ignoring you, try not to think about it. That’s easier said than done but it sounds like they’re the one with the issue so don’t stress too much. It could be anything.

[Kate!]

That’s awful, Kate.

If I were in your position and it was a friend I adored and spent a lot of time with, I would want answers. If they’re ignoring you, try not to think about it. That’s easier said than done but it sounds like they’re the one with the issue so don’t stress too much. It could be anything.

Yes its bad Braden. I am really upset. Thank you for your kind words. Xx

[Beso]

No.

The moments passed

[Kate!]

No.

The moments passed

Bugger

[Jessica.]

It happened to me over five years ago and it still affects me, I know I literally did nothing wrong.

[caprimint]

There will be a reason for it, so something must have happened. Nobody does that randomly, whether it's a personal problem for your friend within herself, or whether it's something to do with you/your friendship or something that you've done (and are obviously not aware of).

I'm not really sure what other way you have of contacting this person if she's not picking up your calls, replying to your messages and just ignoring you altogether though? I'd probs just try every social media platform asking if something had happened/if I'd done something wrong, then maybe give it a short while before trying again. Or do y'all have any mutual friends that you could ask?

[Kate!]

There will be a reason for it, so something must have happened. Nobody does that randomly, whether it's a personal problem for your friend within herself, or whether it's something to do with you/your friendship or something that you've done (and are obviously not aware of).

I'm not really sure what other way you have of contacting this person if she's not picking up your calls, replying to your messages and just ignoring you altogether though? I'd probs just try every social media platform asking if something had happened/if I'd done something wrong, then maybe give it a short while before trying again. Or do y'all have any mutual friends that you could ask?

Thank you Stacey. What a perfect summation. It reflects just how I am feeling. Yes I agree. There is something. I just don't know what it is. Xx

[JerseyWins]

Oh no https://cdn.thisisbigbrother.com/customavatars/avatar18312_69.gif

I was gonna say they could just be busy / dealing with something but they blocked you on facebook too? :o And how long has this been going for?

Never really happened to me aside from a best friend moving away when we were like 13 and not long after just stopped contacting each other with the long distance / kinda moving on to our own lives at that age. I've always either slowly drifted away from friends I wasn't as close with or I still have many of the same good friends I've had for years (some closest ones since literally childhood days).

This seems more like a sudden/personal issue has happened, probably a problem with them over you Kate, but you should try getting in contact in whatever way you can to sort it :love:

[I like BB]

It happened to me with someone. I would really want to find out why.

[Cherie]

Maybe someone else did something to her and she blames you for their actions because you interact with them?

[smudgie]

Maybe it’s nothing personal Kate.
Perhaps your friend is struggling with what’s going on at the minute.
Lots of people are finding it hard to cope with the pandemic and how it affects them, she might just want to switch off from everything around her for a while.
If you have other mutual friends, might be an idea to have a chat with them and see if they can throw any light on the situation.

[Mystic Mock]

If your best friend suddenly out of the blue cut you off without a word when everything was fine between you.

If they didn't return your texts...didn't answer their phone...blocked you on facebook. Etc.

It would be like they had died.

Would you take it on the chin? Or move heaven and earth to find out whats wrong?

I would definitely like to know what I'd done to offend them so badly.

If the reason is something petty then I'd be glad to have nothing to do with them anymore.

[Captain.Remy]

Ghosting is never really nice, it's awful.
I would say like some users wrote previously: try to get an answer because something obviously happened, but move on if you don't get that answer. Don't stalk, don't put pressure on them, just try and stay level-headed even if it hurts so bad.

If someone did that to you, in hindsight it means they were not a good person to have in your trust circle anyway. Good riddance I say.

[Cherie]

Ghosting is never really nice, it's awful.
I would say like some users wrote previously: try to get an answer because something obviously happened, but move on if you don't get that answer. Don't stalk, don't put pressure on them, just try and stay level-headed even if it hurts so bad.

If someone did that to you, in hindsight it means they were not a good person to have in your trust circle anyway. Good riddance I say.

great advice Cpt R.

[Crimson Dynamo]

It's something you have done or your pal thinks very strongly you have done.

Iim sure it won't be to hard to ascertain what.

[Livia]

I'd do what I do on here when I find out someone I've been friendly with for years turns out to be a two faced ****. I'd clean the out of my life.

[caprimint]

I'd do what I do on here when I find out someone I've been friendly with for years turns out to be a two faced ****. I'd clean the out of my life.
Ahhh :skull:

[Marsh.]

They're probably a big old fake and a pathological liar Kate. Protect yourself. x

[The Slim Reaper]

I know this is personal to you Kate and real feelings are involved, but I always like these scenario threads. They always bring a wide range of differing opinions.

[Ammi]

...you know that I hope this becomes resolved for you, Kate...I’m thinking about you...:hug:...as a general though I would agree with Remy, that ghosting is an awful thing to experience and an indication of that person’s own emotional shortfalls...so it’s just moving forward and on from the friendship.../...I understand how simplistic that is though...

[user104658]

That's a tough call. I'd want to know the reason because I'm an over-thinker, but at the same time, I wouldn't continue to be friends with someone who would do that anyway. Even if I had done something and not realised it - I'm too old, jaded & frankly too busy to waste time being friends with someone who won't be direct. "Silent treatment" is nonsense, child/teen stuff and any adult who hasn't moved on from that mindset by 25+ isn't worth bothering with, with friends, relationships, or even family members.

... In my opinion :umm2:.

[Jigs]

This happened to me with a really close friend I made at uni. Only took a couple months after graduation for her to completely ghost me. That was almost 3 years ago and I never really addressed it but I don't follow her on any socials anymore because she used to pop up on my feed and my mood would instantly plummet.

I guess I chose not to address it because I knew I wasn't the one with the problem so that was some comfort at least.