Worst personality trait(s)

[Redway]

Any one(s) in particular you hate to see in people?

[Niamh.]

Liars
Non empathetic people

[Liam-]

Selfish
Arrogant
Rude
Paranoid
Possessive
Ignorant

[Captain.Remy]

Selfish
Arrogant
Rude
Possessive
Claps when a plane lands
Wears socks with sandals
Think having a Twitter/Insta or listening to a particular artist is a personality
Not willingly to educate themselves
Acts unbothered about anything (I dumped my ex over it)
Close-minded
Racist / intolerant

[Jake.]

“Not on here much, follow me on insta”

[Captain.Remy]

“Not on here much, follow me on OnlyFans”


Updated a little :joker:

[Niamh.]

Selfish
Arrogant
Rude
Possessive
Claps when a plane lands
Wears socks with sandals
Think having a Twitter/Insta or listening to a particular artist is a personality
Not willingly to educate themselves
Acts unbothered about anything (I dumped my ex over it)
Close-minded
Racist / intolerant

yes.

[Liam-]

People who think it’s acceptable to spit in public deserve jail time

[Redway]

I would’ve added “A dislike of anything and everything mainstream” to the poll options had I remembered.

[Smithy]

People who think it’s acceptable to spit in public deserve jail time

EXCEPT when a fly flies in your mouth

[caprimint]

Manipulative
Narcissistic
Not forgiving
Not accepting when they are wrong
Deceitful/lying
Secretive

I guess I'm basing that mostly for relationship qualities but... in friendships I don't really mind any too much aside from lying and being manipulative

[caprimint]

Oh and tbh I really don't like when guys call other guys "mate" who they don't even know like in a store or something

[Cherie]

Pretty much all of them

[Oliver_W]

Grammar Nazis should be strung up by their dick...tionary.

[Babayaro.]

I chose ones that have the potential to effect me

[Babayaro.]

Oh and tbh I really don't like when guys call other guys "mate" who they don't even know like in a store or something

Whilst I don't say it myself, I quite like it when someone calls me mate, pal, etc. It's just a sign of being friendly imo.

[Captain.Remy]

Whilst I don't say it myself, I quite like it when someone calls me mate, pal, etc. It's just a sign of being friendly imo.

Yeah same, it's a friendly thing. Though I tolerate it when around people who speak English rather than French, Italian or Russian. Idk why, it's a context thing I suppose.

[Ammi]

...I have a very low tolerance for dishonesty/manipulative behaviour....and also a low tolerance for bullying of any kind...

...lacking in self awareness, overly self absorbed...those who don’t see beyond themselves so much...and noisy eating...how in the Lord I got through BB days, with the microphones at meal times...

[user104658]

Envy, manipulation and deceitfulness coming out on top at the moment which I think is quite interesting - all quite inter-related traits.

0 votes for "Vanity" is a scream :joker:. Everyone on TiBB passing mirrors;

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[Babayaro.]

I believe that everyone has at least a bit of vanity in them.

Plus, if someone is overly vain, then it's not something that really bothers me all that much.

[Jake.]

I believe that everyone has at least a bit of vanity in them.

Plus, if someone is overly vain, then it's not something that really bothers me all that much.

Warren Beatty after learning that a verse of You’re So Vein was about him

[Babayaro.]

Warren Beatty after learning that a verse of You’re So Vein was about him

:joker:

[caprimint]

Whilst I don't say it myself, I quite like it when someone calls me mate, pal, etc. It's just a sign of being friendly imo.
Makes me cringeeee

[joeysteele]

I can overlook a lot, however lies and deceit will end friendships and contact for me.
Once I know it's happened for sure.
Once I'm lied to or have my own integrity questioned then whoever those people are, family or friends, they're out with me.

Not fibs and silly things but definite serious lies and deliberate deceit.

[rusticgal]

Liars...I hate Liars.

[Redway]

The spirit of unbridled gossip.

Whether I’ve said this one already or not, jealousy’s a big one. Not a good look or a healthy feeling.

[Redway]

Oh and tbh I really don't like when guys call other guys "mate" who they don't even know like in a store or something
You would hate Liverpool.
Grammar Nazis should be strung up by their dick...tionary.
Leave me be.
...I have a very low tolerance for dishonesty/manipulative behaviour....and also a low tolerance for bullying of any kind...

...lacking in self awareness, overly self absorbed...those who don’t see beyond themselves so much...and noisy eating...how in the Lord I got through BB days, with the microphones at meal times...
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Some people think it’s just them in this life. Noisy eating doesn’t really bother me (it’s when people act like it’s their God-given prerogative to spit while doing it that I have a problem) but overly loud talking and taking the piss with the way you chew gum drive me up the wall. My ears are plenty-sharp as it is without someone projecting like they’re speaking into something with the magnitude of a microphone for both lips or all four walls. I’m far from hard of hearing and that includes stuff I don’t want to hear. Stuff I’m not really trying to listen to but someone’s broadcasting it with the windows wide-open or with 101 volume.

[Mystic Mock]

Envy

Stubbornness - I know that I can be stubborn over silly stuff, but I'm talking about when it starts harming others is when it bothers me.

Manipulation

Deceitfulness

Not Being Willing To Forgive - We all make mistakes, what this type of person never realises is that it could be them on the brunt of a mistake, and they would want to be forgiven. Obviously if it's something truly heinous (criminal activity for example) then I understand not being so forgiving.

Greed - One of my main reasons why I hate Politics in real life.

Judgemental people - I ****ing despise it when an individual doesn't like someone because they have a hobby that this person isn't particularly interested in. Or something that is generally harmless, but someone will pull you up over it.

And my last one is hard to put into words, but it's in the other option on the poll. And that would have to be people who claim to be accepting of everyone and everything, and they never have a negative opinion or controversial opinion about anything, it almost feels like they are watching what they're saying or doing because they want to always be seen as a "good" person, they're also very cautious to make any jokes too, because they're worried about offending anyone in the room with them. To me I find it unnatural and genuinely makes me feel very uneasy around an individual like that because you never know what they're really thinking about anything.

[Redway]

People who judge others for resting. It’s a basic human right and essential for properly good health (and not falling half-asleep behind the wheel and potentially causing damage to someone or more other than yourself), not a privilege or a luxury. Trying to suppress people’s individuality and forcing them to be like you (similarly) is a no-go. Everyone’s their own person.

[Redway]

Envy

Stubbornness - I know that I can be stubborn over silly stuff, but I'm talking about when it starts harming others is when it bothers me.

Manipulation

Deceitfulness

Not Being Willing To Forgive - We all make mistakes, what this type of person never realises is that it could be them on the brunt of a mistake, and they would want to be forgiven. Obviously if it's something truly heinous (criminal activity for example) then I understand not being so forgiving.

Greed - One of my main reasons why I hate Politics in real life.

Judgemental people - I ****ing despise it when an individual doesn't like someone because they have a hobby that this person isn't particularly interested in. Or something that is generally harmless, but someone will pull you up over it.

And my last one is hard to put into words, but it's in the other option on the poll. And that would have to be people who claim to be accepting of everyone and everything, and they never have a negative opinion or controversial opinion about anything, it almost feels like they are watching what they're saying or doing because they want to always be seen as a "good" person, they're also very cautious to make any jokes too, because they're worried about offending anyone in the room with them. To me I find it unnatural and genuinely makes me feel very uneasy around an individual like that because you never know what they're really thinking about anything.

I agree with what you’re saying about judgemental people. But not forgiveness. You don’t owe people that if they’ve really crossed you, and it doesn’t have to be heinous criminal activity. You choose the people who are worthy of your time and set your own boundaries. Especially if the person’s narcissistic, you’re under no obligation to forgive and forget just to remain a decent person. There are people whose hate of them I’ll probably take to the grave because they just don’t deserve my forgiveness. I’ll tell you that for nothing.

Toxic positivity, by the way, is one way of putting what you’re trying to describe in your last paragraph.

[Mystic Mock]

I agree with what you’re saying about judgemental people. But not forgiveness. You don’t owe people that if they’ve really crossed you, and it doesn’t have to be heinous criminal activity. You choose the people who are worthy of your time and set your own boundaries. Especially if the person’s narcissistic, you’re under no obligation to forgive and forget just to remain a decent person. There are people whose hate of them I’ll probably take to the grave because they just don’t deserve my forgiveness. I’ll tell you that for nothing.

Toxic positivity, by the way, is one way of putting what you’re trying to describe in your last paragraph.

Tbf I understand your point, I think it's when I see people falling out over Political opinions on sites like Twitter and they don't forgive each other is probably more the basis of what I was thinking of, but I do get that we all have different boundaries.

And thanks btw Redway, Toxic Positivity is the perfect word to describe it in the last paragraph, it's something that's bizarrely getting more common within society, and it really creeps me out, it's probably harsh I know.

[Garfie]

For me the worst traits have to be: manipulation, gaslighting, falseness, dishonesty, deceitfulness, aggression, inconsistency, bullying, cruelty.

I also find it difficult to tolerate people who are shallow, self-absorbed, overly loud, attention-seeking and erratic.

[Garfie]

Any one(s) in particular you hate to see in people?

Great question, by the way.

[Redway]

Tbf I understand your point, I think it's when I see people falling out over Political opinions on sites like Twitter and they don't forgive each other is probably more the basis of what I was thinking of, but I do get that we all have different boundaries.

And thanks btw Redway, Toxic Positivity is the perfect word to describe it in the last paragraph, it's something that's bizarrely getting more common within society, and it really creeps me out, it's probably harsh I know.

Yeah, people who fall out over political nonsense are beyond ridiculous but when you’re confronted with people who’ve stolen from you, smear-campaigned against you, disrespected someone you care for deeply, they did the dirty with your other half, tried to make your or their issues your identity, betrayed you, all that good stuff. You have the right to draw the line and never get over it, even if you do eventually forgive.

[Redway]

For me the worst traits have to be: manipulation, gaslighting, falseness, dishonesty, deceitfulness, aggression, inconsistency, bullying, cruelty.

I also find it difficult to tolerate people who are shallow, self-absorbed, overly loud, attention-seeking and erratic.

Added to the bucket-list of loudness are people who can’t keep your confidence or preserve your dignity relatively because they don’t respect you enough or they just have the excuse of an exuberant, high-energy extravert who has little filter. There’s a difference between giving it too much of that and actually being a malicious gossip so I wouldn’t hate the person but sometimes a heart of otherwise rightfully-entrusted gold can be attached to a mouth that’s runny and gossipy. And unless they love you enough to practically be trusted with your life, 7/10 they will let you down via indiscretion. It’s just a matter of time. So I’m always a little wary of people who talk too much and worry what I might’ve told them in the past if I don’t think they’re capable of preserving the dignity. Doesn’t mean we can’t still be friends but I’ve got to be careful around you.

[Redway]

People who are always quick to point out what’s wrong with others instead of what’s right, also. It’s alright when you straight-up don’t like the person or you have reason to find them annoying but when you’re supposed to be for people, I dunno. I dunno. I just feel like there’s enough negative morale in the world without every other word that comes out of your mouth about them being a slagging off because so-and-so doesn’t seem to be as pristine in one area of their life as you. That would fall under the banner of being overly judgmental, maybe even a little pharaisical about it, too. Every single person has at least something right with them and without stroking the egos of people who aren’t in the room it’s nice to hear a bit more of that sometimes, if you truly like them. Again, it’s not the person I hate in these instances. Just this trait of being overly judgemental to people who by-and-large are just trying to do life and get by respectfully and quietly. I want to be really careful with the way I word all this because a lot of the people who do these things and have these attitudes are actually really, really good people but at the end of the day nobody’s perfect. There’s always going to be something about you that someone else doesn’t like or rubs them up the wrong way low-key.

[user104658]

I only marked a couple but when it comes right down to it my only real dealbreaker is honesty. Just give me both barrels and I'll probably like you, whether I agree with you or not, if it's real then I can at least respect it.

I'd take a nasty hard truth over a pretty platitude any day of the week.

[Niamh.]

I only marked a couple but when it comes right down to it my only real dealbreaker is honesty. Just give me both barrels and I'll probably like you, whether I agree with you or not, if it's real then I can at least respect it.

I'd take a nasty hard truth over a pretty platitude any day of the week.

Yeah, I agree, I can not stand liars or being lied to

[Zizu]

Yeah, I agree, I can not stand liars or being lied to


That’s not what you said , in bed , last night!!


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[Redway]

People who think that shouting all the time just to talk is good communication. I’m very-much about my peace and quiet so when someone’s forcing an over-loudness on their environment and bleeding your ears just because they have no volume-chill, I get pretty annoyed. It might not be obvious because unlike them I have chill but I HATE people being too loud in their voice and movements. Especially when the mood’s grumbly and moany rather than just happy-exuberant ‘I have no chill so allow me’ loudness. When someone’s just souring the air with constant whinging at ultra-high amplitude, I want out.

People who are extra-loud tend not to know how annoying they are. And this whole thing feeds into the lack of self-awareness that some of us are talking about. Every little thing you shout and make too much noise, and you wonder why people would rather not be around you for too long.

[Redway]

And women putting blind trust in some dude they’ve known less than 5 minutes in big 2023. You believe a stranger at your own risk. Have some self-fortitude, sister.

[MTVN]

Suspect we all exhibit most of these traits at one time or another

[Redway]

Suspect we all exhibit most of these traits at one time or another

I don’t think we do but whether we do or don’t is besides the point. You can recognise traits in yourself that you know aren’t conducive to your best self and hate them even more when you see them in others in a more exaggerated way. So even at that it wouldn’t be hypocrisy.

[MTVN]

I don’t think we do but whether we do or don’t is besides the point. You can recognise traits in yourself that you know aren’t conducive to your best self and hate them even more when you see them in others in a more exaggerated way. So even at that it wouldn’t be hypocrisy.

Mm not sure, this thread lists judgemental-ness as a bad trait but you could say this whole thread is judgemental

That's why I chose not forgiving in the poll because I think we should always forgive these traits in others and know that they exist in us too :hee:

[MTVN]

Oh and tbh I really don't like when guys call other guys "mate" who they don't even know like in a store or something

Also I always do this :omgno:

[Zizu]

Also I always do this :omgno:


I thought all blokes did it ..


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[Redway]

Mm not sure, this thread lists judgemental-ness as a bad trait but you could say this whole thread is judgemental

That's why I chose not forgiving in the poll because I think we should always forgive these traits in others and know that they exist in us too :hee:

Only when you run with the idea that all those traits are present in us on any level worth talking about.

[MTVN]

I thought all blokes did it ..


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Agreed mate

[Redway]

Andd I’ve just realised that I listed manipulation twice in my poll.

[MTVN]

Andd I’ve just realised that I listed manipulation twice in my poll.

You see there you are guilty yourself of manipulation in the poll options

[Niamh.]

:laugh:

[Redway]

You see there you are guilty yourself of manipulation in the poll options

Hey, who says manipulation’s a crime anyway?

[bots]

it's complicated. A person can have a trait that is seen as endearing in one person and heinous in other. Dexter is the obvious example of this

[Zizu]

it's complicated. A person can have a trait that is seen as endearing in one person and heinous in other. Dexter is the obvious example of this


I love Dexter !!

I even have the theme tune as my ringtone


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[Redway]

I love Dexter !!

I even have the theme tune as my ringtone


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Do you now?

[Mystic Mock]

Yeah, people who fall out over political nonsense are beyond ridiculous but when you’re confronted with people who’ve stolen from you, smear-campaigned against you, disrespected someone you care for deeply, they did the dirty with your other half, tried to make your or their issues your identity, betrayed you, all that good stuff. You have the right to draw the line and never get over it, even if you do eventually forgive.

Tbf I understand your point on those lol.

[Mystic Mock]

Mm not sure, this thread lists judgemental-ness as a bad trait but you could say this whole thread is judgemental

That's why I chose not forgiving in the poll because I think we should always forgive these traits in others and know that they exist in us too :hee:

An interesting point.

[Gusto Brunt]

Selfishness and rudeness.

[Nicky91]

Acidic Traits (Toxicity)

Not willing to forgive

judgemental

[Redway]

People who make being vegan/teetotal a whole persona. A judgemental one at that. I’m still slipping in Wetherspoons for steak and a pint so it doesn’t make a difference what you saying about lettuce, tofu and non-alcoholic wine.

This thing about judgemental toxicity is turning out to be a big one. Just let people do life in the way that they feel is best for them. They’re not you and you’re not them.

[Garfie]

Hey, who says manipulation’s a crime anyway?

Sometimes manipulation can be used to encourage someone to do something that would benefit them?

[Mystic Mock]

People who make being vegan/teetotal a whole persona. A judgemental one at that. I’m still slipping in Wetherspoons for steak and a pint so it doesn’t make a difference what you saying about lettuce, tofu and non-alcoholic wine.

This thing about judgemental toxicity is turning out to be a big one. Just let people do life in the way that they feel is best for them. They’re not you and you’re not them.

:clap1:

[Redway]

Hey, lettuce tastes bad. Real bad. (#teamcabbage)

[Nicky91]

Hey, lettuce tastes bad. Real bad. (#teamcabbage)

lettuce you can eat raw


cabbage you must cook


lettuce is nice, with all sorts of dressings in salads honestly :laugh:



i like cabbage too btw, i used to dislike brussel sprouts as a child but now i love them :D



conical or oxheart ones are the only ones i dislike of cabbages, way too bland (tastes like nothingness when boiled)

[Redway]

lettuce you can eat raw


cabbage you must cook


lettuce is nice, with all sorts of dressings in salads honestly :laugh:



i like cabbage too btw, i used to dislike brussel sprouts as a child but now i love them :D



conical or oxheart ones are the only ones i dislike of cabbages, way too bland (tastes like nothingness when boiled)

Yeah, sorry, not a lettuce fan.

[Redway]

People using prayer as an excuse to gossip about people over things that aren’t currently confirmed to be true. Some of those Zoom Friday night calls can be brutal.

Stuff like that in general. Will Smith might’ve been wrong to engage in a punch-up at that awards ceremony but in general “keep my name out of your mouth” is something that’s important to remember when you’re talking to more than a couple of people at a time about someone you don’t necessarily even know that well.

A loose tongue stirs up conflict on the grounds of something that might not even be true or still relevant, and unnecessarily gives people the wrong impression about the gossipee if they believe it unquestionably. Say it in a closed circle of literally one or two people if you have to say it. Beyond that it’s not just healthy conversation or spiritual-welfare concern (or whatever the case may be). It’s talking too much and too indiscreetly and at that point you’re a gossip. It doesn’t matter how good your intentions are. That’s not the point. You’re taking out someone’s right to personal dignity for them and at your own indiscretion-behest just because you can’t keep your mouth shut. Some things are best left unsaid or said privately if it has to be said at all (like I say). Nothing wrong with a bit of healthy gossip at all but slandering people openly and making judgemental assumptions about people for all to hear is not healthy gossip, nor is it a Christian value (if this is coming from a spirit of prayer).

Someone who’s already a bit cynical through negative experiences or paranoid about people gossiping about them in the first place will take that and take it to heart if they overhear it, and they might not ever get over it fully. Some people have to sleep with fans on just to (besides canning out noise from louder people in the environment) stop all of that poison potentially coming to their ears because of how tough slandering can be on someone’s mental health. Talking indiscreetly about them under the guise of spiritual-welfare concern (and it might genuinely be that) or trash-talking openly just for the sake of it is just confirming what is already a jaded expectation for them and giving them more reason to cut people off and be bitter and cynical about putting their trust in people. So gossip discreetly if you gonna gossip and take whatever it is you think or you’ve heard with a pinch of salt if you don’t know the person that well. You might not mean maliciously but still shut up and keep the window closed instead of openly talking too much. If you then turn around tomorrow and try and pally up with/befriend them after dragging their name through mpoto-mpoto mud, you’re tapped. And the joke’s on you if they already know. Why would they want anything to do with you after that point if you’re not so close to them that they’ll be more inclined to look for reasons to forgive you?

Also. People who can’t do anything quietly. I tend to be wary of people who are very, very extraverted. If it’s not too much indiscretion in their talking and over-gossiping, it’s too much unnecessary noise and not being able to sit still or close a door quietly. And a general lack of respect for basic personal-boundary principles. It shouldn’t be hard to not get too close to a stranger when they’re walking or avoid honing in too intensely on a subject that’s obviously raw for someone just because you want to keep talking but a lot of people just can’t help themselves. And it’s suffocating to be around.

[UserSince2005]

When they think they are hot and sexy and they just ain’t

[Redway]

People who do you dirty expecting to worm their way back in and for you to keep being the uniformly nice person they took for granted. The rightful attitude they deserve when you’re either jaded off the back of it or very-much moved on is far from nice.

[Redway]

When they think they are hot and sexy and they just ain’t

That’s what grinds your gears at your big age?

[Redrose]

When they think they are hot and sexy and they just ain’t

Yes, and they always wear the most skimpy outfits.

[Zizu]

When they think they are hot and sexy and they just ain’t


David .. Celeb Big Brother ?


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[Zizu]

Yes, and they always wear the most skimpy outfits.


David - Celeb Big Brother ?


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[Redway]

People calling their parents narcissists because their values clash with theirs is another one, however you’d classify that. Real narcissistic abuse can break someone so mind and be careful about how you use the word.

[Redway]

People who have a narrow idea of what’s masculine and feminine (also) tend to end up shooting themselves in the foot with the contradictory hypocrisy of it all.

[Redway]

Acidic Traits (Toxicity)

Not willing to forgive

judgemental

People generally have their reasons for that.