Addiction. A support thread.

[Kate!]

Hi.

I requested to able to open a fresh thread and was granted permission. Please only post here on topic. Constructive criticism and advice acceptable. Insults will be requested deleted.

Update.

What I've done so far....

Contacted GamCare
Spoken to my doctor.
In the process of awaiting counselling and some group therapy.
Spoken to a debt management adviser.
Spoken to the manager at the bingo club and effectively banned myself.

I feel quite drained but am glad I've taken some steps. I couldn't have done it without you lot, so thanks so much. It means a lot.

I've worked out my finances and I'm paying back what I stole. It won't take forever.

Thanks for listening.

Kate x

[Redway]

You’ve got this, Kate. I’m proud of you.

[Kate!]

You’ve got this, Kate. I’m proud of you.

Thank you so much. :love:

[Vanessa]

That's brilliant, Kate. You can do this!

[Zizu]

Onward and upwards !!


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[Oliver_W]

Yo gon smash it sis :love:

[Kate!]

It's gonna be a massive adjustment, I was gambling nearly every day for quite a while, and I let it get really out of hand. The manager of the bingo club, Mark, was non judgemental, I told him what I'd done and how ashamed I am. He said ring him in a few weeks and let him know how I'm getting on. I found him very approachable and caring.

[Cherie]

The first step was owning it Kate, the second was taking some steps to address the issue.....good for you Kate

[AnnieK]

Well done Kate. It won't be easy but you are doing the right thing.

Have you managed to have a conversation with your boyfriend yet?

People will support you but unfortunately the hard work in down to you. Keep us updated with how you are getting on and if you feel like you are having a bad day, post in here and people will help distract you :love:

[Beso]

One word if advice from me.

DO NOT DOWNLOAD ANY SILLY GAMES FROM THE INTERNET THAT REQUIRE YOU TO MAKE OURCHASES TO GET FURTHER IN THE GAME.

Coin master being an example.

[Kate!]

Well done Kate. It won't be easy but you are doing the right thing.

Have you managed to have a conversation with your boyfriend yet?

People will support you but unfortunately the hard work in down to you. Keep us updated with how you are getting on and if you feel like you are having a bad day, post in here and people will help distract you :love:

Not really as yet Annie, he's still not happy with me and we are barely talking. I wrote him a letter and he read it, but didn't give any feedback. I'm hoping when I make the first repayment to him tomorrow of what I took he'll see that I'm trying.

[Beso]

Doing this will also help occupy your mind, it will also get you fitter and healthier which is always a positive.

https://www.thisisbigbrother.com/forums/showthread.php?t=385188&highlight=

[Kate!]

Thanks Parmy

I like walking.

[smudgie]

Go girl.
You have got this.x

[Kate!]

Quick further update.

So I've got a telephone consultation pre counselling sorted out. It's 6 sessions on a one to one basis.

Also I'm attending my first Gamblers Anon meeting on Monday night in the town centre.

[Cherie]

It won't be an easy road Kate, but you are on your way now good luck

[Beso]

It won't be an easy road Kate, but you are on your way now good luck

Shes doing better than me. I would have just paid the bf back and carried on.:blush:

[hijaxers]

Not really as yet Annie, he's still not happy with me and we are barely talking. I wrote him a letter and he read it, but didn't give any feedback. I'm hoping when I make the first repayment to him tomorrow of what I took he'll see that I'm trying.

Give him the repayment and say nothing as your actions prove you are trying to remedy things between you, don't force him to talk as you'll probably make him dig his heels in, let a bit a time pass and hopefully you'll both be able to talk it out ~ esp when you've taken steps to improve things at your end and thats a massive step from you. Well done Kate.

[Kate!]

Give him the repayment and say nothing as your actions prove you are trying to remedy things between you, don't force him to talk as you'll probably make him dig his heels in, let a bit a time pass and hopefully you'll both be able to talk it out ~ esp when you've taken steps to improve things at your end and thats a massive step from you. Well done Kate.

I'll take this advice Jax, it's good.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Give him the repayment and say nothing as your actions prove you are trying to remedy things between you

at the very least he will need 6 months gambling free to even think about trust again

[hijaxers]

at the very least he will need 6 months gambling free to even think about trust again

Yes but Kate has taken the first steps and admitted her mistakes, thats pretty big LT , we need to support her.

[rusticgal]

You are moving forward Kate….keep us updated with your progress and see it as part of your progression.
No one on here wants to see you fail…and you have laid bare your addiction in many posts and something that some on here have helped you with. That’s a huge incentive for you to make this work…we are all behind you.

[Glenn.]

at the very least he will need 6 months gambling free to even think about trust again

True. I know someone who had a bad gambling problem. He spent the rent money and his other half threw him out.

It’s akin to a drug addict. Ruins lives around the person and their problem.

[Livia]

Quick further update.

So I've got a telephone consultation pre counselling sorted out. It's 6 sessions on a one to one basis.

Also I'm attending my first Gamblers Anon meeting on Monday night in the town centre.

You've managed quite a bit in a short time, Kate. Keep it up x

[Cherie]

You've managed quite a bit in a short time, Kate. Keep it up x

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[Kate!]

Hi. So I'm still feeling drained but more positive. A huge weight has been lifted as Karl and I are talking and he's told me I can stay put. I've made him a repayment with more to follow.

Plus my friends who know about it are supporting me.

Plus you guys on here :love:

Thank you so much

[Vanessa]

That's brilliant news, Kate. I'm so happy for you!

[Cherie]

Hi. So I'm still feeling drained but more positive. A huge weight has been lifted as Karl and I are talking and he's told me I can stay put. I've made him a repayment with more to follow.

Plus my friends who know about it are supporting me.

Plus you guys on here :love:

Thank you so much

Great news Kate :love: its good to talk as they say

[hijaxers]

Hi. So I'm still feeling drained but more positive. A huge weight has been lifted as Karl and I are talking and he's told me I can stay put. I've made him a repayment with more to follow.

Plus my friends who know about it are supporting me.

Plus you guys on here :love:

Thank you so much

Great to hear you are talking and the awful thought of being homeless is over, keep your payment plan to him in place and gain his trust again. Well done Kate so pleased things are improving.

[rusticgal]

Thats good...maybe its because he sees you are doing something about it. Keep it up...we are all behind you.

[Kate!]

Thanks everyone.

Yes he said it was because I was doing something about it all. It won't take too long to repay him. It'll take longer to regain and rebuild trust but I've only myself to blame for that. Nevertheless I do feel a lot better.

Thanks be to God.

[Vanessa]

Thanks everyone.

Yes he said it was because I was doing something about it all. It won't take too long to repay him. It'll take longer to regain and rebuild trust but I've only myself to blame for that. Nevertheless I do feel a lot better.

Thanks be to God.

That's really good. Sounds really positive :blush:

[user104658]

Well done for stopping Kate - I've seen people lose everything to gambling. Careers, homes, businesses... terrible to see, even worse when you've been facilitating it.

Honestly it's a really unique addiction - it doesn't take a physical toll like most addictions but there is no other addiction, not the heaviest drug habit in the world, that can cause so much financial devastation so quickly. I saw a man go from £70k to his last 50p in a week. Absolutely shocking.

[Beso]

Well done for stopping Kate - I've seen people lose everything to gambling. Careers, homes, businesses... terrible to see, even worse when you've been facilitating it.

Honestly it's a really unique addiction - it doesn't take a physical toll like most addictions but there is no other addiction, not the heaviest drug habit in the world, that can cause so much financial devastation so quickly. I saw a man go from £70k to his last 50p in a week. Absolutely shocking.



The bloke I work with now used to work in a slaughter house.

I told him not to beat himself up about it. I'm telling you the same TS, lifes to short.

[Beso]

Can we meet your friends kate?

[Cherie]

How is all this going on Kate?