Noky and her selfish imaginary wedding

[Crimson Dynamo]

1. I want my wedding to be abroad - so her family and friends are out of pocket to the tune of thousands

2. I want my wedding to be during the week - so you have to eat up your own personal holiday days to attend


what a selfish entitled person

https://www.thesun.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/i-love-challenges-ive-many-851064572.jpg

[GoldHeart]

LT are you feeling ok ? , it's not that serious.

However if someone I knew got married thousands of miles away, it's unlikely I'd travel all that way. I'd just wish them all the best .

[rusticgal]

Yes I have gone right off her the last couple of days.

[Niamh.]

I was watching with my daughter last night and I said the exact same thing to her. She basically said I want to inconvenience my guests as much as possible as a test to see who loves me most. So selfish and entitled

[GoldHeart]

I guess Noky is getting evicted next now just because of a flippant comment about her hypothetical wedding plans .

[Niamh.]

I guess Noky is getting evicted next now just because of a flippant comment about her hypothetical wedding plans .

Bloody hell Goldheart we're just commenting on stuff that happened in the program :laugh: We've only got an hours worth

[MTVN]

Missed that, when did she say it?

[Niamh.]

Missed that, when did she say it?

In the highlights show last night (or maybe it was a clip shown on Late & Live?)

[Benjamin]

Missed that, when did she say it?

Last nights highlights. During the noms.

[MTVN]

In the highlights show last night (or maybe it was a clip shown on Late & Live?)

Last nights highlights. During the noms.

Thanks I'll go back and watch it

[GoldHeart]

Bloody hell Goldheart we're just commenting on stuff that happened in the program :laugh: We've only got an hours worth

I know but it went over my head ,was she even being serious :joker: :shrug: ? .....they were all bored sat taking turns nominating. It's literally a hypothetical situation, but like I said I'm not being out of pocket for a friend who goes to ...I don't know,the Bahamas to get married . I'd congratulate them from my home in the UK lol.

It's interesting about wedding talk ,as Yinrun was discussing that with Dylan aswell.

[rusticgal]

I guess Noky is getting evicted next now just because of a flippant comment about her hypothetical wedding plans .


What she said...said a lot about her.

[Crimson Dynamo]

What she said...said a lot about her.

tells you all you need know

[Niamh.]

I know but it went over my head ,was she even being serious :joker: :shrug: ? .....they were all bored sat taking turns nominating. It's literally a hypothetical situation, but like I said I'm not being out of pocket for a friend who goes to ...I don't know,the Bahamas to get married . I'd congratulate them from my home in the UK lol.

It's interesting about wedding talk ,as Yinrun was discussing that with Dylan aswell.

She sounded like she meant it and the people reacting thought she'd said something revolutionary :laugh: Imagine being a close friend of hers that just couldn't afford it or to take time off work, would they fail her test then for not getting themselves in debt to go to her wedding? :think:

[Ammi]

…maybe she’s looking for the prize money to pay for all of her guests to go to a lovely far off place and have a lifetime holiday…so they’ll be happy to take some of their annual leave for such a dream time…


…actually, I haven’t been to a weekend wedding for a while, weekday weddings are very popular and many employers allow some paid time off for them/…with discretion…

[GoldHeart]

…maybe she’s looking for the prize money to pay for all of her guests to go to a lovely far off place and have a lifetime holiday…so they’ll be happy to take some of their annual leave for such a dream time…


…actually, I haven’t been to a weekend wedding for a while, weekday weddings are very popular and many employers allow some paid time off for them/…with discretion…

Really? ,I don't think I've ever been to a weekday wedding...not to sound morbid,but usually I associate funerals with weekdays.

I guess it depends like you say on if they get time off work,and maybe she'll pay for them .

[Crimson Dynamo]

and maybe she'll pay for them .

:joker:

no

[Ammi]

Really? ,I don't think I've ever been to a weekday wedding...not to sound morbid,but usually I associate funerals with weekdays.

I guess it depends like you say on if they get time off work,and maybe she'll pay for them .

….hmmmmm, I possibly just have very selfish/entitled friends and relatives..:laugh:…but yeah, most of the weddings I’ve been to over the last few years have been weekday ones…actually, I haven’t asked about cost etc but maybe a weekday is cheaper than a weekend in terms of venues and ceremony/service costs etc…so that’s a thing as well, I guess…

[GoldHeart]

….hmmmmm, I possibly just have very selfish/entitled friends and relatives..:laugh:…but yeah, most of the weddings I’ve been to over the last few years have been weekday ones…actually, I haven’t asked about cost etc but maybe a weekday is cheaper than a weekend in terms of venues and ceremony/service costs etc…so that’s a thing as well, I guess…

Ammi your friends are cheapskates :joker:... just joking:love: .

[GoldHeart]

:joker:

no

She might if she has a big win fall .

[Ammi]

Ammi your friends are cheapskates :joker:... just joking:love: .

…:laugh:…we’ll that might have been a joke but….I’m going to keep an eye on them from now on, GH….

[GoldHeart]

…:laugh:…we’ll that might have been a joke but….I’m going to keep an eye on them from now on, GH….

It's interesting though , I'm now wondering what a weekday wedding is like...I kind of want to experience it :laugh:, if my schedule was clear and if it was still in the UK . As I'm not catching a plane ... just for a wedding :joker: .

[Crimson Dynamo]

Unless its a reg office dop no bride would want a weekday wedding

its meant to be special

[Ammi]

It's interesting though , I'm now wondering what a weekday wedding is like...I kind of want to experience it :laugh:, if my schedule was clear and if it was still in the UK . As I'm not catching a plane ... just for a wedding :joker: .

…actually I just googled if it was cheaper because it sparked my interest, it’s something I hadn’t thought of and would never ask…this site came up first…

https://www.hitched.co.uk/wedding-planning/organising-and-planning/weekday-wedding/#:~:text=You%27ll%20Save%20Money,to%20wed%20on%20a %20Wednesday.

‘Opting for a weekday is one of the best ways to save money on your wedding venue. There is almost always a separate rate for weekend and weekday venue hire – in fact, sometimes the price difference is great enough to convince couples to wed on a Wednesday. Many wedding venues offer special weekday deals, allowing you to splurge what you’ve saved on something else to make your wedding (or honeymoon) even more amazing.

Some suppliers also offer discounted rates for weekday weddings so it’s always worth checking when you enquire.’


…it’s so expensive for couples these days so looking at their options and what’s affordable is the only way…

[GoldHeart]

…actually I just googled if it was cheaper because it sparked my interest, it’s something I hadn’t thought of and would never ask…this site came up first…

https://www.hitched.co.uk/wedding-planning/organising-and-planning/weekday-wedding/#:~:text=You%27ll%20Save%20Money,to%20wed%20on%20a %20Wednesday.

‘Opting for a weekday is one of the best ways to save money on your wedding venue. There is almost always a separate rate for weekend and weekday venue hire – in fact, sometimes the price difference is great enough to convince couples to wed on a Wednesday. Many wedding venues offer special weekday deals, allowing you to splurge what you’ve saved on something else to make your wedding (or honeymoon) even more amazing.

Some suppliers also offer discounted rates for weekday weddings so it’s always worth checking when you enquire.’


…it’s so expensive for couples these days so looking at their options and what’s affordable is the only way…


It's understandable when you think how ridiculously expensive the average wedding is . Sky is the limit from anywhere from 10k -upwards . So I don't blame couples looking for cheaper options & bargains.

I also can see their point of view,when some of them just opt for a quiet get together, rather than a big stressful event.

[Swan]

Weddings aren't like Christmas, Easter etc. Weddings are usually family events, but what a wedding is really about is 2 people in love, committing to spending the rest of their lives together. It's their business where they get married. Can't afford it, cba to go abroad for it, think it's a load of rubbish, that's fine, don't go. It's the bride and grooms day, not the families.

[Niamh.]

Weddings aren't like Christmas, Easter etc. Weddings are usually family events, but what a wedding is really about is 2 people in love, committing to spending the rest of their lives together. It's their business where they get married. Can't afford it, cba to go abroad for it, think it's a load of rubbish, that's fine, don't go. It's the bride and grooms day, not the families.

Absolutely but that's not what she said. The way she phrased it was she was going to have it abroad on a Wednesday as a test to see who loved her enough to go

[GoldHeart]

Weddings aren't like Christmas, Easter etc. Weddings are usually family events, but what a wedding is really about is 2 people in love, committing to spending the rest of their lives together. It's their business where they get married. Can't afford it, cba to go abroad for it, think it's a load of rubbish, that's fine, don't go. It's the bride and grooms day, not the families.

True

I use to get annoyed with the TV show Don't Tell The Bride ,the groom's seemed to always upset their brides to be :rolleyes:.

[Ammi]

Ammi your friends are cheapskates :joker:... just joking:love: .

It's understandable when you think how ridiculously expensive the average wedding is . Sky is the limit from anywhere from 10k -upwards . So I don't blame couples looking for cheaper options & bargains.

I also can see their point of view,when some of them just opt for a quiet get together, rather than a big stressful event.

….so really GH…what we’re saying in conclusion, then…?…is that my friends are sadly struggling so much with their wedding finances…that I need to start a go fund them page to give them the weekend wedding of their dreams…?…

…yeah, weddings overseas might help in keeping the guest list smaller and erase some stress and anxieties attached to affordable guest lists…

[Swan]

Absolutely but that's not what she said. The way she phrased it was she was going to have it abroad on a Wednesday as a test to see who loved her enough to go

True

I use to get annoyed with the TV show Don't Tell The Bride ,the groom's seemed to always upset their brides to be :rolleyes:.

Yes well me and Noky do get married, probably The Maldives or something, on Christmas day, and none of my TIBB's family attend, i'll know that none of you care:idc::hmph:

[GoldHeart]

….so really GH…what we’re saying in conclusion, then…?…is that my friends are sadly struggling so much with their wedding finances…that I need to start a go fund them page to give them the weekend wedding of their dreams…?…

…yeah, weddings overseas might help in keeping the guest list smaller and erase some stress and anxieties attached to affordable guest lists…

Maybe they just prefer the weekday option lol .

Financial aside ,some people even prefer to elope and they only have like 4 guests/ witnesses ...as they can't be bothered with sending out invites etc.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Absolutely but that's not what she said. The way she phrased it was she was going to have it abroad on a Wednesday as a test to see who loved her enough to go

it showed her up for the selfish shallow person she is

As Yinrun says "i dont want to hear about you winning some minor beauty pagent i want to know about you"

Sadly Noky does not understand

[GoldHeart]

Yes well me and Noky do get married, probably The Maldives or something, on Christmas day, and none of my TIBB's family attend, i'll know that none of you care:idc::hmph:

You can send us a video link on zoom or Skype or something :laugh:.

[vesavius]

The girl knows her value.

She just doesn't want casual hangers on there.

[GoldHeart]

it showed her up for the selfish shallow person she is

As Yinrun says "i dont want to hear about you winning some minor beauty pagent i want to know about you"

Sadly Noky does not understand

Maybe if people told Noky ...then she'd open up more ,I think she's a bit guarded.

On the first live feed she was talking for ages about life & relationships.

[Ammi]

Yes well me and Noky do get married, probably The Maldives or something, on Christmas day, and none of my TIBB's family attend, i'll know that none of you care:idc::hmph:

…you didn’t realise that Noky had invited us, then…(…all expenses paid …)…y’all really need to get some wedding communication going…

[Swan]

…you didn’t realise that Noky had invited us, then…(…all expenses paid …)…y’all really need to get some wedding communication going…

:fist:

[Ammi]

The girl knows her value.

She just doesn't want casual hangers on there.

…absolutely, we love a gal who aims for her all deserving dreams…:flutter:…

[smudgie]

Some girls dream of the big wedding, Prince Charming and all that.
Others couldn’t give a fig. Each to their own.
I was married on a Monday, register office, just to make our living together legal for the kids.
We were just going to grab a couple of witnesses but family had other ideas, we kept it as low key as we could though.
But I fully understand the need for the big white wedding for some girls.

[Ammi]

…when two become one at their Swanki wedding…:love:…

[Atake25]

Honestly it’s hard to judge from a 10 second conversation and no context , she might not have even been talking about her own imaginary wedding

[Crimson Dynamo]

The girl knows her value.

She just doesn't want casual hangers on there.

You do know how a wedding works?

like who invites people - no one just turns up?

:joker:

[Swan]

…when two become one at their Swanki wedding…:love:…

https://i.gifer.com/origin/d2/d2ef7b41790c0a4ab88032950a0feb23_w200.gif

[GoldHeart]

You do know how a wedding works?

like who invites people - no one just turns up?

:joker:

Some people might try and crash the wedding .

[fruit_cake]

it showed her up for the selfish shallow person she is

As Yinrun says "i dont want to hear about you winning some minor beauty pagent i want to know about you"

Sadly Noky does not understand

Yinrun's nomination reasons were the best :love:

[Ammi]

Yinrun's nomination reasons were the best :love:

…Yinrun’s everything is the best…:flutter:…

[thesheriff443]

Lt has got a lot of time on his hands today!

Lt your not a wedding planner

Carrying on like your the one paying for her wedding

[GoldHeart]

I hope Noky separates herself from Olivia.... it's not having a good influence. Hope she spends more time with Trish & Yinrun and forms a bond .That would be nice to see.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Lt has got a lot of time on his hands today!

Lt your not a wedding planner

Carrying on like your the one paying for her wedding

I will post this reply in the

"why do you care what happened last night in Big Brother despite being on a forum about Big Brother where people come to post their views about Big Brother" folder

[thesheriff443]

I will post this reply in the

"why do you care what happened last night in Big Brother despite being on a forum about Big Brother where people come to post their views about Big Brother" folder

You hit the nail on the head with care

The vast majority can give an opinion and leave it at that

You are like a broken record digging and digging, for what!, some thing that’s none of your concern

[vesavius]

You do know how a wedding works?

like who invites people - no one just turns up?

:joker:

Well, I know them well enough to know that there is a difference between who you feel obliged to invite and who you want to really invite. :shrug:

It's good to have a filter. It also gives those who don't really care that much about it all a good excuse to not attend. Only those that really want to will be there.

[Abra]

It's not selfish at all to have your own wedding where and when you want it. What would be selfish would be to expect someone to change their own wedding plans to suit you. If you can't go, wish them the best and stay home.

[Niamh.]

Yes well me and Noky do get married, probably The Maldives or something, on Christmas day, and none of my TIBB's family attend, i'll know that none of you care:idc::hmph:

:laugh:

[Niamh.]

Some girls dream of the big wedding, Prince Charming and all that.
Others couldn’t give a fig. Each to their own.
I was married on a Monday, register office, just to make our living together legal for the kids.
We were just going to grab a couple of witnesses but family had other ideas, we kept it as low key as we could though.
But I fully understand the need for the big white wedding for some girls.

Again though that's not the issue here at all, the issue was that Noky said her reasoning for having it abroad on a Wednesday (basically bang slap in the middle of the week so most people would need to take a whole week off work as it's abroad) would be to see who'd do all that to go to her wedding. I don't know about anyone else but I've never met a girl who when "dreaming about their wedding day" wanted a day that would inconvience people the most :laugh:

[Crimson Dynamo]

It's not selfish at all to have your own wedding where and when you want it. .

OWAgbR4HvT4

[smudgie]

Again though that's not the issue here at all, the issue was that Noky said her reasoning for having it abroad on a Wednesday (basically bang slap in the middle of the week so most people would need to take a whole week off work as it's abroad) would be to see who'd do all that to go to her wedding. I don't know about anyone else but I've never met a girl who when "dreaming about their wedding day" wanted a day that would inconvience people the most :laugh:

Aah, I get your drift.
But hopefully she gets the wedding of her dreams……or nightmare if nobody turns up:laugh::laugh:

[Niamh.]

Aah, I get your drift.
But hopefully she gets the wedding of her dreams……or nightmare if nobody turns up:laugh::laugh:

:hehe: It's what she deserves :fist:

[caprimint]

Hmm I guess it is selfish but I didn't really think too much of it. The only thing I'd say is that if she does want it to be abroad it should be because she genuinely wants it there and the experience/vibe of it rather than to see how much/who really cares about being there.

[Garfie]

1. I want my wedding to be abroad - so her family and friends are out of pocket to the tune of thousands

2. I want my wedding to be during the week - so you have to eat up your own personal holiday days to attend


what a selfish entitled person

https://www.thesun.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/i-love-challenges-ive-many-851064572.jpg

This did seem a strange choice of thing to say, even if said in jest. Put alongside her comments about her photo - which she turned around to be about herself and her beauty contest, rather than remaining focused on the people in the picture, does give a certain impression of her. And didn’t Yinrun mention something about wanting to get to know the person behind the beauty contest winner, giving the impression that was Noky’s main topic of conversation.

[Garfie]

The girl knows her value.

She just doesn't want casual hangers on there.

But surely she knows her friends well enough that she can just choose not to invite casual hangers on!!?
If you follow this argument, it would seem to say more about the quality of her friendships. Or maybe she’s one of those people who have 800 Facebook ‘friends’, the majority of whom she has never met.
Either way, it comes across as shallow, especially when put alongside other evidence.

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

But wanting a wedding abroad is not a new concept. Plenty of people do it especially in hotspots like Greece and Italy

[Gusto Brunt]

Yes I have gone right off her the last couple of days.

She's well spoken and seems nice but when she was talking to Dylan about the places she's visited around the world, the cruises she's been on and all that, I just said no.

This is a spoiled woman. Probably never really done a day's work in her life.

[Niamh.]

But wanting a wedding abroad is not a new concept. Plenty of people do it especially in hotspots like Greece and Italy

That wasn't the issue though it was her reasoning why she wanted it abroad and mid week.........to test how many people would put themselves out for her

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

That wasn't the issue though it was her reasoning why she wanted it abroad and mid week.........to test how many people would put themselves out for her

Oh right i missed that part of it I'll have to watch back then

[vesavius]

But surely she knows her friends well enough that she can just choose not to invite casual hangers on!!?
If you follow this argument, it would seem to say more about the quality of her friendships. Or maybe she’s one of those people who have 800 Facebook ‘friends’, the majority of whom she has never met.
Either way, it comes across as shallow, especially when put alongside other evidence.

As I said before, there is often a huge difference between who you want to invite and who you feel obliged to invite.

She probably has quite a wide circle of friends and her work probably heavily bleeds into that.

You think it is 'shallow', I choose not to. :shrug:

[Niamh.]

Oh right i missed that part of it I'll have to watch back then

I don't think there's anything wrong with weddings abroad at all as long as the couple understand that some people won't be able to go because of money/childcare/work etc Judging them as not real friends because of that is very unfair I think

[Crimson Dynamo]

why is this such a hard concept for people to understand?

:laugh:

[Garfie]

As I said before, there is often a huge difference between who you want to invite and who you feel obliged to invite.

She probably has quite a wide circle of friends and her work probably heavily bleeds into that.

You think it is 'shallow', I choose not to. :shrug:

I respect your point of view as it’s all a matter of perception at the end of the day.

[vesavius]

I respect your point of view as it’s all a matter of perception at the end of the day.

Exactly! :)