I'm very depressed.

[Kate!]

I'm struggling very badly financially and feel dreadful. I think I might have to cancel going to Blackpool this month because even though I've paid for everything except the hotel I just don't know if I can manage it and I have to pay it next week.

I'm such a mess. I hate myself.

[Glenn.]

https://giveusashout.org/

[Kate!]

Thank you.

It comes to something when Glenn is the only one who cares.

[Zizu]

Its not a case of nobody caring .. they were probably, like myself, thinking what on earth to write ..


Thankfully Glenn to his credit ( of all people) nailed it !


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[Kate!]

I'm crying, I feel so bad. I can't go home cos I've had a row with Karl.

[arista]

Thank you.

It comes to something when Glenn is the only one who cares.


Yes Nice Site

[arista]

I'm crying, I feel so bad. I can't go home cos I've had a row with Karl.


Maybe in an hour or so
can you try?

[Ninastar]

Talk with ur doctor about this. Maybe you need to go on meds. And that’s not a bad thing. I hit my lowest point this year and didn’t think I’d still be here. There are bad days, even worse days and some good days. I won’t say it gets better because it’s literally a cycle of never ending ****. But you will have some good days

[Kate!]

Maybe in an hour or so
can you try?

I can't.

[Ammi]

…oh Kate…:hug:…I know that it won’t be what you want to hear but it might be that Brighton does have to be cancelled…but there is nothing to feel bad with yourself for, we’ve probably all over-committed at times…on a positive of cancelling if it comes to that…you might feel that pressure lifted and feel a lot lighter because you’ve made that decision…

[Cherie]

Kate have you slipped up and started gambling again?

[AnnieK]

It's your home too....just go to your bedroom or wherever he isn't. :love:

[Kate!]

Kate have you slipped up and started gambling again?

A bit but not to the extent that I was before. I'm pathetic.

[Ammi]

I'm crying, I feel so bad. I can't go home cos I've had a row with Karl.

It's your home too....just go to your bedroom or wherever he isn't. :love:

…you can go home, as Annie said, it’s your home too…whenever you feel ready to go home then go and either open up conversation with Karl or go to a quiet space in the house…

[Kate!]

I really hate myself, and I've let Vanessa down with Blackpool. I'm a disgrace.

[Ammi]

A bit but not to the extent that I was before. I'm pathetic.

…no you’re not pathetic, can you talk to your gambling councillor/group …do you have a helpline number/a contact etc…?..

[Ammi]

I really hate myself, and I've let Vanessa down with Blackpool. I'm a disgrace.

…no you’re not a disgrace, not even close to…but you do need to talk to someone about your feeling…professionally, I mean…not here on the forum…so that you can start taking it one step at a time ….and I think you’ll feel much lighter just for having that conversation…

[Kate!]

…no you’re not pathetic, can you talk to your gambling councillor/group …do you have a helpline number/a contact etc…?..

I'm angry with myself because everything is paid for except the hotel, we were both really looking forward to it and I've let Vanessa down.

[Cherie]

A bit but not to the extent that I was before. I'm pathetic.

No not at all, it happens, you need to reset and start again Kate.

Sorry didn't realise Blackpool was with Ness

[Kate!]

No not at all, it happens, you need to reset and start again Kate.

Sorry didn't realise Blackpool was with Ness

Yes we've booked shows and everything, it's just the hotel. The only thing I can think of to do is cancelling the hotel and booking in somewhere when we arrive, I'd have the money by then.

[AnnieK]

Can you not find somewhere cheaper? Or even just go for the day if you have paid for some activities. You'll be there in an hour or so from Wigan. Just a thought:love:

[Ninastar]

Going on a vacation is a privilege. It sucks but it’s true. Sometimes you have to work instead of having much needed time off but unfortunately that’s just how life is these days

[Ammi]

I'm angry with myself because everything is paid for except the hotel, we were both really looking forward to it and I've let Vanessa down.

…I’m pretty sure that’s not how Vanessa will feel, her concern will be all for you and making sure you’re ok because that’s the important thing…

[Ammi]

Yes we've booked shows and everything, it's just the hotel. The only thing I can think of to do is cancelling the hotel and booking in somewhere when we arrive, I'd have the money by then.

…so that’s one thought/solution and something to talk with Vanessa about doing…?..

[Kate!]

Vanessa and I are a bit strained at the moment, we had a misunderstanding and I'm finding it hard to talk. I miss her.

[AnnieK]

Look on hotel booking sites, a lot don't need payment till you arrive. They take debit card details but no payment till you get there

[AnnieK]

Vanessa and I are a bit strained at the moment, we had a misunderstanding and I'm finding it hard to talk. I miss her.

Aw, hope you manage to sort that out

[Cherie]

Vanessa and I are a bit strained at the moment, we had a misunderstanding and I'm finding it hard to talk. I miss her.

oh that is a shame, come on girls make up, you two are great together


are you still going to Blackpool then or no?

[Kate!]

oh that is a shame, come on girls make up, you two are great together


are you still going to Blackpool then or no?

I hope so. I'll try and speak to her later.

[Ammi]

Vanessa and I are a bit strained at the moment, we had a misunderstanding and I'm finding it hard to talk. I miss her.

…ok, so break it down and the first step…you and Vanessa see if you can talk things through and understand what’s gone off kilt between you because that’ll also help to establish if you’re both still on track to go to Blackpool together…

[Ammi]

I hope so. I'll try and speak to her later.

…hopefully this thread and your openness here will be the first step of you both opening up that chat…:hug:..

[Glenn.]

Thank you.

It comes to something when Glenn is the only one who cares.

Its not a case of nobody caring .. they were probably, like myself, thinking what on earth to write ..


Thankfully Glenn to his credit ( of all people) nailed it !


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Shocking huh? It’s almost like I’m not the complete arsehole everyone makes me out to be

[Ninastar]

We Stan a caring king!

[arista]

Hang in there Kate
we all support you in your troubles

[Ammi]

Shocking huh? It’s almost like I’m not the complete arsehole everyone makes me out to be

…I always said that you and Kate were each others Kryptonite…I can’t recall a time when it wasn’t that way…:laugh:..

[Kate!]

Thank you everyone. Especially for Glenn getting the ball rolling with the practical advice, it was very unexpected, and kind. I appreciate it a lot. It brought tears to my eyes.

[Redway]

Lovely replies from Ammi and Annie especially.

Kate, do you think you’d benefit from another call to Samaritans?

[Kate!]

Lovely replies from Ammi and Annie especially.

Kate, do you think you’d benefit from another call to Samaritans?

I'm going to contact Shout, who Glenn posted the link for. See how that goes. Thank you Sam xx

[Vanessa]

I'm missing Kate as well. It was all my fault.

[Kate!]

I'm missing Kate as well. It was all my fault.

It wasn't love.... we are just two very sensitive people. I have pmd you for a chat x

[Vanessa]

I wish I could go back and change it.

[Kate!]

I wish I could go back and change it.

Me too love. :love: I'm so sorry.

[Ninastar]

We Stan a romantic make up

[Vanessa]

Me too love. :love: I'm so sorry.

I know I can be very stubborn. I wish I wasn't like that. I can't apologize enough.
It could have been avoided if I wasn't so stubborn.

[Kate!]

I know I can be very stubborn. I wish I wasn't like that. I can't apologize enough.
It could have been avoided if I wasn't so stubborn.

Please reply to my pm, if you got it??

[Vanessa]

Please reply to my pm, if you got it??

I have sent you one few days ago.
But I'm not good with words.
I'll check.

[Vanessa]

Please reply to my pm, if you got it??

I haven't got it.

[Kate!]

I haven't got it.

Ahh, hang on I'll resend it....

[Vanessa]

Ahh, hang on I'll resend it....

I only got Swan pms?

[Kate!]

I've forwarded it to you....

[Edd]

A bit but not to the extent that I was before. I'm pathetic.

https://www.gamstop.co.uk/

[Vanessa]

Not feeling the best myself. So many things one after the other. And not the riots. Life just gets harder and harder.

[Edd]

When we have a gambling win, the brain releases a feel-good chemical called dopamine. But when we gamble often, our brain gets used to the dopamine, which makes that winning feeling difficult to achieve. Consequently, we may have to gamble more and more to feel the same level of pleasure.

[Vanessa]

When we have a gambling win, the brain releases a feel-good chemical called dopamine. But when we gamble often, our brain gets used to the dopamine, which makes that winning feeling difficult to achieve. Consequently, we may have to gamble more and more to feel the same level of pleasure.
Yes. That makes sense.

[Edd]

Yes. That makes sense.

Thank you the op is not alone as this effort many people.

One tip I would give to the op is take most of the money out of your bank account and keep it with you this will takeaway the means to gamble online of csuse if you need money in your account to pay for things you can use a post off free of charge to deposit.

[Ninastar]

Edd… boi?

[Edd]

Edd… boi?

Can I help you?

[Vanessa]

Look on hotel booking sites, a lot don't need payment till you arrive. They take debit card details but no payment till you get there

I want to go, but don't know if it's safe. The riots looks bad :shocked:

[Vanessa]

Addiction isn't easy to get out of.
You're going to have relapses. But never give up.

[Mystic Mock]

Its not a case of nobody caring .. they were probably, like myself, thinking what on earth to write ..


Thankfully Glenn to his credit ( of all people) nailed it !


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This.

I'm absolutely terrible at this sort of thing.

Me and emotions, I try to help if I can, but I am useless on Mental Health discussions.:laugh:

Well done to Glenn though for finding a possible solution for Kate.

[Mystic Mock]

Shocking huh? It’s almost like I’m not the complete arsehole everyone makes me out to be

I don't think that you're an arsehole Glenn.

I don't always agree with everything that you say, but I believe that you're a decent guy.

[LaLaLand]

So, so sorry to see you're struggling Kate.

I too struggle with depression and poor MH and at the moment it's horrendous (money worries here too also) but I'm hoping for better days if I just plod on.

Always here to chat. Hope things improve for you very soon. xx

[Kate!]

So, so sorry to see you're struggling Kate.

I too struggle with depression and poor MH and at the moment it's horrendous (money worries here too also) but I'm hoping for better days if I just plod on.

Always here to chat. Hope things improve for you very soon. xx

Thank you Jonnii. How lovely of you. I'm feeling a bit more positive this morning xx

[Ammi]

So, so sorry to see you're struggling Kate.

I too struggle with depression and poor MH and at the moment it's horrendous (money worries here too also) but I'm hoping for better days if I just plod on.

Always here to chat. Hope things improve for you very soon. xx

….ahhh, I’m so sorry to hear that, LaLaLand…I know that you’ve had some exceptional life achievements in recent years as well as you’ve spoken about your weight loss …so try to hold on to those great things as well…and your talent is just…well, incredible and I hope that helps to create a balance also when you can absorb in that creativeness…you also spoke about some of your work being exhibited…?…

…:hug:…

[Ammi]

Thank you Jonnii. How lovely of you. I'm feeling a bit more positive this morning xx

…:love:…

[Mystic Mock]

Thank you Jonnii. How lovely of you. I'm feeling a bit more positive this morning xx

That's good to hear.:)

It's good to vent out your problems sometimes.

[AnnieK]

Glad you are feeling a little better :love:

[Mystic Mock]

So, so sorry to see you're struggling Kate.

I too struggle with depression and poor MH and at the moment it's horrendous (money worries here too also) but I'm hoping for better days if I just plod on.

Always here to chat. Hope things improve for you very soon. xx

I hope that things improve for both of you tbh.

[Vanessa]

Yes I think a lot of people are struggling with mental health these days.
And what's going on these days doesn't help at all. The worrying is never ending.

[Cherie]

I want to go, but don't know if it's safe. The riots looks bad :shocked:

in Blackpool?

[Vanessa]

in Blackpool?

Yes. It's a bit worrying.

[Kate!]

Yes. It's a bit worrying.

Vanessa, we are going though, we will be very careful.

[Vanessa]

Vanessa, we are going though, we will be very careful.

Yes.

[_Seth]

https://www.moneyhelper.org.uk/en

They might have some resources or advice you haven't thought of.

[rusticgal]

There are a lot of Self help groups out there Kate...you interact well with people so I think these groups will be good for you to bounce off people. There is so much of this at the moment regarding depression and Mental Health. We have been to hell and back these last 3 months with my son...but he has finally got the help he needs and it has turned his life around.

[Cherie]

There are a lot of Self help groups out there Kate...you interact well with people so I think these groups will be good for you to bounce off people. There is so much of this at the moment regarding depression and Mental Health. We have been to hell and back these last 3 months with my son...but he has finally got the help he needs and it has turned his life around.

So sorry to hear that Rusti, young people seem to have a lot of issues with mental health, too much exposure to crap on line I think

[rusticgal]

So sorry to hear that Rusti, young people seem to have a lot of issues with mental health, too much exposure to crap on line I think


No, it was more to do with work pressures..running his own business...lack of sleep and anxiety.
He isnt young young...but I can only imagine the sort of MH issues bought on by Social Media...its just destroying a generation.

:hug:

[Cherie]

No, it was more to do with work pressures..running his own business...lack of sleep and anxiety.
He isnt young young...but I can only imagine the sort of MH issues bought on by Social Media...its just destroying a generation.

:hug:

so glad he is in a better place now Rusti x

[Kate!]

Thanks Seth and Rusti, and also Cherie for your comments. You're all so great.

[Vanessa]

There are a lot of Self help groups out there Kate...you interact well with people so I think these groups will be good for you to bounce off people. There is so much of this at the moment regarding depression and Mental Health. We have been to hell and back these last 3 months with my son...but he has finally got the help he needs and it has turned his life around.

This sounds good.

[Mystic Mock]

There are a lot of Self help groups out there Kate...you interact well with people so I think these groups will be good for you to bounce off people. There is so much of this at the moment regarding depression and Mental Health. We have been to hell and back these last 3 months with my son...but he has finally got the help he needs and it has turned his life around.

I'm sorry to hear about that.

Hopefully whatever is working for him currently continues.

[rusticgal]

This sounds good.

so glad he is in a better place now Rusti x



Thanks Cherie..and you Vanessa xx

[rusticgal]

I'm sorry to hear about that.

Hopefully whatever is working for him currently continues.


Thanks Mock..x

[Ammi]

There are a lot of Self help groups out there Kate...you interact well with people so I think these groups will be good for you to bounce off people. There is so much of this at the moment regarding depression and Mental Health. We have been to hell and back these last 3 months with my son...but he has finally got the help he needs and it has turned his life around.

…ahhhh, I’m so sorry that your son has had a difficult time, rusticgal…:hug:…but the important thing now is that he is getting that help and it’s all getting back on track for him…and when he’s gone through that hell and back, he’s had parents who have gone though it with him and I wouldn’t underestimate that, the difference you’ll have made as well in helping him back on the road he’s travelling now…:hug:…I wish him well…

[rusticgal]

…ahhhh, I’m so sorry that your son has had a difficult time, rusticgal…:hug:…but the important thing now is that he is getting that help and it’s all getting back on track for him…and when hes gone through that he’ll and back, he’s had parents who have gone though it with him and I wouldn’t underestimate that, the difference you’ll have made as well in helping him back on the road he’s travelling now…:hug:…I wish him well…


Thanks Ammi...:hug:

[Vanessa]

:hug:There are a lot of Self help groups out there Kate...you interact well with people so I think these groups will be good for you to bounce off people. There is so much of this at the moment regarding depression and Mental Health. We have been to hell and back these last 3 months with my son...but he has finally got the help he needs and it has turned his life around.

[Livia]

Thank you.

It comes to something when Glenn is the only one who cares.

It's not that I don't care, I didn't see your post. I rarely look at chat & games. Hope you're feeling better.

[Kate!]

It's not that I don't care, I didn't see your post. I rarely look at chat & games. Hope you're feeling better.

Yes, I'm sorry, I didn't choose my words very well there.

[Vanessa]

Let's try to stay positive. I know it's not easy, but what can we do?

[The Slim Reaper]

Hope you're ok, Kate. Not sure when you were supposed to be going, but probably not a good time to be heading out into unfamiliar town centres at the moment, so might turn out to be for the best.