What life transitions are you going through right now?

[reecejackox]

Changes to the house

[Crimson Dynamo]

Isaiah 43:18-19
“Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a
new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness
and rivers in the desert."

[Mystic Mock]

I'm mentally trying to learn about myself again.

Over the last year I feel like I've really changed as a person, and I'm trying to learn if it's a good thing or not and how to move forward.

This is where I feel like my Mom would've been able to help me in the past.:laugh:

[Ray.]

I'm making the exciting and startling transition from ennui into anhedonia.

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

Not being were I'd thought I'd be and disliking myself very much. I feel like the vaccine made me get into a deep depression I am still struggling with. People laugh at me when I say this but genuinely I did read that a side effect can be depression

[Niamh.]

Not being were I'd thought I'd be and disliking myself very much. I feel like the vaccine made me get into a deep depression I am still struggling with. People laugh at me when I say this but genuinely I did read that a side effect can be depressionSorry to hear that Ceecee, have you talked to your Doctor about it? :hug:

[Mystic Mock]

Not being were I'd thought I'd be and disliking myself very much. I feel like the vaccine made me get into a deep depression I am still struggling with. People laugh at me when I say this but genuinely I did read that a side effect can be depression

That whole debacle I think changed all of us to some extent.

Have you spoke to any friends and family about this?

[Zizu]

I retired earlier this year ( March) but still struggling to come to terms with all the massive changes ( routines ) so I have been experiencing high anxiety and long bouts of depression in the past months ..

Sadly relaxing or even being happy seems to be unattainable to me thus far.


Sounds crazy I guess !


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[Kate!]

No Zizu it sounds human my love. :hug:

[Zizu]

No Zizu it sounds human my love. :hug:


You are an absolute angel !!


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[Black Dagger]

So I got diagnosed with anxiety a couple of months ago and I’m now on a CBT course and I’m learning about myself in the process. It’s all very heavy but kind of magical.

[Kate!]

So I got diagnosed with anxiety a couple of months ago and I’m now on a CBT course and I’m learning about myself in the process. It’s all very heavy but kind of magical.

:hug: as a fellow sufferer I can empathise. Therapy is good.

[Ammi]

So I got diagnosed with anxiety a couple of months ago and I’m now on a CBT course and I’m learning about myself in the process. It’s all very heavy but kind of magical.

…yeah, I totally get the ‘magical’ bit in that learning the tracks of your thoughts and where your fears/anxieties/sorries etc come from…?..is kind of realising their ‘power’ if you like…and once that’s realised…?..it’s the beginning of using your life skills to take that power from them…I had CBT many years ago after and illness and surgery etc and had lost who I was/all confidence…and it was well…a life changing/eureka, type thing…because in ‘tracing and tracking’ fears and moods and vibes etc…?…we’re able to dissolve those ones that create our anxieties…/…it’s hard to explain it all but if you’ve got to ‘magical’ then you probably know…:hug:…

[Ammi]

I retired earlier this year ( March) but still struggling to come to terms with all the massive changes ( routines ) so I have been experiencing high anxiety and long bouts of depression in the past months ..

Sadly relaxing or even being happy seems to be unattainable to me thus far.


Sounds crazy I guess !


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…just a crazy period of adjustment, that’s all…:laugh:…your focus has been on working and caring for others etc and all of that stuff that lives are all about…but now it’s about you and Mrs Zizu and doing the things that you both want to do and that’s a huge adjustment to thought process, really..try to slow it down to just one day at a time …

[Ammi]

Not being were I'd thought I'd be and disliking myself very much. I feel like the vaccine made me get into a deep depression I am still struggling with. People laugh at me when I say this but genuinely I did read that a side effect can be depression

Sorry to hear that Ceecee, have you talked to your Doctor about it? :hug:

…as Niamh said, did you or will you speak to your GP, CeeCee…?…there is no laughter here…so many, many people are still so impacted from COVID in that they feel that it was a ‘before Covid’ life and an ‘after one’…a time of such anxiety for us all and such isolation and fear for loved ones etc…?…will often leave some anxieties still in place…

[Cherie]

We are in the process of fostering a dog until he or she gets their forever home, of course this all depends on how Princess Tilly reacts to another dog in the house...very excited though

[Zizu]

…just a crazy period of adjustment, that’s all…:laugh:…your focus has been on working and caring for others etc and all of that stuff that lives are all about…but now it’s about you and Mrs Zizu and doing the things that you both want to do and that’s a huge adjustment to thought process, really..try to slow it down to just one day at a time …


Hugz


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[Niamh.]

We are in the process of fostering a dog until he or she gets their forever home, of course this all depends on how Princess Tilly reacts to another dog in the house...very excited though

ah lovely :love:

[Zizu]

Not being were I'd thought I'd be and disliking myself very much. I feel like the vaccine made me get into a deep depression I am still struggling with. People laugh at me when I say this but genuinely I did read that a side effect can be depression


Interestingly … we both worked all through the stress of Covid ( education) and the vaccines.

Before Covid I felt as though I would live till 100 … and then came Covid and all those dreadful scenes of people dying in corridors and temp carparks ..

Being male of a certain age I went to work terrified each and every day for about 18 months - it also shattered my feeling of invincibility..


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[thesheriff443]

If you have single breath left in you’re body you are doing better than those that have none

Fight until your last breath

[smudgie]

If you have single breath left in you’re body you are doing better than those that have none

Fight until your last breath

Yep. That me the past 10 days.
Hopefully the doc can turn it around.
Gawd that sound a tad dramatic:shrug:

[Ammi]

Yep. That me the past 10 days.
Hopefully the doc can turn it around.
Gawd that sound a tad dramatic:shrug:

…:hug:..:hug:…:hug:…you be as dramatic as you wish, and wishing you well always…:hug:…give that doctor a cheeky smudgie wink and he’ll be on it and ready to turn the world round…

[smudgie]

…:hug:..:hug:…:hug:…you be as dramatic as you wish, and wishing you well always…:hug:…give that doctor a cheeky smudgie wink and he’ll be on it and ready to turn the world round…

Ah well. It lady Lucy that is coming into see me this afternoon.
I have an amazing doctors surgery, one phone call from me and they are on it.
Left it a bit late this time. Should have rang them last week:shrug:

[Ammi]

Ah well. It lady Lucy that is coming into see me this afternoon.
I have an amazing doctors surgery, one phone call from me and they are on it.
Left it a bit late this time. Should have rang them last week:shrug:

…will you let us know after her visit…what the assessment is …?…

[Niamh.]

Yep. That me the past 10 days.
Hopefully the doc can turn it around.
Gawd that sound a tad dramatic:shrug:

:love: Hope you feel better soon Smudgie

[smudgie]

…will you let us know after her visit…what the assessment is …?…

Aye.
But I have a full on kidney infection.
I also have kidney failure so it can run away with me quite quickly.
Antibiotics should for now until they test what exactly the type is.
I always give stuff awhile to see if it will go on its own. Then get a little lecture from the doc.:laugh:

[smudgie]

:love: Hope you feel better soon Smudgie

Thanks Niamh.
I think I should have kept it to myself, but I felt really Ill-this past 10 days or so
Not looking for a pity party though.
Hubby struggles to talk about it all with me at times so TIBB is my little venting ground.

[Niamh.]

Thanks Niamh.
I think I should have kept it to myself, but I felt really Ill-this past 10 days or so
Not looking for a pity party though.
Hubby struggles to talk about it all with me at times so TIBB is my little venting ground.

Feel free to vent anytime with us :hug:

[smudgie]

Feel free to vent anytime with us :hug:

:love:

[Ammi]

Aye.
But I have a full on kidney infection.
I also have kidney failure so it can run away with me quite quickly.
Antibiotics should for now until they test what exactly the type is.
I always give stuff awhile to see if it will go on its own. Then get a little lecture from the doc.:laugh:

…you’re getting the antibiotics, which as you say are fighting the infection for now and keeping it more stabilised while the tests are done…you know your stuff as well as the medical staff do so hopefully you’ll be that great patient that they need you to be right now…:laugh:…while the antibiotics do their thing and the medical team do theirs…?…you just rest and sleep and let that healing happen for you…:hug:…

[smudgie]

…you’re getting the antibiotics, which as you say are fighting the infection for now and keeping it more stabilised while the tests are done…you know your stuff as well as the medical staff do so hopefully you’ll be that great patient that they need you to be right now…:laugh:…while the antibiotics do their thing and the medical team do theirs…?…you just rest and sleep and let that healing happen for you…:hug:…

:love:
Sleep, while BB is one.

[Ammi]

Thanks Niamh.
I think I should have kept it to myself, but I felt really Ill-this past 10 days or so
Not looking for a pity party though.
Hubby struggles to talk about it all with me at times so TIBB is my little venting ground.

…yeah, I get that…that it’s difficult for him to talk and he obviously always tries to stay strong for you as well…the strength of emotion can be quite a feared thing, eh…you have a great guy, though…from everything you say…and that’s no small thing either…

[Ammi]

:love:
Sleep, while BB is one.

…the good thing about how we watch TV now is that you can catch up whenever you’re feeling up to it and in small bitesize bits or whichever way fits in with the smudgie way…

[smudgie]

…yeah, I get that…that it’s difficult for him to talk and he obviously always tries to stay strong for you as well…the strength of emotion can be quite a freaked thing, eh…you have a great guy, though…from everything you say…and that’s no small thing either…

All things considered I have a wonderful hubby and kids.

[Ammi]

All things considered I have a wonderful hubby and kids.

…and they all have a wonderful you, which I’m sure they never stop feeling…go get some sleep if you can and let that healing process do its work…:hug:…

[Livia]

We are in the process of fostering a dog until he or she gets their forever home, of course this all depends on how Princess Tilly reacts to another dog in the house...very excited though

What a lovely thing to do.

[bots]

life is a constant transition

[Cherie]

Wishing you better Smudge

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

Sorry to hear that Ceecee, have you talked to your Doctor about it? :hug:

I did. I've been holding it off but finally went ahead and started some anti depressants.

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

…as Niamh said, did you or will you speak to your GP, CeeCee…?…there is no laughter here…so many, many people are still so impacted from COVID in that they feel that it was a ‘before Covid’ life and an ‘after one’…a time of such anxiety for us all and such isolation and fear for loved ones etc…?…will often leave some anxieties still in place…

This is true. I've heard some say life stopped in 2019, everything else is a blur.

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

Interestingly … we both worked all through the stress of Covid ( education) and the vaccines.

Before Covid I felt as though I would live till 100 … and then came Covid and all those dreadful scenes of people dying in corridors and temp carparks ..

Being male of a certain age I went to work terrified each and every day for about 18 months - it also left shattered my feeling of invincibility..


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Oh gosh I can imagine that it must've been so traumatic seeing all that first hand right in the height of it. How are you these days? That's something that one doesn't recover from easily of course but how are you coping these days?

[Zizu]

Oh gosh I can imagine that it must've been so traumatic seeing all that first hand right in the height of it. How are you these days? That's something that one doesn't recover from easily of course but how are you coping these days?


Not good .. still very stressed and anxious but I keep busy volunteer gardening / forestry work in the local park / woods — and a nearby animal sanctuary … healing is painfully slow


I shouldn’t get into so many disagreements in here really as the stress just drags me to places I don’t want to be .. but due to being on the spectrum plus being/having ADHD I can’t stop myself ..

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[Ammi]

This is true. I've heard some say life stopped in 2019, everything else is a blur.

…it’s/it was a big thing to go through and one that we just hadn’t foreseen and prepared for…and I think that it’s also not feeling that we somehow have to be that same person …it’s ok to feel that we’re changed by it in some ways…but to try not to let those changes transfer and become anxieties and fears, you know…because now you’re someone who has got through a pandemic …as humans, I think we can become very change averse to changes that we hadn’t ourselves decided and prepared for …and anxieties still prey on that to try to control because that’s what anxieties and fears etc do…it’s about trying to take each one at a time and dissolving it/dealing with it until they just don’t have any power over you…when we’ve had such a life knock as COVID and lived in fear for our families/friends etc and been isolated from them…it’s baby steps, to get back on track, you know…but that track won’t necessarily be the same continued track as before….its also an opportunity to look at any changes we feel and to mould them into positives if we can….

[Zizu]

I keep wondering about getting involved helping out at local food kitchens.. I despair at the thought of so many living rough nearby ( especially with winter coming)

I worry that I may become emotionally attached somehow and get more stressed/ anxious by getting so closely involved with them ..


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[Ammi]

I keep wondering about getting involved helping out at local food kitchens.. I despair at the thought of so many living rough nearby ( especially with winter coming)

I worry that I may become emotionally attached somehow and get more stressed/ anxious by getting so closely involved with them ..


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…if it’s something that you’re feeling drawn to, then look into it…don’t worry about ‘what ifs’…what if you become emotionally attached…because those what ifs are there to disable us and prevent us…they don’t want us to be our own masters, they want that control for themselves…that bridge of becoming overly attached etc is one that will be crossed if it presents itself and then you’ll look at it and deal with it at the time…

[Zizu]

…if it’s something that you’re feeling drawn to, then look into it…don’t worry about ‘what ifs’…what if you become emotionally attached…because those what ifs are there to disable us and prevent us…they don’t want us to be our own masters, they want that control for themselves…that bridge of becoming overly attached etc is one that will be crossed if it presents itself and then you’ll look at it and deal with it at the time…


You are right .. I shall start making enquiries !


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[Mystic Mock]

If you have single breath left in you’re body you are doing better than those that have none

Fight until your last breath

Guts from Berserk is on the Forum.:dance:

God I love that series.:laugh:

[Mystic Mock]

This is true. I've heard some say life stopped in 2019, everything else is a blur.

It does feel like it sometimes.

Although 2016 and 2023 are two other periods for me where I have found myself in a really dark place.

I'm still currently in the 2023 one, hopefully I'll bounce out of it like I always do.

[Zizu]

It does feel like it sometimes.

Although 2016 and 2023 are two other periods for me where I have found myself in a really dark place.

I'm still currently in the 2023 one, hopefully I'll bounce out of it like I always do.


Fingers crossed … I find that listening to happy pop music helps but you can’t force it sadly

I go through long , dark periods then suddenly I’ll hear an uptempo, catchy pop song and I suddenly feel much better.. it just has to happen though . I can’t just play a happy tune and “ hey presto ! “


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[UserSince2005]

I think I'm ready for the snip to become a real girl.

[Beso]

Ly smudgie.

[Beso]

I think I'm ready for the snip to become a real girl.

It's worth it just to see how big your scrotum can really get.

[Mystic Mock]

Fingers crossed … I find that listening to happy pop music helps but you can’t force it sadly

I go through long , dark periods then suddenly I’ll hear an uptempo, catchy pop song and I suddenly feel much better.. it just has to happen though . I can’t just play a happy tune and “ hey presto ! “


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I'm exactly the same with Music.

I can't for example play a Steps song if I'm not in the cheery kind of mood.

[Zizu]

I'm exactly the same with Music.

I can't for example play a Steps song if I'm not in the cheery kind of mood.


Ditto !

I’m sure there’s some fancy psychological explanation for this idiosyncrasy


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[Ammi]

I'm exactly the same with Music.

I can't for example play a Steps song if I'm not in the cheery kind of mood.

Ditto !

I’m sure there’s some fancy psychological explanation for this idiosyncrasy


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…(..I think…)…that sometime we have to ‘lean into’ emotions and sometimes we have to ‘counter them with a balance’…and what determines which one…?…is dependant on other factors…but sometimes, I feel that we aren’t yet ‘done’ with an emotion to be able to ‘exorcise’ it and find that balance, yet…so we’re drawn to more ‘safe places’ of feeling it…like songs and movies etc…we can feel what we need to feel from ‘safe standpoint’….

[Mystic Mock]

…(..I think…)…that sometime we have to ‘lean into’ emotions and sometimes we have to ‘counter them with a balance’…and what determines which one…?…is dependant on other factors…but sometimes, I feel that we aren’t yet ‘done’ with an emotion to be able to ‘exorcise’ it and find that balance, yet…so we’re drawn to more ‘safe places’ of feeling it…like songs and movies etc…we can feel what we need to feel from ‘safe standpoint’….

You're probably right tbh, Ammi.

[rusticgal]

Looking to move next year…house on the market in the new year…a new chapter for the two of us.

[Cherie]

Looking to move next year…house on the market in the new year…a new chapter for the two of us.

:love: its scary but if you both want it, it will be great

[rusticgal]

You know life is tough…my son has been to the darkest place this year but with the help of a good GP where he now lives and with the help of anti depressants and something to give him a good nights sleep he has turned his life around. It’s still early days and he is not working in his usual environment as a skilled worker…but that is his choice to be rid of the pressure atm…and it’s doing him good.
I witness so many people in my working environment going through this struggle…and some from a very young age…it’s heartbreaking.
So for all of you struggling…get help..don’t feel ashamed and there is medication available to help lift you out of that dark place and help get your life back on track.

[rusticgal]

:love: its scary but if you both want it, it will be great


It is a bit Cherie…but I am ready to move. Where we live has become so built up…I want some countryside back..:wavey:

[Zizu]

You know life is tough…my son has been to the darkest place this year but with the help of a good GP where he now lives and with the help of anti depressants and something to give him a good nights sleep he has turned his life around. It’s still early days and he is not working in his usual environment as a skilled worker…but that is his choice to be rid of the pressure atm…and it’s doing him good.
I witness so many people in my working environment going through this struggle…and some from a very young age…it’s heartbreaking.
So for all of you struggling…get help..don’t feel ashamed and there is medication available to help lift you out of that dark place and help get your life back on track.


Speaking for myself.. after 50 years of ‘struggling’ with depression it has become part of who I am - sounds crazy but I am used to feeling this way … I do get the occasional, short lived periods of exuberance and happiness so its not all bad .

I’m old fashioned and we have always been told to ‘get a grip’ or similar- especially us guys ..

I also have a phobia about taking medication and the side effects .. plus I have read so many negative things about antidepressants ..


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[Ammi]

Looking to move next year…house on the market in the new year…a new chapter for the two of us.

You know life is tough…my son has been to the darkest place this year but with the help of a good GP where he now lives and with the help of anti depressants and something to give him a good nights sleep he has turned his life around. It’s still early days and he is not working in his usual environment as a skilled worker…but that is his choice to be rid of the pressure atm…and it’s doing him good.
I witness so many people in my working environment going through this struggle…and some from a very young age…it’s heartbreaking.
So for all of you struggling…get help..don’t feel ashamed and there is medication available to help lift you out of that dark place and help get your life back on track.

…I’m so pleased that your son is looking at life from a different side now…there is so much that he will have learned from going to that darkest place and that will have discovered so many self strengths in himself also that will help him going forward …Im glad that he’s had such great medical support because sadly, so many don’t have that…and I’m glad that he’s able to relieve pressure in his work days by taking on a different role…don’t underestimate the part that his close family circle have made also and that he’s obviously felt the support from his parents also…and that is absolutely no small thing, that you are so much a part of those tracks that he’s getting back on…:hug:…good luck with your move, your new chapter will find you when that right home is there also…exciting year ahead…:love:…

[rusticgal]

…I’m so pleased that your son is looking at life from a different side now…there is so much that he will have learned from going to that darkest place and that will have discovered so many self strengths in himself also that will help him going forward …Im glad that he’s had such great medical support because sadly, so many don’t have that…and I’m glad that he’s able to relieve pressure in his work days by taking on a different role…don’t underestimate the part that his close family circle have made also and that he’s obviously felt the support from his parents also…and that is absolutely no small thing, that you are so much a part of those tracks that he’s getting back on…:hug:…good luck with your move, your new chapter will find you when that right home is there also…exciting year ahead…:love:…


Thank you Ammi...unfortunately his GP here dismissed his cries for help 3 years ago. Finally things took its toll back in April. Its been the worst year of our lives...he was just crying out for help. Now he has a new GP in a different area and she has just been brilliant..he now has this medication...he sleeps well and has no more anxiety. We have our son 'back'..we speak everyday as he now lives independantly in a house share and he is so positive. I wont lie...it took its toll on me, my husband and my other son but we got through it but it takes a lot of strength from everyone concerned....it could all have had a very different ending.

Sadly this is happening everywhere...

[Ammi]

Thank you Ammi...unfortunately his GP here dismissed his cries for help 3 years ago. Finally things took its toll back in April. Its been the worst year of our lives...he was just crying out for help. Now he has a new GP in a different area and she has just been brilliant..he now has this medication...he sleeps well and has no more anxiety. We have our son 'back'..we speak everyday as he now lives independantly in a house share and he is so positive. I wont lie...it took its toll on me, my husband and my other son but we got through it but it takes a lot of strength from everyone concerned....it could all have had a very different ending.

Sadly this is happening everywhere...

…its just incredible the difference that a GP can make…thats not how it should be but it is how it is…and yeah, it really has been the whole family in crises as well…i completely understand the impact on you and your husband as well and I’m so glad that you're actually seeing him ‘returning’ more and more …it could have been so different as you say …you and your husband are a huge part in making it what it is now/…in ensuring this outcome …its so sad that you’ve all had to go through it but you’ve realised so much strength as a family also….now its your time, still daunting with a big house move and life change…?…but that daunting is so much an exciting time as well and its all about you both as a couple, this is your time…:love:..

[rusticgal]

…its just incredible the difference that a GP can make…thats not how it should be but it is how it is…and yeah, it really has been the whole family in crises as well…i completely understand the impact on you and your husband as well and I’m so glad that you're actually seeing him ‘returning’ more and more …it could have been so different as you say …you and your husband are a huge part in making it what it is now/…in ensuring this outcome …its so sad that you’ve all had to go through it but you’ve realised so much strength as a family also….now its your time, still daunting with a big house move and life change…?…but that daunting is so much an exciting time as well and its all about you both as a couple, this is your time…:love:..


So true Ammi...and thank you :love: