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Jessica.
07-05-2025, 06:27 PM
I'm part of another community comprised of a lot of Big Brother fans and it just so happens that most of us don't really have father figures. I'm curious to know if the same applies on his forum.

Barry.
07-05-2025, 06:44 PM
Yes. Mum and dad still together.

AnnieK
07-05-2025, 06:45 PM
I did....my Dad was...and still is...amazing. He has been the main role model in my sons life too.
He is amazing :lovedup:

Glenn.
07-05-2025, 07:00 PM
Yep. My parents still going strong

Benjamin
07-05-2025, 07:01 PM
No. My father passed away when I was 4.

Ninastar
07-05-2025, 07:02 PM
I grew up with an amazing dad who I loved very much. Then he met the most toxic human I’ve known and now I have no contact with him. I think I was around 16 when that happened

Still, I’m lucky I grew up with one

Cherie
07-05-2025, 07:14 PM
For the most part yes, my Dad died when I was 15

Jessica.
07-05-2025, 07:16 PM
No. My father passed away when I was 4.
Mine died when I was 3, do you have siblings? It affected my older siblings more than me because they actually remember.

Jessica.
07-05-2025, 07:18 PM
I grew up with an amazing dad who I loved very much. Then he met the most toxic human I’ve known and now I have no contact with him. I think I was around 16 when that happened

Still, I’m lucky I grew up with one
That is horrible, did they have more kids?

Benjamin
07-05-2025, 07:39 PM
Mine died when I was 3, do you have siblings? It affected my older siblings more than me because they actually remember.

I do, I’m the eldest though.

Swan
07-05-2025, 08:02 PM
I did grow up with my Dad, unfortunately. He left when i was in my early teens (he left when i grew big enough to hit back). Have spoke to him on and off since, but not for about 5/6 years. I just hope wherever he is he's sad and miserable and suffering. I know that sounds bad and insensitive considering some of you lost your Dads, but if you knew him you'd feel the same. Used to beat my mum, beat me, beat the dogs. Horrible cruel person. I wouldn't piss on him if he was on fire.

Jessica.
07-05-2025, 08:19 PM
I did grow up with my Dad, unfortunately. He left when i was in my early teens (he left when i grew big enough to hit back). Have spoke to him on and off since, but not for about 5/6 years. I just hope wherever he is he's sad and miserable and suffering. I know that sounds bad and insensitive considering some of you lost your Dads, but if you knew him you'd feel the same. Used to beat my mum, beat me, beat the dogs. Horrible cruel person. I wouldn't piss on him if he was on fire.
I'm sorry you went though that, he sounds like a wicked man.

Swan
07-05-2025, 08:30 PM
I'm sorry you went though that, he sounds like a wicked man.

:love:

He was/is a very wicked man. And like with most people like him, incredibly selfish, manipulative and thinks the world should revolve around him. His parents/my grandparents are lovely, but he was spoiled rotten, got away with murder, and never challenged. He was born evil imo, but they didn't help by molllycoddling him, they still do to this day. He's the type of person to walk in a pub and announce he's buying drinks for everyone, not because he cares or wants to be nice, because he wants people to think he's this great, wonderful person.

Yeah, my hate for him is pretty deep seeded, im sure you can tell :laugh:

Oliver_W
07-05-2025, 09:01 PM
My parents divorced when I was too young to remember, but he's been a constant presence, no deadbeat divorcee :love:

Niamh.
07-05-2025, 09:09 PM
Technically yes but he had very little interest in us, my mom may as well have been a single parent. They're divorced now, I was an adult then though

Zizu
07-05-2025, 10:39 PM
Yes

He was a truly wonderful man . Sadly taken too soon due to a malfunctioning heart valve

Mystic Mock
08-05-2025, 01:23 AM
Thankfully he is still apart of my life now.

Tbh without my Dad and Brother over the last couple of years, I'd probably be in a really dark place.

Along with my Cat they've both really kept me going.

Kate!
08-05-2025, 02:04 AM
Yes

He was a truly wonderful man . Sadly taken too soon due to a malfunctioning heart valve

Yes Zizu :love: my dad was wonderful too. Died at 66 from pneumonia in hospital after being diagnosed with leukaemia. A true gentleman my dad was.

Ammi
08-05-2025, 03:50 AM
…Swan…:hug:..your father was the one with the true loss.…yes, I grew up with my dad, both parents have been a huge inspiration in my life …

Swan
08-05-2025, 12:02 PM
…Swan…:hug:..your father was the one with the true loss.…yes, I grew up with my dad, both parents have been a huge inspiration in my life …

:love:

Beso
08-05-2025, 12:38 PM
Yeah. He used to beat me though for the slightest thing. I put it down to exhaustion bringing 4 kids up and working all day.. I always remember seeing him in his last few days dealing with pancreatic cancer, the shell he had become, I didn't know wether to laugh or cry.


I cried.

Vanessa
08-05-2025, 02:52 PM
Yes.

Vanessa
08-05-2025, 02:53 PM
:hug:No. My father passed away when I was 4.

Vanessa
08-05-2025, 02:55 PM
Yeah. He used to beat me though for the slightest thing. I put it down to exhaustion bringing 4 kids up and working all day.. I always remember seeing him in his last few days dealing with pancreatic cancer, the shell he had become, I didn't know wether to laugh or cry.


I cried.

I have a similar experience. I guess he didn't know how to be a dad.

Beso
08-05-2025, 03:42 PM
I have a similar experience. I guess he didn't know how to be a dad.

Ah, he was ok in other ways, like Xmas was always special, and he always made sure we will went in holiday once a year, but the pain left both physically and mentally due to the beating and more so the fear of it, has outweighed it as I've gotten older.

Livia
08-05-2025, 04:32 PM
My Dad is and always has been, my hero.

Vanessa
08-05-2025, 04:33 PM
:hug:Ah, he was ok in other ways, like Xmas was always special, and he always made sure we will went in holiday once a year, but the pain left both physically and mentally due to the beating and more so the fear of it, has outweighed it as I've gotten older.

James
08-05-2025, 04:35 PM
Yeah, he was great. It would have been his birthday today.

AnnieK
08-05-2025, 05:55 PM
My Dad is and always has been, my hero.

Mine too (my dad that is :laugh:)

I would ring him at crazy o'clock in the morning and say "right, I'm near a tree and there is a field with sheep in, can you find me and pick me up".....and he would. Never moaned and always happy to see me bless him.

Now my mum on the other hand....she was a different story :laugh:

Livia
08-05-2025, 06:03 PM
Mine too (my dad that is :laugh:)

I would ring him at crazy o'clock in the morning and say "right, I'm near a tree and there is a field with sheep in, can you find me and pick me up".....and he would. Never moaned and always happy to see me bless him.

Now my mum on the other hand....she was a different story :laugh:

My Dad was the same... "Dad, I've missed the last bus and can't get a cab." He'd always. Come, never moaned. He sounds a lot like your Dad.

If we were going to be punished, it'd be my Mum who laid down the law. My Dad would look disappointed and that was somehow worse!

Niamh.
08-05-2025, 06:13 PM
My mom is my hero :love:

AnnieK
08-05-2025, 07:27 PM
My mom is my hero :love:

:love:

Mystic Mock
08-05-2025, 10:00 PM
My mom is my hero :love:

My Mom was amazing too.

Of course like anyone she had her flaws, but overall she was an amazing Mother.

Ninastar
08-05-2025, 10:46 PM
That is horrible, did they have more kids?

No, she has her own kids. (She doesn’t talk to her daughter though)

They only spend time with her son and his gf and their daughter.

Jessica.
09-05-2025, 06:44 AM
No, she has her own kids. (She doesn’t talk to her daughter though)

They only spend time with her son and his gf and their daughter.

Horrible, I had a situation like that where my mam was dating someone toxic, he'd even say suggestive things to me and my sister in front of her and tell dirty jokes to the grandchildren, after way too many years she finally broke up with him.

user104658
09-05-2025, 04:13 PM
Ehhh yes, it would be offensive for me to say otherwise; he was "there", he supported us financially, he wasn't physically or verbally abusive, but I also had and still have basically zero real relationship with him (we haven't spoken for years at this point, for semi-complicated reasons).

Sad truth is, I believe, he went through the motions of raising us and providing for us but in hindsight get the impression he found having kids (and a wife) tedious, stressful and a chore. Both of my parents were pretty absentee from about age 11 onwards. Different reasons; my dad was either at work or watching TV & smoking, my mum (who was honestly a wonderful person though latterly very troubled) was descending into severe clinical depression and died when I was in my late 20's.

Happy stories all round :joker:.

Livia
09-05-2025, 04:43 PM
My mom is my hero :love:

I adore my Mum, but it has to be said, my brother was always her little prince and I was always a Daddy's girl. That's not to say that either of us think the other parent didn't love us, we know they both did and they would do anything for us, but I have a special relationship with my Dad in the same way my Brother has a special relationship with my Mum.