Tibb members you think would make great BB housemates?

[Kate!]

Poll coming. Multichoice.

Any yeah I'm on it....why the heck not loool. Even though I'd probably be first out :laugh:

[Kate!]

Damm I forgot to add my name. Oh well, I can be other.

And I've not just chosen friends.

[Benjamin]

I can imagine you and Glenn in there :joker:

[Kate!]

I can imagine you and Glenn in there :joker:

The ratings would go through the roof :hee:

[Benjamin]

The ratings would go through the roof :hee:

Until week 3 when you’re both evicted in a double :hehe:

[Kate!]

Until week 3 when you’re both evicted in a double :hehe:

:joker: nah I won't last even that long.

[Beso]

Id pretend to be gay to scoop the 100grand. I reckon I would have the bit on the side audience eating out my hand.

[Redway]

I’ve voted not necessarily for all my favourite members but the ones who I think would have the most potential for rightly-proportioned BB drama.

All bar one on that list (who’d be an absolutely terrible choice if we’re keeping it real, and wouldn’t be capable of fitting in at-all) would have at-least a rudimentary level of social awareness and competence and some are really some of the most lovely, agreeable people going but because BB just needs a punch of a certain kind of drama, people like that might not necessarily be my ideal kind of housemate. Ideal kind of person, yes, but maybe not-quite BB housemate material, and that’s just fine. We all have situations where we thrive and situations where we either thrive too well or just not so much.

The vote for Crimson Dynamo was a mistake, PS. I’m not being funny there. I just genuinely didn’t mean to select him.

[Benjamin]

Who is DeadPoolz :laugh:

[Mystic Mock]

I've voted for nearly everyone on the poll.:laugh:

[Mystic Mock]

Who is DeadPoolz :laugh:

A legend is who they are.:dance:

Thanks for the vote.

And the same to joeysteele and Kate!

[Barry.]

I voted a few. Like Ben said, you and Glenn would be fun on bb. I’d love to put Ammi but she’s just too nice but she could be the next Rachel Rice?

[Glenn.]

I can imagine you and Glenn in there :joker:

I'd walk

[Redway]

Zizu just hasn’t got the social wiring. I might not be his biggest fan but there’d be an element of genuine concern for his welfare there, and I don’t think he’d pass the psychological-assessments to get in in the first place. Anything could happen to him in there. He could be exploited or worse.

[Zizu]

Zizu just hasn’t got the social wiring. I might not be his biggest fan but there’d be an element of concern there. Anything could happen to him in there.


I wouldn’t consider it for £10 million

I am too insular , old fashioned, self conscious, have low self esteem .. anxiety issues , prone to depression …


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[MTVN]

We want Redway and Zizu in a secret room

There'd be a wonderful journey from animosity to understanding

[Zizu]

We want Redway and Zizu in a secret room

There'd be a wonderful journey from animosity to understanding


I would probably harm him …

I do not suffer fools gladly


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[Redway]

I would probably harm him …

I do not suffer fools gladly


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I’d like to see you try, when you probably think “raining cats and dogs” means pitbulls and ragdolls are coming up to scratch and bite you without the safety of an umbrella.

Standing up to creepy misogyny doesn’t make someone a fool.

[Livia]

"Day two in the Big Brother house. Police are fishing a lifeless body out of the hot tub and someone is being led away under a blanket..."

[Maru]

Reading all the posts you place in the “‘things that bother you thread it’s clear you spend your whole life either worrying or complaining !!


My life is full of joy , happiness and contentment with a smattering of whingeing ..

The irony is some will say that a "smattering of whinge" is some indicator that that person is troubled within... which is ironic, because being overly concerned with one's minor issues to the point of obsession inevitably leads to chronic anxiety... and there's too many traps like that in society... I don't blame people for oversharing to some degree, because I think our respective culture is heavily influenced by anxiety-based thinking (per hyper-vigilance) and when it involves two people with a shared neurosis (both on opposite sides) then it's like watching each person pick at scabs...

You and him have a lot more in common than you both realize because you both obsess over the details and are people-centric... and y'all both like to go against the grain with great force...

[Beso]

Day 44...redway and zizu are bickering
..again.

In the garden , beso is washing his laundry.

[Zizu]

The irony is some will say that a "smattering of whinge" is some indicator that that person is troubled within... which is ironic, because being overly concerned with one's minor issues to the point of obsession inevitably leads to chronic anxiety... and there's too many traps like that in society... I don't blame people for oversharing to some degree, because I think our respective culture is heavily influenced by anxiety-based thinking (per hyper-vigilance) and when it involves two people with a shared neurosis (both on opposite sides) then it's like watching each person pick at scabs...

You and him have a lot more in common than you both realize because you both obsess over the details and are people-centric... and y'all both like to go against the grain with great force...


Fair point/s


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[Mystic Mock]

"Day two in the Big Brother house. Police are fishing a lifeless body out of the hot tub and someone is being led away under a blanket..."

:joker:

And day 3. LT has a meltdown when he realises there are cameras watching him take a ****.:hehe:

[Ammi]

…I’m pretty sure that there would be a name blend for you both Redway and Zizu…Zuway or Ziway or similar…?…the crazy and nonsensical thing is, is that you’re both so empathetic and show such consideration/awareness in terms of mental health awareness…/…the impact on others of words etc and the harsh world that the internet and social sites can be…?…and yet with each other, any understanding that you both can show so much, with regards to others and other issues, doesn’t seem to be there…which is really sad because we all see how much you can both show such kind and considered thought …

[Swan]

Fcuk me i didn't even make the cut, neither did Slim. We'll just be Big Brother and set you all tasks and stuff then :smug:

[Maru]

You know I have a lot of time for you, Ammi, genuinely, butI personally have to draw the line at correlating female sports-commentators with a man’s suicide. I’d hardly call that empathetic, kind and considered.

He might have a background of care but then he can also just be … Zizu. He might know things about mental health and I might have a shade of neuroticism that in some circumstances you could see even parallels him, albeit at opposite ends (like Maru was pointing out and trying to psychoanalyse), but as far as I’m concerned he’s just toxic. We all have our value and his value is definitely better-known to the people who know him personally, I’d never downplay that, but I just can’t with Zizu. I hear what you’re saying, I hear what Maru’s saying (even if I have to reject some of the psychoanalysis, because I’m not instinctively driven by anxiety in the way that she thinks), but we’re never gonna be mates, me and him.

I wouldn't have connected anxious behavior directly to either of you as far as TiBB is concerned (anyway)... but it's easy to get the tiniest bit of it mixed into communications with the way conversations like this are setup with society... that's why I said I don't really mind any oversharing that's being mentioned because I think it is easy to misinterpret where anyone is coming from, because it's sifting through more difficult things to get a point across. You both are keen to analyze things, which I see as a good? Like I would not worry to this extent how either of you are being perceived... you both bring valuable commentary to the forum and in the end, that's the point I was trying to make...

[Redway]

I wouldn't have connected anxious behavior directly to either of you as far as TiBB is concerned (anyway)... but it's easy to get the tiniest bit of it mixed into communications with the way conversations like this are setup with society... that's why I said I don't really mind any oversharing that's being mentioned because I think it is easy to misinterpret where anyone is coming from, because it's sifting through more difficult things to get a point across. You both are keen to analyze things, which I see as a good? Like I would not worry to this extent how either of you are being perceived... you both bring valuable commentary to the forum and in the end, that's the point I was trying to make...

I wouldn’t even call it oversharing, though, Maru. I give a lot of voice to my daily irritations which I don’t give voice to in the offline world, so that thread is like a cathartic release, but I’m still fundamentally very reserved when it comes to getting into anything personal, and that applies to me as I am offline as well as on here (and on other forums). I reveal a few bits and bobs here-and-there but none of it deeply telling of what’s truly personal. I get what you’re saying about a vein of neuroticism and, again, that’s another thing I wouldn’t dare get into on the open, because that’s not one of the things I’m comfortable delving into except on a one-to-one basis with people I’ve personally vetted out and trust enough, but yeah. I know this forum has people who like to assume over-familiarity with various strangers (that’s not aimed at you at-all, btw) but we all draw the veil somewhere, and my bar’s inherently low, because I’m just naturally someone who sits on way more than I ever reveal, even anonymously online. That irks people who like to assume over-familiarity and project onto you for reasons that probably have nothing to actually do with you as you truly are (again, not talking about you), but I’m always eager to draw that boundary.

So, yeah. I have to disagree with you a little on the oversharing bit. What I air on that thread is small enough for me to be relatively casually explicit about. It’s more release (a little tongue-in-cheek here-and-there, building on my rep. for being a complainer) than reveal. The big-fry, the truly personal? That’s tucked away more than I ever give flashes of them on here (and only then when it’s apt and fits the context). It’s all me, but a version of me curated for different spaces. No bluff, but no getting truly personal with most people, either. Only the people who have more access to that side of me, and there aren’t many of them on this forum, who I’d share those things with. Like I say, it’s curated. Selective.

[Kate!]

I wouldn’t even call it oversharing, though, Maru. I give a lot of voice to my daily irritations which I don’t give voice to in the offline world, so that thread is like a cathartic release, but I’m still fundamentally very reserved when it comes to getting into anything personal, and that applies to me as I am offline as well as on here (and on other forums). I reveal a few bits and bobs here-and-there but none of it deeply telling of what’s truly personal. I get what you’re saying about a vein of neuroticism and, again, that’s another thing I wouldn’t dare get into on the open, because that’s not one of the things I’m comfortable delving into except on a one-to-one basis with people I’ve personally vetted out and trust enough, but yeah. I know this forum has people who like to assume over-familiarity with various strangers (that’s not aimed at you at-all, btw) but we all draw the veil somewhere, and my bar’s inherently low, because I’m just naturally someone who sits on way more than I ever reveal, even anonymously online. That irks people who like to assume over-familiarity and project onto you for reasons that probably have nothing to actually do with you as you truly are (again, not talking about you), but I’m always eager to draw that boundary.

So, yeah. I have to disagree with you a little on the oversharing bit. What I air on that thread is small enough for me to be relatively casually explicit about. It’s more release (a little tongue-in-cheek here-and-there, building on my rep. for being a complainer) than reveal. The big-fry, the truly personal? That’s tucked away more than I ever give flashes of them on here (and only then when it’s apt and fits the context). It’s all me, but a version of me curated for different spaces. No bluff, but no getting truly personal with most people, either. Only the people who have more access to that side of me, and there aren’t many of them on this forum, who I’d share those things with. Like I say, it’s curated. Selective.

What a great post. Thanks for that insight.

[Ammi]

You know I have a lot of time for you, Ammi, genuinely, butI personally have to draw the line at correlating female sports-commentators with a man’s suicide. I’d hardly call that empathetic, kind and considered.

He might have a background of care but then he can also just be … Zizu. He might know things about mental health and I might have a shade of neuroticism that in some circumstances you could see even parallels him, albeit at opposite ends (like Maru was pointing out and trying to psychoanalyse), but as far as I’m concerned he’s just toxic. We all have our value and his value is definitely better-known to the people who know him personally, I’d never downplay that, but I just can’t with Zizu. I hear what you’re saying, I hear what Maru’s saying (even if I have to reject some of the psychoanalysis, because I’m not instinctively driven by anxiety in the way that she thinks), but we’re never gonna be mates, me and him.

…Redway, I wasn’t suggesting that you were both alike or that a ‘mate situation’ could happen…just that you both have showed an awareness and consideration for mental health and well-being in regards to the impact of hurtful language etc …especially on the internet and with those we don’t know…it can’t feel or be healthy for either of you and ignoring is an option that would feel like the better way for you both…I’ve seen it mentioned but not really so much applied…anyway, I leave you both to continue with whatever this is ….

[Beso]

Fcuk me i didn't even make the cut, neither did Slim. We'll just be Big Brother and set you all tasks and stuff then :smug:

Late entry, like the ever popular john tickle.

[thesheriff443]

…Redway, I wasn’t suggesting that you were both alike or that a ‘mate situation’ could happen…just that you both have showed an awareness and consideration for mental health and well-being in regards to the impact of hurtful language etc …especially on the internet and with those we don’t know…it can’t feel or be healthy for either of you and ignoring is an option that would feel like the better way for you both…I’ve seen it mentioned but not really so much applied…anyway, I leave you both to continue with whatever this is ….

Great post ammi

[Livia]

It would be fun to see all of us in the Big Brother House. I'd be interested to see if people's real life personas face to face were in any way the same as they are on here.

[Redway]

What a great post. Thanks for that insight.
Thanks, Kate. And you know you’re one of those people who’ve got my trust. I got you, as much as I can.

[Mystic Mock]

It would be fun to see all of us in the Big Brother House. I'd be interested to see if people's real life personas face to face were in any way the same as they are on here.

I think that I would be mostly the same as I am on here.

My irritable sides to my personality would probably be more pronounced on BB though.

[Livia]

I think that I would be mostly the same as I am on here.

My irritable sides to my personality would probably be more pronounced on BB though.

I like to think I would be pretty much the same too. We could find a quiet corner and be irritable together because if I was forced into the BB house, I would definitely be irritable...

[Maru]

So, yeah. I have to disagree with you a little on the oversharing bit. What I air on that thread is small enough for me to be relatively casually explicit about. It’s more release (a little tongue-in-cheek here-and-there, building on my rep. for being a complainer) than reveal. The big-fry, the truly personal? That’s tucked away more than I ever give flashes of them on here (and only then when it’s apt and fits the context). It’s all me, but a version of me curated for different spaces. No bluff, but no getting truly personal with most people, either. Only the people who have more access to that side of me, and there aren’t many of them on this forum, who I’d share those things with. Like I say, it’s curated. Selective.

This is why I said "any" (it's discussing the topic of oversharing, not you in particular in this case). Whether it is or isn't (wgaf), I don't think it's such a big deal anyway even if it were. It's no more bothersome than the emotional journals that get written around HMs, our dear politicians and other non-celebrities. I would say a sizable portion of the active member base take to airing their grievances (personal or not) or gripes on the regular as an entertaining side hobby (Harry & Meghan threads, every single time)... and it's not so much a negative for me, because I come to Tibb to get my daily grievance studies... it's literally the chef's kiss of this place...

[Redway]

This is why I said "any" (it's discussing the topic of oversharing, not you in particular in this case). Whether it is or isn't (wgaf), I don't think it's such a big deal anyway even if it were. It's no more bothersome than the emotional journals that get written around HMs, our dear politicians and other non-celebrities. I would say a sizable portion of the active member base take to airing their grievances (personal or not) or gripes on the regular as an entertaining side hobby (Harry & Meghan threads, every single time)... and it's not so much a negative for me, because I come to Tibb to get my daily grievance studies... it's literally the chef's kiss of this place...

That’s something I can resonate with. It is a bit of an entertaining side-hobby. That’s part of the point. They’re not imagined slights but they’re not that deep at the end of the day.

[Mystic Mock]

I like to think I would be pretty much the same too. We could find a quiet corner and be irritable together because if I was forced into the BB house, I would definitely be irritable...

Well at least I would have a partner in crime then.:dance:

[Redway]

Well at least I would have a partner in crime then.:dance:

Who would you want to tag alongside you when you’re on the pull, trying to move to some of the women in the house?

[Mystic Mock]

Who would you want to tag alongside you when you’re on the pull, trying to move to some of the women in the house?

I don't think I would ever want to showmance on Big Brother tbh.:joker:

But if I were to try, then it would probably be either Joey, yourself Redway, LT, Arista, Parmnion, or Nicky91 as my wingman.

Or I could try an unusual strategy and have one of the women that I'm friends with on here be my wingman, because it could make the whole situation be a lot more relaxed.

[Kate!]

I don't think I would ever want to showmance on Big Brother tbh.:joker:

But if I were to try, then it would probably be either Joey, yourself Redway, LT, Arista, Parmnion, or Nicky91 as my wingman.

Or I could try an unusual strategy and have one of the women that I'm friends with on here be my wingman, because it could make the whole situation be a lot more relaxed.

Oooh very strategic Mock.

[Redway]

I don't think I would ever want to showmance on Big Brother tbh.:joker:

But if I were to try, then it would probably be either Joey, yourself Redway, LT, Arista, Parmnion, or Nicky91 as my wingman.

Or I could try an unusual strategy and have one of the women that I'm friends with on here be my wingman, because it could make the whole situation be a lot more relaxed.

Hmm. Why me?

[Mystic Mock]

Hmm. Why me?

Well I do see you as one of my friends on here.

Plus I don't think that you would be as uncomfortable with the scenario, like I think that some of the other guys that I'm thinking of on here would be.

[Mystic Mock]

Oooh very strategic Mock.

It is BB afterall.:dance:

[Redway]

Well I do see you as one of my friends on here.

Plus I don't think that you would be as uncomfortable with the scenario, like I think that some of the other guys that I'm thinking of on here would be.

Listen, right-back atcha, my guy.

I’d always tread with caution (I’m just that sort of person) but yeah. I reckon we’d make a good team in some respects. For-sure.

[Glenn.]

Yeah if we were in the house, people would switch off

[AnnieK]

I have cleaned and reopened this.

However if there is any more arguing or dragging grievances from other threads, I will delete it again.

As you were....

[Kate!]

I have cleaned and reopened this.

However if there is any more arguing or dragging grievances from other threads, I will delete it again.

As you were....

Thank you. But please don't delete again as I'm not a part of the arguing Annie.

[Beso]

Well at least I would have a partner in crime then.:dance:

Mario and Lisa, dunking biscuits.:blush:

[Beso]

I don't think I would ever want to showmance on Big Brother tbh.:joker:

But if I were to try, then it would probably be either Joey, yourself Redway, LT, Arista, Parmnion, or Nicky91 as my wingman.

Or I could try an unusual strategy and have one of the women that I'm friends with on here be my wingman, because it could make the whole situation be a lot more relaxed.



I would pump you for 100g.

[Glenn.]

Also arista would be fun to watch

[Maru]

Anyway, the reason I hadn't answered the poll is because I think virtually all members qualify if they have any stomach at all to post on TiBB. TiBB, with its imperfections, simulates BB in a way without all the hand-holding... and now I just heard thunder...

[Maru]

Also arista would be fun to watch

Especially his state once the withdrawal from knowing what's happening in the real world kicked in...

[Kate!]

Anyway, the reason I hadn't answered the poll is because I think virtually all members qualify if they have any stomach at all to post on TiBB. TiBB, with its imperfections, simulates BB in a way without all the hand-holding... and now I just heard thunder...

Good post.

[Beso]

Arista would be a good talking tree.

[Kate!]

Arista would be a good talking tree.

Hmm yeah

What roles do you all think you'd fill in the house?

[Mystic Mock]

Yeah if we were in the house, people would switch off

We can't be as bad as the Channel 5 years in fairness.:laugh:

[Mystic Mock]

I would pump you for 100g.

Unfortunately I don't have that type of money.:joker:

[Kate!]

Unfortunately I don't have that type of money.:joker:

Or fortunately. Lol.

[Mystic Mock]

Hmm yeah

What roles do you all think you'd fill in the house?

I'd be a paranoid wreck, that gets irritated by what I would deem to be bizarre behaviour.

[Mystic Mock]

Or fortunately. Lol.

Too true.:joker:

[Kate!]

I'd be a paranoid wreck, that gets irritated by what I would deem to be bizarre behaviour.

Shabhaz?

[Beso]

Unfortunately I don't have that type of money.:joker:

One of us would win...my sacrificial pump should see me onto victory, if not id keep up the pretence and burn through 50g of your money in the first month out the house. You would have 50g left and a sore arse.


:joker:

[Mystic Mock]

Shabhaz?

Hopefully not that bad.:laugh:

[Mystic Mock]

One of us would win...my sacrificial pump should see me onto victory, if not id keep up the pretence and burn through 50g of your money in the first month out the house. You would have 50g left and a sore arse.


:joker:

:laugh:

[Redway]

I'd be a paranoid wreck, that gets irritated by what I would deem to be bizarre behaviour.

What role do you think I’d serve in the house, Mock?

[Kate!]

What role do you think I’d serve in the house, Mock?

Oooh good question.

[Redway]

Oooh good question.

You’d definitely be a mother-like figure in the house. Co-ordinating how we all participate in games would be an obvious flex for you but I think it would go beyond that. You’d be actively attuned to everyone’s well-being.

[Kate!]

You’d definitely be a mother-like figure in the house. Co-ordinating how we all participate in games would be an obvious flex for you but I think it would go beyond that. You’d be actively attuned to everyone’s well-being.

:love: I'd see you in a wise advisory capacity, and also organising the cleaning as you're quite an expert in that field.

[Mystic Mock]

What role do you think I’d serve in the house, Mock?

I think that you would be a Housemate that would enjoy observing the other Housemates actions in the house.

But I also think that you'd be someone that the less shallow Housemates would have fun engaging with, as I think that you would be one of the intellectual Housemates.

[Kate!]

I think Mock would bring fun to the house.

[Beso]

Well I voted sheriff, and it's obvious why.

[Kate!]

Crimson has most votes with 10.

[Beso]

Crimson has most votes with 10.

He would be late with the shopping list.

[Kate!]

He would be late with the shopping list.

Omg he absolutely would yes.

[Kate!]

Who on Tibb do we think would order daft things to sabotage the shopping for fun?

[Beso]

Who on Tibb do we think would order daft things to sabotage the shopping for fun?


Strictly Jake. Cause it's a mean thing to do..JUST LIKE A DOUBLE EVICTION IN WEEK ONE!!!!


But I'm over it now....


So maybe Cherie.

[Kate!]

Strictly Jake.

:joker: why?

[Kate!]

I'd order 500 punnets of strawberries

[Redway]

Who on Tibb do we think would order daft things to sabotage the shopping for fun?

I’d probably order 500 bottles of tea-tree oil.

[Redway]

I think that you would be a Housemate that would enjoy observing the other Housemates actions in the house.

But I also think that you'd be someone that the less shallow Housemates would have fun engaging with, as I think that you would be one of the intellectual Housemates.

“less shallow” being an operative buzz-term. I know exactly what you mean.

[Redway]

:love: I'd see you in a wise advisory capacity, and also organising the cleaning as you're quite an expert in that field.

Lol. I’d be happy to rise to the challenge.

Alright, who’s arguing with who over what in the BB house?

[Kate!]

Lol. I’d be happy to rise to the challenge.

Alright, who’s arguing with who over what in the BB house?

Me and LT about leaving the toilet seat up

[Glenn.]

Crimson has most votes with 10.


He’d be very disappointing. All mouth on his VT. Zero entertainment value in the house.

[Kate!]

Benjamin would be the house totty. Men and women would love him equally.

[Beso]

This would be Kate at the last dinner.


https://www.facebook.com/share/r/1Bpz3ZDL2Q/

[Kate!]

This would be Kate at the last dinner.


https://www.facebook.com/share/r/1Bpz3ZDL2Q/

Bahaha

[Mystic Mock]

I think Mock would bring fun to the house.

Thanks Kate, I appreciate your confidence on that lol.

I think Redway has summed you up as a Housemate quite well.

[Mystic Mock]

Crimson has most votes with 10.

He'd be Rex Newmark reborn.:joker:

[Redway]

So let’s hear more about your irritable side, Mock, to the extent that you’re comfortable sharing. What does that look like for you typically, and how do you think it might pop out in the Big-Brother house?

[Redway]

Crimson has most votes with 10.

I guess he’s got 9 votes, really, to be fair. Me voting him was an accident.

[Mystic Mock]

So let’s hear more about your irritable side, Mock, to the extent that you’re comfortable sharing. What does that look like for you typically, and how do you think it might pop out in the Big-Brother house?

I'll pick one that I think would make me controversial immediately.

As soon as someone started talking about "toxic masculinity" in the house, you'd start seeing a more ugly side to my personality.:joker:

Or if a Housemate was sticking up for another Housemate who was being a dickhead towards me, just because "they're friends with each other" that would also make me really annoyed with both of them tbh.

[Redway]

I'll pick one that I think would make me controversial immediately.

As soon as someone started talking about "toxic masculinity" in the house, you'd start seeing a more ugly side to my personality.:joker:

Or if a Housemate was sticking up for another Housemate who was being a dickhead towards me, just because "they're friends with each other" that would also make me really annoyed with both of them tbh.

A lot of the time, people sticking up for someone who’s laying it to you aren’t even doing it because they even-remotely like that person. They just dislike you more, so of-course they’ll side with the opposition type-thing.

[Mystic Mock]

A lot of the time, people sticking up for someone who’s laying it to you aren’t even doing it because they even-remotely like that person. They just dislike you more, so of-course they’ll side with the opposition type-thing.

And that ironically would make me more angry towards them.

[Redway]

And that ironically would make me more angry towards them.

Yep. In psychological language it’s called triangulation. Not everyone knows just-how toxic it is or how-much they’re showing themselves up whenever they side with someone they don’t even particularly like just to gang in on you. It’s different when there’s a genuine reason for them to dislike you but when it’s based on nothing more than misread vibes or just personal distaste, it’s sickening the lengths some people will go to to cast you as the odd one out. To people who don’t think very deeply about interpersonal psychology, it might sound “out there” but the fact that something’s out or someone’s reach of experience or understanding doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. Triangulation is a very nasty tactic when it’s unfounded.

Me, I’m not pristine when it comes to that but if and when I do triangulate, at-least I have my reasons. Genuine reasons.

[Mystic Mock]

Yep. In psychological language it’s called triangulation. Not everyone knows just-how toxic it is or how-much they’re showing themselves up whenever they side with someone they don’t even particularly like just to gang in on you. It’s different when there’s a genuine reason for them to dislike you but when it’s based on nothing more than misread vibes or just personal distaste, it’s sickening the lengths some people will go to to cast you as the odd one out. To people who don’t think very deeply about interpersonal psychology, it might sound “out there” but the fact that something’s out or someone’s reach of experience or understanding doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. Triangulation is a very nasty tactic when it’s unfounded.

Me, I’m not pristine when it comes to that but if and when I do triangulate, at-least I have my reasons. Genuine reasons.

In fairness we've probably all done a bit of triangulation in the past, without even realising it.

I'm admittedly just a hypocrite that hates it when it has been done to me.:joker:

[Redway]

In fairness we've probably all done a bit of triangulation in the past, without even realising it.

I'm admittedly just a hypocrite that hates it when it has been done to me.:joker:

No-one likes to be triangulated, to be fair, but to me there’s a definite line that’s crossed when the people doing it don’t even know you; they’ve just decided to take a dislike to you for reasons that have nothing to do with you as you truly are (like I said elsewhere). Empty leverage from something you said years ago that they never understood (even and especially at the time), vague impressions, misread tone (which can happen a lot online, naturally), you might remind them of someone they don’t like. Sometimes it’s resentment they’ve been holding onto that was never really yours to carry, but now you’re the scapegoat for whatever unresolved mess they’ve clung to. Anything. Either way, Mock, it ain’t your bag to carry and it ain’t mine, either. People will construct a whole load of imaginary nonsense about who you are based on scraps overripe for the bin. Just got to let them stew and keep chasing shadows. They don’t know you well enough to have a problem with you. They have a problem with who they think you are, and what’s more important than what other people think about you is what you (and other people who truly know you) know about yourself. If someone thinks you’re arrogant (for-example) and you know you’re not, that’s their misperception, their projection, not reality. And they’ll likely get it into their skulls eventually, no-matter the noise they make in-between.

[Mystic Mock]

No-one likes to be triangulated, to be fair, but to me there’s a definite line that’s crossed when the people doing it don’t even know you; they’ve just decided to take a dislike to you for reasons that have nothing to do with you as you truly are (like I said elsewhere). Empty leverage from something you said years ago that they never understood (even and especially at the time), vague impressions, misread tone (which can happen a lot online, naturally), you might remind them of someone they don’t like. Sometimes it’s resentment they’ve been holding onto that was never really yours to carry, but now you’re the scapegoat for whatever unresolved mess they’ve clung to. Anything. Either way, Mock, it ain’t your bag to carry and it ain’t mine, either. People will construct a whole load of imaginary nonsense about who you are based on scraps ripe for the bin.

You've made some good points tbh.

I definitely wouldn't like it if someone was being hostile to me because I remind them of someone that they don't like. How would that be my fault? Is the way that I would see it.

[Redway]

You've made some good points tbh.

I definitely wouldn't like it if someone was being hostile to me because I remind them of someone that they don't like. How would that be my fault? Is the way that I would see it.

Half of the time it’s not your fault. It’s them, not you. The image that they have of you in their head (by association, something you said years ago, whatever) exists only in their head, not in reality, and it’s important not to let anyone gaslight you out of that. It’s one thing when a virtual stranger assumes more relevance and familiarity with you than they should but face-to-face, you can either say your piece and walk away or … just walk away. Either way, their version of you isn’t yours to carry, and it shouldn’t be theirs either. I wouldn’t give myself a headache over the sky being purple when it’s actually blue (as far as the naked human eye can see anyway). Likewise, the only truths about you that should be so pressing are the truths of yourself (you know yourself better than anyone-else, of-course) and the people who actually know you in some significant capacity. That’s the boundary you’ve got to create in your head when you haven’t done anything personally to the people who’ve chosen to have random beef with you.

If it’s dislike not based on association but vague memories from years ago (and maybe that could happen in the BB house; ’tis a small world, after-all), they’re falling into a trap there and most of the time are too self-absorbed in their own silly narrative of you to see it. Dislike for people you don’t have an overarching familiarity with in-person as a base should be less rigid than fluid, and evolve with time (whether that’s towards hating you even-more, with new examples and experiences that consolidate that perspective on you for them, or softening to you a little bit). If it’s just the same-old “you were a borderline-alcoholic 4/7 years ago,” “you remind me of the guy who cheated on my mate 11 years ago,” and it never meaningfully evolves, they’re trapped in their disdain for you and showing just-how empty and irrelevant it is. Dislike without direct personal experience should evolve given new context, for better or worse.

They can keep saying the same thing about you until they’re blue in the face or try and give you a reputation that never truly belonged to you but, again, you know yourself better than they do. They only have scraps, filtered through their own biases and likely taken out of context. You have decades’ worth of experience being … you. People who are older than you will always make out that you’re always going to be in their shadow in terms of general life-experience but where you’re your in person qualified to stand and bask in your own light (heck, get a tan in it) is when it comes to experiences unique to you and the overall experience of being you. No stranger can take that away from you or erase that, especially when all they’ve got on you is old news that was likely never taken in properly or contextualised in t’first place. People like that really aren’t worth the combat. When you’re firm in your self-knowledge, other people’s projections are like bad weather: they might rattle the windows, but they can’t alter the house. You can still defend yourself and try and close the windows as much as you can, but it doesn’t change what’s going on in the house either way, does it? They’re playing with puzzle-pieces yhey don’t know how to fit or contextualise, getting stuck on narrative-loop (almost as-if they’ve got the wrong person, which they kind of have in the first place anyway), while you’ve been living in the full picture, pieced together perfectly on a golden table, every day. No amount of “arrogant but must be playing dumb, despite you obviously being an intellectual, if I’m not important or relevant enough in your life to figure out why I’ve decided to have random beef with you,” “empty,” “borderline-raging alkie,” “you’s a nobody and Billy-no-mates, always sitting on your own, despite the fact that you work directly with people” or “condescending and abrasive” abuse can change that. It’s just pure foolishness at that point, and that’s their problem. You don’t need to hang onto negativity from people you wouldn’t know from a can of Carnation milk on the streets.

TLDR: you’re good, buddy. Don’t hang onto negativity from people who don’t know you at-all but just like to project. Let them have a tangible reason if they want to come up to your face and tell you they’ve decided they’re not gonna like you. On the web., likewise, it’s definitely not you half the time; it’s a blurry, outdated snapshot of you filtered through their own biases and hangups. And it’s important, really important, not to let anyone gaslight you into accepting their story as your truth.

[Mystic Mock]

Half of the time it’s not your fault. It’s them, not you. The image that they have of you in their head (by association, something you said years ago, whatever) exists only in their head, not in reality, and it’s important not to let anyone gaslight you out of that. It’s one thing when a virtual stranger assumes more relevance and familiarity with you than they should but face-to-face, you can either say your piece and walk away or … just walk away. Either way, their version of you isn’t yours to carry, and it shouldn’t be theirs either. I wouldn’t give myself a headache over the sky being purple when it’s actually blue (as far as the naked human eye can see anyway). Likewise, the only truths about you that should be so pressing are the truths of yourself (you know yourself better than anyone-else, of-course) and the people who actually know you in some significant capacity. That’s the boundary you’ve got to create in your head when you haven’t done anything personally to the people who’ve chosen to have random beef with you.

If it’s dislike not based on association but vague memories from years ago (and maybe that could happen in the BB house; ’tis a small world, after-all), they’re falling into a trap there and most of the time are too self-absorbed in their own silly narrative of you to see it. Dislike for people you don’t have an overarching familiarity with in-person as a base should be less rigid than fluid, and evolve with time (whether that’s towards hating you even-more, with new examples and experiences that consolidate that perspective on you for them, or softening to you a little bit). If it’s just the same-old “you were a borderline-alcoholic 4/7 years ago,” “you remind me of the guy who cheated on my mate 11 years ago,” and it never meaningfully evolves, they’re trapped in their disdain for you and showing just-how empty and irrelevant it is. Dislike without direct personal experience should evolve given new context, for better or worse.

They can keep saying the same thing about you until they’re blue in the face or try and give you a reputation that never truly belonged to you but, again, you know yourself better than they do. They only have scraps, filtered through their own biases and likely taken out of context. You have decades’ worth of experience being … you. People who are older than you will always make out that you’re always going to be in their shadow in terms of general life-experience but where you’re your in person qualified to stand and bask in your own light (heck, get a tan in it) is when it comes to experiences unique to you and the overall experience of being you. No stranger can take that away from you or erase that, especially when all they’ve got on you is old news that was likely never taken in properly or contextualised in t’first place. People like that really aren’t worth the combat.

Thanks Redway.:blush:

I can see (and agree) with where you're coming from.

[Benjamin]

Thanks Redway, it's truly appreciated.:wavey:

I honestly think that you all are great members on here.

My worst member stopped posting (regularly at least,) years ago.

Don't get me wrong, I appreciate that the person contributed quite well to the Forum, but I just didn't like them very much.

Were you around during the dennisabre days?

[Mystic Mock]

Were you around during the dennisabre days?

I don't remember that member very well if I'm being honest.

I joined the Forum in 2010, was Dennisabre on here back then?

[joeysteele]

I voted for 12 only on the list, there's many not on the list I'd have likely voted for too I've often thought would be interesting and entertaining housemates on BB.
I've often thought about just what a house filled with TIBB members, past and present, would have been like.
Always thought it would be more interesting certainly than many other series of BB too.

Reading through this thread it's been even more revealing.
Particularly with the exchanges and discusson of Redway and Mock in this thread
It would definitely be a must see for me, watching and listening to both of them in the house.
It's a pity it's unlikely.
However thank you both for sharing so much of your thinking as to how you'd see yourselves on BB.
I think you'd both be assets in any BB series.

[Redway]

I voted for 12 only on the list, there's many not on the list I'd have likely voted for too I've often thought would be interesting and entertaining housemates on BB.
I've often thought about just what a house filled with TIBB members, past and present, would have been like.
Always thought it would be more interesting certainly than many other series of BB too.

Reading through this thread it's been even more revealing.
Particularly with the exchanges and discusson of Redway and Mock in this thread
It would definitely be a must see for me, watching and listening to both of them in the house.
It's a pity it's unlikely.
However thank you both for sharing so much of your thinking as to how you'd see yourselves on BB.
I think you'd both be assets in any BB series.

For what it’s worth, I think you’d be a great housemate, too.

[Kazanne]

I wouldn't last long,I think I would annoy everyone with my vegetarian stance,lol.

[AnnieK]

I have deleted more posts in here. If you can't stop bringing up old griveances I will start banning people from this thread or close it permanently. Thank you

[Kate!]

I have deleted more posts in here. If you can't stop bringing up old griveances I will start banning people from this thread or close it permanently. Thank you

Guys you're being incredibly unfair. Show some respect for people who aren't even involved in all this crap and stick to the nature of the thread. Bloody hell.

Annie, please don't close the thread. It wouldn't be fair. Just give posting bans. Some of us want to discuss in a nice way.

[Vanessa]

Not me. I'd have a meltdown with all the cameras following you everywhere :joker:

[Beso]

Reduce the prize fund Annie....it worked with kitten.

[Nicky91]

where am i in the poll?

[Beso]

Sheriff and redway would have the best task wigs.

[Beso]

where am i in the poll?

UK BB, start your own thread for your clippity clop version .

[Beso]

I wouldn't last long,I think I would annoy everyone with my vegetarian stance,lol.

You could be Kate's ally, sitting on her bed munching punnet after punnet of decomposing strawberries...

[Nicky91]

i'd last quite a while with the right tactics i think


also i would have my own Cartel in the house, inspired by my nations series this year, and one of my cartel rules would be that we ''steal'' the yummy foods and hide them at our section of the bedroom

[Nicky91]

my babe of this years series Jolien did well within this sort of alliance so why can't i, #NotYourTypicalDumbBlonde


and she still is besties with her fellow cartel alliance members :D

[Beso]

Nicky...my friend..

There would be no yummy food in the house with you in it. Tasks would just simply not be passed, and each time it would be your fault..


Strangely though, that makes you worth watching. A firm favourite perhaps.

[Maru]

Not me. I'd have a meltdown with all the cameras following you everywhere :joker:

But we can do it together, imagine the bond we'd build

[Mystic Mock]

For what it’s worth, I think you’d be a great housemate, too.

I agree.

[Redway]

I agree.

He would be great, wouldn’t he?

[Mystic Mock]

He would be great, wouldn’t he?

For definite.

[Redway]

For definite.

The political spokesperson who isn’t full of crap or unchecked ego, for a change.

[Mystic Mock]

The political spokesperson who isn’t full of crap or unchecked ego, for a change.

That's exactly why he would be a good Housemate.

I think that he'd be more balanced when **** hit the fan.

[Ninastar]

I too came here to say Arista

I imagine Ammi is literally Audrey Hepburn (in her youth) so that would be fun to watch.

Ben being cool attractive guy that everyone likes

and just to watch the disaster fire, Kathyisasexybitch2008 or whatever year that was

[Redway]

That's exactly why he would be a good Housemate.

I think that he'd be more balanced when **** hit the fan.

Whereas I’d probably be more inclined to hit the fan a little more:

[Mystic Mock]

Whereas I’d probably be more inclined to hit the fan a little more:

:laugh:

Tbf, that can be good TV.

[Maru]

I too came here to say Arista

I imagine Ammi is literally Audrey Hepburn (in her youth) so that would be fun to watch.

Ben being cool attractive guy that everyone likes

and just to watch the disaster fire, Kathyisasexybitch2008 or whatever year that was

I know some people say Ammi would be too "nice", but I think she just hasn't entered her bad bitch era yet... she just needs her own very good reason.

[Ninastar]

I know some people say Ammi would be too "nice", but I think she just hasn't entered her bad bitch era yet... she just needs her own very good reason.

Mock leaves the freezer open slightly and she body slams him

[Kate!]

Mock leaves the freezer open slightly and she body slams him

:joker:

[Redway]

:laugh:

Tbf, that can be good TV.

I suppose it can.

[AnnieK]

Right as requested and warned. This thread is now closed.