Do looks really matter.

[Sod_James]

in a soceity of perfect skin and a slender body i was wondering how many people on here judge people of how they look

Do looks count for you or do you go on personality?

[Tom]

I think looks do count to quite a large extent and it creeps into everyday lives without realising. Most people have a kid at school who is a tramp and smells worse than the sewers? People avoid those type of people like theres no tomorrow.

[Mrluvaluva]

If we are talking about relationships, then I suppose there are different situations. You may be out in a bar/club and see someone and think "Oooh. They're a bit of allright". So looks are what first attracts you to them. You may chat to them and enjoy their personality, which can make the attraction stronger. However, they might be really boring, unfunny etc. This can lessen the initial attraction and change your feelings.

You can also meet someone who you don't find attractive at all, but once you get to know them, their personality can make the attraction grow.

I suppose it depends on what you are looking for. If it's for a one night stand then go for the looks. :laugh: No seriously. You cannot base a relationship on looks alone. If you do, it will never work out.

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by Tom_

Most people have a kid at school who is a tramp and smells worse than the sewers?


:puzzled:

[LargeAndInCharge]

i agree mr luvaluva

[Dr43%er]

The girl I am with at the moment did not stand out as the stunner in the crowd, as I am sure I did not. But we got talking and we made each other laugh. We just felt comfy together. That is the most important thing in my eyes.

[~Kizwiz~]

For me looks dont matter but they can sometimes help. I dont judge anyone on their looks because often these things can be misleading. Like Baz said, first impressions on looks alone arent always what they are cracked up to be.

I go for intelligence and someone who makes me laugh and likes similar things to me.

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by ~kizwiz~

I go for intelligence.

Did you make an exception for Red? :laugh2:

[~Kizwiz~]

Originally posted by Mrluvaluva

Did you make an exception for Red? :laugh2:

Well I didnt like to point that one out :whistle:

[LargeAndInCharge]

OUCH mrluvaluva

lol

[~Kizwiz~]

Originally posted by Mrluvaluva

Did you make an exception for Red? :laugh2:

Its a good job he aint on tibb.... he's not in the best of moods right now. Lots to do and so little time :sad:

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by ~kizwiz~

Its a good job he aint on tibb.... he's not in the best of moods right now. Lots to do and so little time :sad:

Ooh. Might I have seen some red letters against my post? Lol.

[~Kizwiz~]

Originally posted by Mrluvaluva

Ooh. Might I have seen some red letters against my post? Lol.

Maybe not..... :whistle:

[Dr43%er]

"he's not in the best of moods right now. Lots to do and so little time"

Is the move on then?

[~Kizwiz~]

Originally posted by Dr43%er
"he's not in the best of moods right now. Lots to do and so little time"

Is the move on then?

We dont know.... our buyer is going really slowly and we should have exchanged by now :bored:

[Dr43%er]

Buggers.

[serensilver]

looks do matter to most people if you had to pick between i dunno say Brad Pitt or Tony Blair who u gonna pick:bigsmile: or Catherine Zeta Jones or Ann Widdecombe who u gonna pick?:tongue:

Personality is very important in a relationship:hug: but look are also very important for most people i think!:shrug::bouncy:

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by serensilver

Catherine Zeta Jones or Ann Widdecombe who u going to pick?:tongue:




Ann Widdecombe?

[serensilver]

:tongue:

[Captain.Remy]

Of course ! I mean, people actually should stop being hypocritical by saying 'only personality matters'. Nope it's wrong. Will you seriously be dating someone ugly or someone you do not find attractive ?
First you have looks and then personality when you go deeper.

Our societies make us think that looks matter with advertising. People who say 'Only personality matters' are more hypocritical because they spend a lot of time by buying new clothes and taking care of themselves.

But I do agree to say that personality can chance your mind on a person, but unless you are blind, you automatically make a judgement before talking to the person only based on the looks.

[MrGaryy]

I think that subconsiouly (sp) we all go for looks initally. Looks do matter to me but that doesn't mean that everything else is disregarded. I could never be with some one stupid or ignorant for example no matter how estectally pleasing they are!

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by Captain.Remy

people actually should stop being hypocritical by saying 'only personality matters'.

Who said that?

Looks obvioulsy matter but they are only part of the equation. Someone might have a great personality but you find physically repulsive. You cannot base a relationship on that either. It is finding the right balance in a person. And everyone is attracted to different people.

As I said, looks are not the be all and end all.

[Dr43%er]

Good job for you really.

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by Dr43%er
Good job for you really.


:laugh3: :bored:

[Captain.Remy]

Message original : Mrluvaluva
Originally posted by Captain.Remy

people actually should stop being hypocritical by saying 'only personality matters'.

Who said that?

Looks obvioulsy matter but they are only part of the equation. Someone might have a great personality but you find physically repulsive. You cannot base a relationship on that either. It is finding the right balance in a person. And everyone is attracted to different people.

As I said, looks are not the be all and end all.

I never said someone did on that topic. But generally people say that. I don't find it right since they do the contrary.

And I agree with you, it's a balance, but do not deny it has a significant part in your choice. And I also said that 'then personality when you go deeper.' because unless the contrary, you don't the personality before knowing how this person looks like.

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by Captain.Remy

I never said someone did on that topic. But generally people say that. I don't find it right since they do the contrary.

And I agree with you, it's a balance, but do not deny it has a significant part in your choice. And I also said that 'then personality when you go deeper.' because unless the contrary, you don't the personality before knowing how this person looks like.


I have never denied that looks are part of the deal.

I have to disagree on one part though. You may meet someone and not be attracted to them. As you get to know them over time, your feelings may grow, and this can change your feelings and bring you to be attracted to that person.

[Sam!]

I think looks matter but thats me. Like I might see a girl and say, omg she is hot. Its not like I'm going to say, oh she looks nice. So yeh they matter.

[Captain.Remy]

Message original : Mrluvaluva
Originally posted by Captain.Remy

I never said someone did on that topic. But generally people say that. I don't find it right since they do the contrary.

And I agree with you, it's a balance, but do not deny it has a significant part in your choice. And I also said that 'then personality when you go deeper.' because unless the contrary, you don't the personality before knowing how this person looks like.


I have never denied that looks are part of the deal.

I have to disagree on one part though. You may meet someone and not be attracted to them. As you get to know them over time, your feelings may grow, and this can change your feelings and bring you to be attracted to that person.

Of course, when you go deeper than the look. I mean, it's obvious lol But still, before you know someone, you find them unattractive. But that does not mean you cannot talk to them.

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by Captain.Remy

Of course, when you go deeper than the look. I mean, it's obvious lol But still, before you know someone, you find them unattractive. But that does not mean you cannot talk to them.


Hmmm. I am not sure you are understanding me correctly.

I am not talking about people you find unattractive. Impartial really. I am saying you may neither find them attractive or unattractive. After you get to know them, you find you have things in common and enjoy their company. This can change the way you feel and lead to a physical attraction. Basically, personality can have an effect on the way you are attracted to someone and change your feelings.

In this case, looks are not the defining factor as there was no physical attraction there at the beginning.



For further information, ring my advice line on 0898 432 7393. :joker:

[Captain.Remy]

Message original : Mrluvaluva
Originally posted by Captain.Remy

Of course, when you go deeper than the look. I mean, it's obvious lol But still, before you know someone, you find them unattractive. But that does not mean you cannot talk to them.


Hmmm. I am not sure you are understanding me correctly.

I am not talking about people you find unattractive. Impartial really. I am saying you may neither find them attractive or unattractive. After you get to know them, you find you have things in common and enjoy their company. This can change the way you feel and lead to a physical attraction. Basically, personality can have an effect on the way you are attracted to someone and change your feelings.

In this case, looks are not the defining factor as there was no physical attraction there at the beginning.



For further information, ring my advice line on 0898 432 7393. :joker:

You just repeated my point lol 'Of course, when you go deeper than the look. I mean, it's obvious' :hugesmile:

[Tom]

Originally posted by Mrluvaluva
Originally posted by Tom_

Most people have a kid at school who is a tramp and smells worse than the sewers?


:puzzled:

Basically what I'm trying to say that is in every day situations we avoid people based on how they look.

As for relationships, you want someone who people can be jealous of that you're with them but if you've got ten tonne Tanya as a girlfriend then people are just going to laugh at you. You want someone who you aren't embarrassed to be seen or associated with.

Personality counts, but IMO looks count even more.

[Nicky.]

Sort of..

Like coz if you see someone.. and they look like theyve been hit by the back end of a bus or somthing.. you aint gonna look twice at em ..

But If there in your school or in a club your in and they aint got the best of looks but you know them from around and about and you know there personality.. then maybe thats an exception.

Also, if you get meet someone online, you get to know their personality before you get to see them properly ( In person ) - even though you can see them on webcam.. sometimes its not the same.. x

[xDramatick]

Looks matter to me.
A LOT.
&this is coming from a male.
I won't leave the house unless I look good, my hair's decent, and i've got eyeliner on.
&that's a routine I've gotten into.
It literally takes me half an hour to get ready.
Looks give off first impressions, and can sum up a person so well.
I feel that the way I look and dress tells a person a lot about myself so I always make an effort.

[Harry!]

No it dosnt, Who wants a beautiful girl with a horrible mouth. I rather have a not so pritty girl who is kind and gentle.

[Nicky.]

Originally posted by Darenn
Looks matter to me.
A LOT.
&this is coming from a male.
I won't leave the house unless I look good, my hair's decent, and i've got eyeliner on.
&that's a routine I've gotten into.
It literally takes me half an hour to get ready.
Looks give off first impressions, and can sum up a person so well.
I feel that the way I look and dress tells a person a lot about myself so I always make an effort. ]


Eye liner? lol x

In the morning i get up at 7.20.. i get dressed, brush my hair, then i wolf my brekkie down.. and im out the door by 7.45 lol x

[Magic]

Originally posted by Mrluvaluva

For further information, ring my advice line on 0898 432 7393.

It aint goin through. It says all lines are busy :puzzled:

[Tom]

Originally posted by Darenn
Looks matter to me.
A LOT.
&this is coming from a male.
I won't leave the house unless I look good, my hair's decent, and i've got eyeliner on.
&that's a routine I've gotten into.
It literally takes me half an hour to get ready.
Looks give off first impressions, and can sum up a person so well.
I feel that the way I look and dress tells a person a lot about myself so I always make an effort.

I agree. I'm the same (except for the eyeliner bit) although I'm not like that 100% of the time. I either come in 2 forms, one being that I've got ready properly and I make sure I look as good as I could do and put effort in and the other way is complete tramp where I won't make any effort at all, just a quick shower then throw on jogging bottoms and other clothes then just go out. I don't ever look like one of those people who still looks quite bad yet looks like they've made an effort.

[xDramatick]

Originally posted by Sky-Tay-Tasha-x
Originally posted by Darenn
Looks matter to me.
A LOT.
&this is coming from a male.
I won't leave the house unless I look good, my hair's decent, and i've got eyeliner on.
&that's a routine I've gotten into.
It literally takes me half an hour to get ready.
Looks give off first impressions, and can sum up a person so well.
I feel that the way I look and dress tells a person a lot about myself so I always make an effort. ]


Eye liner? lol x

In the morning i get up at 7.20.. i get dressed, brush my hair, then i wolf my brekkie down.. and Im out the door by 7.45 lol x

lol!
I love eyelinerr.
Seriously, I won't leave home without it on.
&that's coming from a male?

&wow. I wake up at half six, have breakfast, and I'm out the door at half past seven. xD

[Sam!]

I only leave if Im wearing decent clothes, no shite ugly things cept uniform haha and my hair looks good and is straightened. Oh yeh and im sad so I carry around my sunnies with me in my bag cept at school. Haha I look better in shades.

[Sam!]

And I really want a tan. Looks are important to me, especially in first impressions.

[Xander]

Looks are important as they give off first impression, and is the first thing a person notices. Personality is also important as well but you can't look at personality can you? you can only find that out by getting to know someone.

[Harry!]

I would leave if I wasnt perfect befor I go to school (Do usail stuff) comb my hair sort out my face with germaline (Good cream for teanage spots) and thats about it. Of corse I clean my teeth/Face,Get dresed & eat. Other than that Im not realy obsesed of what I look like. Im not into fashion at all (I cant beer clothes shops (Mum byes my clothes)) so as long as Im clean Im fine...

Ps looks ARE NOT inportant, personality comes first.

[Sam!]

I have to buy my clothes haha as Im really fussy. And I agree with Xander. There both important but looks at first.

[Magic]

Originally posted by Scampi
And I really want a tan. Looks are important to me, especially in first impressions.

Lol I want to tan a bit more to, I'm planning on tanning a bit more this weekend, like I did in the hols!

Um yeah, I like to look ok. I always am clean, and like to wear nice clothes.

In the oppostite sex, image is good for first impressions, but I suppose personality does come in to it.

[MrGaryy]

See I'm the exact opposite. Call me shallow but looks mean alot to me thats why I hate my brace so much.:sad: I have 101 different products, I blow dry my hair every morning. I've been lucky that I haven't ever had many spots but besides from just having good skin that can be put down to drinking nothing but water for weeks, face masks and cleanser. I would be seriouly upset if I didn't look the best that I could. No one ever buys me clothes because they know that I will probably exchange it. lol

[Nicky.]

Originally posted by Darenn
Originally posted by Sky-Tay-Tasha-x
Originally posted by Darenn
Looks matter to me.
A LOT.
&this is coming from a male.
I won't leave the house unless I look good, my hair's decent, and i've got eyeliner on.
&that's a routine I've gotten into.
It literally takes me half an hour to get ready.
Looks give off first impressions, and can sum up a person so well.
I feel that the way I look and dress tells a person a lot about myself so I always make an effort. ]


Eye liner? lol x

In the morning i get up at 7.20.. i get dressed, brush my hair, then i wolf my brekkie down.. and Im out the door by 7.45 lol x

lol!
I love eyelinerr.
Seriously, I won't leave home without it on.
&that's coming from a male?

&wow. I wake up at half six, have breakfast, and I'm out the door at half past seven. xD

Lol!

I dont even care if i aint got any make up on what soever!

If i do remember i will just put on some eye shadow!

Wow - your an early bird lol x

[Sam!]

Originally posted by Magic
Originally posted by Scampi
And I really want a tan. Looks are important to me, especially in first impressions.

Lol I want to tan a bit more to, I'm planning on tanning a bit more this weekend, like I did in the hols!

Um yeah, I like to look ok. I always am clean, and like to wear nice clothes.

In the oppostite sex, image is good for first impressions, but I suppose personality does come in to it.

I didnn't go on holiday though this hols, Ill need to sunbathe in spain.

[Arneldo]

Yes :thumbs:

I dont want no fugly man.

[Xander]

Most people I hear say personality is more important which is very true because ifor instance if you have some sterotypical blonde that looks great and everything but has the personality as a wet fish, could you put up with her personality?

[Tom]

Originally posted by Scampi
And I really want a tan. Looks are important to me, especially in first impressions.

Get a spray tan :eureka:

Me & a friend went and got one today on a free at college :joker:

I'm a little orange atm but it will settle :laugh2:

[Conor]

I think looks are much more importand. Anyway, I like all the big mouth show offs lol, but I know a few more really good looking girls who are caring and bubbly and funny. I like all personalities as long as their funny, loud and bubbly (And looooooove going outat night lol)

Me personally, I wouldn't be able to wear stuff thats just been thrown together. Apparently I take longest to get ready in the morning, but thats lies. My sister takes about 30 mins longer! I really love clothes, I just hate shopping for them, but I refuse for my mum to do it lol (Even though she doen't have a bad fashion sense, but still)

[KKBL]

i would say look dont matter but id be lying to muself every morning before i go to school i wash my face & hair,then i brush my teeth then i smother my hair in wax.so obviously for me looks do matter.

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by Magic

It aint goin through. It says all lines are busy :puzzled:

It's very popular. :whistle: Please be patient.

[Sam!]

Originally posted by Conor
I think looks are much more importand. Anyway, I like all the big mouth show offs lol, but I know a few more really good looking girls who are caring and bubbly and funny. I like all personalities as long as their funny, loud and bubbly (And looooooove going outat night lol)

Me personally, I wouldn't be able to wear stuff thats just been thrown together. Apparently I take longest to get ready in the morning, but thats lies. My sister takes about 30 mins longer! I really love clothes, I just hate shopping for them, but I refuse for my mum to do it lol (Even though she doen't have a bad fashion sense, but still)

I love shopping, can be in Topman for like an hour lol.

[housem8]

But what happens when you meet two girls and one has a lovely face but an ugly body and her friend has a lovely body but an ugly face?

Well swap the heads around (of course) :laugh::laugh:

No seriously, most of us look for a boy or girlfriend who is nice and pretty looking when I met my first girlfriend which was at school I kept on saying how beautiful she was and that is what attracted me to her and her personaily was great to. But as cruel as it may sound if she wasnt good looking I would not have gone out with her.

My latest girlfriend is not as pretty as her but she certainly makes up for it in other ways

[Bells]

Looks can only work up to a point. If someone I like physically hasn't got an interesting personality to me, I would lose interest very quickly.

[Hugo]

Well if somebody is ugly then it isn't their fault. But they should at least try and make themselves look presentable.

[*mazedsalv**]

Well its quite rare that you find someone who looks really good and has an amazing personality, I would be looking for someone like that. But most people that are just a pretty face are dull and have no personality. Im not saying ugly but Im saying I would prefer someone who is just nice enough with a personality.

[Noel]

Sadly, in this world, yes. But I try not to let looks put me off people, as there are a lot of people who wouldn't be as good looking as others, but have an amazing personality, the way many good looking people happen to have lacking personalities. Having said that, there are also good looking people with great personalities and vice versa. It all depends on the person really.
I never used to care about my looks, but i am slowly being dragged in to the trap of vanity. lool. It takes me half an hour to do my hair =/ lol. Ahh well.

[Conor]

Originally posted by tooperfect
Well if somebody is ugly then it isn't their fault. But they should at least try and make themselves look presentable.

I don't think thats fair to say. I'm sure some people try their hardest to look good, but it just doesn't work for them.

[*mazedsalv**]

I dont like when people say that i have a amazing personality and that I look good. I get all weird and blushy and its not many times that I blush.

[Loukas]

TBH i think they do but only a little, I mean i see looks as more a bonus!

[housem8]

Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
TBH i think they do but only a little, I mean i see looks as more a bonus!

If you saw two girls walking in towards you and one was real pretty and the other wasnt, which one would you want?

[*mazedsalv**]

Originally posted by housem8
Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
TBH i think they do but only a little, I mean i see looks as more a bonus!

If you saw two girls walking in towards you and one was real pretty and the other wasnt, which one would you want?

You have a good point. But I would get to know both of them first.

[Loukas]

Originally posted by *mazedsalv**
Originally posted by housem8
Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
TBH i think they do but only a little, I mean i see looks as more a bonus!

If you saw two girls walking in towards you and one was real pretty and the other wasnt, which one would you want?

You have a good point. But I would get to know both of them first.

TOOK THE WORDS OUT OF MY MOUTH MATE!

i mean if the pretty one couldent spell her name and tells crap jokes and dumber than a plank of wood or the smart funny one thats not so pretty .

i would go for the funny one

oh and BTW it would prob be boys not girls lol :tongue:

[housem8]

Originally posted by *mazedsalv**
Originally posted by housem8
Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
TBH i think they do but only a little, I mean i see looks as more a bonus!

If you saw two girls walking in towards you and one was real pretty and the other wasnt, which one would you want?

You have a good point. But I would get to know both of them first.

But even if you got to know them I think it would be hard to tear your Eyes off the pretty bird

[housem8]

Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
Originally posted by *mazedsalv**
Originally posted by housem8
Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
TBH i think they do but only a little, I mean i see looks as more a bonus!

If you saw two girls walking in towards you and one was real pretty and the other wasnt, which one would you want?

You have a good point. But I would get to know both of them first.

TOOK THE WORDS OUT OF MY MOUTH MATE!

i mean if the pretty one couldent spell her name and tells c**p jokes and dumber than a plank of wood or the smart funny one thats not so pretty .

i would go for the funny one

oh and BTW it would prob be boys not girls lol :tongue:

So Sam and Amanda wouldnt fit your idea of ideal girlfriend material

[Loukas]

Originally posted by housem8
Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
Originally posted by *mazedsalv**
Originally posted by housem8
Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
TBH i think they do but only a little, I mean i see looks as more a bonus!

If you saw two girls walking in towards you and one was real pretty and the other wasnt, which one would you want?

You have a good point. But I would get to know both of them first.

TOOK THE WORDS OUT OF MY MOUTH MATE!

i mean if the pretty one couldent spell her name and tells c**p jokes and dumber than a plank of wood or the smart funny one thats not so pretty .

i would go for the funny one

oh and BTW it would prob be boys not girls lol :tongue:

So Sam and Amanda wouldnt fit your idea of ideal girlfriend material

Sam and Amanda can spell there names they aren't that thick! I'm talking about really thick people, and no i don't find them as perfect girlfriend material. I don't know them personaly do i?!

[Sam!]

I have a feeling anyone can spell their names.. just for the record. lol.

[housem8]

Originally posted by Scampi
I have a feeling anyone can spell their names.. just for the record. lol.

So you can spell it?

I can

i t :laugh::laugh:

[housem8]

Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
Originally posted by housem8
Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
Originally posted by *mazedsalv**
Originally posted by housem8
Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
TBH i think they do but only a little, I mean i see looks as more a bonus!

If you saw two girls walking in towards you and one was real pretty and the other wasnt, which one would you want?

You have a good point. But I would get to know both of them first.

TOOK THE WORDS OUT OF MY MOUTH MATE!

i mean if the pretty one couldent spell her name and tells c**p jokes and dumber than a plank of wood or the smart funny one thats not so pretty .

i would go for the funny one

oh and BTW it would prob be boys not girls lol :tongue:

So Sam and Amanda wouldnt fit your idea of ideal girlfriend material

Sam and Amanda can spell there names they aren't that thick! I'm talking about really thick people, and no i don't find them as perfect girlfriend material. I don't know them personaly do i?!

I never said that you did no them personally I doubt anyone here has that luxury, and if they did nobody would believe them probably

oh and nobody is perfect except Jesus :bigsmile:

I did actually say (ideal)

[Sam!]

Originally posted by housem8
Originally posted by Scampi
I have a feeling anyone can spell their names.. just for the record. lol.

So you can spell it?

I can

i t :laugh::laugh:

What a joke.

[*mazedsalv**]

Haha I actually laughed out loud, I laugh at the stupidist jokes... Not like the joke was stupid though :rolleyes:

[housem8]

The stupid ones are the best lol :laugh::laugh:

Id love to tell some rude big brother jokes a mate told me and they are quite blue and quite rude so I shall refrain from posting them on here :laugh::laugh: