My Parents Are Getting Divorced

[Hugo]

They're getting divorced and they told me last night and I was really sad and still am :sad: I don't want them to split up, but I know its selfish if I keep asking them to make up. I'm worried it might be my fault that they are splitting up. :sad: Its really sad :bawling:

[Hugo]

Where did that post go?

[mlwfan]

Sorry.

I removed it since you replied to the u2u.

[Lauren]

Hey - sorry to hear about that. :sad:

However, don't worry about it being your fault - it certainly isn't. It's going to be hard to deal with, but you really need to understand they love you as much as they always have and you're not to do with the breakup.

Things are going to seem hard at first but soon you'll fall back into routine and will manage. Try not to dwell on why they have split up, and focus more on supporting them both and being strong.

Good luck :hug:

[Hugo]

Originally posted by Lauren
Hey - sorry to hear about that. :sad:

However, don't worry about it being your fault - it certainly isn't. It's going to be hard to deal with, but you really need to understand they love you as much as they always have and you're not to do with the breakup.

Things are going to seem hard at first but soon you'll fall back into routine and will manage. Try not to dwell on why they have split up, and focus more on supporting them both and being strong.

Good luck :hug:

Thanks for that :hug: I'm sure it will get better in time and it can't get any worse.

[Scarlett.]

Thats bad

but dont worry it isnt your fault

[AlexBigBrother]

you're not being selfish at all!
you're just acting naturally!
just keep your head up and realise that everything will be fine, your parents still love you!

[Hugo]

Thanks for the support :hug:

[supernoodles!]

aww im really sorry to hear that,but trust me its nothing to do with you,you should try not to think like that.I hope your feeling happier soon im sure things will work out.

[Lauren]

Originally posted by tooperfect

Thanks for that :hug: I'm sure it will get better in time and it can't get any worse.

Yeah, just understand it's not your fault - and it's not their fault either. It's unfortunately just something that happens with a lot of families. I hope it gets easier soon though.

[Bells]

I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. :sad: - whatever is going on is between your parents though, and nobody else. Don't for one second think that it's your fault, because it's not: it's your parents that need to sort this themselves, because it is their relationship that needs mending. Unfortunately, this is not an uncommon thing to happen, but bear in mind that although you're feeling sad now, the environment will probably end up being a lot healthier for you when neither of them are arguing.

Above all, both of them will always still love you even if they don't love each other. Hopefully they will be mature enough to keep a friendship going between the two of them still, for your welfare. After all, despite any arguments, they still spent years together. Whatever happens - whether they stay together or not - I hope everything works out for you. xxx

[Hugo]

Originally posted by Lauren
Originally posted by tooperfect

Thanks for that :hug: I'm sure it will get better in time and it can't get any worse.

Yeah, just understand it's not your fault - and it's not their fault either. It's unfortunately just something that happens with a lot of families. I hope it gets easier soon though.

Thanks. I know that it isnt my fault really but its just hard to take and the first person to blame is myself but it isn't anybodys fault its fate.

[Hugo]

Originally posted by Ash
I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. :sad: - whatever is going on is between your parents though, and nobody else. Don't for one second think that it's your fault, because it's not: it's your parents that need to sort this themselves, because it is their relationship that needs mending. Unfortunately, this is not an uncommon thing to happen, but bear in mind that although you're feeling sad now, the environment will probably end up being a lot healthier for you when neither of them are arguing.

Above all, both of them will always still love you even if they don't love each other. Hopefully they will be mature enough to keep a friendship going between the two of them still, for your welfare. After all, despite any arguments, they still spent years together. Whatever happens - whether they stay together or not - I hope everything works out for you. xxx

Oh my god that was such a good post. Thank you so much. It really helped. The main thing I want to come out of this is for them to still be civil and not igonore each other forver.

[Fom]

I remember my parents splitting up, I took it really badly, i was about 14/15. And I was in tears for night after night. Still not mended my relationship with my dad and im 18.
I never thought my parents would divorce, because they always seemed so close, but i could see the divide towards the end.

Hope everything gets better for you, its a tough time, if you cant handle it think of going for counseling i wish i did when i was younger.

[Firewire]

My Mum and Dad might be splitting up. :bawling:

It has nothing to do with my Dad it is all my mums fault but I don't want to get into the details of why they MIGHT be splitting up.

[Corkie]

I'm sorry to hear that mate.

I'm sure it isn't you fault. My mum and dad split up and they kept telling me it wasn't me and my brothers fault.

I was 5 so i've just always known for them not to be together but i'm sure you'll always be upset about it but soon you'll get used to the idea.

[Chrizzle]

:( Its a horrible thing but most of us go through it.

I did. And I revealed it on TiBB back in September. The support from these guys was great. If you look back through my posts youll see it.

Everyone says to you 'its fine' 'its sad' blah blah, but the one thing that I promise you will get you through it is to keep your spirits up.

Its hard not to cry, but if you think of it as a new start for your Mum, your Dad and you, you will feel so much better.

For the first week it happened to me I was in denial. I didnt cry straight away and as my Mum left I just went on my laptop hoping that it would just all go away, but the best thing is to stick by them both, support them (no matter how much you dont want to)

Its a horrible thing to say but sometimes its for the better. I'm not as finanically well off, but Im just as happy. My Dad still has his moments where he cries, but I tell him 'how much better has it been?' and he smiles, even though it was my Mum that left him.

I do hope youve read this because its nice to give someoen whos going through the same thing I went through some advice.

Just go to school, and live your normal everyday life. Try not to let it get to you.

[Lauren]

Chris' advice is absolutely sound.

[Shaun]

I'm sorry to hear about that. My parents are also getting divorced, after separating a year or two ago. So I understand, but hopefully they'll be happier people when apart.

I hope everything works out :)

[Hugo]

Originally posted by Chrizzle
:( Its a horrible thing but most of us go through it.

I did. And I revealed it on TiBB back in September. The support from these guys was great. If you look back through my posts youll see it.

Everyone says to you 'its fine' 'its sad' blah blah, but the one thing that I promise you will get you through it is to keep your spirits up.

Its hard not to cry, but if you think of it as a new start for your Mum, your Dad and you, you will feel so much better.

For the first week it happened to me I was in denial. I didnt cry straight away and as my Mum left I just went on my laptop hoping that it would just all go away, but the best thing is to stick by them both, support them (no matter how much you dont want to)

Its a horrible thing to say but sometimes its for the better. I'm not as finanically well off, but Im just as happy. My Dad still has his moments where he cries, but I tell him 'how much better has it been?' and he smiles, even though it was my Mum that left him.

I do hope youve read this because its nice to give someoen whos going through the same thing I went through some advice.

Just go to school, and live your normal everyday life. Try not to let it get to you.

Thanks. :hug: I've to try and see it for the better as my life will in a way will be more normal now without plates being thrown ect.lol. It is really hard though. Thanks for the advice.

[Hugo]

Thanks to everyone who has posted it has really helped me as I know I'm not alone and alot of people go through it.

[Harry!]

Hops its for the best.:flower:

[Hugo]

Originally posted by Posted
Hops its for the best.:flower:

It is for everyone.

P.S I love your avatar

[Harry!]

Originally posted by tooperfect
Originally posted by Posted
Hops its for the best.:flower:

It is for everyone.

P.S I love your avatar

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[~Kizwiz~]

Oh honey I'm so sorry but please believe me this is not your fault and I know that this must be a very stress and upsetting time. I am sure that your parents have thought long and hard about doing this.

All I can really say is that I know at this time it must seem like a very black time and things will seem very difficult but things will get batter. It may not seem like it now but it will. Things take time to heal but you must remember to keep your chin up and remember that at times like these it always helps to talk about how you feel, even if its on TiBB people will always be hear to help.

Take care xxx

[Ashleee:)]

i'm very sorry to hear that, and im quite happy that you decided to share this with the TiBB members! I'm sure everyone will give you loads of support, myself included, and will be here to talk to you whenever you need it! Please dont think its your fault, there's no way that it possibly could be! Parents have loads of issues and problems they need to deal with but sometimes they just cant. Much love :) xx

[Hugo]

Thankyou for the support in this thread guys in means alot :wink:

[Nicky.]

Heya x

Aww sorry to hear that x

I've recently been through exactly the same thing x

Don't think its your fault x

It won't be x

Just stay strong.. but once in a while things my get on top of you and you may just feel like the world has ended - Dw.. its natural x

If you want to talk about anything - Just drop me a U2U x

Nicky x

[Hugo]

Originally posted by Nickyy
Heya x

Aww sorry to hear that x

I've recently been through exactly the same thing x

Don't think its your fault x

It won't be x

Just stay strong.. but once in a while things my get on top of you and you may just feel like the world has ended - Dw.. its natural x

If you want to talk about anything - Just drop me a U2U x

Nicky x


Thanks & will do.

[Kore]

Hey tooperfect..sorry to hear that mate...

hope your feeling a bit better?

Dont you worry about it... my parents split up twice, first when i was 8 and secondly when i was 16..

Its not a very nice thing to go through but you will get through this difficult period!!
I kept telling myself that as long as everyone was physically OK and not seriously Ill (or something like that)..... then that was the main thing......

It doesnt change the way they feel for you. Unfortunately though, this seems to be happening to alot of people.

Youlle always have us TiBBers to talk to anyway :spin2:

[Hugo]

Originally posted by Kore
Hey tooperfect..sorry to hear that mate...

hope your feeling a bit better?

Dont you worry about it... my parents split up twice, first when i was 8 and secondly when i was 16..

Its not a very nice thing to go through but you will get through this difficult period!!
I kept telling myself that as long as everyone was physically OK and not seriously Ill (or something like that)..... then that was the main thing......

It doesnt change the way they feel for you. Unfortunately though, this seems to be happening to alot of people.

Youlle always have us TiBBers to talk to anyway :spin2:

Thanks Kore.:thumbs:

[Kore]

anytime mate :thumbs:

[Callum]

Sorry to hear this mate. My parents went through a bit of a rough patch earlier this year. Hope things work out for you.

[Xander]

Sorry to hear about this tooperfect my parents went through the same thing but In a way I wanted it to happen after my dad had an affair with someone else, just made me realize how much of dickhead he was before it happened.

[luvin-bb-since-no1]

this is sad to hear
but dont worry about it lots of my friends parents are divorced and they keep on going on about how good it is and that you get two rooms and im like whaaat?:shocked:
so u obviosly get used to it :)
good luck!
JOSH