Im SO Not feeling Myself - Help?

[Conzors]

Hey.

Im Conor, and like most people know me as the bubbly, confident, nice kind and a person you can talk to type of guy, and i like being the person with like that attitude, because it makes me a likable person, to like the younger people.

But lately, i havent been myself, ive been grumpy, going on rants to everyone, speaking back to teachers when i think theyre wrong and argue witht hem untull they send me out( i normally just go fine and sit down in a strop).

I dont know what is happening to me, i want to go back to my original self, ive been causing arguments with my mates who i adore dearly, and i would be anywhere in life without them.

I just cry randomly, like i cry myself to sleep at nights sometimesm, i dunno why.

I just feel the urge to cry, i dont know why though.

OO AND ALSO.

iI comfort eat alot, like i eat alot. LMFAO.

And i worry bout my weight aswell.

So like. Yur LMFAO

I just dont know why im acting like this, im loosing alot of respect because of it and i want it to stop, but it cant seem to stop for some reason - people say its hormones, but like i dont know, maybe its just another side of me that ive never seen before, a side that i dislike strongly(adjective see), and i dont know what to do.

Any Tips, i know theres like really intelligent members on here.

Thanks
Con xx

[andybigbro]

Can you stop taking the piss out of him?

Conzor, Has anything happend that has really upset you recently?

[Billy]

Originally posted by andybigbro
Can you stop taking the p**s out of him?

Conzor, Has anything happend that has really upset you recently?

LOL SORRY SIR.

[AlexBigBrother]

conor im with you pal!

ive been snapping at everyone recently just arguin for the sake of arguin i dont gettit!
im never usually like this, i dont know whats wrong!
i guess my arrogance has somehow come round to get me and im feelin depressed all of a sudden, usually people quite like my arrogance :sad:

[Conzors]

Originally posted by andybigbro
Can you stop taking the p**s out of him?

Conzor, Has anything happend that has really upset you recently?

Ummm.
Not really.

xI just cry randomly, like i cry myself to sleep at nights sometimesm, i dunno why.

I just feel the urge to cry, i dont know why though.

[Bells]

It definitely is hormones, since every teenager goes through this phase. But, try not to use that as an excuse for getting away with things (like I used to do). You're going through a phase where you're wanting to speak your mind. I remember I used to always obey teachers etc., but then thought I was an individual in my own right and should be allowed to voice my views as well. The only problem is that they are professionals, usually completely aware of what they are doing, and therefore deserve the respect that, unfortunately, a very small number of pupils seem to give them.

I know you want to go back to your former self - usually people do want to go back to a time when they were happier. But you'll feel much better if you go through this time trying to remain as positive as possible (easier said than done I know), and then at the end you'll feel better for it.

I should be following this advice myself. It's better to move forward and do your best rather than dwell on the past, whether they be good or bad memories. Additionally, this may not work for everyone - especially not teenage boys as they seem to lose patience from my experience! - but possibly write down how you're feeling. I kept a diary through my 'low' phase, and it really helped me suss out my feelings and feel that much better.

Lastly, although you want a variety of opinions, it's probably best not to rely on a forum with a bunch of anonymous people to make you feel better. None of us are experts or really know you. Try to talk to people close to you about how you're feeling: it can be very therapeutic.

[Billy]

Originally posted by Conzors
Originally posted by andybigbro
Can you stop taking the p**s out of him?

Conzor, Has anything happend that has really upset you recently?

Ummm.
Not really.

xI just cry randomly, like i cry myself to sleep at nights sometimesm, i dunno why.

I just feel the urge to cry, i dont know why though.

Oh I can help here. I used to feel like that, but I put it down to hormones and stuff and things got better, just give it time :)

[Bells]

Originally posted by Shaun
Ewww.

I should hope you aren't feeling yourself.

Perve.

LOL. Usually, laughter's a good medicine as well - hopefully that worked.

I'm feeling a bit ill and that made me smile anyway. :hugesmile:

Right, please drop the bickering now. This is meant to be a feel-good advice thread for Conor.

[Lauren]

I agree with Ash. You're getting a HUGE influx of hormones at the moment which will give you mood swings, aggression, unhappiness, "depersonalisation" etc.

Give it time, and you'll feel better - it's unfortunate, we all go through it/have gone through it, and it affects us all in different ways. Your true friends will stick by you :bigsmile:

[Conzors]

Originally posted by Ash
It definitely is hormones, since every teenager goes through this phase. But, try not to use that as an excuse for getting away with things (like I used to do). You're going through a phase where you're wanting to speak your mind. I remember I used to always obey teachers etc., but then thought I was an individual in my own right and should be allowed to voice my views as well. The only problem is that they are professionals, usually completely aware of what they are doing, and therefore deserve the respect that, unfortunately, a very small number of pupils seem to give them.

I know you want to go back to your former self - usually people do want to go back to a time when they were happier. But you'll feel much better if you go through this time trying to remain as positive as possible (easier said than done I know), and then at the end you'll feel better for it.

I should be following this advice myself. It's better to move forward and do your best rather than dwell on the past, whether they be good or bad memories. Additionally, this may not work for everyone - especially not teenage boys as they seem to lose patience from my experience! - but possibly write down how you're feeling. I kept a diary through my 'low' phase, and it really helped me suss out my feelings and feel that much better.

Lastly, although you want a variety of opinions, it's probably best not to rely on a forum with a bunch of anonymous people to make you feel better. None of us are experts or really know you. Try to talk to people close to you about how you're feeling: it can be very therapeutic.

Aww Thanks.

And thr last paragraph. When i try and talk to friends like, and theyre like telling me something i dont want to hear, like something i font agree with, i totally flip out on one, and go YOUR WRONG BLA BLA BLA.

So i feel like the internet is keeping me half-sane(if you get me)

LMAO.

[MrGaryy]

Maybe it's for the better. It's good to have a balance and up until now - from what I know of you - you've been slightly unbalanced in terms of an equal amount of positive and negative emotions. Perhaps when you come out of this rut, you'll be better because of it!

But hey, I don't know you!

[AlexBigBrother]

yeah i dunno whats up with me though, for a year i have been proper arguementative, im guessing its just hormones like u sed ash

[andybigbro]

Conor, I cant say much more than what has been said

But if you need anything dont hesitate to u2u me :)

[Conzors]

Originally posted by andybigbro
Conor, I cant say much more than what has been said

But if you need anything dont hesitate to u2u me :)

Aw Ty ;)

[Conzors]

OO AND ALSO.

iI comfort eat alot, like i eat alot. LMFAO.

And i worry bout my weight aswell.

So like. Yur LMFAO

[AlexBigBrother]

you as i conor need to chill out a bit,
ive been getting way to stressed with work and all that recently but i have decided to take a day at a time now and just relax a bit more

[Lauren]

Originally posted by Conzors
OO AND ALSO.

iI comfort eat alot, like i eat alot. LMFAO.

And i worry bout my weight aswell.

So like. Yur LMFAO

Welcome to my World :laugh: Vicious circle.

It's also a result of increased hormones, so yeah. It increases your need for 'food' which satiates hunger and therefore your body feels happier. You then exchange food for happiness and your brain subconsciously links them, so food=happiness.

[Conzors]

Originally posted by Lauren
Originally posted by Conzors
OO AND ALSO.

iI comfort eat alot, like i eat alot. LMFAO.

And i worry bout my weight aswell.

So like. Yur LMFAO

Welcome to my World :laugh: Vicious circle.

It's also a result of increased hormones, so yeah. It increases your need for 'food' which satiates hunger and therefore your body feels happier. You then exchange food for happiness and your brain subconsciously links them, so food=happiness.

Lmao

Food = Happiness.

[melanie]

Originally posted by Conzors
OO AND ALSO.

iI comfort eat alot, like i eat alot. LMFAO.

And i worry bout my weight aswell.

So like. Yur LMFAO

You can try jogging in the morning. When I use to do that I felt better afterwards.

[Conzors]

Originally posted by juicylicious
Originally posted by Conzors
OO AND ALSO.

iI comfort eat alot, like i eat alot. LMFAO.

And i worry bout my weight aswell.

So like. Yur LMFAO

You can try jogging in the morning. When I use to do that I felt better afterwards.

If that involvs getting up earlier than i already do then NO. lmao

I get up at 5am EVERY MORNING just to get to school on time. LOL.

[Rocko]

I forget, you're what , 15?

It's pretty much expected to happen. Don't worry about it.

Right now it seems completely huge and you can't understand why it's happening to you of all people, frustrated, this could be making you upset and cry. Ash has made a lot of good points so I won't reiterate.

Don't take things too seriously and just try and enjoy your adolescence.

[AlexBigBrother]

im 16 and pissed off with school, but i cant wait to get to university, its not that far away, where i can have a fresh start

[Ross]

Firstly, as alot have said it's probably hormones.

Just try not to comfort eat as you're not solving the problem then and don't let it beat you.

Smiiiiiiile like you mean it, ah ah ah! (8)

[MrGaryy]

Originally posted by Conzors
Originally posted by juicylicious
Originally posted by Conzors
OO AND ALSO.

iI comfort eat alot, like i eat alot. LMFAO.

And i worry bout my weight aswell.

So like. Yur LMFAO

You can try jogging in the morning. When I use to do that I felt better afterwards.

If that involvs getting up earlier than i already do then NO. lmao

I get up at 5am EVERY MORNING just to get to school on time. LOL.

I've haerd of bad morning people, but that's taking the piss! Lol

I'd love to be able to to that but there isn't a lot of place to run in central London.

[AngRemembered]

I don't think Ive ever read such a wonderful post before on any forum I've ever been on, but reading that from you Ash was simply stunning.

To take that time, with the advice you gave this young man was quite moving and very very uplifting.
It was the time factor that impressed me (unless your a speed typist of course), the advice too was fantastic and one I as another non expert would have advised the same, as so did Lauren.
A lot of people will read that, a lot too of similar age to Conzors so it won't be just of help to him alone another reason why it so poignantly well worded.
Some of your kind words have even made me focus from a personal problem too only my frequent crying is nothing to do with hormones I'm quite sure.
However your advice of how to cope and seek assistance certainly picked me up for a moment and for that also I'm grateful too.
Watching BB in particular we can often forget some of the values that make decent people so to find that post in this forum in particular Ash was beautiful, and one I'll not forget.

Ang :hug::kiss:

Hope things get easier for you Conzors but take Ash and Lauren's words to heart print them out if need be, I cant add much more to what they have already said, apart from good luck, honey x

[Loukas]

Originally posted by Angiebabe
I don't think Ive ever read such a wonderful post before on any forum I've ever been on, but reading that from you Ash was simply stunning.

To take that time, with the advice you gave this young man was quite moving and very very uplifting.
It was the time factor that impressed me (unless your a speed typist of course), the advice too was fantastic and one I as another non expert would have advised the same, as so did Lauren.
A lot of people will read that, a lot too of similar age to Conzors so it won't be just of help to him alone another reason why it so poignantly well worded.
Some of your have even made me focus from a personal problem too only my frequent crying is nothing to do with hormones I'm quite sure.
However your advice of how to cope and seek assistance certainly picked me up for a moment and for that also I'm grateful too.
Watching BB in particular we can often forget some of the values that make decent people so to find that post in particular Ash was beautiful, and one I'll not forget.

Ang :hug::kiss:

Hope things get easier for you Conzors but take Ash and Lauren's words to heart print them out if need be, I cant add much more to what they have already said, apart from good luck, honey x

Ash and Lauren are just AMAZING with advise TiBB will not be the same without them. Love you girls :hugesmile: :love:

[Conzors]

Originally posted by Angiebabe
I don't think Ive ever read such a wonderful post before on any forum I've ever been on, but reading that from you Ash was simply stunning.

To take that time, with the advice you gave this young man was quite moving and very very uplifting.
It was the time factor that impressed me (unless your a speed typist of course), the advice too was fantastic and one I as another non expert would have advised the same, as so did Lauren.
A lot of people will read that, a lot too of similar age to Conzors so it won't be just of help to him alone another reason why it so poignantly well worded.
Some of your have even made me focus from a personal problem too only my frequent crying is nothing to do with hormones I'm quite sure.
However your advice of how to cope and seek assistance certainly picked me up for a moment and for that also I'm grateful too.
Watching BB in particular we can often forget some of the values that make decent people so to find that post in particular Ash was beautiful, and one I'll not forget.

Ang :hug::kiss:

Hope things get easier for you Conzors but take Ash and Lauren's words to heart print them out if need be, I cant add much more to what they have already said, apart from good luck, honey x
Awwwwwwwwwwwww. Thats really like.. Aww.

[Rocko]

Originally posted by Angiebabe
I don't think Ive ever read such a wonderful post before on any forum I've ever been on, but reading that from you Ash was simply stunning.


Yeah, sorry Cons for derailing the subject a bit, but yeah, that Ash's posts are always extremely insightful.

[AngRemembered]

Originally posted by DoubleTrouble

Ash and Lauren are just AMAZING with advise TiBB will not be the same without them. Love you girls :hugesmile: :love:

And thats the second best post ive read this week :kiss::thumbs:

[Lauren]

Originally posted by DoubleTrouble

Ash and Lauren are just AMAZING with advise TiBB will not be the same without them. Love you girls :hugesmile: :love:

Aww, thanks Loukas, thats really nice :hug:

[Loukas]

Originally posted by Angiebabe
Originally posted by DoubleTrouble

Ash and Lauren are just AMAZING with advise TiBB will not be the same without them. Love you girls :hugesmile: :love:

And thats the second best post ive read this week :kiss::thumbs:

Awww thank you :hugesmile: :love:

[Loukas]

Originally posted by Lauren
Originally posted by DoubleTrouble

Ash and Lauren are just AMAZING with advise TiBB will not be the same without them. Love you girls :hugesmile: :love:

Aww, thanks Loukas, thats really nice :hug:

It's OK. It's True. Members like you make TiBB for me. :love:

[Lauren]

Ooh, I have an idea but it sounds really cheesy - so just laugh at me LMAO.

My friend recommended it to me when I felt down once. It's called a happy box (LOL I warned you on the cheesy factor!), and things that make you happy... i.e. a nice story, some pens and paper to write, a photo that makes you smile, maybe an iPod loaded with some really happy songs etc... you put in the box. And when you feel angry/down just use it.

[Lauren]

Originally posted by Rex=Legend

Seriously , just chill out. Your a teenager. Thats all thats wrong. Dont fall into the trap of becoming all emo exaggerating your problems to convince yourself yer poetic :joker:.

The very fact his problems are affecting his friendships and relationships, and overall happiness shows that it's something serious. He doesn't need to over-exaggerate if he is upset at them, surely.

[andybigbro]

Originally posted by Lauren
Ooh, I have an idea but it sounds really cheesy - so just laugh at me LMAO.

My friend recommended it to me when I felt down once. It's called a happy box (LOL I warned you on the cheesy factor!), and things that make you happy... i.e. a nice story, some pens and paper to write, a photo that makes you smile, maybe an iPod loaded with some really happy songs etc... you put in the box. And when you feel angry/down just use it.

Thats actually a really good idea.
Your friend is wise.

[Rex=Legend]

Originally posted by Lauren
Ooh, I have an idea but it sounds really cheesy - so just laugh at me LMAO.

My friend recommended it to me when I felt down once. It's called a happy box (LOL I warned you on the cheesy factor!), and things that make you happy... i.e. a nice story, some pens and paper to write, a photo that makes you smile, maybe an iPod loaded with some really happy songs etc... you put in the box. And when you feel angry/down just use it.
Im personaly against any tactic to convince yourself your happy because normaly it backfires methinks.

Best thing is to just chill. If you make a happy box , its like convincing yourself and confirming you defo have problems.

Maybe thats just me.

[Lauren]

Originally posted by Rex=Legend
Originally posted by Lauren
Ooh, I have an idea but it sounds really cheesy - so just laugh at me LMAO.

My friend recommended it to me when I felt down once. It's called a happy box (LOL I warned you on the cheesy factor!), and things that make you happy... i.e. a nice story, some pens and paper to write, a photo that makes you smile, maybe an iPod loaded with some really happy songs etc... you put in the box. And when you feel angry/down just use it.
Im personaly against any tactic to convince yourself your happy because normaly it backfires methinks.

Best thing is to just chill. If you make a happy box , its like convincing yourself and confirming you defo have problems.

Maybe thats just me.

You're very pessimistic? LOL. You're not convincing yourself to be happy, you're making yourself happy.

It's a problem once you feel unhappy, you don't have to make it a problem.

[Rex=Legend]

Originally posted by Lauren
Originally posted by Rex=Legend

Seriously , just chill out. Your a teenager. Thats all thats wrong. Dont fall into the trap of becoming all emo exaggerating your problems to convince yourself yer poetic :joker:.

The very fact his problems are affecting his friendships and relationships, and overall happiness shows that it's something serious. He doesn't need to over-exaggerate if he is upset at them, surely.
It was a joke. Lightening the matter is always a good policy , I think. Im not trying to minimalise or downplay anything , but everything you mentioned every teen goes through.

Just Livin La Vida loca and forget everything. Thats the way to go. The internet is also a bad place to start Conzors. Your gonna convince youself you DO have problems if you take everything serious and seek advice.

Just chillax.

[AngRemembered]

Originally posted by Lauren
Ooh, I have an idea but it sounds really cheesy - so just laugh at me LMAO.

My friend recommended it to me when I felt down once. It's called a happy box (LOL I warned you on the cheesy factor!), and things that make you happy... i.e. a nice story, some pens and paper to write, a photo that makes you smile, maybe an iPod loaded with some really happy songs etc... you put in the box. And when you feel angry/down just use it.

NO WAY!!!! well this has spooked me, thats exactly the advice someone I havnt seen for ages gave to me today, almost word for word (she too would'nt know what an ipod was thats the difference)
well blow me, I'm in so much shock I bet ive gone paler than Dale with sea sickness:joker:
That really is spooky...............problems (i thought) what problems :whistle:

[Rex=Legend]

Originally posted by Lauren
Originally posted by Rex=Legend
Originally posted by Lauren
Ooh, I have an idea but it sounds really cheesy - so just laugh at me LMAO.

My friend recommended it to me when I felt down once. It's called a happy box (LOL I warned you on the cheesy factor!), and things that make you happy... i.e. a nice story, some pens and paper to write, a photo that makes you smile, maybe an iPod loaded with some really happy songs etc... you put in the box. And when you feel angry/down just use it.
Im personaly against any tactic to convince yourself your happy because normaly it backfires methinks.

Best thing is to just chill. If you make a happy box , its like convincing yourself and confirming you defo have problems.

Maybe thats just me.

You're very pessimistic?
Quiet the opposite. I just believe seeking support and using tactics and methods makes it clear your depressed and makes the problem worse. Their should not be need for any of that [See : first half hour of Fight Club] :spin2:.

[Rocko]

Originally posted by Lauren
Ooh, I have an idea but it sounds really cheesy - so just laugh at me LMAO.

My friend recommended it to me when I felt down once. It's called a happy box... things that make you happy.... And when you feel angry/down just use it.

My parents would be ashamed if they knew what I was reading that to be. :blush2:

[Conzors]

Originally posted by Rex=Legend
Originally posted by Lauren
Originally posted by Rex=Legend

Seriously , just chill out. Your a teenager. Thats all thats wrong. Dont fall into the trap of becoming all emo exaggerating your problems to convince yourself yer poetic :joker:.

The very fact his problems are affecting his friendships and relationships, and overall happiness shows that it's something serious. He doesn't need to over-exaggerate if he is upset at them, surely.
It was a joke. Lightening the matter is always a good policy , I think. Im not trying to minimalise or downplay anything , but everything you mentioned every teen goes through.

Just Livin La Vida loca and forget everything. Thats the way to go. The internet is also a bad place to start Conzors. Your going to convince youself you DO have problems if you take everything serious and seek advice.

Just chillax.
Im sorry.
But i so totally disagree with you.
If i dont know what im going through, Why keep it inside of me?
It will all build up and then i will eventually explode.

And thats easy for you to say, easier said than done.

[Rex=Legend]

Originally posted by Conzors
Originally posted by Rex=Legend
Originally posted by Lauren
Originally posted by Rex=Legend

Seriously , just chill out. Your a teenager. Thats all thats wrong. Dont fall into the trap of becoming all emo exaggerating your problems to convince yourself yer poetic :joker:.

The very fact his problems are affecting his friendships and relationships, and overall happiness shows that it's something serious. He doesn't need to over-exaggerate if he is upset at them, surely.
It was a joke. Lightening the matter is always a good policy , I think. Im not trying to minimalise or downplay anything , but everything you mentioned every teen goes through.

Just Livin La Vida loca and forget everything. Thats the way to go. The internet is also a bad place to start Conzors. Your going to convince youself you DO have problems if you take everything serious and seek advice.

Just chillax.
Im sorry.
But i so totally disagree with you.
If i dont know what Im going through, Why keep it inside of me?
It will all build up and then i will eventually explode.

And thats easy for you to say, easier said than done.
When did I ever say keep it inside you?

Your taking yourself way too seriously. Just kick back , relax , and forget everything. Seriously. Thats better than what any professional can offer up.

[Lauren]

Originally posted by Rex=Legend

Quiet the opposite. I just believe seeking support and using tactics and methods makes it clear your depressed and makes the problem worse. Their should not be need for any of that [See : first half hour of Fight Club] :spin2:.

I disagree (again, I know :laugh: I'm not doing it purposefully!). I think identifying that something is making you down, and separating yourself from said problem helps more than "ignoring" the issue and accepting you need help.

[Rex=Legend]

Originally posted by Lauren
Originally posted by Rex=Legend

Quiet the opposite. I just believe seeking support and using tactics and methods makes it clear your depressed and makes the problem worse. Their should not be need for any of that [See : first half hour of Fight Club] :spin2:.

I disagree (again, I know :laugh: I'm not doing it purposefully!). I think identifying that something is making you down, and separating yourself from said problem helps more than "ignoring" the issue and accepting you need help.
The issue WILL go away though , if you want it. The mind is strong. Exposing yourself to support , google , advice , EVERYTHING , is just hanging around the problem more and more. Not healthy IMO.

[melanie]

Originally posted by Conzors
Originally posted by juicylicious
Originally posted by Conzors
OO AND ALSO.

iI comfort eat alot, like i eat alot. LMFAO.

And i worry bout my weight aswell.

So like. Yur LMFAO

You can try jogging in the morning. When I use to do that I felt better afterwards.

If that involvs getting up earlier than i already do then NO. lmao

I get up at 5am EVERY MORNING just to get to school on time. LOL.

LOL exactly why I said "When I use to do that." Exercise can be just as good as food. Maybe you can try swimming or reading. I use to sit and watch tv all day or go shopping.
Do something you enjoy doing.

[Conzors]

Originally posted by Billy21
Time does help, as I already said, the same thing happened with me, and I got over it.

Clearly:whistle:.

And ive waited long enough dontcha think.

Im just fed up of beign emotional.

I like the old me.

[AngRemembered]

Originally posted by Rex=Legend

Chill with some mates. Friends are much better than anybody on the internet , and thats not a knock against anybody here!

Ok thats your e-christmas and valentine card now deleted :joker::bigsmile::whistle::wink:

[Conzors]

Im off to bed.

Got to be up in 4 and a half hours :( LMFAO.

So Night

And Thanks for the advice evryone :):).

xxx

[andybigbro]

Originally posted by Conzors
Im off to bed.

Got to be up in 4 and a half hours :( LMFAO.

So Night

And Thanks for the advice evryone :):).

xxx

Have a good Sleep and hopefully you eill feel a bit better in the morning :)

[Legend]

I suppose your 'happy self' will only come back with time, if at all. You can't force emotions upon yourself, and essentially you can't change your personality, i.e. being argumentative.

It's just something you need to let play out, and not try and find a solution for because from past experience, when I've felt down [which still happens now for no reason whatsoever, the smallest thing can trigger it] then no happy box would cure it and take me out of that state of mind, as there is no solution to emotions being all over the place.

Don't force 'happy Conor' upon yourself, if 'argumentative, irritable Conor' is how you're feeling, and is how your emotions are forcing you to behave, then trying to counteract them with 'happy thoughts' is only going to make it worse in the long run IMO. Because then, your emotions will be definatly all over the place, and it's then when the 'happy Conor' will never be back, because you've gotten yourself to a point where 'happy Conor' is forced and something you can switch on for a couple of hours a day.

I think the best advice anybody can give you is to basically get on with it, and just try and enjoy your life as best as you can without putting on a pretence. Talking to friends/family won't help in regards to getting back to your old self, but it will make you feel better when you do feel like you need to explode ... I, deal with that differently, because mine turns into anger a lot, and the majority of the time I 'explode' by punching a wall ... it's basically depends on how you deal with it, and you said you cry a lot, so perhaps having a family member or friend to comfort is what you need. I'd just get more irritated and wound up if someone tried to comfort me, as I like to be left alone, but from what I know of you, I think you're someone who'd benefit from talking, and getting everything off your chest ... though at the same time just try to relax, enjoy life as best as you can and take it day as it comes.

[Conzors]

Originally posted by Legend
I suppose your 'happy self' will only come back with time, if at all. You can't force emotions upon yourself, and essentially you can't change your personality, i.e. being argumentative.

It's just something you need to let play out, and not try and find a solution for because from past experience, when I've felt down [which still happens now for no reason whatsoever, the smallest thing can trigger it] then no happy box would cure it and take me out of that state of mind, as there is no solution to emotions being all over the place.

Don't force 'happy Conor' upon yourself, if 'argumentative, irritable Conor' is how you're feeling, and is how your emotions are forcing you to behaviour, then trying to counteract them with 'happy thoughts' is only going to make it worse in the long run IMO. Because then, your emotions will be definatly all over the place, and it's then when the 'happy Conor' will never be back, because you've gotten yourself to a point where 'happy Conor' is forced and something you can switch on for a couple of hours a day.

I think the best advice anybody can give you is to basically get on with it, and just try and enjoy your life as best as you can without putting on a pretence. Talking to friends/family won't help in regards to getting back to your old self, but it will make you feel better when you do feel like you need to explode ... I, deal with that differently, because mine turns into anger a lot, and the majority of the time I 'explode' by punching a wall ... it's basically depends on how you deal with it, and you said you cry a lot, so perhaps having a family member or friend to comfort is what you need. I'd just get more irritated and wound up if someone tried to comfort me, as I like to be left alone, but from what I know of you, I think you're someone who'd benefit from talking, and getting everything off your chest ... though at the same time just try to relax, enjoy life as best as you can and take it day as it comes.

Aww Like.
Yeh i think your right. I need to get on with it.
But i dont like to, because then people will see this side of me, and think this is my normal side, and my happy side is fake or whatever. People have said that to me its like ARGH lol.

[AngRemembered]

:thumbs: spot on ....Legend :kiss::hug:

[andybigbro]

Originally posted by Legend
I suppose your 'happy self' will only come back with time, if at all. You can't force emotions upon yourself, and essentially you can't change your personality, i.e. being argumentative.

It's just something you need to let play out, and not try and find a solution for because from past experience, when I've felt down [which still happens now for no reason whatsoever, the smallest thing can trigger it] then no happy box would cure it and take me out of that state of mind, as there is no solution to emotions being all over the place.

Don't force 'happy Conor' upon yourself, if 'argumentative, irritable Conor' is how you're feeling, and is how your emotions are forcing you to behaviour, then trying to counteract them with 'happy thoughts' is only going to make it worse in the long run IMO. Because then, your emotions will be definatly all over the place, and it's then when the 'happy Conor' will never be back, because you've gotten yourself to a point where 'happy Conor' is forced and something you can switch on for a couple of hours a day.

I think the best advice anybody can give you is to basically get on with it, and just try and enjoy your life as best as you can without putting on a pretence. Talking to friends/family won't help in regards to getting back to your old self, but it will make you feel better when you do feel like you need to explode ... I, deal with that differently, because mine turns into anger a lot, and the majority of the time I 'explode' by punching a wall ... it's basically depends on how you deal with it, and you said you cry a lot, so perhaps having a family member or friend to comfort is what you need. I'd just get more irritated and wound up if someone tried to comfort me, as I like to be left alone, but from what I know of you, I think you're someone who'd benefit from talking, and getting everything off your chest ... though at the same time just try to relax, enjoy life as best as you can and take it day as it comes.

Thats really good Advice Ant!!

[Lauren]

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[Rex=Legend]

Where was I? Oh yeah.


...life is just a ride Conorz. Chill and go with it. You will be pass the bumpy part in no time!

[Fom]

Your just going through hormones, you cant stop them. I bet someone has touched upon this already haha.

But i have days where I buy things for everyone then other days where I scream at everyone, Im worse than a woman at that time of the month I really am. You just have to learn to cope really, it will go in time.

[SexualHeroics]

First thing you need to understand is it’s a dog eat dog world out there and you will have to get stuck in sooner or later, this is what you are preparing yourself for now, even though you don’t know it yet.

Take for example the getting grumpy and questioning teachers and disagreeing with people. This is a great trait to have. Only idiots trudge through life believing everything they hear and conforming to what’s happening around them. You should always question things, always ask for clear and logical answers and if the answers you’re getting don’t seem right to you, scream, shout then smash up the nearest piece of furniture and demand a new set of answers that you can agree with.

Then there’s your friends. Sounds like these boys are beginning to feel a bit manly in the exuberance of youth, telling you how things should be, mouthing off a bit too much and thinking they can take you on for some? Well let them have it. Next time one of them gets gobby challenge him to an armwrestle or a game of mercy, or hell - just bodyslam him to the pavement, watch him **** (although that should be reserved for special occasions). Make sure you don’t lose any armwrestles or fights though cause then you’ll look like a pussy infront of the chicks. To prevent losing fights pick some good kung-fu/karate/fighting moves from a Bruce Lee film or Rocky or Rambo and practice them at home every day.

As for the crying, I’m not really sure what to say about that, that’s pretty gay really, but don’t fret. Once you’ve won a few armwrestles and had a few more arguments, maybe picked a few fights with people giving you funny looks, you should start to feel better about yourself and that crying should clear right up. If it doesn’t, maybe you could use it to pull girls. Some girls really dig all that crying and sensitive stuff, it’s worth a shot! Just tell them some dross about how their beauty brings a tear to your eye or something like that. (Don’t use the line “You’re so fit it brings a tear to my Jap’s eye”. This will only get you a slap, trust me)

I saved the best until last and that’s this eating thing, which you like to call comfort eating. Well I don’t know what you’re complaining about, because eating is ****ing awesome. If anything you should be eating more. *Interesting Fact* - If a teenager eats 5 pieces of steak a week, by the time you’re 20 you’ll be able to smash paving flags in half with one headbutt – Women would then find you 75% more attractive than normal. You should set yourself a challenge every day to eat 4 meals and make up a 5th meal comprising of things stolen off other people’s plates under their very noses. This should get you all the food you need in a day and could also help you getting in a few well earned scraps to brush up on those moves.

I know these tips will work for you so I don’t need to wish you good luck because you won’t need it. Just be sure to practice those moves.

[Bells]

Originally posted by Angiebabe
I don't think Ive ever read such a wonderful post before on any forum I've ever been on, but reading that from you Ash was simply stunning.

Thanks so much Angie - that really does mean a lot. :hug: - I've just been through so much of the same stuff myself, that I think it's necessary to let others know how I coped. Having no older siblings or anything, I usually just suffered in silence - which is not too wise.

[GhettoSuperstar]

Buy yourself something perdy! :hugesmile:

[Tom]

Originally posted by Lauren
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How authoritative :tongue:

[Conzors]

Originally posted by SexualHeroics
First thing you need to understand is it’s a dog eat dog world out there and you will have to get stuck in sooner or later, this is what you are preparing yourself for now, even though you don’t know it yet.

Take for example the getting grumpy and questioning teachers and disagreeing with people. This is a great trait to have. Only idiots trudge through life believing everything they hear and conforming to what’s happening around them. You should always question things, always ask for clear and logical answers and if the answers you’re getting don’t seem right to you, scream, shout then smash up the nearest piece of furniture and demand a new set of answers that you can agree with.

Then there’s your friends. Sounds like these boys are beginning to feel a bit manly in the exuberance of youth, telling you how things should be, mouthing off a bit too much and thinking they can take you on for some? Well let them have it. Next time one of them gets gobby challenge him to an armwrestle or a game of mercy, or hell - just bodyslam him to the pavement, watch him **** (although that should be reserved for special occasions). Make sure you don’t lose any armwrestles or fights though cause then you’ll look like a pussy infront of the chicks. To prevent losing fights pick some good kung-fu/karate/fighting moves from a Bruce Lee film or Rocky or Rambo and practice them at home every day.

As for the crying, I’m not really sure what to say about that, that’s pretty gay really, but don’t fret. Once you’ve won a few armwrestles and had a few more arguments, maybe picked a few fights with people giving you funny looks, you should start to feel better about yourself and that crying should clear right up. If it doesn’t, maybe you could use it to pull girls. Some girls really dig all that crying and sensitive stuff, it’s worth a shot! Just tell them some dross about how their beauty brings a tear to your eye or something like that. (Don’t use the line “You’re so fit it brings a tear to my Jap’s eye”. This will only get you a slap, trust me)

I saved the best until last and that’s this eating thing, which you like to call comfort eating. Well I don’t know what you’re complaining about, because eating is ****ing awesome. If anything you should be eating more. *Interesting Fact* - If a teenager eats 5 pieces of steak a week, by the time you’re 20 you’ll be able to smash paving flags in half with one headbutt – Women would then find you 75% more attractive than normal. You should set yourself a challenge every day to eat 4 meals and make up a 5th meal comprising of things stolen off other people’s plates under their very noses. This should get you all the food you need in a day and could also help you getting in a few well earned scraps to brush up on those moves.

I know these tips will work for you so I don’t need to wish you good luck because you won’t need it. Just be sure to practice those moves.

Aww Thanks Like.

Thanks everyone ;)

[Lauren]

Originally posted by Tom
Originally posted by Lauren
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How authoritative :tongue:

:whistle: Sometimes.