Is it wrong to hate a close family member?

[Killian]

I really, REALLY hate my brother for reasons I won't go into at the moment, but I wanted to know if it's wrong to do so? I mean, people always say 'Blood is thicker than water', but in this case it just doesn't work. I know it sounds really spontaneous for me to say so. And I'm talking about it in general. Of course you'd hate a parent or sibling if they assualted you physically all the time. Answers would be appreciated. Oh, and I mean 'close' as in siblings/parents.

[xDramatick]

In my opinion; with good justification, I don't think it's wrong at all. If there's a perfectly fine reason behind it, then I don't see there being any problem.

[Jackie]

Well it depends on what they've done,and if you can forgive them.

[Hugo]

Everybody hates their siblings sometimes, its perfectly normal for you to say, 'Oh I hate them!', because you probably have to live with them 24/7 and you can't be best friends all of the time. I'm sure you like them most of the time rather than hate them. Everybody falls out.

[MrGaryy]

I dunno. I have a strong dislike my sister. Infact my other sister doesn't even talk to her any more. And my Dad hasn't spoken to his brother for about 15 years. And my Mom's brother hasn't seen her in three years!

[Lauren]

It depends, do you actually mean "hate" ? As in, no love at all, no remorse if they died etc.

Even physical/emotional abuse can't take away every ounce of love.

[*mazedsalv**]

I have never hated my siblings but imo it is okay if there is a reason behind it.

[Rory]

When you grow up things will maybe change and you'll get closer. If he's younger than he's probably not mature enough, and with age you might become closer. I don't think it's wrong to dislike a family member, but you can't hate them as they'll always be in your life. :tongue:

[Indierock&roll]

no i hated my mum for a while for something but doont mind her now but we still dont get on that much everything she says annoys me haha

[Christina]

I strongly dislike my cousin Paul hes about 34, hes done many bad things within our family (i wont go into detail because its very personal).. but lets just say hes just come out of prison and he stole money from my mum x

[Rory]

Originally posted by x-Christina-x
I strongly dislike my cousin Paul hes about 34, hes done many bad things within our family (i wont go into detail because its very personal).. but lets just say hes just come out of prison and he stole money from my mum x
That's a reason to dislike a family member. If he's a scumbag and does stuff like that, then I'd dislike him as well; but if he whines and gets his way whenever he wants your parents to buy him a Wii, that's not really a reason to hate him.

[Jackie]

I treasure every minute when I'm with my family I losted my daughter 4 years ago and it made me realise one day we're here and tomorrow we could be gone so I make every effort I can to go and see my family and do things for them because I never know if you're see them again not a nice thought but it's so true.

[Christina]

Originally posted by Rory
Originally posted by x-Christina-x
I strongly dislike my cousin Paul hes about 34, hes done many bad things within our family (i wont go into detail because its very personal).. but lets just say hes just come out of prison and he stole money from my mum x
That's a reason to dislike a family member. If he's a scumbag and does stuff like that, then I'd dislike him as well; but if he whines and gets his way whenever he wants your parents to buy him a Wii, that's not really a reason to hate him. Although i hate to say things like this, he really is a scumbag =( x

[MarkWaldorf]

Jackie, that's a lovely thing to believe in.

[Christina]

Originally posted by Markus
Jackie, that's a lovely thing to believe in. Yeah i agree! And Jackie im sorry about your daughter x

[Lauren]

Originally posted by SpongeBobPEACEout
no i hated my mum for a while for something but doont mind her now but we still dont get on that much everything she says annoys me haha

I strongly doubt you hated your mum. Maybe you disliked her to a great extent...

[Sarah.]

I actually strongly dislike my brother. I won't say hate... yet. But some of the things he has done give me a good reason to use the word hate.

[MrGaryy]

Lauren I LOVE your banner!

My Uncle spun a story to a local newspaper about my Dad's business and stole from my granny.

[Killian]

My brother has teased me all my life about my weight and called me a '******' in front of all his friends, and told them so on MSN too. I don't know, maybe he was just trying to be impressive.

[Tom]

I think its perfectly possible just as it is to hate anyone else. Of course theres a connection but theres a large portion of my family who I wouldn't care about if they all dropped down dead tomorrow.

[MrGaryy]

Originally posted by Tom
I think its perfectly possible just as it is to hate anyone else. Of course theres a connection but theres a large portion of my family who I wouldn't care about if they all dropped down dead tomorrow.

Jees, remind me not to get on the wrong side of you! Lol!

[Jackie]

Originally posted by Killian
My brother has teased me all my life about my weight and called me a '******' in front of all his friends, and told them so on MSN too. I don't know, maybe he was just trying to be impressive.


Brothers normally do this to each other and also sisters but it's just normal i bet he loves you really deep down.

[Spike]

If i'm honest I hate all my family to an extent
I hate some members of the family more than others but I find I have no really love for any of them which sounds horrible. I could easily live without them for the rest of my life.
My mum is probably the only one I really like.

[Killian]

Originally posted by jackie46
Originally posted by Killian
My brother has teased me all my life about my weight and called me a '******' in front of all his friends, and told them so on MSN too. I don't know, maybe he was just trying to be impressive.


Brothers normally do this to each other and also sisters but it's just normal i bet he loves you really deep down.

I guess so. :bigsmile:

[Jackie]

Originally posted by Tom
I think its perfectly possible just as it is to hate anyone else. Of course theres a connection but theres a large portion of my family who I wouldn't care about if they all dropped down dead tomorrow.


Well if it does happen you might realise how much you really miss them.

[Corkie]

One of my brothers is a bit of tosser to be honest. But, I never would say I hate him (unless I was pissed off with him) it's just were both completely different people (Teachers often comment who have teached us both how were both so different)

I think we'll be closer then we are when we're older though just cos we simply wont live with eachother.

[Tom]

Originally posted by jackie46
Originally posted by Tom
I think its perfectly possible just as it is to hate anyone else. Of course theres a connection but theres a large portion of my family who I wouldn't care about if they all dropped down dead tomorrow.


Well if it does happen you might realise how much you really miss them.

I don't bother with them at all, I've not spoken to them since 2005. It will make no difference to my life at all.

[Mrluvaluva]

They say "You can choose your friends but not your family". It is very true. You can fall out, and you can hate them for your own reasons. They will always be family though. I suppose it depends what they have done.

[SamR]

I NEVER!! talk to my 2 older brothers and we live in the same house. I really dis-like them becuase they are druggys and I see no problem with it

[Nurse57]

The day may brother dies I will have a party. I will turn up at his funeral in scruffy jeans and dirty t-shirt and talk all the way through as he did at our Dads.
Then later on I will phone all his loved ones to take the piss laughing down the phone and leaving nasty messages. Just to repay the favour.

I think hate is the minimum I feel for him.

[fairymoon]

i have not spoke to my brother for 8 years now i love him but wont talk to cus of his wife she horrible, when they was getting married she wanted me and my sister to be bridesmaid, my mum said ok we lived at skeggy then so mum took us to there house for 2 weeks, my bro went to work she locked us in the bedroom all day till he was due home from work i was 8 my sis was 4, my mum found out and went mad but he still married her we never went to the wedding, my other brother was dying from cancer he was 18 and she was nasty to him aswell telling him to hurry up and die, shes got 1 child well hes 22 now still lives at home not allowed a gf he has to be in at 9pm and he does it, if he was not with her i would talk to him, familys love them or hate them