*sigh*

[~Kizwiz~]

I just like to raise a point that been nagging me recently. I've seen lots of insults (in jest) from members recently and I for one find it very uncomfortable.

I know its all for a laugh, but surely this sort of thing makes insults more acceptable? Anyone can call someone a bitch or ***** and then say (joke)

But does it make it right? Or maybe its just me getting old :rolleyes:

Anyway, there are all sorts of ages on the forum but I dont think we should be making insults the norm even in jest

[DamonJ]

I personally have no problem with receiving or dishing out insults if I know they're a joke, but I find if I am seriously called a name and they actually mean it then that's when I find it offensive.

[Princess]

Completely argee. The forum is so negative at the moment.

[Jen]

Originally posted by DamonJ
I personally have no problem with receiving or dishing out insults if I know they're a joke, but I find if I am seriously called a name and they actually mean it then that's when I find it offensive.

Your insults are HILERIOUS!
In a jokey way... obv.

[Shaun]

Depends on the way it's said, really. I know when to distinguish between a joke and insult, because you either know the person you're jokingly-insulting or you don't.

[Magic]

I kind of agree, although I am sure I have been guilty of this.
Its ok in small amounts, but it can get abit OTT as all things!

[DamonJ]

Originally posted by JDIZZEL
Originally posted by DamonJ
I personally have no problem with receiving or dishing out insults if I know they're a joke, but I find if I am seriously called a name and they actually mean it then that's when I find it offensive.

Your insults are HILERIOUS!
In a jokey way... obv.

Which ones? :laugh:

[Jen]

Originally posted by DamonJ
Originally posted by JDIZZEL
Originally posted by DamonJ
I personally have no problem with receiving or dishing out insults if I know they're a joke, but I find if I am seriously called a name and they actually mean it then that's when I find it offensive.

Your insults are HILERIOUS!
In a jokey way... obv.

Which ones? :laugh:

Mostly your one liners... its a good quality to be funny and people know that your not really insulting them, you are just having a laugh...
:thumbs:

[~Kizwiz~]

Originally posted by DamonJ
I personally have no problem with receiving or dishing out insults if I know they're a joke, but I find if I am seriously called a name and they actually mean it then that's when I find it offensive.

But who says it a joke or not? Others would read it and assume they can use that sort of behavior?


Originally posted by JDIZZEL

Your insults are HILERIOUS!
In a jokey way... obv.

As I said above, it maybe an 'in' joke so some but others will think its acceptable to use this free way of speaking to each other

[DamonJ]

Originally posted by JDIZZEL
Originally posted by DamonJ
Originally posted by JDIZZEL
Originally posted by DamonJ
I personally have no problem with receiving or dishing out insults if I know they're a joke, but I find if I am seriously called a name and they actually mean it then that's when I find it offensive.

Your insults are HILERIOUS!
In a jokey way... obv.

Which ones? :laugh:

Mostly your one liners... its a good quality to be funny and people know that your not really insulting them, you are just having a laugh...
:thumbs:

:blush2:

Also I find that the only joking insults which are unacceptable are if they bring your family or friends into it, that is when the level of joking reaches an unacceptable level.

[~Kizwiz~]

Originally posted by Shaun
Depends on the way it's said, really. I know when to distinguish between a joke and insult, because you either know the person you're jokingly-insulting or you don't.

But others wont..... thats what I am trying to say. It encourages other people. Even if you know its a joke others wont

[DamonJ]

Originally posted by ~Kizwiz~
Originally posted by DamonJ
I personally have no problem with receiving or dishing out insults if I know they're a joke, but I find if I am seriously called a name and they actually mean it then that's when I find it offensive.

But who says it a joke or not? Others would read it and assume they can use that sort of behavior?


Originally posted by JDIZZEL

Your insults are HILERIOUS!
In a jokey way... obv.

As I said above, it maybe an 'in' joke so some but others will think its acceptable to use this free way of speaking to each other

A smiley helps to define whether its a joke or serious. :hug:

[Callum]

I have no problem with them, most of them are jokes and if their serious then a mod will sort it out.

[~Kizwiz~]

Originally posted by DamonJ

A smiley helps to define whether its a joke or serious. :hug:

So its ok to insult someone so long as its followed with a hug or a wink?

I dont agree

[Shaun]

Originally posted by ~Kizwiz~
Originally posted by Shaun
Depends on the way it's said, really. I know when to distinguish between a joke and insult, because you either know the person you're jokingly-insulting or you don't.

But others wont..... thats what I am trying to say. It encourages other people. Even if you know its a joke others wont

But I don't use joke-insults on people I don't know, and people I know will take it seriously.

[~Kizwiz~]

Ok, I see, I guess I dont get the 'joke' insults :rolleyes:

[DamonJ]

Originally posted by ~Kizwiz~
Originally posted by DamonJ

A smiley helps to define whether its a joke or serious. :hug:

So its ok to insult someone so long as its followed with a hug or a wink?

I dont agree

I never said it was okay, I said it defined whether the name was a joke or serious. Surely this thread adds a negative atmosphere to the forum, I insult as a joke and no one has complained to me, they go along with the joke so clearly people can tell when I'm joking or not.

[~Kizwiz~]

Originally posted by Shaun

But I don't use joke-insults on people I don't know, and people I know will take it seriously.

your misunderstanding me. You may call someone something and the person you are talking to gets the jibe but maybe others read that and then think its ok to call someone a bitch/***** because you did it in jest?

[Hugo]

I think I might be one of them :blush: But I only call people a bitch, *****, skank when I know they'll take it as a joke, Damon, Gazbo ect.

[DamonJ]

Originally posted by tooperfect
I think I might be one of them :blush: But I only call people a bitch, *****, skank when I know they'll take it as a joke, Damon, Gazbo ect.

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[~Kizwiz~]

Right.... I cant even try and express how this insults effect others without being told this thread adds negativity to the forum. But calling someone a ***** as a joke doesnt.

I wont bother next time. This really makes me very sad that TiBB has become ok to throw insults about so long as the other person knows its a joke.

[Callum]

But the majority of people see it as a joke, I don't think there's been any incidents where people copied someone and used it as an insult.

[Hugo]

Originally posted by ~Kizwiz~
Right.... I cant even try and express how this insults effect others without being told this thread adds negativity to the forum. But calling someone a ***** as a joke doesnt.

I wont bother next time. This really makes me very sad that TiBB has become ok to throw insults about so long as the other person knows its a joke.

Well if the person who the it's targeted at then surely it's not an 'insult' as such because it's not offending them at all in anyway.

[~Kizwiz~]

But its still making insults acceptable?

[DamonJ]

Originally posted by ~Kizwiz~
Right.... I cant even try and express how this insults effect others without being told this thread adds negativity to the forum. But calling someone a ***** as a joke doesnt.

It does add negativity though. No one has complained to me about it and I do it in almost every post, everyone goes along with the joke, however you've made a specific point to raise an issue up out of nothing.


I understand you were only expressing your concerns though and I appreciate that :hug:

[Callum]

But Kizwiz nobody insults people in a nasty way on here through copying people's joke insults though.

[Hugo]

Originally posted by ~Kizwiz~
But its still making insults acceptable?

I just don't see them as insults because they aren't offending or insulting anybody at all. :puzzled:

[~Kizwiz~]

Originally posted by DamonJ
Originally posted by ~Kizwiz~
Right.... I cant even try and express how this insults effect others without being told this thread adds negativity to the forum. But calling someone a ***** as a joke doesnt.

It does add negativity though. No one has complained to me about it and I do it in almost every post, everyone goes along with the joke, however you've made a specific point to raise an issue up out of nothing.


I understand you were only expressing your concerns though and I appreciate that :hug:

Ok then, I am in the wrong and everyone else can go about there normal behavior.

Its just a shame that I felt the need to raise this issue and all I get is **** from people. I tried to raise it because it make me uncomfortable.

And I am sure I'm not the only one.

[~Kizwiz~]

New members will look at this style of posting and it does make insulting more acceptable. Whether the OP says it is a joke even if the one its aimed at knows its a joke other wont

[DamonJ]

Originally posted by ~Kizwiz~
Originally posted by DamonJ
Originally posted by ~Kizwiz~
Right.... I cant even try and express how this insults effect others without being told this thread adds negativity to the forum. But calling someone a ***** as a joke doesnt.

It does add negativity though. No one has complained to me about it and I do it in almost every post, everyone goes along with the joke, however you've made a specific point to raise an issue up out of nothing.


I understand you were only expressing your concerns though and I appreciate that :hug:

Ok then, I am in the wrong and everyone else can go about there normal behavior.

Its just a shame that I felt the need to raise this issue and all I get is **** from people. I tried to raise it because it make me uncomfortable.

And I am sure I'm not the only one.

No one has said you are in the wrong. I see where you are coming from, but I don't see a need to change my behaviour when no one has complained to me about it, when I receive a complaint from a "victim" of my joke insults, then I'll consider how I approach people.

[Hugo]

Originally posted by ~Kizwiz~
Originally posted by DamonJ
Originally posted by ~Kizwiz~
Right.... I cant even try and express how this insults effect others without being told this thread adds negativity to the forum. But calling someone a ***** as a joke doesnt.

It does add negativity though. No one has complained to me about it and I do it in almost every post, everyone goes along with the joke, however you've made a specific point to raise an issue up out of nothing.


I understand you were only expressing your concerns though and I appreciate that :hug:

Ok then, I am in the wrong and everyone else can go about there normal behavior.

Its just a shame that I felt the need to raise this issue and all I get is **** from people. I tried to raise it because it make me uncomfortable.

And I am sure I'm not the only one.

I have to stand up for the majority here, you can't just say you're getting **** from everyone just because they don't agree with you, you shouldn't expect everyone to agree with you all the time. You're probably not the only one, you are right there but we are certainly not the only ones who disagree with you. It's just a clash of opinions not people giving you ****.

http://i34.tinypic.com/2qdaphg.jpg
Sorry Mark

[Callum]

I agree with Hugo, you have to respect everyone's opinion Kiz, not everyone can agree with you, can't use that as an excuse to say everyone's "giving you ****"

[Billy]

Originally posted by ~Kizwiz~
Originally posted by DamonJ
Originally posted by ~Kizwiz~
Right.... I cant even try and express how this insults effect others without being told this thread adds negativity to the forum. But calling someone a ***** as a joke doesnt.

It does add negativity though. No one has complained to me about it and I do it in almost every post, everyone goes along with the joke, however you've made a specific point to raise an issue up out of nothing.


I understand you were only expressing your concerns though and I appreciate that :hug:

Ok then, I am in the wrong and everyone else can go about there normal behavior.

Its just a shame that I felt the need to raise this issue and all I get is **** from people. I tried to raise it because it make me uncomfortable.

And I am sure I'm not the only one.

Why ar eyou pulling the poor me act just because people don't agree with you?

[~Kizwiz~]

Ok.... but I was just trying to raise the subject of how joke insults have become the norm and everyone has said its ok so long as its a joke.

I was wrong and I'm sorry. I stupidly thought I would be able to raise an issue that was upsetting me

Night guys

[Hugo]

Originally posted by ~Kizwiz~
Ok.... but I was just trying to raise the subject of how joke insults have become the norm and everyone has said its ok so long as its a joke.

I was wrong and I'm sorry. I stupidly thought I would be able to raise an issue that was upsetting me

Night guys

:rolleyes:

[Ross]

It's easy to just not read it/get involved if it's nothing to do with you.

That's my motto.

I do think you're right on certain things though Kiz.

[DamonJ]

Originally posted by ~Kizwiz~
I was wrong and I'm sorry. I stupidly thought I would be able to raise an issue that was upsetting me


You were able to raise it- but people realised that it had nothing behind it and the majority agree.

So yeah
Night
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