I Need Help..

[Loukas]

OK.. Right, i haven't told anyone this, not even Kate! as most of you know i am Bisexual and some of you know that i have liked this boy Joe for about 7 months now.. Kate tells me he is straight, he obsesses over girls all the time and all this s***. And others told me, he is bi he has to be blah blah blah. I like him.. a lot. I don't want to.. but i do. I think he his Bi, i know it is none of my business and i shouldn't care but i do i really do. I have liked loads of straight guys and i have got over them because i know they are straight. But theres something about him. He is different.. i dunno how i can describe it!? I don't know if i can get over him. Today he forgot it was my birthday but them remembered after i said to him, "Joe, its the 15th..." He said nothing. I tried walking off, then he grabbed my arm and was like "OMG! Loukas! Your birthday.. im sorry.. Happy Birthday." I was happy he remembered.. eventually..

Cutting a long story short.. i really REALLY like this boy. How ever much everyone thinks hes a dickhead i really like him.. I have good gaydar and i GENUALLY DO believe he is bisexual! I'm sure of it. I love Kate SOOO MUCH, normally shes right about boys but this time im standing up for it. I don't think he is! Again its none of my busness but i can't help it.. I shouldn't care.. but i do..

Any advice PLEASE!!

For me to do TOMORROW!!! I need to know.. it's begining to really bug me.

And please if your going to mock this thread. Mock another one of mine.. not this one..

Thanks.. x Loukas..

[MarkWaldorf]

You're not going to walk up to him and ask are you? That'll put him in an awkward position and his firs response will be to deny it.

[Loukas]

Originally posted by Markus
You're not going to walk up to him and ask are you? That'll put him in an awkward position and his firs response will be to deny it.

exactly. Nope im not going to do that. I would hate it if someone done that to me!!

[Matt08]

I think you should try and get over him Loukas, if he says he's straight then he's either definitely telling the truth or he is bisexual and doesn't want anyone to know. If he'd felt the same way about you then he'd have probably told you he was bisexual by now.

I think because you like him so much you are convincing yourself that he is actually bisexual to make the situation seem better.

I think if you keep badgering him about his sexuality, then it could damage your friendship with him as well. Mr right is out there for you Loukas, you've just got to find him! I'm sure there are other people out there that throughout your life you will feel the same way about.

[Fom]

All you can do is wait for him to come out, i hate it when people pressure people into coming out. If he liked you he would make the first move because it means he is comfortable, thats if he knows your bi?

Its a shame I dont know him! I have a fantastic gaydar. Its right like 99.9% of the time, I have guessed the straightest of guys were bi - curious.

[Ross]

I'm terrible for getting it wrong with straight guys.

You just need to wait, if he says he is straight he probably is.

[Loukas]

Originally posted by Matt08
I think you should try and get over him Loukas, if he says he's straight then he's either definitely telling the truth or he is bisexual and doesn't want anyone to know. If he'd felt the same way about you then he'd have probably told you he was bisexual by now.

I think because you like him so much you are convincing yourself that he is actually bisexual to make the situation seem better.

I think if you keep badgering him about his sexuality, then it could damage your friendship with him as well. Mr right is out there for you Loukas, you've just got to find him! I'm sure there are other people out there that throughout your life you will feel the same way about.

I guess.. but i have tried getting over him.. i normally get over people really easily matt and its all over in 3 weeks.. i have been trying for 3 months..

Do you think my brain is getting the wtong signals from him?

[Matt08]

Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
Originally posted by Matt08
I think you should try and get over him Loukas, if he says he's straight then he's either definitely telling the truth or he is bisexual and doesn't want anyone to know. If he'd felt the same way about you then he'd have probably told you he was bisexual by now.

I think because you like him so much you are convincing yourself that he is actually bisexual to make the situation seem better.

I think if you keep badgering him about his sexuality, then it could damage your friendship with him as well. Mr right is out there for you Loukas, you've just got to find him! I'm sure there are other people out there that throughout your life you will feel the same way about.

I guess.. but i have tried getting over him.. i normally get over people really easily matt and its all over in 3 weeks.. i have been trying for 3 months..

Do you think my brain is getting the wtong signals from him?

Yeah, i'd say so. You're so in to him that you're convincing yourself so much that he is bisexial when he's actually straight.

So any little thing that he does which would suggest that he could be bisexual, you're picking up on more so than you'd pick up on someone else.

[Loukas]

He asked me if i was straight first because he heard rumours about me. (Which were true just didn't want him to know :P) Then i asked if he was, which he said yeah i am.

during BB9 he got really pissed off with a comment Jen Made about Dennis which he thought was homophobic when it really wasn't

[Annie]

I have spoken to you about Joe before and you told me how you feel about him so i know you like him a lot but huni i dont think that its a one way street. I think that if he was bi or interested, he would have said something by now or made a hint when on your own or something..

I dont want to see you get hurt over someone - especially someone you cant really talk to about this situation. I mean maybe you could say to him and he might be like oh dude i aint that way and it would be fine from there.. or maybe he might not even wana be your mate anymore.. is he worth loosing as a friend?

And hey maybe he is bi... then just get him drunk! Ha! But seriously sometimes you need to follow your head more than your heart.. thats one of the hardest things you can do in life.

[Loukas]

Originally posted by Matt08
Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
Originally posted by Matt08
I think you should try and get over him Loukas, if he says he's straight then he's either definitely telling the truth or he is bisexual and doesn't want anyone to know. If he'd felt the same way about you then he'd have probably told you he was bisexual by now.

I think because you like him so much you are convincing yourself that he is actually bisexual to make the situation seem better.

I think if you keep badgering him about his sexuality, then it could damage your friendship with him as well. Mr right is out there for you Loukas, you've just got to find him! I'm sure there are other people out there that throughout your life you will feel the same way about.

I guess.. but i have tried getting over him.. i normally get over people really easily matt and its all over in 3 weeks.. i have been trying for 3 months..

Do you think my brain is getting the wtong signals from him?

Yeah, i'd say so. You're so in to him that you're convincing yourself so much that he is bisexial when he's actually straight.

So any little thing that he does which would suggest that he could be bisexual, you're picking up on more so than you'd pick up on someone else.

I have like boys more than i liked him.. i got over them because i KNEW they were straight.. he.. he's different theres something about him!! :puzzled:

[Novo]

sounds like a crisis......

[Jack]

Get him drunk! :laugh:

[Loukas]

Originally posted by Jack
Get him drunk! :laugh:

Oh i will DEFENTLY DO THAT! :wink: I will bet my life on it!!! :laugh2:

[Ross]

Originally posted by Jack
Get him drunk! :laugh:
Can I do the same to your friend? :laugh::laugh::laugh:

[Jack]

Originally posted by Ross
Originally posted by Jack
Get him drunk! :laugh:
Can I do the same to your friend? :laugh::laugh::laugh:

:shocked:

He'd appreciate the free drink.

:laugh:

[MrGaryy]

There's this guy in my class, Eoin, and I am almost SURE he is gay. I don't like him or anything, but I really want to know. Not that I'd ask him, but sometimes it really bugs me.

[Fom]

Im the kinda person that will just ask up front "Are you gay, just tell me" sometimes its the best way to come out haha, some people wont come out unless the opportunity rises :P

[Loukas]

Originally posted by Gazbo
There's this guy in my class, Eoin, and I am almost SURE he is gay. I don't like him or anything, but I really want to know. Not that I'd ask him, but sometimes it really bugs me.

See! Gary imagine how bad it is when you really like them!

[Ross]

Originally posted by Jack
Originally posted by Ross
Originally posted by Jack
Get him drunk! :laugh:
Can I do the same to your friend? :laugh::laugh::laugh:

:shocked:

He'd appreciate the free drink.

:laugh:
He won't just appreciate that :laugh::lovedup:

[MrGaryy]

Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
Originally posted by Gazbo
There's this guy in my class, Eoin, and I am almost SURE he is gay. I don't like him or anything, but I really want to know. Not that I'd ask him, but sometimes it really bugs me.

See! Gary imagine how bad it is when you really like them!

It must be hard, I don't know what I would do if I was in your situation! Okay I do - watch hours of reality TV, make inordanant amounts of food only to eat a quarter of it and only leave the house to go to school.:whistle:

[Spike]

I have told you before that he is probably bi from some of the things you have told me.
Its a hard position for you to be in. I think you should be patient and hopefully sometime in the future it does come out he is bi and then you can make your move.

[xDramatick]

Haha, I've been in this situation loads of times.
If I'm honest, I've always been wrong.
They've always been straight.
On the plus side, the most recent one, I was in your position.
I liked him like mad. I still liked him when I got with my bf a few months ago [obviously I don't anymore] but this is like.. a 2 year crush I'm talking about. I realized in the end that the best reaction I was ever gonna get from him was acceptance, so when he found out, he was fine with it, though stating that he was straight, which was fine with me. I continued to like him but my bf obviously means I don't anymore.

It's a difficult one.
Whatever you do, it'd be better NOT to ask.
Why? Because it could cause either of the following;;
- If he's gay/bi; it could push him further in the closet and be reluctant to tell you, he could jump on the defensive and claim it's disgusting etc, or come out, but leave you both feeling awkward.
- If he's straight; he's likely to state that he's straight, and then return the question. On the other hand, he could get the impression you fancy him, and therefore that could lead to all sorts of issues of joking around/leading you on.

I don't know how close you both are, but in my opinion, and from my experience, I'd suggest spending more time with him, befriending him more, without coming across as keen? Sounds difficult but it does help you in the end. If he is gay/bi, he'll be more likely to trust you and it'll come out during a moment/talk/if you ever come out to him. However, if he's straight, and he sees you as a close friend, he's very likely to accept you, and if you tell him you like him, he's more likely to be accepting of that.
If you're already close, then I guess there isn't much more needed to do.

Again, this is from my personal experience, it may/may not work for you but I hope you sort it out. I know how rubbish it can feel to be in your situation but it does work out in the end. If you ever need to talk, I'm here. :]

[SexualHeroics]

Just walk up to him and cup his balls. Then wink.

You'll find out one way or another.

[Tom]

Eat a banana in front of him but in a sexy way, it never fails :laugh2:

[~Kizwiz~]

Loukas, sorry if you have said in a previous post but does he know your Bi?

[Kate..]

Loukas what are you on about lol you don't stop talking about this to me at school of course I know about it!

Loukas I love you trillions... please can't you understand he's straight? I know you think he's bi/gay or whatever but I know he's straight, I have a gaydar too remember. He's obsessed with girls and porn and everything like that and he's a bit of a pr***

And he's not homophobic but I've asked him and he would not feel comfortable knowing someone was gay/bi and liked him. He told me. I wish this wasn't happening to you Loukas but I'm afraid it is.

[Sam!]

Do it over text or msn... always the best :P lol

[xDramatick]

Originally posted by Kate..
Loukas what are you on about lol you don't stop talking about this to me at school of course I know about it!

Loukas I love you trillions... please can't you understand he's straight? I know you think he's bi/gay or whatever but I know he's straight, I have a gaydar too remember. He's obsessed with girls and porn and everything like that and he's a bit of a pr***

And he's not homophobic but I've asked him and he would not feel comfortable knowing someone was gay/bi and liked him. He told me. I wish this wasn't happening to you Loukas but I'm afraid it is.

In that case; listen to Kate.
It makes sense.
I've had a few crushes where I.. was so sure they were gay/bi but weren't.
it really is almost like wishful thinking.

[Kate..]

In that case; listen to Kate.
It makes sense.
I've had a few crushes where I.. was so sure they were gay/bi but weren't.
it really is almost like wishful thinking.

It's cause he likes him soooooooooooooooo much and he's so desperate for him to be gay/bi that everything Joe does loukas takes into like complete overboard and looks into them way too much.
I know it's not what you want to hear loukas but you just have to accept it :hug:

[Sam!]

Kates smart. Listen to Kate :)

[Kate..]

Haha thanks Scampi!

[Sam!]

No Problemo :)

[LemonJam]

Its very, very, very good and honest advice Kate, you're a good friend, but take out the persons name just incase he finds this post. :shocked:

[Kate..]

Aw thanks. I guess it's easier for me to understand cause i hear about it 24/7. And take out Joe's name? Loukas already mentioned it like 4 times in the first post?

[Loukas]

******* the whole thing. Kate you are WRONG that is NOT how it went. This was a waste of my time. If im going to get hurt so be it. I think he is bi, end of. I came on TiBB to find some help, most of you on here give great advise and thanks, but i guess nobody can see what i see. :bigsmile:

[LemonJam]

Originally posted by Kate..
Aw thanks. I guess it's easier for me to understand cause i hear about it 24/7. And take out Joe's name? Loukas already mentioned it like 4 times in the first post?

Oh yeah! Sorry, my bad XD

[Kate..]

No worries :laugh2: