Kate's VERY SCARY Problem!! Advice Please!

[Loukas]

Ok.. Right.. She wanted me to ask you for advise..

Today Mrs Kate came into school looking LIKE SHE JUST SAW A GHOST AND THE GHOST GAVE HER A BITCH SLAP. She got a couple of scary texts the night before (her birthday). All 3 texts were by our good friend R.(won't say her name) Normally R is amazing!! She's Great, Normally.. The first text said..

Hey Kate, You know how you always ask who i like.. And i always say no one.. You can't tell anyone, but i think i like you only not in an emotionally way, more a physical way

Kate sent back...
Thats really sweet, but i still like Theo...alot.
Then R texted back..

Thats fine. I'm just so confused. Like i don't really want to go out with you, i just want to make out with you and feel up your tits, alot.

At this point she was very very scared. Then Kate said..

Ermm ok..

R answered back saying..

Well would it be OK with you, if at a party, they dared us to pull (snog) or if i like 'Accidentally' tripped and grabbed your tits for support.. Or say if you needed a confidence boost we could just make out for fun..

Kate then said..
I am off to sleep now

Today she didn't really speak to her.. however in spanish she was stairing at her tits.. :shocked:

Kate is caught up in work, hence she can't tell you herself. But she would appreciate some advice please.

[lily.]

Are u sure it was R who sent them and not someone else with her phone?

[Fom]

This is typical for someone at that age, I know loads of people have done that. She is in denial and won't believe that Kate is straight... she doesn't want to believe. I think.
I think Kate just needs to talk to her and let her know whats what.

[lily.]

What age are we talking about?

[bronaaaa]

Originally posted by Fom
I think Kate just needs to talk to her and let her know whats what.
Yes I agree.


Are you sure R isnt just taking the p*ss ? :conf2:

[Damaris]

I would say try and ingore them.

The texts sound a bit creepy though.

And as Linda said someone porbs had the persons phone.

[lily.]

Personally, I'd find out if it was R.. then I'd make it clear I wasn't interested, and if she pulls a stunt like that again, I'd tell her to eff off.. she was outta line.. I dun mean by saying she fancies Kate, but all that stuff about her tits was outta line in my opinion.

[Loukas]

Originally posted by Linda
Are u sure it was R who sent them and not someone else with her phone?

Definitely!! It was at 10:30 when she was at home.

And Fom.. Kate is Bisexual And R knows that.. Everyone knows that.. Shes KINDA out at school..

[Jen]

Okay, I know this is scary for Kate... but it is not a scary situation its not fair on "R" to call it that, as she is still your friend even if she may be gay.
Kate and "R" need to talk, avoiding her and acting strange around her will make "R" feel uncomfortable and you do not want your friend feeling that way...

[Loukas]

R is not taking the piss. She would NEVER do that, especially on her birthday.

[Fom]

Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
Originally posted by Linda
Are u sure it was R who sent them and not someone else with her phone?

Definitely!! It was at 10:30 when she was at home.

And Fom.. Kate is Bisexual And R knows that.. Everyone knows that.. Shes KINDA out at school..

Ahhh didn't know that... well if Kate doesn't fancy her back then she should just do what she would do with a lad and talk to her and say she doesn't fancy her. The other girl is obviously confused and wants to use Kate as her test so she can work things out.

[Loukas]

Originally posted by JDIZZEL
Okay, I know this is scary for Kate... but it is not a scary situation its not fair on "R" to call it that, as she is still your friend even if she may be gay.
Kate and "R" need to talk, avoiding her and acting strange around her will make "R" feel uncomfortable and you do not want your friend feeling that way...

I said something like that. I said Kate i know it's bad but you need to talk to her at one point or another. I will make them talk tomorrow it's just strange behavior from her..

[Loukas]

Originally posted by Fom
Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
Originally posted by Linda
Are u sure it was R who sent them and not someone else with her phone?

Definitely!! It was at 10:30 when she was at home.

And Fom.. Kate is Bisexual And R knows that.. Everyone knows that.. Shes KINDA out at school..

Ahhh didn't know that... well if Kate doesn't fancy her back then she should just do what she would do with a lad and talk to her and say she doesn't fancy her. The other girl is obviously confused and wants to use Kate as her test so she can work things out.

If a guy said that to her it would be the same, it's not the fact its a girl it's the fact she said that.

[Fom]

As I have said, the girl is very confused. Last thing she needs is to be ignored... she needs help during these hard times for her. I've been a confused 15 year old at one point... you do say stupid things hoping someone will understand.

[lily.]

I reckon she's overstepped it and needs to be told .. but they dun need to fall out over it.. just talk it thru.. make sure Kate is clear about how she feels and hopefully it won't happen again.

[LemonJam]

Communication is the key for every problem. Kate needs to talk to her about it.

[lily.]

And so sayeth Sir LemonJam... the voice of reason..


Seriously, yer right though.. I agree.. :thumbs:

[pinkmichk]

sexuality is a minefield at any time but during pubety even worse kate needs to talk to R and explain whats what ignoring R isnt gonna help but i agree with linda that she alsos needs to be told she has overstepped the mark a bit with all the boob comments

[Kate..]

Listen, thanks for doing this Loukas.
Just to answer some of the posts.
It's not the fact that she's a girl that makes it weird, it's not that at all. I'm bi lol it feels no different for me. It's just the fact that she said all those things and you don't understand how un-"R"-ish it is! Seriously!!!
And I know everyone says that I should talk to her, but it's just sooo auquard and strange it's the weirdest thing I've ever been through and I'm actually fine at acting like nothing's changed when, say someone likes me, but no one has ever told me anything even close to what she said. And I have no clue how to start a conversation or anything!
:S

[MrGaryy]

Those gays eh? Who do they think they are?!?!?! :tongue:

[Christina]

Originally posted by Gazbo
Those gays eh? Who do they think they are?!?!?! :tongue: Weirs :nono: LOL.

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And Kate i cant understand how strange this must be for you, she stepped wayy outta line with all those comments. If I were you i would be exactly the same and try to ignore the situation but maybe it isnt for the best. Perhaps Loukas can have a word and say your happy to continue being friends with her but what she said wasnt on? Hope it all goes okay for you though :hug: