MrGaryy
01-04-2009, 11:36 PM
I think the obvious answer here is that most of us would ignore it for both our own safety and so as to fit in. Adn we all know what we SHOULD do, but if we are being honest with ourselves, what would be actually do.
The reason I ask is because there is a girl in my year called Monique. And literally EVERYONE hates her - even the teachers (I've heard them talking). Everyone gives her a hard time and she has ZERO genuine friends. Now while obviously I feel a little sorry for her I also understand why people don't want to be friends with her - she is INCREDIBLY irritating, always assumes she is right, and last term she blatantly made up a boy who she claimed she had lost her virginity to but NOBODY knows who he is.
However recently there is this girl in our year who moved here in September. She is a year younger than everyone and she's from Africa. Her name is Abrar and to be fair to her she is very friendly, fun and easy going. However when around Monique you can seriously see the age difference. She does things like if Monique sits next to her she'll move the table away really dramatically, Monique will move over too, Abrar will move further - you get the picture. Today this happened until Abrar says to her, "Monique - GET THE PICTURE. No one wants to sit beside you!" and Monique just stayed silent. Abrar also said to her "you have no friends" to which she got very angry and said she had. When asked to name one she named Maria, the girl sitting beside her. Maria is a very polite, shy girl so when asked by Abrar in front of Monique if they were friends naturally she said yes. However later she denied it. Then Monique tapped Abrar on the shoulder and told her she was on the wrong page (she wasn't as it happened) and Abrar told me to say, "Ew Abrar go wash after that!".
Now as some of you may know, in my class I have very little friends. I have been desperately trying to move year groups all year. So I am really not in a position where I can jeopardise my friendship with people. So instead I just laughed and discretly shot Monique a pityful glance.
And last week, a guy called Scott - a vile excuse for a human being in my opinion, is horrible to everyone except for the people who are his friends because they're scared of him - robbed her pencil case. Everyone was throwing them around the room, but then Scott opened Monqie's one, then threw it so all of her stuff went flying across the room. I think everyone was quite shocked as to how far he took it, but because it was her, no one said anything. Seh later told me when I asked her about it that it made her feel like crying but that telling wasn't an option as she was scared that if she told he would make her life even worse.
Now I don't mind a little bit of slagging if I think someone deserves it. but personally I think the actions of Scott and Abrar were taking things too far. The only thing is, how can I help her without having to tell on Abrar who is a perfectly lovely girl to me.
The reason I ask is because there is a girl in my year called Monique. And literally EVERYONE hates her - even the teachers (I've heard them talking). Everyone gives her a hard time and she has ZERO genuine friends. Now while obviously I feel a little sorry for her I also understand why people don't want to be friends with her - she is INCREDIBLY irritating, always assumes she is right, and last term she blatantly made up a boy who she claimed she had lost her virginity to but NOBODY knows who he is.
However recently there is this girl in our year who moved here in September. She is a year younger than everyone and she's from Africa. Her name is Abrar and to be fair to her she is very friendly, fun and easy going. However when around Monique you can seriously see the age difference. She does things like if Monique sits next to her she'll move the table away really dramatically, Monique will move over too, Abrar will move further - you get the picture. Today this happened until Abrar says to her, "Monique - GET THE PICTURE. No one wants to sit beside you!" and Monique just stayed silent. Abrar also said to her "you have no friends" to which she got very angry and said she had. When asked to name one she named Maria, the girl sitting beside her. Maria is a very polite, shy girl so when asked by Abrar in front of Monique if they were friends naturally she said yes. However later she denied it. Then Monique tapped Abrar on the shoulder and told her she was on the wrong page (she wasn't as it happened) and Abrar told me to say, "Ew Abrar go wash after that!".
Now as some of you may know, in my class I have very little friends. I have been desperately trying to move year groups all year. So I am really not in a position where I can jeopardise my friendship with people. So instead I just laughed and discretly shot Monique a pityful glance.
And last week, a guy called Scott - a vile excuse for a human being in my opinion, is horrible to everyone except for the people who are his friends because they're scared of him - robbed her pencil case. Everyone was throwing them around the room, but then Scott opened Monqie's one, then threw it so all of her stuff went flying across the room. I think everyone was quite shocked as to how far he took it, but because it was her, no one said anything. Seh later told me when I asked her about it that it made her feel like crying but that telling wasn't an option as she was scared that if she told he would make her life even worse.
Now I don't mind a little bit of slagging if I think someone deserves it. but personally I think the actions of Scott and Abrar were taking things too far. The only thing is, how can I help her without having to tell on Abrar who is a perfectly lovely girl to me.