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Hugo
08-04-2009, 01:37 PM
Omg, a friend has invited me to a party this Saturday, and I said yes. It's my first party. I know that sounds weird, but I've never really been to a party where there's alcohol and probably sex :/ I know, I'm 15, pathetic LOL. I'm really nervous. I'll only know my friend there because its a totally different group of people. I don't want to be too confident incase they reject me but I also don't want to be standing in the corner by myself. I'm so scared. :sad:

Locke.
08-04-2009, 01:38 PM
Get drunk before you go.

Zac
08-04-2009, 01:40 PM
LOL Hugo, just try to blend in by getting drunk and having sex... :/

Hugo
08-04-2009, 01:40 PM
LOL. Really?

Hugo
08-04-2009, 01:40 PM
Originally posted by Zak
LOL Hugo, just try to blend in by getting drunk and having sex... :/

lmao, ahhhh :sad:

Zac
08-04-2009, 01:41 PM
Yeah. If everybody else is, and you're not, that's how you'll get rejected.

xDramatick
08-04-2009, 01:41 PM
I get the same thing when I go to parties where I only know a few people. What I tend to do, is start off sticking with my friend, then TOGETHER slowly move around to different groups of people and just start chatting. As I get more drunk/move around to other people, we seperate and end up with random people. I wouldn't worry 'cos once you're drunk you won't care 'cos it makes you hella confident.
Just be yourself.

Lauren
08-04-2009, 01:42 PM
Just be yourself. There's nothing more dire than some "up for it" preteen trying too hard - trust me!

If you're comfortable with alcohol - get tipsy beforehand, not drunk - you'll become the boisterous annoying one if you do that.

Just enjoy yourself.

PS. Don't have sex at a party... especially when you're 15. You'll never live it down, it won't be the "stud" impression you probably expect it'll give you.

Hugo
08-04-2009, 01:42 PM
I feel like an OAP being thrown into an episode of Skins. :(

Zac
08-04-2009, 01:43 PM
LMAO Hugo, I just can't believe you've never been to a party. :shocked:
Agree with Darenn, just hang around with your friend at first, then slowly move to different groups.

Hugo
08-04-2009, 01:44 PM
Originally posted by Lauren
Just be yourself. There's nothing more dire than some "up for it" preteen trying too hard - trust me!

If you're comfortable with alcohol - get tipsy beforehand, not drunk - you'll become the boisterous annoying one if you do that.

Just enjoy yourself.

PS. Don't have sex at a party... especially when you're 15. You'll never live it down, it won't be the "stud" impression you probably expect it'll give you.

Thanks! && Darenn :spin2:

Oh I would never have sex LOL, I just meant thats the kind of party.

Lauren
08-04-2009, 01:44 PM
Originally posted by Hugo
I feel like an OAP being thrown into an episode of Skins. :(

Pmsfl. Parties are good fun - but don't put too much pressure on yourself. If everyone is between the ages of 14-17 they'll be having the same concerns as you!

Just stick to what you're comfortable with in terms of confidence, drinking, sex etc - and you're guaranteed to have fun.

Hugo
08-04-2009, 01:45 PM
Originally posted by Zak
LMAO Hugo, I just can't believe you've never been to a party. :shocked:
Agree with Darenn, just hang around with your friend at first, then slowly move to different groups.

:blush: lmao.
Ty.

Billy
08-04-2009, 01:46 PM
You'll probably have people coming up to you anyways so just randomly walk about talking to people, and if they're likw tf? just say your drunk

Zac
08-04-2009, 01:46 PM
Just be yourself and you'll be fine. No need to worry. And, you'll make some new friends there. Good luck!

Lauren
08-04-2009, 01:46 PM
Originally posted by Hugo

Oh I would never have sex LOL, I just meant thats the kind of party.

Lmfao, good. :blush:

Hugo
08-04-2009, 01:47 PM
Thanks for all the advice guys. :)

Loukas
08-04-2009, 01:49 PM
LOVE IT, MY TERRATORY :love:

Right, ALWAYS KEEP YOUR DRINK IN YOUR HAND. I recomend to have either a vodka and coke, vodka and lemonade or an MD2020 (EXCEPT ORANGE THEY ARE JUST :juk:)

Make sure your not excluded, sounds hard but its quite easy. If they were your real friends they would not exclude you. :) However im not saying stick to your friends, mingle, make new friends.

Can i ask.. Do you have a BF or GF? If so sike yourself up before you get drunk, tell yourself i have a BF/GF that i like and I'm not going to ruin that.

Try not to be nervous, i mean if you go in there with a happy, positive attitude it will be better :)

Good Luck and Have Fun HUGO! :hugesmile:

Hugo
08-04-2009, 01:50 PM
Thanks Loukas LOL
I've drunk with my friends before just never a proper party.
I dont have a bf/gf, no.

Loukas
08-04-2009, 01:55 PM
Originally posted by Hugo
Thanks Loukas LOL
I've drunk with my friends before just never a proper party.
I dont have a bf/gf, no.

:). Your Very Welcome. :wink:

About the BF situation, if you like someone there ASK ABOUT THEM FIRST. Ask about there history, i mean you don't want to go up to someone you like when you know nothing about him, get some background info first ;).

Here is a big point, NEVER EXCEPT A DRINK FROM ANYONE. My friend did that once and drunk some boys piss :/ She called it and i quote 'Walm' :yuk: :yuk: :yuk:

GO HAVE FUN. :tongue:

xDramatick
08-04-2009, 01:59 PM
Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
Right, ALWAYS KEEP YOUR DRINK IN YOUR HAND.

I DO THAT.
It's like a comfort thing? If I don't know what to do, if I'm on my own for a few seconds or if conversation dies, I just sip it really slowly. lmffao.

Z
08-04-2009, 02:00 PM
Have a couple of drinks before you go to calm yourself down! Stick with your friend at first, if you're suitably mellowed out before you arrive you'll find you'll get talking to people. I mean, your friend must know the person who is having the party, or someone who's going? Speak to that person, they'll introduce you to people they know and so on! If you're not having fun, leave! :)

Lauren
08-04-2009, 02:00 PM
Originally posted by Satisfaction
Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
Right, ALWAYS KEEP YOUR DRINK IN YOUR HAND.

I DO THAT.
It's like a comfort thing? If I don't know what to do, if I'm on my own for a few seconds or if conversation dies, I just sip it really slowly. lmffao.

Lmao, that's the reason I always get drunk quickly. Cos I drink my drink when conversation dies or something - and then I end up getting through a LOT of drink.

*mazedsalv**
08-04-2009, 02:01 PM
First drunken party i went to was also 15 I think(last year), dont worry about it, its just fun.. ive never got drunk, i swear i cant, its impossible, I have drank so much it doesnt work!!!

Best thing to do is dont get very drunk, drink, be tipsy whatever but dont go over the top so you dont know what your doing, its best when you see everyone out of it and you are one of the only ones that still knows whats going on.

If you do drink, dont do the "Ohh look at me, Im soo drunk", it makes people look like a lightweight and a bit of a loser.

Just be yourself, talk to people, make friends and you will have a blast.
Tell us how it goes and if you enjoyed it :)

Iceman
08-04-2009, 02:04 PM
Just have a couple of drinks before-hand not too many, and bring some drink with you, if you feel you've had too much at the party don't drink anymore. I agree with the rest don't leave your drink down for the reason stated above and also you don't know these people and they may put something in your drink. Can i ask do you know if these guys do drugs?

MrGaryy
08-04-2009, 02:06 PM
Why don't you invite someone else to go with you. I do that sometimes if I think I'll end up alone.

Oh and make sure you don't come across too, "Waheyyyy lets parrrrtayyyyy!" drink in hand wobbling about kind of stuff, you'll just end up looking like a skins reject.

*mazedsalv**
08-04-2009, 02:08 PM
Originally posted by Iceman
Just have a couple of drinks before-hand not too many, and bring some drink with you, if you feel you've had too much at the party don't drink anymore. I agree with the rest don't leave your drink down for the reason stated above and also you don't know these people and they may put something in your drink. Can i ask do you know if these guys do drugs?

I agree exactly with you :thumbs:, dont put your drink down, there may be dodgy people at the party that you dont know.

Iceman
08-04-2009, 02:08 PM
[quote]Originally posted by MrGaryy
Why don't you invite someone else to go with you. I do that sometimes if I think I'll end up alone.

Listen to MrGaryy he talks sense!

Iceman
08-04-2009, 02:09 PM
Originally posted by *mazedsalv**
Originally posted by Iceman
Just have a couple of drinks before-hand not too many, and bring some drink with you, if you feel you've had too much at the party don't drink anymore. I agree with the rest don't leave your drink down for the reason stated above and also you don't know these people and they may put something in your drink. Can i ask do you know if these guys do drugs?

I agree exactly with you :thumbs:, dont put your drink down, there may be dodgy people at the party that you dont know.

I learned that lesson the hard way and ended up in hospital!

*mazedsalv**
08-04-2009, 02:14 PM
Originally posted by Iceman
Originally posted by *mazedsalv**
Originally posted by Iceman
Just have a couple of drinks before-hand not too many, and bring some drink with you, if you feel you've had too much at the party don't drink anymore. I agree with the rest don't leave your drink down for the reason stated above and also you don't know these people and they may put something in your drink. Can i ask do you know if these guys do drugs?

I agree exactly with you :thumbs:, dont put your drink down, there may be dodgy people at the party that you dont know.

I learned that lesson the hard way and ended up in hospital!

Wow really?? its never happened to me, but I hear stories from older cousins at that, so ive learnt the lesson never to put my drink down.

Iceman
08-04-2009, 02:17 PM
Originally posted by *mazedsalv**
Originally posted by Iceman
Originally posted by *mazedsalv**
Originally posted by Iceman
Just have a couple of drinks before-hand not too many, and bring some drink with you, if you feel you've had too much at the party don't drink anymore. I agree with the rest don't leave your drink down for the reason stated above and also you don't know these people and they may put something in your drink. Can i ask do you know if these guys do drugs?

I agree exactly with you :thumbs:, dont put your drink down, there may be dodgy people at the party that you dont know.

I learned that lesson the hard way and ended up in hospital!

Wow really?? its never happened to me, but I hear stories from older cousins at that, so ive learnt the lesson never to put my drink down.

Yes it was nearly the same situation described above i was at a party and only knew 2 people there and i left my drink down on the kitchen table, i didn't leave it there for long. When i drank it about 20 minutes later i felt really weird and went out and asked what they did, they told me they put two tabs in it so i had a fight with them and ended up with stitches above my eye:sad: wasn't good! But it's a learning curve!

LemonJam
08-04-2009, 02:18 PM
Right:

If you're really scared, have a drink or two before you go, it will boost your confidence, but don't turn up drunk, just a bit buzzed, it'll make you warm to people quicker.

Secondly, and probably most importantly IMO, know when to stop drinking, tipsyness is fun, drunkness is fun, but past drunkness isn't.

Thirdly, stick with your friend but also find a couple of other people you can stick to, make conversation. I'm a really shy person but after a couple of drinks even I'm talking.

Don't mix drinks loads, I had a Whiskey-Smirnoff-Strongbow-Carlsberg mix and it didn't go too well.

Finally, just enjoy yourself, if theres music and everyones drunkenly dancing, just join in and have some fun.

Corkie
08-04-2009, 02:21 PM
You'll be fine, Alcohol is good social lubricant.

That's what I said on friday whilst drunk I thought it was quite clever myself :laugh:

Iceman
08-04-2009, 02:40 PM
Originally posted by Corkie
You'll be fine, Alcohol is good social lubricant.

That's what I said on friday whilst drunk I thought it was quite clever myself :laugh:

Im definately stealing that line to say to my mates!

*mazedsalv**
08-04-2009, 02:47 PM
Originally posted by Iceman
Originally posted by *mazedsalv**
Originally posted by Iceman
Originally posted by *mazedsalv**
Originally posted by Iceman
Just have a couple of drinks before-hand not too many, and bring some drink with you, if you feel you've had too much at the party don't drink anymore. I agree with the rest don't leave your drink down for the reason stated above and also you don't know these people and they may put something in your drink. Can i ask do you know if these guys do drugs?

I agree exactly with you :thumbs:, dont put your drink down, there may be dodgy people at the party that you dont know.

I learned that lesson the hard way and ended up in hospital!

Wow really?? its never happened to me, but I hear stories from older cousins at that, so ive learnt the lesson never to put my drink down.

Yes it was nearly the same situation described above i was at a party and only knew 2 people there and i left my drink down on the kitchen table, i didn't leave it there for long. When i drank it about 20 minutes later i felt really weird and went out and asked what they did, they told me they put two tabs in it so i had a fight with them and ended up with stitches above my eye:sad: wasn't good! But it's a learning curve!

thats horrible!! weird that they were completely honest and said what they did to it... were these 2 of the people you knew that did it??

Hugo
08-04-2009, 02:55 PM
Thanks so much everyone. I think I dare say....I'm looking forward to it now? LOL :)

andyman
08-04-2009, 03:13 PM
Things always seem worse before it happends, soon as your at the party you will feel ok.
Plus this is good for building your social skills around unknown faces.

Hugo
08-04-2009, 03:14 PM
Wow a constructive post :tongue:
Thanks!

Iceman
08-04-2009, 03:46 PM
Originally posted by *mazedsalv**
Originally posted by Iceman
Originally posted by *mazedsalv**
Originally posted by Iceman
Originally posted by *mazedsalv**
Originally posted by Iceman
Just have a couple of drinks before-hand not too many, and bring some drink with you, if you feel you've had too much at the party don't drink anymore. I agree with the rest don't leave your drink down for the reason stated above and also you don't know these people and they may put something in your drink. Can i ask do you know if these guys do drugs?

I agree exactly with you :thumbs:, dont put your drink down, there may be dodgy people at the party that you dont know.

I learned that lesson the hard way and ended up in hospital!

Wow really?? its never happened to me, but I hear stories from older cousins at that, so ive learnt the lesson never to put my drink down.

Yes it was nearly the same situation described above i was at a party and only knew 2 people there and i left my drink down on the kitchen table, i didn't leave it there for long. When i drank it about 20 minutes later i felt really weird and went out and asked what they did, they told me they put two tabs in it so i had a fight with them and ended up with stitches above my eye:sad: wasn't good! But it's a learning curve!

thats horrible!! weird that they were completely honest and said what they did to it... were these 2 of the people you knew that did it??

No they were a group of people at the party, it was like 5 or 6 years ago i would of only been 13 -14 at the time. I still know one of them now, they thought it would be funny, it wasn't!

Emzy-!!
08-04-2009, 03:50 PM
Just get talking to other people, dance, drink (but don't get too drunk lol)

I hope you have a good time!!!

xxx

*mazedsalv**
08-04-2009, 03:54 PM
Originally posted by Iceman
Originally posted by *mazedsalv**
Originally posted by Iceman
Originally posted by *mazedsalv**
Originally posted by Iceman
Originally posted by *mazedsalv**
Originally posted by Iceman
Just have a couple of drinks before-hand not too many, and bring some drink with you, if you feel you've had too much at the party don't drink anymore. I agree with the rest don't leave your drink down for the reason stated above and also you don't know these people and they may put something in your drink. Can i ask do you know if these guys do drugs?

I agree exactly with you :thumbs:, dont put your drink down, there may be dodgy people at the party that you dont know.

I learned that lesson the hard way and ended up in hospital!

Wow really?? its never happened to me, but I hear stories from older cousins at that, so ive learnt the lesson never to put my drink down.

Yes it was nearly the same situation described above i was at a party and only knew 2 people there and i left my drink down on the kitchen table, i didn't leave it there for long. When i drank it about 20 minutes later i felt really weird and went out and asked what they did, they told me they put two tabs in it so i had a fight with them and ended up with stitches above my eye:sad: wasn't good! But it's a learning curve!

thats horrible!! weird that they were completely honest and said what they did to it... were these 2 of the people you knew that did it??

No they were a group of people at the party, it was like 5 or 6 years ago i would of only been 13 -14 at the time. I still know one of them now, they thought it would be funny, it wasn't!

well at least you know what could happen. If that happened to me.... my god, would be horrible.

Iceman
08-04-2009, 04:01 PM
Well back on point have a few drinks, socialise, make new friends, you'll be fine and the next party you'll know what to do!

Loukas
08-04-2009, 05:30 PM
Originally posted by Satisfaction
Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
Right, ALWAYS KEEP YOUR DRINK IN YOUR HAND.

I DO THAT.
It's like a comfort thing? If I don't know what to do, if I'm on my own for a few seconds or if conversation dies, I just sip it really slowly. lmffao.

YEP! + you dont want to put your drink down, come back to it drink it, WHO KNOWS WHAT KIND OF **** PEOPLE PUT IN IT. Don't want to get spiked its not pretty.

Fom
08-04-2009, 05:32 PM
Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
Originally posted by Satisfaction
Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
Right, ALWAYS KEEP YOUR DRINK IN YOUR HAND.

I DO THAT.
It's like a comfort thing? If I don't know what to do, if I'm on my own for a few seconds or if conversation dies, I just sip it really slowly. lmffao.

YEP! + you dont want to put your drink down, come back to it drink it, WHO KNOWS WHAT KIND OF **** PEOPLE PUT IN IT. Don't want to get spiked its not pretty.

Lmao, a party of 15 year olds, I don't think it will matter that much. I have been spiked, I ended up in hospital after having a fit. Not nice.

Wether its a party or bar or club, you should always keep your eye on your drink, I am a fool for putting my drink down in a club.

30stone
08-04-2009, 05:33 PM
I agree with David on this.

Have like the friend your going with come round or go to ones of theirs...

Have a few drinks you will be fine confidence will be higher.

Not like your expected to do anything at a party, just relax, n have fun.

Tom
08-04-2009, 05:36 PM
ask for a +1 and once you're half drunk you'll be fine because you'll speak to anyone

Loukas
08-04-2009, 05:37 PM
Originally posted by Fom
Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
Originally posted by Satisfaction
Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
Right, ALWAYS KEEP YOUR DRINK IN YOUR HAND.

I DO THAT.
It's like a comfort thing? If I don't know what to do, if I'm on my own for a few seconds or if conversation dies, I just sip it really slowly. lmffao.

YEP! + you dont want to put your drink down, come back to it drink it, WHO KNOWS WHAT KIND OF **** PEOPLE PUT IN IT. Don't want to get spiked its not pretty.

Lmao, a party of 15 year olds, I don't think it will matter that much. I have been spiked, I ended up in hospital after having a fit. Not nice.

Wether its a party or bar or club, you should always keep your eye on your drink, I am a fool for putting my drink down in a club.

Trust me you never know that, i have seen someone spit in someones drink and then the person drunk it, i have seen someone be spiked and both were under 16. You never know Tom..

*mazedsalv**
08-04-2009, 06:27 PM
Yeahh, just invite one of your best friends if you can, and if you need to put your drink down for some reason eg. going to the toilet, give the drink to your friend as you will know he/she wont do anything to it.

Shaun
08-04-2009, 07:39 PM
I'm not the person you want to ask advice from when it comes to drinking in moderation.

:whistle:

Harry!
08-04-2009, 07:40 PM
Have Madonna music. Your party will rock then.

Sam!
08-04-2009, 07:41 PM
Originally posted by Madonna
Have Madonna music. Your party will rock then.

I advise if you ever hold a party. Don't have Madonna music.. it won't 'rock'

Harry!
08-04-2009, 07:42 PM
Originally posted by Sam!
Originally posted by Madonna
Have Madonna music. Your party will rock then.

I advise if you ever hold a party. Don't have Madonna music.. it won't 'rock'

Welcome to headphones honey.

Loukas
09-04-2009, 12:05 PM
Originally posted by Madonna
Originally posted by Sam!
Originally posted by Madonna
Have Madonna music. Your party will rock then.

I advise if you ever hold a party. Don't have Madonna music.. it won't 'rock'

Welcome to headphones honey.

But that's unsocial! Pointless if your at a party, and many people, well young people about your age don't love Madonna.. However i can imagine you dancing to Vogue on your own in the corner..

Sam!
09-04-2009, 12:10 PM
Originally posted by Madonna
Originally posted by Sam!
Originally posted by Madonna
Have Madonna music. Your party will rock then.

I advise if you ever hold a party. Don't have Madonna music.. it won't 'rock'

Welcome to headphones honey.

lovely

Harry!
09-04-2009, 12:11 PM
Originally posted by DoubleTrouble
Originally posted by Madonna
Originally posted by Sam!
Originally posted by Madonna
Have Madonna music. Your party will rock then.

I advise if you ever hold a party. Don't have Madonna music.. it won't 'rock'

Welcome to headphones honey.

But that's unsocial! Pointless if your at a party, and many people, well young people about your age don't love Madonna.. However i can imagine you dancing to Vogue on your own in the corner..

Some music these days is a load of rubbish! I dont actully know the moves proplely to Vogue.

NettoSuperstar!
09-04-2009, 12:12 PM
white lightening

30stone
09-04-2009, 12:13 PM
Originally posted by Robin-Van-Perfect
I agree with David on this.

Have like the friends your going with come round or go to ones of theirs...

Have a few drinks you will be fine confidence will be higher.

Not like your expected to do anything at a party, just relax, n have fun. Drink dance socialise... enjoy it.

Makes me feel ignored lol.

I feel this is perfect advise.