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Originally posted by ally001
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Originally posted by BB fernzy
I never said she was mentally unwell, she's very emotional when it comes to being crticised in anyway, others can take that but she cannot. A few of the older housemates have their faults but that does not mean they cannot give adivce, they have been about the business longer and will have picked up some good thing's along the way that may have helped Jodie, how about Rula as well?
I've heard nothing from the anti-bullying association but I will take your word for it. I was bullied years ago so only know too well. I feel that Jodie was not totally blameless in it all though, I already said about her trying to get the others to gang up against Pete over his coat, he faced what anyone put at him.
Of course she's going to be intimidated by 3 angry men but she still reacted and did not take anything on board which then turned it into an arguement, it was the constant defensive responses that caused a lot of trouble.
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So if you were bullied why can't you see how awful it was? you appear to me to be jumping on the band wagon (not saying you ARE but it seems that way)
you say Jodie is not blameless but how can anyone be blamed for being bullied. I agree she's no saint, she has many faults (don't we all) but she and no one deserves that treatment. I disagree with you she is emotionally unstable, I think she was very strong. I think if I was getting treated like that I would probably have either burst into tears or decked someone. Pete did react badly to her sniping about his coat. He continually bitched about her and was nasty to her after that.
Maybe she would have picked up tips from other people but for them to force their advice on her is just arrogant and she's old enough to make her own mistakes. Rula telling her she should listen to her advice is a nice way of saying 'you are no good'.
She was wrong trying to get others to gang up on pete, but he didn't really have much thrown at him cos no one else made a comment as they are all too scared of him, even though they'd all agreed earlier the coat was offensive.
your last sentence really bothers me. she is getting shouted at by 3 angry men and you say her defensive responsive caused a lot of the trouble? Who wouldn't be defensive? She was not to blame for their frankly revolting behaviour and as grown men they should be ashamed of themselves.
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I don't jump on bandwagon's I don't agree with the way that the 3 blokes approached thing's but I sensed their frustration with the way she was acting, I was screaming at the t.v. myself and I'm not easily riled.
Jodie was hardly a quiet little girl in the corner that got picked on for being weak, she was nominated by 8 people and at various times those 8 all had a go at the way she acted and she caused such annoyance to others provoking them into saying thing's to her. If she's going to behave in a certain way that rub's others up the wrong way she's bound to be set upon, most of the stuff was just arguements to me. It takes two to tango.
I still maintain that she is emotinally unstable because she did break down a lot and her moods changed quite a lot.
You're never too old to learn and a lot of the time she was bitching off about something to someone else and I would find it hard not to give out advice, then she does not like the advice you give and then an arguement starts. If she does not want advice she should not go about seeking it out with the comments that she makes. Rula's proably twice Jodie's age and could give good advice, thing's may have been easier if she took something on board because she cleary annoyed the majority of her fellow housemates.
Even though nobody really challenged Pete over his coat, it's still can be classed as bullying on Jodie's part. It was a typical bullying tactic.
She was always on the defensive though, not just from the barrage from the 3 guys but every single thing she did not agree with when someone said something to her, some of the trouble could have been avoided if she just sat back listened then took it on and voiced her opinion in a well mannered way or just ignored it.
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