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tweetypiebabe1 11-10-2011 01:19 PM

I can't believe I'm saying this but I agree with Pyramid. I don't understand how some people go bat s*** crazy over housemates or actors and such.

I suppose it would be a different story if we had the live feed and saw things uninterrupted but especially since it's a one hour edited show it's hard to put things in their proper perspective and gain an emotional connection. Also, another thing that would help an emotional connection would be a sobby back story, but I don't think anyone has one really.

I don't know. Personally, I just don't get that invested in housemates.

Niamh. 11-10-2011 01:22 PM

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Originally Posted by tweetypiebabe1 (Post 4641985)
I can't believe I'm saying this but I agree with Pyramid. I don't understand how some people go bat s*** crazy over housemates or actors and such.

I suppose it would be a different story if we had the live feed and saw things uninterrupted but especially since it's a one hour edited show it's hard to put things in their proper perspective and gain an emotional connection. Also, another thing that would help an emotional connection would be a sobby back story, but I don't think anyone has one really.

I don't know. Personally, I just don't get that invested in housemates.

I'm talking about HMs in general, over all the years of big brother, not just this year. And I'm not talking about going bat sh** crazy over anyone either! :laugh:

Pyramid* 11-10-2011 01:23 PM

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Originally Posted by tweetypiebabe1 (Post 4641985)
I can't believe I'm saying this but I agree with Pyramid. I don't understand how some people go bat s*** crazy over housemates or actors and such.

I suppose it would be a different story if we had the live feed and saw things uninterrupted but especially since it's a one hour edited show it's hard to put things in their proper perspective and gain an emotional connection. Also, another thing that would help an emotional connection would be a sobby back story, but I don't think anyone has one really.

I don't know. Personally, I just don't get that invested in housemates.


Neither do I, don't understand it all at.

There's an element of fun, and mocking as in anything such as BB which is all pantomime at the end of the day - but nope, I don't have emotional investment, attachment, or real connections with people I see on a tv screen.

fruit_cake 11-10-2011 01:25 PM

the word 'emotion' doesn't mean 'crazed stalker' :nono:

Pyramid* 11-10-2011 01:26 PM

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Originally Posted by fruit_cake (Post 4641994)
the word 'emotion' doesn't mean 'crazed stalker' :nono:

Who said it did?

Niamh. 11-10-2011 01:31 PM

I genuinely think, that we all actually agree here but have different ideas what emotional connection means.

fruit_cake 11-10-2011 01:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 4642015)
I genuinely think, that we all actually agree here but have different ideas what emotional connection means.

so far we've seen several people tell us how they have no emotional connection but invariably the same people have not bothered to enlighten us as to what it means to them though.

tweetypiebabe1 11-10-2011 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 4641989)
I'm talking about HMs in general, over all the years of big brother, not just this year. And I'm not talking about going bat sh** crazy over anyone either! :laugh:

In all honesty, I'm trying to remember but I don't think I've had an emotional connection to anyone in the past really. I started watching full seasons from BB9, and saw bits of BB8 & 7 but no can't think of anything. Then again, as far as I know, I started watching during the s*** years didn't I? lol!

joeysteele 11-10-2011 01:35 PM

Well as in any game,sport or event, you usually take a side or sides.
I am likely to then really support the side/s I choose very strongly particularly against unfair play or criticism.

With BB in the past although,I chose more often not to than do so,we had near 24 hour coverage, when you are able to watch people for possibly that long, you will form some emotional connection,whether that's just liking, wanting to learn more and more or really disliking them, they are al interest and emotions.

By the time you are at the end of the series,it is possible you have watched and heard them for longer than you have friends or even some family in that time the series is on.
Sort of like working with someone for a few months then seeing them go,you still form some connection despite hardly really knowing them.

This series is causing more anger because its fan base is iritated at the very least not to have live feed,we are being shown lots of things totally seen and heard but often not of full context.
That makes it harder to know really the facts. I get worked up and did so very strongly during CBB too, what is annoying me in this series is that I may be misjudging housemates as I feel I have as to Faye now due to the tiny amount of footage we are being shown.

The fact I feel that I have misjudged her,is though another emotion so I guess I would have to say I do form emotional connections to housemates.
That won't influence my everyday life or what I do in the future but as with any situation that has me at least taking a side or sides then for a while my emotions may run very high indeed as to them sometimes.

The great thing about human beings is we are all different and can be very complex too.
It's also like on here, we may never meet the people on here we are communicating with daily with only the written word but we do feel the need at times to support some over others and get involved in heated debates too,again in this environment we are showing emotional connection.

I am very happy to say, that a good few people on here, I would miss massively and have done,if they weren't on here or I didn't communicate with or see posting.I may never meet them and therefore never even see or hear them but they matter in some way,there again is a sort of emotional connection too.

Niamh. 11-10-2011 01:38 PM

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Originally Posted by tweetypiebabe1 (Post 4642022)
In all honesty, I'm trying to remember but I don't think I've had an emotional connection to anyone in the past really. I started watching full seasons from BB9, and saw bits of BB8 & 7 but no can't think of anything. Then again, as far as I know, I started watching during the s*** years didn't I? lol!

haha yeah you really did!! You need to go watch some of the earlier ones, I recommend BB2, BB3, BB5 & BB6

Chuck 11-10-2011 01:38 PM

The only reason I often love watching vile housemates is because I'm able to be disconnected emotionally to them.
I'm aware that I wouldn't like living with them, that their actions are disgraceful and disgusting but if I'm entertained by them, then I don't care.

Pyramid* 11-10-2011 01:39 PM

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Originally Posted by fruit_cake (Post 4642021)
so far we've seen several people tell us how they have no emotional connection but invariably the same people have not bothered to enlighten us as to what it means to them though.

I think you should start reading posts a little more closely fruitcake - there are plenty of reasons being given. It seems you are chosing very deliberately to simply not accept that the 'same people' simply are not agreeing with you.

Pyramid* 11-10-2011 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by chuck.pass (Post 4642035)
The only reason I often love watching vile housemates is because I'm able to be disconnected emotionally to them.

I'm aware that I wouldn't like living with them, that their actions are disgraceful and disgusting but if I'm entertained by them, then I don't care.

Fab way of putting it over. We can be entertained - and chose whether to like or dislike due to the entertainmant factor (or not), without becoming emotionally connected.

fruit_cake 11-10-2011 01:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Pyramid* (Post 4642036)
I think you should start reading posts a little more closely fruitcake - there are plenty of reasons being given. It seems you are chosing very deliberately to simply not accept that the 'same people' simply are not agreeing with you.

well each to their own. I'm quite happy in my little world of emotions anyway :lovedup:

Niamh. 11-10-2011 01:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Pyramid* (Post 4642039)
Fab way of putting it over. We can be entertained - and chose whether to like or dislike due to the entertainmant factor (or not), without becoming emotionally connected.

Yes but if you watch and like a HM enough defend them regardless and dislike HMs enough for them to make you feel angry or disgusted or whatever, then that's an emotional connection of sorts imo. It's the same as what you said but you don't consider that being an emotional connection but some people do.

Black Dagger 11-10-2011 01:44 PM

I do get attached to my favourite housemates and try and follow them after the show...

I still regularly talk to Rachel on Facebook

And tweet Ben every other day.

Normal behaviour?

fruit_cake 11-10-2011 01:45 PM

seems to me that some people consider themselves above emotions, but I personally think that is there own loss, but c'est la vie.

you can take a horse to water but you can't make it drink

Chuck 11-10-2011 01:48 PM

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Originally Posted by fruit_cake (Post 4642058)
seems to me that some people consider themselves above emotions, but I personally think that is there own loss, but c'est la vie.

you can take a horse to water but you can't make it drink

No post I've read on this thread suggests that.

Pyramid* 11-10-2011 01:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 4642048)
Yes but if you watch and like a HM enough defend them regardless and dislike HMs enough for them to make you feel angry or disgusted or whatever, then that's an emotional connection of sorts imo. It's the same as what you said but you don't consider that being an emotional connection but some people do.

Nope, I regard that as an emotional reaction - not a connection. I regard a reaction wholly diffferent from a connection.

I react if I am alone in the house and suddenly the door slams shut. That doesn't mean I have a connection with the door. I reacted to what happened, but not to the door - no connection: emotional or otherwise. An emotional reaction yes, but connection? No.

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Originally Posted by fruit_cake (Post 4642058)
seems to me that some people consider themselves above emotions, but I personally think that is there own loss, but c'est la vie.

you can take a horse to water but you can't make it drink

I'm unclear where you get the idea that some people consider themselves 'above emotions' (whatever that's meant to mean?)

You are correct abot leading horses to water.... You can't force someone to have the same opinion or views that you have. It would be a boring place if we all thought the same.

Niamh. 11-10-2011 01:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Pyramid* (Post 4642067)
Nope, I regard that as an emotional reaction - not a connection. I regard a reaction wholly diffferent from a connection.

I react if I am alone in the house and suddenly the door slams shut. That doesn't mean I have a connection with the door. I reacted to what happened, but not to the door - no connection: emotional or otherwise. An emotional reaction yes, but connection? No.

I take your point but the difference is you don't make excuses for the door and defend the door for giving you the fright because it's just a door and you don't have any connection with it (*thinks this is the strangest sentence I've ever written*) where as you forgive and defend HMs because you've grown to like them over their time in the house and even though they may behave badly sometimes you make excuses for them because of the emotional connection you have with them

Pyramid* 11-10-2011 02:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 4642088)
I take your point but the difference is you don't make excuses for the door and defend the door for giving you the fright because it's just a door and you don't have any connection with it (*thinks this is the strangest sentence I've ever written*) where as you forgive and defend HMs because you've grown to like them over their time in the house and even though they may behave badly sometimes you make excuses for them because of the emotional connection you have with them

Not so. (laughs at the door sentence though...).

I like Aaron but I find that his way of dealing with things to be as poor as Faye and both of their actions in the same light (ie: the crying as a good example) - yet I like Aaron, and disike Faye but am able to reach the same conclusion - because I have no emotional connection.

If I had, I would not be able to have that same opinion on the same acts carried out by two housemates for whom I have differing regard to.

Niamh. 11-10-2011 02:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Pyramid* (Post 4642096)
Not so. (laughs at the door sentence though...).

I like Aaron but I find that his way of dealing with things to be as poor as Faye and both of their actions in the same light (ie: the crying as a good example) - yet I like Aaron, and disike Faye but am able to reach the same conclusion - because I have no emotional connection.

If I had, I would not be able to have that same opinion on the same acts carried out by two housemates for whom I have differing regard to.

lol, again it's how you look at and interpret it, for me I would say that seeing the same behaviour from two HMs but liking one and not the other is because of the emotional attachment you have to the HMs, If you had none then surely you would not like one more than the other?

fruit_cake 11-10-2011 02:05 PM

Arron seems to be quite an emotional person to me

Niamh. 11-10-2011 02:07 PM

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Originally Posted by fruit_cake (Post 4642103)
Arron seems to be quite an emotional person to me

Very, as does Faye, not sure if that's a good or a bad thing though!

Pyramid* 11-10-2011 02:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 4642101)
lol, again it's how you look at and interpret it, for me I would say that seeing the same behaviour from two HMs but liking one and not the other is because of the emotional attachment you have to the HMs, If you had none then surely you would not like one more than the other?

Nope, you aren't getting where I am coming from on this at all. Let's try explain it this way!

If I was emotionally connected to either Faye (dislike) or Aaron (like) - I'd be compassionate towards Aaron crying because I'd be willing to overlook that in him, and conversely, I would say that Faye needed to get a grip and not show compassion because I don't like her.

As it is: as far as Aaron crying so much: I have the same opinion as I do when Faye does it also. You see?


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