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fruit_cake 21-09-2012 01:57 PM

I'm not sure I agree with the 'having a child is not a right' argument. It's not like a particular child, born into a difficult family environment ever had a chance to be born in a good environment to different parents in a different relationship!

We cannot pick and chose who create us, we are either created or not. The question is, is despite being born in an awful family without love or caring, would those that found themselves in that position still choose life, or would they choose never to have existed at all. Those are the only two possibilities that can ever have existed.

Back on topic, I personally think it's blooming marvellous that these days homosexual couples can adopt or even create children (given surrogacy). Good on them and may the force be with them as far as I'm concerned.

Pyramid* 21-09-2012 03:06 PM

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Originally Posted by lostalex (Post 5498959)
children from IVF would be just as adoptable, so i don't know what you are talking about.

i said, at puberty, sperm and eggs would be taken from everyone, i think i forgot to then mention that everyone would then be sterilized after that. Everyone would be sterilized in the same way we all get polio vaccines. So everyone would be adopting. It would be impossible for anyone to procreate through sex. That was probably an important detail i left out.

But yea, all people would be incapable of having children through intercourse, and everyone would have to APPLY to adopt through that government agency, and only the most qualified people would be allowed to raise the next generation of children. The WHOLE POINT being that only qualified capable parents would be raising children.


So you want others to be forced to give their sperm and eggs.... dear god.

Adopt your own child - or be forced to accept the genes of others....... has to be one of the most laughable ideas I've heard - but you've fair made me smile on this thread - I'll give you that! :D

For those who that the thread applies to and who are saying they'd like to go down the surrogacy route: would you prefer a person 'unknown' or would you prefer for it to be someone that you know and trust?

lostalex 21-09-2012 03:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Pyramid* (Post 5499239)
So you want others to be forced to give their sperm and eggs.... dear god.

Adopt your own child - or be forced to accept the genes of others....... has to be one of the most laughable ideas I've heard - but you've fair made me smile on this thread - I'll give you that! :D

For those who that the thread applies to and who are saying they'd like to go down the surrogacy route: would you prefer a person 'unknown' or would you prefer for it to be someone that you know and trust?

why are you asking people obviously i've designed the system to avoid all of the selfishness, and tribalism that is inherent in people's small minded opinions. the genetics would be above the individuals.


we would choose the genetics that most benefit our world, not just people's small minded preferences, people's pathetic need to feel like they matter.

We should all have a vested interest in what's best for our SPECIES> not just what pacifies our own fragile egos.

AnnieK 21-09-2012 03:22 PM

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Originally Posted by lostalex (Post 5499270)
why are you asking people obviously i've designed the system to avoid all of the selfishness, and tribalism that is inherent in people's small minded opinions. the genetics would be above the individuals.


we would choose the genetics that most benefit our world, not just people's small minded preferences, people's pathetic need to feel like they matter.

We should all have a vested interest in what's best for our SPECIES> not just what pacifies our own fragile egos.

You do know this is never going to happen don't you?

Its just far too wrong to contemplate

Pyramid* 21-09-2012 03:24 PM

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Originally Posted by lostalex (Post 5499270)
why are you asking people obviously i've designed the system to avoid all of the selfishness, and tribalism that is inherent in people's small minded opinions. the genetics would be above the individuals.


we would choose the genetics that most benefit our world, not just people's small minded preferences, people's pathetic need to feel like they matter.

We should all have a vested interest in what's best for our SPECIES> not just what pacifies our own fragile egos.

PMSL.... 'I've designed the system to avoid all the selfishness and tribalism'...... you don't think not allowing others a choice isn't small minded. Okaaaay .......

I don't have a fragile ego, I don't have to be concerned about pacifiying it. I'm more concerned with allowing people a choice in whether they want their genes & DNA used and given to persons unknown - without the fear of someone wanting to know 20 years later "Who IS my real dad / mum"...... let me go hunt them down and screw their lives up because they were forced to give their eggs/sperm.

Pyramid* 21-09-2012 03:25 PM

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Originally Posted by anniek76 (Post 5499280)
You do know this is never going to happen don't you?

Its just far too wrong to contemplate

Of course it's never going to happen...and he knows it too..... but it passes a non eventful Friday afternoon and that can never be a bad thing!:joker:

AnnieK 21-09-2012 03:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Pyramid* (Post 5499288)
Of course it's never going to happen...and he knows it too..... but it passes a non eventful Friday afternoon and that can never be a bad thing!:joker:

True enough :joker:

lostalex 21-09-2012 03:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Pyramid* (Post 5499283)
PMSL.... 'I've designed the system to avoid all the selfishness and tribalism'...... you don't think not allowing others a choice isn't small minded. Okaaaay .......

I don't have a fragile ego, I don't have to be concerned about pacifiying it. I'm more concerned with allowing people a choice in whether they want their genes & DNA used and given to persons unknown - without the fear of someone wanting to know 20 years later "Who IS my real dad / mum"...... let me go hunt them down and screw their lives up because they were forced to give their eggs/sperm.

you'd be asking "who's my REAL DAD?" no. what does that mean? would you rather let people with no parental skills at all have children, then you'll be asking "why was my REAL DAD raping me and no body helped me?" "why was my real mom selling me to strangers for drugs?"

Pyramid* 21-09-2012 03:31 PM

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Originally Posted by lostalex (Post 5499296)
you'd be asking "who's my REAL DAD?" no. what does that mean? would you rather let people with no parental skills at all have children, then you'll be asking "why was my REAL DAD raping me and no body helped me?" "why was my real mom selling me to strangers for drugs?"

I'd not be asking anything. I know who my parents were and both of them were willing participants in creating a new life.

they way you put it over - it's as though incest is a normal every day part of family life in the main ..... hate to break it to you: It's not.

All of which is side tracking from the thread though........

Niamh. 21-09-2012 03:32 PM

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Originally Posted by lostalex (Post 5499296)
you'd be asking "who's my REAL DAD?" no. what does that mean? would you rather let people with no parental skills at all have children, then you'll be asking "why was my REAL DAD raping me and no body helped me?" "why was my real mom selling me to strangers for drugs?"

All this money might be better spent in improving the social welfare system, increasing social workers for children and making and enforcing stricter rules when it comes to children in homes where they're not being taken care of properly. Sterilising the human race is unnatural and frankly quite barbaric

lostalex 21-09-2012 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Pyramid* (Post 5499308)
I'd not be asking anything. I know who my parents were and both of them were willing participants in creating a new life.

they way you put it over - it's as though incest is a normal every day part of family life in the main ..... hate to break it to you: It's not.

All of which is side tracking from the thread though........

actually it is. the statistics are that 1 out of every 4 children have been sexually assaulted by the age of 18, and the vast majority of those assaults are from within the house.

1 out of 4 is A LOT.

lostalex 21-09-2012 03:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 5499309)
All this money might be better spent in improving the social welfare system, increasing social workers for children and making and enforcing stricter rules when it comes to children in homes where they're not being taken care of properly. Sterilising the human race is unnatural and frankly quite barbaric

the human race is barbaric. my solution is not. My solution is fighting fire with water.

Niamh. 21-09-2012 03:38 PM

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Originally Posted by lostalex (Post 5499316)
the human race is barbaric. my solution is not. My solution is fighting fire with water.

There are some very bad parents out there definitely but there are also some amazing parents. I don't think punishing every parent or potential parent is the answer though and is very unfair. It would be like putting everyone in prison to prevent crime.

Pyramid* 21-09-2012 03:38 PM

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Originally Posted by lostalex (Post 5499313)
actually it is. the statistics are that 1 out of every 4 children have been sexually assaulted by the age of 18, and the vast majority of those assaults are from within the house.

1 out of 4 is A LOT.

1 out of 4 is not 'in the main;, it is not a majority - it's still remains a low percentage...it means that 75% are free of such things and lead happy, fruitful, loving, caring lives and who will no doubt pass those good attributes onto their own children should they wish to have any.

That still does not mean that a surrogate parent / child, deemed to be the perfect parent as per your description - doesn't mean they will not do the same thing. Pretending that IVF/test tube babies and 'parents being chosen' will maketh the perfect human race is as crazy as anything I've ever heard. they may as well just make clones.

Niamh. 21-09-2012 03:39 PM

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Originally Posted by lostalex (Post 5499313)
actually it is. the statistics are that 1 out of every 4 children have been sexually assaulted by the age of 18, and the vast majority of those assaults are from within the house.

1 out of 4 is A LOT.

That might be so but why do you think getting people to adopt lab made children would stop that? It's not as if people are going to write on their application form Paedophilia and rape as one of their hobbies

lostalex 21-09-2012 03:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 5499322)
There are some very bad parents out there definitely but there are also some amazing parents. I don't think punishing every parent or potential parent is the answer though and is very unfair. It would be like putting everyone in prison to prevent crime.

i'm not proposing punishing anyone. Requiring parents to prove thjey are good parents and capable parents BEFORE they are allowed to care for children, how is that "punishing" anyone?

lostalex 21-09-2012 03:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Pyramid* (Post 5499324)
1 out of 4 is not 'in the main;, it is not a majority - it's still remains a low percentage...it means that 75% are free of such things and lead happy, fruitful, loving, caring lives and who will no doubt pass those good attributes onto their own children should they wish to have any.

That still does not mean that a surrogate parent / child, deemed to be the perfect parent as per your description - doesn't mean they will not do the same thing. Pretending that IVF/test tube babies and 'parents being chosen' will maketh the perfect human race is as crazy as anything I've ever heard. they may as well just make clones.

really? it's a low percentage???

if Airplanes had a 1 in 4 chance of crashing, would you get on a plane? how many times would you fly?

1 out of every 4 flights crash, and you'd get on a plane? i don't think so.

Pyramid* 21-09-2012 03:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 5499327)
That might be so but why do you think getting people to adopt lab made children would stop that? It's not as if people are going to write on their application form Paedophilia and rape as one of their hobbies


:joker:
Sick black humour kicked in there. Sorry.

since the idea is to 'force sperm and eggs to be taken at puberty' from these poor children....... that's a form of abuse in it's own right - and apart from which: at such an age as puberty: such deviant inclinations may not have yet presented themselves in said sperm/egg donor.

There's no way anyone can honestly take this all seriously !!!

Pyramid* 21-09-2012 03:43 PM

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Originally Posted by lostalex (Post 5499337)
really? it's a low percentage???

if Airplanes had a 1 in 4 chance of crashing, would you get on a plane? how many times would you fly?


The chances of car crashes are higher and I drive every day....not that that has anything at all to do with what we are speaking of.

How about addressing the points that are on topic..... or are you intending to continue to avoid them?

Niamh. 21-09-2012 03:44 PM

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Originally Posted by lostalex (Post 5499334)
i'm not proposing punishing anyone. Requiring parents to prove thjey are good parents and capable parents BEFORE they are allowed to care for children, how is that "punishing" anyone?

Taking away a persons right to have their own biological children, forcibly sterilising them and taking away the most amazing experience a woman can have by carrying her own child.

lostalex 21-09-2012 03:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Pyramid* (Post 5499342)
The chances of car crashes are higher and I driver every day....not that that has anything at all to do with what we are speaking of.

How about addressing the points that are on topic..... or are you intending to continue to avoid them?

umm, what? no, the chances of dying in a car crash are FAR lower than 1 out of 4, what are you talking about??

lostalex 21-09-2012 03:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 5499343)
Taking away a persons right to have their own biological children, forcibly sterilising them and taking away the most amazing experience a woman can have by carrying her own child.

that's not punishment anymore than requiring someone to have a driver's license is punishment. having a child is much more serious than driving a car.

Pyramid* 21-09-2012 03:46 PM

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Originally Posted by lostalex (Post 5499347)
umm, what? no, the chances of dying in a car crash are FAR lower than 1 out of 4, what are you talking about??

the thread subject....... or at least trying to but you seem to prefer not to.

lostalex 21-09-2012 03:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Pyramid* (Post 5499351)
the thread subject....... or at least trying to but you seem to prefer not to.

once again you seem to have a hard time following your own conversations. I'd sue your teachers if i were you. you'd have a good case.

fruit_cake 21-09-2012 03:48 PM

I think Alex assumed the 'state' will somehow be more fair when selecting who can and can't reproduce.

The state is merely a group of people, all fallable and all just as flawed as anyone else.


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